FabSwingers.com forum: Thoughts on inaccurate age on profiles.

By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

We connected with another couple on an alternative site.

Both 39 on their profile..

After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's.

We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them.

Utterly get the view as seen in many posts that it removes an element of consent within the lifestyle if not communicated and especially if pictures are years ago, yes we both been catfished before we met!!

But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on..

Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a load on here who bend the truth with their age. When you see them at events it’s obvious to see that they’re catfishing by knocking a good few years from their actual age on their profiles.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I would have no issue with minor embellishments on their profile, PROVIDED they were then immediately honest with me about everything. That would enable me to make an informed choice and consent (or not) to playing with them.

I particularly get the age thing because it’s to get around filters. But people set filters based on what they are prepared to let into their lives. It’s their choice and should not be dishonestly subverted.

IMHO, the fact we all accept there are usually minor embellishments lowers our expectations of total transparency, so it feels like less of a transgression than anywhere else.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It would bother me, I understand why they would choose to do that, if it was for events etc.

But in general I find it's used to get around our age filters. And in honesty the majority you can tell they're fibbing as soon as you ask for an up to date picture.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

It doesn't bother me.

I've had women tell me their real age (or other anomalies) within their first opening message or very early on in the messaging.

Their reasons have been for 'self preservation' as opposed to subterfuge or deceit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they explain early on and it's a reasonable argument, then not a bother. But i do find that misleading if I'm honest, especially if I have to deduct it rather than be told. Our age is correct with slightly different birthdays.

Tones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend on how they told me really. Some people it would be a hell no. Others I'd be more lenient.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

if they confers before meeting it's ok .if they don't and it's a big difference +/- 10 years then I would cut the meet short and block them..I am not keen on liars.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It would bother me, not the age but the fact they lied and kept it up rather than being honest from the start where I'd have probably continued the conversation but after a few/many messages I wouldn't be impressed & wouldn't have continued regardless of attraction.

I don't like being lied to.

Mrs

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

For me it's not much of an issue.

If I am attracted to them I don't care what their age is.

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By *SMystiqueTV/TS
over a year ago

NYB

I've had 3 messages this morning form people telling me they are different ages than their profile states. All, had ages in their 40s on their profile and all told me they are at least 10 years older than their profile states.

My profile clearly says I like older guys. So these guys are obviously lying to everyone else to appear younger or lying to me to appear older. Either way won't be meeting them.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Yeah, it's a thing, not just on fab but the apps too. It the first thing one woman said to me the moment we met.

Is it a dealbreaker? That's down to the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It bothers me. Even for events. If the event is for people in a certain age group then you're not just pulling the wool over the organisers' eyes but all the other attendees. Just find an event that your age doesn't exclude you from, there's plenty enough of them.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

A couple of years 'adjustment' doesn't bother us. Mine is wrong and it's purely done to keep the 'Fab' me just a little distanced from the real me. I've always been open about that and I'd never need to drop my age to get around age filters, given the difference between Fox and I.

If someone knocks a decade off its usually obvious. If its done to get around filters then yes, it's devious.

I've seen the whole 'consent' argument before and it always confuses me. To what extent to you need every detail of someone to be 100% correct in order to give consent? Right age? Right real name? Home address? Inside leg measurements......

Many people don't look their age, either older or younger. Does everyone ask for photo ID when meeting? Or do they just think 'yeah, you look like the age on your profile so all's good'?

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

I just don't get why people don't set it to what there actual age is its pretty deceitful on par with using ancient photos of ones self or snap filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s a load on here who bend the truth with their age. When you see them at events it’s obvious to see that they’re catfishing by knocking a good few years from their actual age on their profiles. "

After reading last nights messages.......

(I'll just leave this here for you whilst I tap my foot waiting at Aldi bins)

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There used to be a guy in a chatgroup in 2018 who was 55 on his profile but he admitted in the group to being 58 and had no issue changing his age to suit specific profiles he was monitoring and closely following.

Only 3 years so not too bad except when he left and returned a few months later he was suddenly only 50.

