FabSwingers.com forum: Work colleagues pregnant gf

By *idlandia OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hi, I work with this guy, he has a new gf, a couple of weeks only.

Last week he was excitably talking about them, and that she had let him have sex without a condom for the first time (tmi dude, we just work together...) but what got my spidey sense tingling was that she apparently said "oh I think that got me pregnant "

Fast forward to today, he said he's going to be a dad, even showed me the pregnancy test positive his gf sent him.

Spidey sense overload....

The time line, her suddenly letting him go bare and saying she thought that time got her pregnant right after, then a week later a positive test.

The cynical part of me thinks that her previous bf (bad break up and straight into new relationship with my work colleague a week later) got her pregnant and she's orchestrated this whole thing to pretend it's my work mates after finding out previously its her exes.

Am I putting 2 and 2 together and getting 5? Or does it sound suspect to you guys gals others?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I would tend to agree with you, it's highly unlikely, but if he goes to the first scan and then dates are worked out, he might be in for a shock. Definitely needs to get a paternity test.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

uhh a week you say?

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By *idlandia OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"uhh a week you say? "

Give or take a day or so yes, at the time I wasn't noting the days. But even the extra day or so seems sus on a positive test

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhhhhh... I think you might be right. Are you gonna pop his bubble?

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By *idlandia OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I would tend to agree with you, it's highly unlikely, but if he goes to the first scan and then dates are worked out, he might be in for a shock. Definitely needs to get a paternity test."

He's a nice lad, but let's just say maths and deductive reasoning probably arnt his forte. I doubt he'd check back on the dates the scan produces

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

i think you really need the date of the last period. I may be corrected on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"uhh a week you say?

Give or take a day or so yes, at the time I wasn't noting the days. But even the extra day or so seems sus on a positive test"

I dont think the egg even plants itself in the first week let alone show up on a test.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would tend to agree with you, it's highly unlikely, but if he goes to the first scan and then dates are worked out, he might be in for a shock. Definitely needs to get a paternity test.

He's a nice lad, but let's just say maths and deductive reasoning probably arnt his forte. I doubt he'd check back on the dates the scan produces"

How old is he? Are you friends with him? Sounds to me like you are right and he needs to be careful.

Some men would be fine with the situation if they knew the truth.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

And she sent him an image of a positive pregnancy test?

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By *ertslady1984Woman
over a year ago

Herts

"Hi, I work with this guy, he has a new gf, a couple of weeks only.

Fast forward to today, he said he's going to be a dad, even showed me the pregnancy test positive his gf sent him.

Spidey sense overload....

The time line, her suddenly letting him go bare and saying she thought that time got her pregnant right after, then a week later a positive test.

Am I putting 2 and 2 together and getting 5? Or does it sound suspect to you guys gals others?"

The first scan will show how long the pregnancy is as they can tell.

As you've said it's a matter of a two weeks or so, it takes at least four weeks into the pregnancy for hormones to even be detectable in the urine.

All you can do is be there as a friend or acquaintance for this guy.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

I’d be dubious, did she do the test with him?

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By *ttmcdguyTV/TS
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I’m no professional here but after 7 days of gestation the female would not normally have any symptoms or signs that she was pregnant

So she either knew already that she was pregnant or her plan was to get pregnant

Either way your mate needs to run for the hills and keep going

This female is not trust worthy in my opinion and quite possibly mentally unhinged

I will be seriously interested to see how this pans out

I look forward to the 26week scan revival of this thread

Ps advise your pal to write down exact dates !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pregnancy positive result wouldn't even show within a week.

Hormone levels wouldn't even be detectable by then.

Earliest you can test is something like 3 days before your next period would be due.

Unfortunately, seems more likely to be another man's baby.

It just doesn't work like she's saying to him.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I’m no professional here but after 7 days of gestation the female would not normally have any symptoms or signs that she was pregnant

So she either knew already that she was pregnant or her plan was to get pregnant

Either way your mate needs to run for the hills and keep going

This female is not trust worthy in my opinion and quite possibly mentally unhinged

I will be seriously interested to see how this pans out

I look forward to the 26week scan revival of this thread

Ps advise your pal to write down exact dates !!! "

"possibly mentally unhinged"

I agree with your diagnosis

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By *idlandia OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

From the comments it seems I'm not the only one that thinks it's totally hinky.

She did the test and sent him the results.

Even if his reporting of the dates of the sex are off a bit, the time line just feels wrong, especially after letting him go without protection and instantly saying she thinks it got her pregnant.

He isn't even a friend, just a guy I work with. And if I tell him my suspicions it could get awkward at work as he's totally loved up in his new relationship.

He's about 20, I don't know exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be inclined to agree with you. It would take at least a fortnight after intercourse to show up on an early detection pregnancy test, and even then they don’t always show. If you go from the date of the last period, she would have conceived approximately two weeks after that, then takes another two weeks (approximately) to miss the next period.

I’d be suspicious and would tell him so, but trust isn’t my strong point so generally call it out.

Mrs

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"From the comments it seems I'm not the only one that thinks it's totally hinky.

She did the test and sent him the results.

Even if his reporting of the dates of the sex are off a bit, the time line just feels wrong, especially after letting him go without protection and instantly saying she thinks it got her pregnant.

He isn't even a friend, just a guy I work with. And if I tell him my suspicions it could get awkward at work as he's totally loved up in his new relationship.

He's about 20, I don't know exactly "

I've got a son that age, I would definitely appreciate someone having a word with him if they thought it was in his best interests. I'm sure his parents will have an opinion on the matter too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From the comments it seems I'm not the only one that thinks it's totally hinky.

She did the test and sent him the results.

Even if his reporting of the dates of the sex are off a bit, the time line just feels wrong, especially after letting him go without protection and instantly saying she thinks it got her pregnant.

