FabSwingers.com forum: Showing face risk

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it really a risk showing your face on here? After all I doubt many advertise the fact they are on here to none swingers.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What people don't realise is that not everyone on here is nice, also when you post a pic, it's out there. FOREVER!!!

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

For some of us hell yes it's a risk. Hence our face pics set to private and only unrecognisable hints in our friends...

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By *oco_marsWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

I do, but there's no risk to my jobs and friends, family and colleagues know I'm on here anyway

But I completely get why others can't

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc... "
,,this

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

any risk is too much risk.so why bother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a risk showing my face - potential to put people off! Only show it in pm's which probably explains why I get so few replies

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Always a risk showing my face - potential to put people off! Only show it in pm's which probably explains why I get so few replies

Your face is visible in your public photos ?

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Maybe, I really don't care though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It only depends on your personal risks which we cannot weigh on.. It could be quite as risky sharing it via PM after all but you limit the audience somewhat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a risk showing my face - potential to put people off! Only show it in pm's which probably explains why I get so few replies

Your face is visible in your public photos ?"

Only the good side

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

"I do, but there's no risk to my jobs and friends, family and colleagues know I'm on here anyway

But I completely get why others can't "

And what a beautiful face it is too.

I guess if you are young free n single why not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always a risk showing my face - potential to put people off! Only show it in pm's which probably explains why I get so few replies

What he said

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Well I don't want to be approached in public, I already get people asking if I was on the school run, in the pub or walking the dog, men can be really creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully I'm not very recognisable and blend in with a crowd.

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By *ate_BMan
over a year ago

London

"I do, but there's no risk to my jobs and friends, family and colleagues know I'm on here anyway

But I completely get why others can't "

Your profile is very tasteful and it does suit for face pics. It’s not much different from some profiles I’ve seen on dating apps.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

"Well I don't want to be approached in public, I already get people asking if I was on the school run, in the pub or walking the dog, men can be really creepy."

THIS

I have 0 risk of being outed, my friends and family all know whet I'm like , no risk to my job but I don't really like showing my face on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show my face because I want to I'm willing to take the risk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it really a risk showing your face on here? After all I doubt many advertise the fact they are on here to none swingers. "

Men pass pics round the pub or show their friends. Or post them on porn sites.

Assuming otherwise is quite naïve.

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By *ortyairCouple
over a year ago

Wallasey

I think the risks are sometimes exaggerated, not on purpose but because some always assume the worst.

The professional argument seems an example of this. Unless you say you Wark as this and work in a articular place, what's the chance that this can be used against you. If its that dangerous then any potential meet could be career suicide because those you meet could take a sneeky pic. But yet again it would be useless unless you told them your work history and current career choices.

Maybe I am totally wrong, I am lots of the time haha, Mrs xxx

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Not a chance unless I’m 1000% positive the other person is genuine. I’ve been in a Telegram group were active members within the forum have boastfully shared DM’s with face pics whilst claiming to be discrete and genuine.

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

"Not a chance unless I’m 1000% positive the other person is genuine. I’ve been in a Telegram group were active members within the forum have boastfully shared DM’s with face pics whilst claiming to be discrete and genuine. "

Whhhhaaaattt… that’s bang out of order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Society is still behind on accepting sexually liberated women.

It's such a different situation to a single guy being here.

More so if the woman is also in a relationship.

That's my viewpoint.

We have personal reasons on why we choose to be very careful of showing our faces, if the wrong person/people got to find out, it could cause a whole lot of unnecessary trouble.

We're not all here for the same reasons, not at all.

It could easily be a friend of a friend (so do speak) that recognises another, and with a lot less to lose, happy to show others whether or not they realise the issues they can create.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

This! I very very rarely send my face and definitely not to people on the forum. Never ever done face pic Friday. I’ve met loads of people at socials but I don’t send anything.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

I must admit I show my face on my profile and have done so for over 10 years.

I am on no other social media sites at all.

I have been retired for 13 years so no issues with being outed to employers or work colleagues, and at the ripe old age of 83 would doubt if my photo is of interest to anyone judging by the small mumber of profile views I get.

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By *IRRAL VOYUERMan
over a year ago

Rock Ferry

I'm not that bothered who sees my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it really a risk showing your face on here? After all I doubt many advertise the fact they are on here to none swingers.

Men pass pics round the pub or show their friends. Or post them on porn sites.

Assuming otherwise is quite naïve."