His most recent profile claimed he was 55 again but he is actually closer to 65.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should knock 10 yrs of mine as I don't look my age

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

If someone is lying about their age what else are they lying about, we are open to meeting people of all ages but not liars, if we met people and guessed they were lying about anything it wouldn't go any further.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't care it's about the connection and attraction.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It would bother me ,11 years is a lot to knock off your age & many wouldn't be able to get away with saying they're so much younger.

There's a man on my updates who admits to knocking 7 years off,thing is it's a little lie yes,but would make me wonder what else they lie about to get meets.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I should knock 10 yrs of mine as I don't look my age"

I could knock a good few off mine too ,but why bother.I'm actually still 48 for a few weeks ,but change it so I'm not giving my real birthday away lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading last nights messages.......

(I'll just leave this here for you whilst I tap my foot waiting at Aldi bins) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s annoying because the filters are there for a reason, if someone is not wanting to meet/date people outside of a specific age range then it’s completely their choice. But by lying about your age, you’re taking that choice away from them.

Also if someone can lie about their age and not feel bad about it- who knows what else they could lie about

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"It would bother me ,11 years is a lot to knock off your age & many wouldn't be able to get away with saying they're so much younger.

There's a man on my updates who admits to knocking 7 years off,thing is it's a little lie yes,but would make me wonder what else they lie about to get meets."

This is it for me aswell, its a little lie but I would wonder. I think for me if we were chatting and they admitted they had lied about their age I might consider still meeting them, but if I turned up to meet someone and it was obvious they had lied about their age the meet would be over.

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

I understand a year (possibly 2?) to help with anonymity, but anything else is just dishonest and is a red flag.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"There used to be a guy in a chatgroup in 2018 who was 55 on his profile but he admitted in the group to being 58 and had no issue changing his age to suit specific profiles he was monitoring and closely following.

Only 3 years so not too bad except when he left and returned a few months later he was suddenly only 50.

His most recent profile claimed he was 55 again but he is actually closer to 65. "

I remember a lady on here was 40 a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand a year (possibly 2?) to help with anonymity, but anything else is just dishonest and is a red flag. "

Agreed.

Though we've come to almost expect it, to the point we've adjusted the age range we seek to allow for others tweaking their age.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

A spread of feeling over this..

We would like to make it clear we were NOT CATFISHED by them or have been by anyone within the lifestyle!

It was a mutual attraction and we decided we didn't give a shit as they were both fit and very fun on all levels

Our 'separate' catfish experiences were on vanilla dating sites, prior to us meeting and why I requested a video chat with D before we physically met.

My experience was a guy evidently 10-15 years senior to his pictures. His experience was a lady who was twice the woman her pictures had shown and he didn't enjoy the experience of saying no thanks, as she turned a little abusive when he did..

Appreciate the argument regards consent at an a event, anyone having deceived to be accepted on the organisers criteria, is removing other's right to consent..

By that point they're in front of you, not hiding behind a site/filters/criteria/Photoshop/filters etc.. and it's your choice whether you fuck them (as rightly so at any club/social night) or not isn't it?

#playingdevilsadvocate

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Finedon ,

5 years ago I met on here a woman with a profile age of 59 at our first meet she admitted to being 64 we drifted apart and she disappeared.

A few weeks ago she resurfaced and her profile age is still 59, real age would now be 69.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I understand a year (possibly 2?) to help with anonymity, but anything else is just dishonest and is a red flag. "

Yes a good point! Like not using your real names..

Frankly 39 seems to be a common age

but he was a decade older (pictures were not) and we didn't care..

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

After reading last nights messages.......

(I'll just leave this here for you whilst I tap my foot waiting at Aldi bins) "

Ooooh, that sounds intriguing!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

As long as he looks like his recent photo, I'm OK. Any differences that I don't find attractive amd I'm off...

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"As long as he looks like his recent photo, I'm OK. Any differences that I don't find attractive amd I'm off..."

Exactly as we felt, their pictures were as they looked, on the site, via WhatsApp video and in person...

So we had zero issue with they're claimed vs real age was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had someone last year tell me they were a decade younger than their age (could have been a little more to be honest). I wasn't put off by the age, but I was by the fact we'd been chatting off site a fair bit by that time. It just seemed daft to not have said actually I'm X age from early on.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We met a couple and he was 5yrs older than his profile age.