He isn't even a friend, just a guy I work with. And if I tell him my suspicions it could get awkward at work as he's totally loved up in his new relationship.

He's about 20, I don't know exactly

I've got a son that age, I would definitely appreciate someone having a word with him if they thought it was in his best interests. I'm sure his parents will have an opinion on the matter too."

Agree. OP maybe try and have a chat with the lad. This could ruin his life in so many ways.

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By *idlandia OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"From the comments it seems I'm not the only one that thinks it's totally hinky.

She did the test and sent him the results.

Even if his reporting of the dates of the sex are off a bit, the time line just feels wrong, especially after letting him go without protection and instantly saying she thinks it got her pregnant.

He isn't even a friend, just a guy I work with. And if I tell him my suspicions it could get awkward at work as he's totally loved up in his new relationship.

He's about 20, I don't know exactly

I've got a son that age, I would definitely appreciate someone having a word with him if they thought it was in his best interests. I'm sure his parents will have an opinion on the matter too."

I have relevant information on that, he said he isn't going to tell his parents as they'd be mad at him.

I have a sinking feeling I might have to have a word with him, as excruciatingly painful as it will be.

Stupid spidey sense...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Maybe have a chat with him but it's his decision to make. I guess his parents will raise doubts.

There are some very sensitive pregnancy tests available now, some apparently detect pregnancy six days before a missed period. However the timeline does seem quite 'convenient '

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Hmmmm. Pregnancy tests detect a hormone secreted by the early embryo called human chorionic gonadotropin hormone (hCG). It is theoretically detectable from 7-9 days post ovulation and some very sensitive pregnancy tests can pick it up at that point. The sex would have to happen between 5 days (ish) prior to ovulation or up to 2 days after. So, if they had sex on the day of ovulation, she could, in theory, show a positive test 7 days afterwards. So, it's not completely impossible.

A word on the dating of pregnancies. Conception happens in the period around ovulation, which (on average) is slap bang in the middle of the menstrual cycle, so day 14 (ish) out of 28 (ish). However, the docs use the first day of the last period as the starting date and so they also include all the days from day 1 to day 14 in the dating, even though the pregnancy cannot have started before ovulation itself. So, a medic telling you that you are 4 weeks pregnant means that actually, you have an embryo of about 2 week's gestation from the point of conception.

Pregnancy IS detectable before implantation of the embryo into the wall of the uterus with modern tests, although the concentration of hCG does go up substantially, once the embryo has become attached to the endometrium. Implantation happens about a week after conception, so in this case, the dates only work if she became pregnant on or about the day of ovulation and had high enough early hCG, using a sufficiently sensitive test.

Unlikely but not implausible. Recommend paternity testing because it sounds like this guy has been decreed to be the father, no matter what. If she had sex with anyone else in the week or so prior to the unprotected sex episode, then of course, there's doubt. Also worth asking for the first day of the last period, although some women do have very irregular cycles and so this is less meaningful.

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"Hi, I work with this guy, he has a new gf, a couple of weeks only.

Fast forward to today, he said he's going to be a dad, even showed me the pregnancy test positive his gf sent him.

Spidey sense overload....

The time line, her suddenly letting him go bare and saying she thought that time got her pregnant right after, then a week later a positive test.

Am I putting 2 and 2 together and getting 5? Or does it sound suspect to you guys gals others?"

If he is this gullible then he shouldn't be having sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi, I work with this guy, he has a new gf, a couple of weeks only.

Fast forward to today, he said he's going to be a dad, even showed me the pregnancy test positive his gf sent him.

Spidey sense overload....

The time line, her suddenly letting him go bare and saying she thought that time got her pregnant right after, then a week later a positive test.

Am I putting 2 and 2 together and getting 5? Or does it sound suspect to you guys gals others?

If he is this gullible then he shouldn't be having sex."

If gullible people weren't allowed to have sex loads of people would be going without

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Let's not rush to judge. When I informed my son's dad that I was pregnant, at an age I cannot disclose, he didn't believe it because we'd not had unprotected sex. Condoms sometimes don't work. The "not working" is not always obvious. Neither he nor I were gullible.

My son is nearly 21 now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Let's not rush to judge. When I informed my son's dad that I was pregnant, at an age I cannot disclose, he didn't believe it because we'd not had unprotected sex. Condoms sometimes don't work. The "not working" is not always obvious. Neither he nor I were gullible.

My son is nearly 21 now. "

I agree. I became pregnant while we were using condoms despite being 46.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

But there is the sudden decision to bareback and the comments afterwards

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Up Your Frock!

Awful luck if he is the Dad as she’s a loon!! Just my considered opinion

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"But there is the sudden decision to bareback and the comments afterwards"

Like I said, it's unlikely [that he's the dad], but not implausible.

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By *idlandia OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's a couple of days until I'm back on shift with him.

I'm going to gently push for dates. See if I can get a better base line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a bit suspicious just suggest to him it seems a bit suspicious see if he can work it out

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

"Hi, I work with this guy, he has a new gf, a couple of weeks only.

Fast forward to today, he said he's going to be a dad, even showed me the pregnancy test positive his gf sent him.

Spidey sense overload....

The time line, her suddenly letting him go bare and saying she thought that time got her pregnant right after, then a week later a positive test.

Am I putting 2 and 2 together and getting 5? Or does it sound suspect to you guys gals others?"

Totally suspect.This happened to a friend's son.He believed at first but was persuaded to mention a paternity test so everyone could be certain.She came up with all sorts of excuses to delay any test.That persuaded him to "go nuclear",we have a test or I go to the cops and report a suspected fraud,which will force a test.She instantly admitted he was not the father.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

If he hasnt already, he should glove back up and get tested for sti's too.

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