FabSwingers.com forum: Would you change your name?

By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Inspired by Brucey’s names thread.

Have you ever thought about changing your name? There are two ways of spelling my given name and surname and, inevitably, everyone picks the wrong one for me unless I tell them. So I’ve been spelling my name in every phone call I’ve ever made and it’s frickin irritating. I’d like to change mine to something better, would you consider changing yours by deed poll?

Disclaimer: By answering this post, you are not unwittingly volunteering to have your name changed and it is not a competition. I’m just curious

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I really like my name and wouldn’t change it personally.

It’s unusual.

….even though I am told it is a name synonymous with gay porn stars….

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By *SMystiqueTV/TS
over a year ago

NYB

Funnily enough, I have considered it yeah!

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Not as such would just remove my middle name as hate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the full version of my name now I'm older. Or a shortened version but not the shortened version I actually go by. If that makes sense.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I really like my name. In fact both first names but i'd like to change my last name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really like my name. In fact both first names but i'd like to change my last name."

Granny-teacake just doesn't work for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably wouldn’t change my name no. My first name is unique ish and there’s a few different ways of spelling it. I have an Italian surname and I find it quite funny whenever I’m at the doctors or something and they try calling out my name

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Nah. I’ve got a good name.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I would, and was seriously considering doing it, still do to be honest.

I have a weirdly sounding and impossible to pronounce correctly foreign name which I hate since I was a child.

But then I believe it’s a part of my heritage and my identity so I’m really trying to get to like it, unsuccessfully so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People usually say my name wrong or assume it’s pronounced like a more common variation. But I wouldn’t change it. My family love it. And I’ve grown to love it too.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"But then I believe it’s a part of my heritage and my identity so I’m really trying to get to like it, unsuccessfully so far."

I think it’s a beautiful name, if that helps. And it suits you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was named after my dad's mum. She passed away just before my parents got married so I never got to meet her. So I'd never change my first name.

I did consider changing my surname and going back to my maiden name but I decided I wanted to be the same as my sons.

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By *oco_marsWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

Mine is Chloe, I didn't like it as a teen but I do now, apart from everyone spelling it Chole

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

No...I wouldn't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did change my name by deed poll. It's easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Its strong sounding and it suits me. It reflects to a degree my family roots and compliments my surname.

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By *ainbow_RoadWoman
over a year ago

Brighton

I have.

That said, even though I chose my name I decided I didn't like it and started using my middle name instead

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

No.

Its taken me long enough to get used to this one.

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By *ainbow_RoadWoman
over a year ago

Brighton

"I did change my name by deed poll. It's easy.

Its easy to do the name change, but a pain in the arse to get the updates done with everyone who needs to know. 12 years later I still sometimes get letters in my old name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did change my name by deed poll. It's easy.

Its easy to do the name change, but a pain in the arse to get the updates done with everyone who needs to know. 12 years later I still sometimes get letters in my old name

Yeah that's a pain. I still get letters for the people who lived at my house 20 years ago!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I like alliteration so originally I.was crazykittykat. but then.decided i am actually rather sane so changed it.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

oh sorry our real name. yes I changed mine by seed poll back to my maiden name. I also changed my name from.the Greek spelling zkathArine(thanks dad) to the more common Katherine. People still misspell it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm changing my surname to make a statement.

Part of disowning the shitty place I came from. To make a statement that I've had to do life alone anyway so why would I carry their name. After all they've said and done to me I want nothing of any connection or link to them whatsoever. Part of breaking the cycle, branching off and have that hell die off.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've thought about it, I despise my given name.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

As a child I wanted to be called Marie, as I thought it was pretty.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Surname is a pain in the arse, nobody has ever heard it and I have to spell it every time. It made us choose simple first names for our children

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my first name and the family heritage behind it. I wouldn't change it.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like my name

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Maybe, I like Mischief. Maybe I'll change it to that full time.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I really like my name. In fact both first names but i'd like to change my last name.

Granny-teacake just doesn't work for me. "

Well i'm tempted ! I like it!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

No am happy with mine x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah I get sick of spelling it, it's a fairly easy name, the Mr's surname again short and easy he has to spell it out to everyone so once we're married I'm double fucked over.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would but glow sets unrealistic expectations in unlit areas. Don’t want to keep explaining glow v fluorescent.

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

I have always had problems with my names: double letters where people don’t expect them and the same letter occurring three times at the junction of fore name and surname. People have always got my email address wrong (I did find a fix eventually). Like OP I’m always spelling my name out on the phone.

But no, it never occurred to me to change it: it’s what I was given.

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By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

It seems most people are happy with theirs! And that’s exactly what I would expect - good on you for owning it if it’s a difficult one.