Why do they even do that and think people wont notice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Within reason, it's fine. But if I think I'm meeting a 40 year old but they need to stop to pick up their pension cheque on the way, might be an issue.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

Proud of are age why lie??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To a point it’s fine, we can understand why some people have little exaggerations on here but as long as they’re honest with us, and open with us, we’d take them at face value and be fine with it

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"To a point it’s fine, we can understand why some people have little exaggerations on here but as long as they’re honest with us, and open with us, we’d take them at face value and be fine with it

Mr "

Exactly as we felt and happened, people 'bend the truth' in life for many reasons.

We made the decision we didn't care and besides their real ages weren't outside our parameters anyway, so their choice made no difference to us.

Understand if anyone is hiding age using old pictures without disclosing before meeting, it's a deceitful practice which we don't condone.

But in this case we wanted to fuck them

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Off fab I’ve meet people in their 40s but look late 60s & I’ve meet people in their 50 & look mid 30s

Point being long as I still find them attractive in person then it’s all good, otherwise that’s catfishing & a short social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares. You either fancy them or you don't. However, if when meeting they don't look as their pics it's

Bye bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like people to be honest as we are...

All our details are honest.

Our views are honest.

Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono).

We show our faces.

Already have enough of the straight guys pretending to be bi just to try getting it on with S! Yes we have even had people quickly change their sexuality on their profile before messaging us not realising we had already seen it beforehand.

Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"It’s annoying because the filters are there for a reason, if someone is not wanting to meet/date people outside of a specific age range then it’s completely their choice. But by lying about your age, you’re taking that choice away from them.

Also if someone can lie about their age and not feel bad about it- who knows what else they could lie about

Exactly this. It really annoys me. It's the same as lying about marital status, smoking etc etc.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You can always tell approximate age by necks and hands. If they are wearing polo necks and gloves attitudes and cultural references along with style of speech give the game away. Two or three years nobody notices, ten and over is laughably obvious.

One guy we met gleefully told us about his first lads holiday. If the age he gave us was correct he would have been 8 in the year he and his mates went to Spain alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can always tell approximate age by necks and hands. If they are wearing polo necks and gloves attitudes and cultural references along with style of speech give the game away. Two or three years nobody notices, ten and over is laughably obvious.

One guy we met gleefully told us about his first lads holiday. If the age he gave us was correct he would have been 8 in the year he and his mates went to Spain alone

Haha, someone failed maths then!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

One guy we met gleefully told us about his first lads holiday. If the age he gave us was correct he would have been 8 in the year he and his mates went to Spain alone

Haha, someone failed maths then! "

I think he just forgot his fab age lol. People don't always take years off. We met a young guy who'd told us he was early thirties. I very much doubt he was more than 21.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Thing is ..... you were attracted to them to the details like age are irrelevant.

The shock comes when you meet without seeing them and think they've sent their parents instead.

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By *BC AndyMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

I could quite easily knock a good 10 yrs + of my age alway stold i look much younger. Most of the time i'm tempted but then think what is the point when you actualy meet with up you have to lie. Just my opinion, but it's quite obvious some people do lie about their age looking at their profile photo's.

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By *ersuasion22Couple
over a year ago

Herts

We have our real ages and use our real names at meets, but have met people who have fab ages and fab names. It didn't even occur to us to do that.

When we've met people for socials, it's often for obvious that they are not the age they're claiming to be! We just laugh about it now.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"We like people to be honest as we are...

All our details are honest.

Our views are honest.

Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono).

We show our faces.

Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows!

You utterly are! Pity D's out of your age criteria!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We like people to be honest as we are...

All our details are honest.

Our views are honest.

Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono).

We show our faces.

Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows!

You utterly are! Pity D's out of your age criteria!

At our discretion

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

For us really it's that if we fancy them, age is really irrelevant.. Provided we don't get catfished as we both have on dating sites before we met..

When we've suspected and asked for a picture of them holding something specific (get your mind out of the gutter!

) or dated some have vanished

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"We like people to be honest as we are...

All our details are honest.

Our views are honest.

Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono).

We show our faces.

Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows!

You utterly are! Pity D's out of your age criteria!

At our discretion

Oh utterly!!!