And women used to share them on the offsite all-female Fab chat groups. Or at least they did back in the day (I saw the screenshots from horrified insiders ..

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Due to the nature of my job I choose not to show my face. Don't mind sending a face pic on request.

Most folk on here think you have something to hide.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Is it really a risk showing your face on here? After all I doubt many advertise the fact they are on here to none swingers.

Men pass pics round the pub or show their friends. Or post them on porn sites.

Assuming otherwise is quite naïve.

And women used to share them on the offsite all-female Fab chat groups. Or at least they did back in the day (I saw the screenshots from horrified insiders ..

^^ this. #weknowwhoyouare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that STILL goes on does it? (See my post a few replies ago up there ^)

Only share if you’re happy for people you don’t necessarily wanting to see it, seeing it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it really a risk showing your face on here? After all I doubt many advertise the fact they are on here to none swingers. "

We have a teacher friend who was on here. Only had a clothed shot that showed his face nothing even remotely adult related. The profile was only for him to stay in contact with people he met at events and clubs. The mother of one of his students saw him on here and caused huge problems with him getting any employment in the area.

The mum in question is still on the site and has plenty of adult content and very explicit verifications. Her having the pics/vids/verification content and profile is exactly in line with the site and she has every right to have them public and all the more power to her. It's just was a major kick in the guts about what she did to her child's teacher because he chose to have the experiences he did.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

You've said this a few times before and I've always agreed with you because it's not a myth. Too many women have left groups like this because of what goes on while at the same time the degree of networking without consent where faces and names are shared even as recommendations is beyond a joke.

To answer the op, until personal information is no longer used as currency on here it will always carry a risk having facepics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc... "

This!!

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

Unless all the people around you already know or you are fine with knowing, do not show face picture in public.

Always assume that any photo that is accessible to public will one day be accessible to the whole world.

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

It's not a risk to me as I live alone, and my family don't know, but I'm sure it can effect others in many ways, not to show their faces, but to show their bodies instead is a nice bonus just put your imagination to work

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

No way, I have nothing to hide but I don't trust people. I don't need people approaching me when I'm with my children or doing day to day things.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

To answer the op, until personal information is no longer used as currency on here it will always carry a risk having facepics."

I do think there has to be a tech solution to this issue. Take the face pics off site and share by another means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't really care who knows tbh.

We seem to be rather unapproachable anyway so not worried about people approaching us! Lol

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've said this before... but I've had my personal details shared by members on here, I've had a photo from here posted on Facebook and I've also had someone come and knock on my door late at night assuming I'd be up for a shag because he recognised me from his delivery route.

Among other things.

There are some weird and nasty people out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The big danger with showing a face pic is someone can screenshot it and use it for their own needs and you haven't a clue where it's gone or ends up or what site it's on .

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

Its a personal choice and like most things you needs to be aware of the potential consequences of your actions.

There are some nice people and some nasty people out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said this before... but I've had my personal details shared by members on here, I've had a photo from here posted on Facebook and I've also had someone come and knock on my door late at night assuming I'd be up for a shag because he recognised me from his delivery route.

Among other things.

There are some weird and nasty people out there. "

This

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"The big danger with showing a face pic is someone can screenshot it and use it for their own needs and you haven't a clue where it's gone or ends up or what site it's on ."

banking apps have (maybe not all) have ability to blur any screenshots. The danger imo in a face pic is the fab swingers logo. If that is removed then its just a face pic

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

After an horrendous experience on here where some guy threatened to share my face pic when things didn't go as he planned, I never show a face pic or even send one. Unfortunately there are far too many nasty, spiteful people and I value my privacy more than meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After an horrendous experience on here where some guy threatened to share my face pic when things didn't go as he planned, I never show a face pic or even send one. Unfortunately there are far too many nasty, spiteful people and I value my privacy more than meeting.

Should have met me then

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

Should have met me then

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

"The big danger with showing a face pic is someone can screenshot it and use it for their own needs and you haven't a clue where it's gone or ends up or what site it's on .

banking apps have (maybe not all) have ability to blur any screenshots. The danger imo in a face pic is the fab swingers logo. If that is removed then its just a face pic"

Maybe a touch naive but wouldn't this just be the same with anyones social media photo/s

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I feel it is just unnecessary hassle

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"The big danger with showing a face pic is someone can screenshot it and use it for their own needs and you haven't a clue where it's gone or ends up or what site it's on .

banking apps have (maybe not all) have ability to blur any screenshots. The danger imo in a face pic is the fab swingers logo. If that is removed then its just a face pic

Maybe a touch naive but wouldn't this just be the same with anyones social media photo/s "

On that point couldn't any of us steal a photo from social media. That's a separate issue.