I suppose my next problem after deciding to change it would be - to what?! For those who’ve done it or would consider it, have you ever settled on a name and then realised you know a complete prick by the same name? Totally spoils it! Or is that just me haha

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I'm very happy with my male name.

If I were to decide to live and present as my female persona full time, I'd change my name to Davina - I really like it.

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Iv always like then name Pedro or Charles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope ...my name is precious to me, it's one of the things l have, it's truly mine and l cherish it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ok with mine, I used to be envious of my siblings as they had more traditional names that had a meaning whereas mine is like an Anglo/Indian mash-up that didn't have one. But I quite like it now

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By *alico_KittyWoman
over a year ago

Kittys Lane

No I would change my first or second name x

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I like my first name, my surname though is a common one only problem is its the Scottish spelling so everytime I have to give my surname I have to spell it otherwise people just assume its the more common English spelling.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

Not ever thought about changing my name but picking up on a thread from earlier this week, I’d love to have more letters in my name so as to make a decent signature!! I’ve only a total of 7 letters in both names alas!

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By *alico_KittyWoman
over a year ago

Kittys Lane

"No I would change my first or second name x"

Should read wouldn't

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

I’ve gone by my nickname with friends for years, it’s actually weird hearing my own name at this stage

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've changed my surname twice.

I go by two names in real life, one name that people who know me well call me and my given name.

I automatically spell our surname every time I tell someone it because it's very difficult and has a lot of consonants. It's unusual for people to get it right even then.

I'd never consider changing my given name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, it's not a common name so I quite like it.

Most people off here call me Boo, and I'm not sure if many know my real name anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surname yes, I hate it. First name probably not now. I always thought it was a bit boring, but now when I hear someone use it or write it down Im like Ooh thats me, and its not bad. Im not used to hearing anyone use my name so it seems a novelty.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

No because that's what my parents chose for me

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

"Not ever thought about changing my name but picking up on a thread from earlier this week, I’d love to have more letters in my name so as to make a decent signature!! I’ve only a total of 7 letters in both names alas!

Signatures are a problem of their own. I’ve never mastered one. I’ve practiced but can never get one that looks half decent. Now I just use my initials.

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

"It seems most people are happy with theirs! And that’s exactly what I would expect - good on you for owning it if it’s a difficult one.

I know people who have changed their forename, someone twice. And I just think “what’s the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd change mine to "Randy Baumgartner"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Signatures are a problem of their own. I’ve never mastered one. I’ve practiced but can never get one that looks half decent. Now I just use my initials. "

I have never managed to get a signature either. I just write my name. So boring

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By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"It seems most people are happy with theirs! And that’s exactly what I would expect - good on you for owning it if it’s a difficult one.

I know people who have changed their forename, someone twice. And I just think “what’s the point? "

Perhaps because, believe it or not, they want to. Because they feel some sort of need to and it will enhance their life somehow.

But thanks for playing.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've thought a few times to formally change my first name name. I know what is change it to as well. I also considered changing my surname to match my kids surname (minus the marrying bit) years ago, but glad that I didn't now.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

I haven’t really considered it, but I would like to be able to walk into a telephone box as me, spin round three times and emerge as “Malty Horlicks”

A kind of Sherlock Holmes, James Bond and Rumpole of The Bailey all rolled into one … with a side line of being a Kate Bush and Audrey Hepburn hybrid at the weekends and in the evenings

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I changed mine emotionally when I joined here. Deed poll is the next step, which I will do, I'm just biding my time.

Everyone says I suit my chosen name more than my birth name, which pleases me too as it feels right.

It's only business contacts now that know me as anything else, so my birth name has become my professional name - for now at least.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I've never wanted to change my name. It's ok. It can be spelt in various ways, but I've always considered mine the correct spelling

It was pretty popular about 30 years before I was born, so people can be surprised at my youth. I changed surname when I got married, but it's only a couple of letters different to my maiden name so I barely changed my signature. I'm content with my name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems most people are happy with theirs! And that’s exactly what I would expect - good on you for owning it if it’s a difficult one.

I know people who have changed their forename, someone twice. And I just think “what’s the point? "

A friend of mine who did it needed a new start in life. Not for safety reasons or anything of the sort. She left a difficult long relationship. She explored her sexuality in a completely different way. She changed her life around when it came to career/location/leisure . The old name just didn't fit her anymore as she says. Good for her.

in my heart she is still the old one because I addressed her that during some very bonding moments as she was my doula but I would not call her that anymore and I'm glad she chose to mark this new her by renaming herself. Like a signature in the corner of a painting you just completed. In a way.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

My hubby and I took each other's surnames when we got married, and while my name is pretty obscure anyway, hyphenating it and bolting hubby's name on after gives us an surname of which we are the only two in the world to possess.

Just coming up to ten years later, and it's still the case that when you conduct business (either on the phone or in person) they never forget who you are, as the name is so unusual.