Would you like us to drop you a message? Hidden atm as we've just bought a house together and time poor!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us really it's that if we fancy them, age is really irrelevant.. Provided we don't get catfished as we both have on dating sites before we met..

When we've suspected and asked for a picture of them holding something specific (get your mind out of the gutter!

) or dated some have vanished

S is more so on the age thing as she is younger than me.. it kind of limits the upper roof and I higher the lower end.

Feel free to PM us if you want as we cannot see your profile... who knows

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Its about the connection you make

Not their birth date .

Do have the same wants and desires as you and do you fancy them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they lie about their age what else do they lie about, it's all about trust for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put real age and the filters block me from chatting to so many people. I understand why they do it.. .wonder how many have done this then apply filters on peoole that are same age

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Its about the connection you make

Not their birth date .

Do have the same wants and desires as you and do you fancy them ."

Us!

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"If they lie about their age what else do they lie about, it's all about trust for me."

For us, not looking to marry them..

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Its about the connection you make

Not their birth date .

Do have the same wants and desires as you and do you fancy them .

Us!"

Doesn't them cover us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We connected with another couple on an alternative site.

Both 39 on their profile..

After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's.

We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them.

But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on..

Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation

Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.

This is why we don't trust people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, some people make me honestly laugh about being totally honest and putting their honest names, address and honest birthdates etc on this honest thread. Then when identity is taken they can honestly say that they honestly weren't aware that could happen.

T I Ch.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Honestly, some people make me honestly laugh about being totally honest and putting their honest names, address and honest birthdates etc on this honest thread. Then when identity is taken they can honestly say that they honestly weren't aware that could happen.

T I Ch.

None of mine is correct. DOB, location etc. never has been. I don’t want people knowing that stuff, simple. That’s the only reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah bothers me photo ID at the ready passports and driving licences please

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Thing is ..... you were attracted to them to the details like age are irrelevant.

The shock comes when you meet without seeing them and think they've sent their parents instead."

I've always said this.

On here if you're attracted to a (recent) photo, their profile and how they interact and engage on here, are you honestly going to throw a wobbler if when you meet they tell you they're Dave rather than Bob, they're from a different location to the one on their profile or that they're 42 rather than 40?

In clubs, once you've seen someone you fancy, chatted for a while, realised you all like eachother and disappear off for some jiggy jiggy, had a whale of a time and lots of fun....are you going to chuck a head fit when you go to verify them to find they wouldn't have been able to contact you via Fab due to being a year over your stated preferences?

Because I've a sneaking suspicion that most people wouldn't.

Sure. If you turn up for a social and they look nothing like their photos ans have wiped a decade from their history, then walk away in disgust. If you arrive at a club having chatted online to someone only to find those people have cooked the books as much as the government did during covid then yes, disappointment and frustration is justified.

But people do seem to get their knickers in a twist over the slightest blurring of personal details on here sometimes, as if there was going to be catastrophe caused by someone choosing not to use a real name, age, or other detail. This is an Internet contact site, not a credit reference agency.

You're meeting strangers via the Internet for sex, often for just a one time or occasional spell of naughtiness. Not knowing everything about them is kind of to be expected, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah bothers me photo ID at the ready passports and driving licences please

You forgot fingerprints. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is ..... you were attracted to them to the details like age are irrelevant.

The shock comes when you meet without seeing them and think they've sent their parents instead.

I've always said this.

Because I've a sneaking suspicion that most people wouldn't.

You're meeting strangers via the Internet for sex, often for just a one time or occasional spell of naughtiness. Not knowing everything about them is kind of to be expected, surely?

When we are allowing someone in to our bedroom, Into our relationship then yes we expect honesty. That's just respect if nothing else!

Some may not be bothered and that's fine, and it's fine that some of us are bothered...

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"When we've suspected and asked for a picture of them holding something specific (get your mind out of the gutter!

) or dated some have vanished

This was a common practice of mine, pre Fab days. Not to check their age though, to confirm I was actually corresponding with a woman.

I'm really not bothered about age, I prefer women my own age and in their 70s, or maybe a well preserved 80s. Few and far between on here though

Jane on the other hand will go with blokes a lot younger even though she would prefer her own age but, unfortunately, the men of our generation don't generally look after themselves.