What about a means of fab admin verifying photos but leaving logo free version for sending.

Or if fab sent your photos via a separate channel, like signal.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some employers or assessors may look unfavorably at fab usage.

There's also the chance of some user causing trouble for you, potentially sharing your details with others. I think it reasonable for people to share selectively with those who they have some trust together.

Members can share pics and have them withdrawn after viewing, which can reduce some potential for them to persist for longer periods.

It's a personal thing really.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

"The big danger with showing a face pic is someone can screenshot it and use it for their own needs and you haven't a clue where it's gone or ends up or what site it's on .

banking apps have (maybe not all) have ability to blur any screenshots. The danger imo in a face pic is the fab swingers logo. If that is removed then its just a face pic

Maybe a touch naive but wouldn't this just be the same with anyones social media photo/s

On that point couldn't any of us steal a photo from social media. That's a separate issue.

What about a means of fab admin verifying photos but leaving logo free version for sending.

Or if fab sent your photos via a separate channel, like signal."

Completely get what you was meaning now

Slow on the uptake, apologies

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Depends what you do for a living

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

You can take all of the precautions you like and quite rightly too. What you can't do is stop your doppelgänger from publish his or her face pics on here, causing some people to wrongly assume it's you.

Maybe "Have you got a Look alike on FAB" should be a forum thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do wonde what all the fuss is about.

Aren't we all here for the same reason?

Surely if someone decided to 'expose' you to people in your vanilla life, they'd be outing themselves in the process.

Think about it.

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By *eelGoodIncMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I work in quite a high security job so posting face pictures (even friends only ones) are extremely risky as I can't risk anybody discovering my identity on here. The site could suffer a cyber attack and then everybody's images would then be out in the open for the entire world to see. I usually send mine through an external app when one is requested.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"The big danger with showing a face pic is someone can screenshot it and use it for their own needs and you haven't a clue where it's gone or ends up or what site it's on .

banking apps have (maybe not all) have ability to blur any screenshots. The danger imo in a face pic is the fab swingers logo. If that is removed then its just a face pic

Maybe a touch naive but wouldn't this just be the same with anyones social media photo/s "

Indeed.

But nothing I post on my vanilla socials would link me to swinging or bdsm.

Nothing I post on my vanilla socials would get me on trouble with my employer or any of the charities I work with - hell I don't even talk about getting very d*unk...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I work in quite a high security job so posting face pictures (even friends only ones) are extremely risky as I can't risk anybody discovering my identity on here. The site could suffer a cyber attack and then everybody's images would then be out in the open for the entire world to see. I usually send mine through an external app when one is requested."

Aren't you worried about the external app being hacked?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yep for some it may have an impact on their jobs,depending on the contract.

Also I've sen so many threads where people have been approached by other members whilst out in the real world.some sadly lack discretion.

It's not a risk I'd take,I wouldn't want the people I work with to know.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I do wonde what all the fuss is about.

Aren't we all here for the same reason?

Surely if someone decided to 'expose' you to people in your vanilla life, they'd be outing themselves in the process.

Think about it."

Except we aren't all here for the same reasons. If someone chooses to show their face here that doesn't give them a right to feel everyone should do likewise and share their info.

It's not just a matter of outing themselves or anyone else on social media.

It's outing them to other fabbers in a casual manner by saying " I met this person and they were a great fuck. This is what they look like aren't they hot? Their name is..... And you should get in touch with them"

Meanwhile that person gets a message from someone they've never spoken to before using their real name and acting familiar to say they've been recommended by another fabber.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Aren't you worried about the external app being hacked?"

A photo sent by an external app is just a face pic, doesn't have the fabswingers logo on it.

There was an incident here a few years back when some peoples face pics became public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman, I'd not have public face pics because unfortunately there are some, hopefully few, who think by virtue of being on this site, a woman is 'up for it' and 'fair game'.

I'd rather avoid that potential risk no matter how small it may be.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Since learning this I've been more careful who I send face pics too.

Seems just because people are also on here some have zero respect for other people's privacy.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a risk and what the risk is probably depends on a lot of different factors and vaulters from one person to the next.