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By *red and daphneCouple
over a year ago

in the middle

We'd happily change our fab name, no idea why we chose it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Mine is very boring, but least there is no faff and I generally fly under the radar.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Yes I'm changeing to Mr missunderstood or Mr baffled

Haven't made my mind up yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"….. would you consider changing yours by deed poll?"

Been there, done that, got the deed poll.

It’s an interesting side facet of trans life, what do you change your name to? Few people in life actually make that decision for themselves and it’s a massive responsibility. I personally had plenty of alter egos before I went full time and there were all as much a lie as the male life I was living. In the end I went for the “boring” feminisation of my previous name, it seemed like a good middle ground between all my previous egos and amalgamated them into one cohesive person.

Anyway enough of my boring story, love to hear what others would go for if they could

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Nope

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes I've considered changing mine, I don't really like it but it's more hassle than it's worth.

One of my friends actually changed his from Carl to Romulus

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"No because that's what my parents chose for me

That's why I haven't changed it. They'd be devastated and it's not worth it.

But I hate my name nonetheless, it's common and diminutive.

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By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Yes I've considered changing mine, I don't really like it but it's more hassle than it's worth.

One of my friends actually changed his from Carl to Romulus "

Seriously?! Crikey, that’s quite a departure! Does he get stick for it? Imagine he gets it misspelled quite a bit, too.

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By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"….. would you consider changing yours by deed poll?

Been there, done that, got the deed poll.

Anyway enough of my boring story, love to hear what others would go for if they could "

That’s an interesting line that I hadn’t considered. Are you pleased with what you plumped for? I have no idea what I’d pick if I was to change my name (and it would be the same gender). I’ve grown quite attached to Felix from my fab name.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

My last name definitely

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I like my name very much.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Real name ... No im kinda used to it lol

Fab name ... Noooo im the OG Bunkie and always will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"….. would you consider changing yours by deed poll?

Been there, done that, got the deed poll.

Anyway enough of my boring story, love to hear what others would go for if they could

There certainly are times when I wished I’d just used one my previous identities ( Julia and Jessica were two of my favourites ) but all in all I’m happy with what I choose and it stays true to the name my parents gave me as well which meant a lot to me.

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By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"….. would you consider changing yours by deed poll?

Been there, done that, got the deed poll.

Anyway enough of my boring story, love to hear what others would go for if they could

That’s nice to hear

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I don't particularly like mine. I don't know that I'd change it though.

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By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I don't particularly like mine. I don't know that I'd change it though.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with Myrtle.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I like my name, it’s sort of soft and rounded and easy on the tongue… much like me

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

I did at uni. Was d*unk and did it after a night out for no particular reason. In those days you could do it for £30 online.. dangerously easy. Can't be like that now I wouldn't have thought!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to change my name!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Yes I've considered changing mine, I don't really like it but it's more hassle than it's worth.

One of my friends actually changed his from Carl to Romulus

Seriously?! Crikey, that’s quite a departure! Does he get stick for it? Imagine he gets it misspelled quite a bit, too."

His family weren't happy as he changed his surname as well

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I would love to change my name!"

I hate my name but wouldn't change it out of respect for my parents. But had loads of names over years checking into hotels when they did ask for I'd

Mrs and Mrs snuggles and they didn't say a thing

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

My 'First' name is a nightmare. No one can read/spell/pronounce it

Luckily I love my middle name so use that more nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope it's unusual and I've learned to love it

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

I changed mine by deed poll. After my divorce I felt sad I wouldn't share my kids surname. So I took my daughters middle name and made that my new middle name, took my sons middle name and made it my new last name.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I did think about being Kitty, as I'm a crazy cat lady. But I do genuinely like Mimi too. But wouldn't want to upset the old folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No,I like Mike Hunt. So do all my friends

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By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"No,I like Mike Hunt. So do all my friends "

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By *elix Sighted OP Man
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I did at uni. Was d*unk and did it after a night out for no particular reason. In those days you could do it for £30 online.. dangerously easy. Can't be like that now I wouldn't have thought!"

Did you really do that?! Cripes. I’m glad I didn’t know about that - I probably would’ve ended up as Dangermouse Bon Jovi.

Actually…..

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

"I did at uni. Was d*unk and did it after a night out for no particular reason. In those days you could do it for £30 online.. dangerously easy. Can't be like that now I wouldn't have thought!

Did you really do that?! Cripes. I’m glad I didn’t know about that - I probably would’ve ended up as Dangermouse Bon Jovi.

Actually….."

Yep, I didn't hate my original name particularly. Kept the new one though. It's actually pretty sensible all things considered.....

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By *he_13th_ghostWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

I've changed my name legally because I hated my dead name. Just need to change it on IDs

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