Frank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be a Cya from me,a lie is a lie end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would be a Cya from me,a lie is a lie end of"

Here here

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

Plenty of people embellish the truth, it all depends on how it would affect me or mine.

You have to ask if they are willing to be dishonest about their age, what else may they be keeping from me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plenty of people embellish the truth, it all depends on how it would affect me or mine.

You have to ask if they are willing to be dishonest about their age, what else may they be keeping from me?"

This is what we think.

No need to moonlight us, if we like you we like you... lies burn foundations

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Thing is ..... you were attracted to them to the details like age are irrelevant.

The shock comes when you meet without seeing them and think they've sent their parents instead.

I've always said this.

Because I've a sneaking suspicion that most people wouldn't.

You're meeting strangers via the Internet for sex, often for just a one time or occasional spell of naughtiness. Not knowing everything about them is kind of to be expected, surely?

Thoughts exactly!!!!!

No to catfish experiences 100%!!

Additionally the discretion element which is mentioned everywhere on the site, but not within this thread 'we think'..

Such as shock!!.. faces hidden, inexact location, redacted tattoos etc..

Full kudos to those who can be utterly honest on their profile! We applaud you.

But for some, work implications, children and child custody issues, social, religious and ethnicity concerns are to be beared in mind in what is not a mainstream acceptable past time, each to their own if they wish to judge without 'walking a mile'.

Our pictures are recent and unfiltered as were the couple our initial post refers to, our name's are initials as neither are particularly common and especially if combined..

But we ultimately feel that deceiving people, disrespecting their right of consent up to a physical meeting, wasting their time and giving them the awkward task of saying no at that point is abhorrent!

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

T I Ch.

None of mine is correct. DOB, location etc. never has been. I don’t want people knowing that stuff, simple. That’s the only reason. "

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

"We connected with another couple on an alternative site.

Both 39 on their profile..

After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's.

We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them.

But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on..

Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation

Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.

This is why we don't trust people!"

Love a bit irony here

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"We connected with another couple on an alternative site.

Both 39 on their profile..

After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's.

We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them.

But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on..

Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation

Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.

This is why we don't trust people!"

Wow!!!!

Firstly. unsure why you'd need to do that on a forum chat, if you found us unattractive our apologies.

Second. our profile is hidden as stated, so ergo our ages are.

Thirdly, you received very recent pictures of us both. And exact ages.. (actually on reflection Y isn't 38 till September.. Sorry!)

Fourth, thanks for the good luck wishes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people on here can not spell.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Some people on here can not spell. "

Lol!! Grammar and spelling are a different forum subject..

Many times we've rolled our eye's!

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Some people on here can not spell. "

Stop throwing stones in your glass house

Frank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We connected with another couple on an alternative site.

Both 39 on their profile..

After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's.

We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them.

But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on..

Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation

Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.

This is why we don't trust people!

Wow!!!!

Firstly. unsure why you'd need to do that on a forum chat, if you found us unattractive our apologies.

Second. our profile is hidden as stated, so ergo our ages are.

Thirdly, you received very recent pictures of us both. And exact ages.. (actually on reflection Y isn't 38 till September.. Sorry!)

Fourth, thanks for the good luck wishes..

Simply... we stated very much about honesty and our views of people lying... you even commented to us how you like that, still upon messaging notice you fall into that category of people who lie on their profiles.

I said it here as you created a post about such, and thought it fit in pretty well in what we have said.

Why even message knowing this? It baffles me!

Tbh you look like a hot couple, sadly lost any trust instantly seeing that in front of us. That caused a lost opportunity and goes to show that being honest and showing honesty go a long way.

Sorry guys

We do sincerely wish you the best though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We shan't comment on your post again.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"We connected with another couple on an alternative site.

Both 39 on their profile..

After a short while of chatting, they confessed he was 50 and her 44 and that they had only 'lied' so as not to be dismissed from certain event/club night's.

We had zero issue with it as they were still attractive to us, continued the conversation, moved to WhatsApp, arranged to meet at a club and had an absolute fantastic time with them.

But for us we were still attracted to them regardless and they were honest early on..