I know for a fact that there are people on here (men) that have made a profile because they believe ‘such and such’ a few doors down is a swinger and they heard that this is the best place to see her…and the are SURE they hat such and such profile is her because the bay window in one of her photos is the same as theirs…. I know this because this kind of example has come up in conversation at work from two different people (about two different profiles).

For me, it’s just I don’t want a face picture on my public profile. But I have and do send out face pics on request.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I have my face pics in private and will happily show them to people I choose… unfortunately I know of people I work with who have been harassed and hounded for being on this site by less tolerant colleagues, some of whom have even created profiles just to get screenshots of profiles.

Because of that intolerance and abuse I only show my face to those I want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a risk as we all hear for the same.

Guess for me it’s trust that if someone does recognise you they don’t tell others if they are out in open about it. Reasons are I’m bi and like to keep this from mainly children/family and job.

Recently signed up for an event which had a Kik group.

On it i recognised an old friend and his wife as they shared pics on the group chat. I had no idea they would be on this site didn’t seem the type.

Stopped me going to the event as thought it would get awkward for both couples, especially with me being bisexual and worry that getting out there..

Maybe I’m just ever thinking it I guy was

So that’s my risk and why I don’t show face x

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I don't have face pics on public because I don't want to be recognised while I'm out shopping or with my family by some random stranger from fab, but I will send them if I'm chatting to someone.

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I think if people found out they'd be more curious than derisive, but I agree it's worse for women.

The majority of people claim to be liberal and tolerant but I think that goes out the window once they find out a woman is enjoying sex outside the sanctity of holy wedlock.

Plus it's a green light to insensitive and indiscreet people.

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By *rmrshorny2Couple
over a year ago

Seaside

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah I don't want to be stopped while out and about with my kids.

My governing body would class being here as cause for dismissal too and have done it previously in similar circumstances.

People may be here for the same reason but as pointed out above some don't care or have any respect regarding other people's privacy and send private pics and inboxes to group chats, others don't take a no well and could share those pics.

It's not worth the risk for many of us.

Mrs

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

We have kid's so no! Don't want our choices to be their problem should anyone want to be nasty.

Happy to share with those we're talking to and people we've met/friends

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

"Yeah I don't want to be stopped while out and about with my kids.

My governing body would class being here as cause for dismissal too and have done it previously in similar circumstances.

It's not worth the risk for many of us.

Mrs "

I know nothing about those group chats and don't wish too but apparently quite a few dispicable individuals on there and have no regard to how important privacy might be to orher people

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South East

Lost many meets because I won’t show my face on this platform.

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By *eelGoodIncMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Aren't you worried about the external app being hacked?"
it's a strongly encrypted app that cannot really be compromised. Also, there's no harm in sending a picture of yourself through an app. This site is a different ball game.

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

"Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc... "

Not the same for a man here though I show my face when I’m messaging someone . But I reckon if a single guy on here was to say he wouldn’t show his face due to his profession he would be called out for not been genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I happily send them in private format after a few messages are exchanged but not just on public. Unfortunately I live in a small town where gossip and talk runs rife. I don't want my future to be determined by my potential past.

Also, i recently had someone disbelieve me for being real... not really sure how I change that and to be honest I'm not sure if I want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I happily send them in private format after a few messages are exchanged but not just on public. Unfortunately I live in a small town where gossip and talk runs rife. I don't want my future to be determined by my potential past.

Also, i recently had someone disbelieve me for being real... not really sure how I change that and to be honest I'm not sure if I want to."

Just to clarify. Not being real after sending a face picture that is. They must see something I don't

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

There is actually something a little bit hot and exciting about a blind date

did one recently and was perfect.

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By *aughtyPeepzMan
over a year ago

London

Each person will have their own opinions, but I personally show myself on here.

No risk or embarrassment being found out or pictures being seen. All my friends and family already know about that. I'm very open about my time on cams, swinger sites, etc

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Sometimes it's petrifying.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc...

Of course it's the same for men. There have been a number of high profile male forumites no longer with us because they were harassed, stalked and/or outed to employers and family.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

"I think the risks are sometimes exaggerated, not on purpose but because some always assume the worst.

Maybe I am totally wrong, I am lots of the time haha, Mrs xxx"

The risk is more that the world of work, certainly in most bigger companies, is a very conservative place so anything that management perceive to be not a type of behaviour they want associated with the brand can get you fired.