Just wandered, how many wouldn't/would've continued the conversation

Ironic this, as we made it very clear our views... and upon messaging find the ages you say you are via PM is not the same as what's on your profile.

This is why we don't trust people!

Wow!!!!

Firstly. unsure why you'd need to do that on a forum chat, if you found us unattractive our apologies.

Second. our profile is hidden as stated, so ergo our ages are.

Thirdly, you received very recent pictures of us both. And exact ages.. (actually on reflection Y isn't 38 till September.. Sorry!)

Fourth, thanks for the good luck wishes..

I said it here as you created a post about such, and thought it fit in pretty well in what we have said.

Why even message knowing this? It baffles me!

Tbh you look like a hot couple, sadly lost any trust instantly seeing that in front of us. That caused a lost opportunity and goes to show that being honest and showing honesty go a long way.

Sorry guys

We do sincerely wish you the best though."

No need to apologise, or frankly make inaccurate statements on a forum.

Still unsure how you've deemed us so, as our profile is hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We like people to be honest as we are...

All our details are honest.

Our views are honest.

Our pictures are recent and mainly unedited (excluding the mono).

We show our faces.

Stupid moron

Honesty goes a hell of a long way with us, be honest with yourself and be honest with us and who knows!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people on here can not spell.

Stop throwing stones in your glass house

Frank"

Piss off twat

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Yeah bothers me photo ID at the ready passports and driving licences please

Detect sarcasm.. Hmm! How to correct such behavior..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure others will share my opinion. I don't care how old you are as long as you are legal. If you're attractive to me you're attractive to me. However I don't appreciate that you lied.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I'm sure others will share my opinion. I don't care how old you are as long as you are legal. If you're attractive to me you're attractive to me. However I don't appreciate that you lied."

They will!! Wait for 20 years and ask yourself the same thing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be doing with guys that are in their 20s, setting their age as 50 something, to get around filters to meet older women. We have filters in place for a reason

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Just an observation, there was a few posting in this thread who are "no longer on site" WTAF!!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It might already have been said, but I think very few people could get away with being wildly inaccurate about their age.

If they're stretching the truth by just a few years it wouldn't bother me

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

I suppose sadly when you get past the big 50 you get put out to pasture!

We have actually never based any meeting on age as for us it has always been about attractive chemistry personality.I think there is sadly a lot of ageism & I guess it's really is personal choice.But just remember everyone will get to the big 50+ and until then you would know.So just enjoy while it lasts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people lie about their age for an umber of reason. People also lie about their cock size, their body type and shape, where they live, and the list goes on. Even using old pictures is being deceptive, so you have a social and see what they are truly like before taking it further. We have met younger guys that said they were older and people claiming to be younger but looked amazing for their actual age. We would rather meet people that looked great for their age than younger people that looked much older than they actually are.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"A lot of people lie about their age for an umber of reason. People also lie about their cock size, their body type and shape, where they live, and the list goes on. Even using old pictures is being deceptive, so you have a social and see what they are truly like before taking it further. We have met younger guys that said they were older and people claiming to be younger but looked amazing for their actual age. We would rather meet people that looked great for their age than younger people that looked much older than they actually are."

Yup!! Far better a fit 50 than a poor 30 for us

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

I would say more people lie a little about their true age than dont.

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

"I suppose sadly when you get past the big 50 you get put out to pasture!

"
yes it's a common thing here in Essex once you hit 50 most are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone whose profile age and photo were both 10 years out of date. It was blindingly obvious and she volunteered the information when we met.

Was she still attractive? Yes

Did it raise a red flag with me? Yes, but not enough to put me off her.

What did put me off was her appalling self centred attitude and behaviour, but that's another story.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I met someone whose profile age and photo were both 10 years out of date. It was blindingly obvious and she volunteered the information when we met.

Was she still attractive? Yes

Did it raise a red flag with me? Yes, but not enough to put me off her.

What did put me off was her appalling self centred attitude and behaviour, but that's another story."

That also! Had a fucking bombshell join us.. We'd love to repeat as long as she didn't open her mouth.. To talk that is

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

"I met someone whose profile age and photo were both 10 years out of date. It was blindingly obvious and she volunteered the information when we met.

Was she still attractive? Yes

Did it raise a red flag with me? Yes, but not enough to put me off her.

What did put me off was her appalling self centred attitude and behaviour, but that's another story."
sadly theirs a lot of women with that attitude now

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

One guy we met gleefully told us about his first lads holiday. If the age he gave us was correct he would have been 8 in the year he and his mates went to Spain alone

Haha, someone failed maths then!

I think he just forgot his fab age lol. People don't always take years off. We met a young guy who'd told us he was early thirties. I very much doubt he was more than 21."

I have actually asked people what year they were born, worked it into the conversation - or which decade they were a teenager. Always catches them out.

One guy said he was 40... Yet he went to all the same places as me, at the same time. I doubt they'd have let a 14 year old boy in the clubs. Turned out he was my age.

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

Why I have put my real age !!! Why Lie about it ? as like the OP, wrote . . . . . . . . . . you will get caught out !!!

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering

Look on Tinder! So many women where their profile says one age and then you read the words and it says I'm not 48 I'm 54 but I can't change it. WHY DID YOU TYPE IN 48 IN THE FIRST PLACE ???? !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there."

42!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there.

42!!!

Alright Joe announce it to everyone why not.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there.

42!!!

Alright Joe announce it to everyone why not. "

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Joe is right. Rest assured though, you're not the only relic on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there.

42!!!

Alright Joe announce it to everyone why not.

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Joe is right. Rest assured though, you're not the only relic on this site.

Not the first time I've been called that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there.

42!!!

Alright Joe announce it to everyone why not. "

Sorry, but some people like older women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People probably bend their age because of filters and maybe throw people off their scent but if a chat starts between them they both should tell the other person their age..it could end there and then it may not... age doesn't matter if there's a connection or attraction.

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

OK, time to fess up.

I'm actually 82.

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By *eyeY OP Couple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"I think this is my first profile I have my real age on. Fucked up there."

Utterly!! No one would touch you with a bargepole!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It bothers me, unless it's within a margin. Some people (including me) have a basically accurate age but out a bit for anonymity. (Mine is under a month wrong, for example)

Filters etc exist for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really get it - if you liked them on paper, liked their chat... Liked their pics (younger maybe)... Liked their 'current' pics... Then age is just a number?

Not a big deal to me? Its the person i like, not their stats.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We've found age is not a real problem for us. We either fancy people or we don't. We started with preconceptions of what ages groups we were after but we discovered the people we connected with in clubs were a wide range.

We play with a fair deck of cards and we expect the same respect back. So obviously people being deliberately misleading is a turn off. We understand that not everyone wants to put every detail online. However you expect to be able to take the basic published profile stats such as age, sexual orientation and height at face value as advertised. As for other things if not covered in the profile if we don't ask its not an issue to use. Although likewise if we did ask we'd expect a truthful answer.

Plus I think we would just find the idea that they lie to get into parties that are not for their age group a bit distasteful. Especially considering one of them is considerably out of the age spec of an under 40s party/even. Maybe a year or two over could be forgiven, but not 10 years over. That shows a total lack of respect for the others attending who've gone on the premise that all those going are below a certain age. Thus they wouldn't be our sort of people.

In the context of this scenario the age wouldn't bother us as age doesn't to us anyways if we fancy them. However it would be a big red flag to us and thus probably make us not want to risk using valuable time and effort to meet a couple who have already exposed themselves as not being trustworthy or respectful of peoples boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume getting into clubs where play is involved, is there aim.

It's lying to get action which makes them untrustworthy. If you have to lie to get consent, that makes you unsafe to play with in my mind.

But then I'm one for consent lol

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

Doesn’t bother me at all. I meet at clubs and don’t go around asking peoples ages, if I want a man, I do and that’s it

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Some people on here can not spell.

Stop throwing stones in your glass house

Frank

Piss off twat"

Wait, I'm the one who's supposed to piss off, not you!

Frank

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't really get it - if you liked them on paper, liked their chat... Liked their pics (younger maybe)... Liked their 'current' pics... Then age is just a number?

Not a big deal to me? Its the person i like, not their stats. "

I don't like the fact they think lying is ok.

(If I meet them in a club it won't come up)

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