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By *ullyMan
over a year ago

Near Clacton

I have face pics in private on here, and totally get guys not having them on site, but I don't get why some guys totally refuse ti send a F P privately if arranging a meet. Even that is not beyond abuse though, I swapped pics with a guy before a meet and he was deffo not the guy in the picture he sent, he was more like Wurzel Gummage on my doorstep, when I asked him about it he said well if I had sent a real photo of me we would not have met, to which I replied well we have now goodbye!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I'm cool with showing mine x

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"There is actually something a little bit hot and exciting about a blind date

did one recently and was perfect.

Don’t the guide dogs watching, giving disapproving stares, put you off a bit?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

No problem showing mine & I expect to see faces of people I may be interested in

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

No problem showing mine & I expect to see faces of people I may be interested in

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Yeah I don't want to be stopped while out and about with my kids.

My governing body would class being here as cause for dismissal too and have done it previously in similar circumstances.

It's not worth the risk for many of us.

Mrs

I know nothing about those group chats and don't wish too but apparently quite a few dispicable individuals on there and have no regard to how important privacy might be to orher people

Your secrets are your secrets. Expecting a stranger to keep your secrets for you is unreasonable. It's of no value to them. Yes I have face pics I received from people here and sure lots of people do as well. As I'm typing I'm wondering should I delete them. But what I would never dream of doing is share those pictures with anyone else.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We had our pics taken and shared. Someone said they recognised our pics from another profile they talked to and someone we met thought they recognised our faces from pics but we didn’t send any.

People do copy face pics and share them. Once you send you don’t know where they’ll end up.

We don’t send face pics now but do blind socials.

We have good jobs and nosey kids so don’t want to be outed. Face pics are too risky for us.

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

"Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc...

Of course it's the same for men. There have been a number of high profile male forumites no longer with us because they were harassed, stalked and/or outed to employers and family.

What I’m saying is if a single man says for example he’s not showing his face for the reason been his profession would be seen as not genuine

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc...

Of course it's the same for men. There have been a number of high profile male forumites no longer with us because they were harassed, stalked and/or outed to employers and family.

How do you know all this?

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

"There is actually something a little bit hot and exciting about a blind date

did one recently and was perfect.

Don’t the guide dogs watching, giving disapproving stares, put you off a bit?

True story went to a party

Went up to the bedroom and there actually was a partially sighted guy and his dog was sat by the bed while he played with a lady

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

"Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc...

Of course it's the same for men. There have been a number of high profile male forumites no longer with us because they were harassed, stalked and/or outed to employers and family.

How do you know all this?"

Because men get ridiculed all the time on these forums for not been genuine I’m guessing there is a large percentage that aren’t but doesn’t mean we are all the same

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"There is actually something a little bit hot and exciting about a blind date

did one recently and was perfect.

Don’t the guide dogs watching, giving disapproving stares, put you off a bit?

True story went to a party

Went up to the bedroom and there actually was a partially sighted guy and his dog was sat by the bed while he played with a lady

Really tried to resist!!! What position were they in? So, so sorry!!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Like other aspects of the scene its all a matter of risk assessment v reward. Everyone's circumstances are different and thus so are the risks. Best way to approach it is to ask the key what if's. As long as your happy to shoulder your face photos being misused or people knowing about your sex life or any safety risks about people knowing who you are then crack on.

Personally we find face photos are more trouble than it's worth. Not that we fully incognito with are current photos (we have been recognised from them) but it makes it a lot less likely. So for us it's the best balance of reward v risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never post a pic of our faces, nor do we send pics of face.

We are all different and I feel it depends on hat circles you mix with

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Depending on your profession... Absolutely.

Unfortunately not everyone you meet in this world is nice.

People have been harassed, stalked, been outed to employers etc...

Of course it's the same for men. There have been a number of high profile male forumites no longer with us because they were harassed, stalked and/or outed to employers and family.

How do you know all this?"

Because I've had complete strangers approach me at a fab social using my real name and saying they recognised me from my pics in the group chat.

I had never been in the chatgroup and wouldn't have posted a facepic even if I had.

I made enquiries among those who were in the group so I know exactly who was sharing my info.

It didn't surprise me because this person had shared other womens details with me a few years ago and she has a history of trolling social media and"finding" fabbers.

I've also spoken to some of those who have been outed and some have been mentioned by name here on the forums.

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I always get blocked after sending a face pic...that's the real risk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always get blocked after sending a face pic...that's the real risk!"

Yeah, sorry about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just but them on your friends pics you then control who sees them

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