FabSwingers.com forum: Letting them go...

By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

When all is said and done, the messages grow Infrequent and neither of you wish to meet each other anymore, as you have simply grown apart. Can you let them go, or do you hold on with hope

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I cut them loose if I’ve no intention of meeting them

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t really know. I tend to meet people like me who don’t beat around the bush. I’d hope someone would just say if they didn’t want to meet anymore, as I would. I don’t think it’s really happened yet but i’d probably say oi do you not wanna meet then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ebbs and flows of life are frequent and unpredictable, I try to not read too much into what can happen outside of my own knowledge and purview.

Some, do. It can be unfortunate and lead to ill feeling or worse, actual pain.

However, life is such that we can move into each others life due to timing and circumstance, experiencing intense joy and happiness that might not be found for a while, if at all again.

Hold onto what you shared, without regret or bitterness and allow the window of opportunity to remain open, who knows what chances may present themselves by not closing things firmly.

Do men get periods? Am I on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been let go from friends lists when I either go on one of my breaks or people simply just get bored of me.

I’m never the one doing the unfriending .. I still want access to the gold in the friends only galleries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I've not met you I can easily let you go.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I easily let them go if its time.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’m good with mutually slipping away. No drama no regrets.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Happy to let go when the time is right

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"When all is said and done, the messages grow Infrequent and neither of you wish to meet each other anymore, as you have simply grown apart. Can you let them go, or do you hold on with hope "

Like most things, I don’t think blanket rules are too helpful. With some people it’s exactly as you suggest - things have tailed off and come to an end. But with other people, sometimes it’s just a pause. Maybe the chat has gone far enough for you to call each other friends and you just need to wait for the right moment, or the right road trip, or the right big social … and then you can pick up where you left off.

Diff’rent strokes for diff’rent folks and all that.

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By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"I’ve been let go from friends lists when I either go on one of my breaks or people simply just get bored of me.

I’m never the one doing the unfriending .. I still want access to the gold in the friends only galleries

Yep I did this to you as well, I got bored of people asking to be my friend so they could perve on me, so I deleted all my friends pics instead, now I don't get any unsolicited requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If things fizzle out naturally I don’t even think about letting it go, it’s already gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been let go from friends lists when I either go on one of my breaks or people simply just get bored of me.

I’m never the one doing the unfriending .. I still want access to the gold in the friends only galleries

Yep I did this to you as well, I got bored of people asking to be my friend so they could perve on me, so I deleted all my friends pics instead, now I don't get any unsolicited requests

Very wise!

At least I’m not blocked (yet

) but I did / do always enjoy a good perve on your pics so I’ll have rely on the public ones (like everyone else has to!) then!

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"When all is said and done, the messages grow Infrequent and neither of you wish to meet each other anymore, as you have simply grown apart. Can you let them go, or do you hold on with hope "

Holding on only brings more pain in the long run, and hope on its own is not a strategy...but then letting go can be so hard to do

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"When all is said and done, the messages grow Infrequent and neither of you wish to meet each other anymore, as you have simply grown apart. Can you let them go, or do you hold on with hope

Diff’rent strokes for diff’rent folks and all that."

I'm very much a believer in this, it's that old soppy romantic side of me.

The dynamic might change and sometimes it takes space and time to establish that move to friendship. Equally, sometimes things happen that can reignite the spark.

My close friends are very much of the cut all ties viewpoint. I'm very much of the belief that the person, whether friend or lover, meant something to me, still does and I want them in my life in some way.

As a little anecdote - I recently reconnected with someone thanks to a thread. We didn't talk for a bit. Now I'm remembering how much I enjoy their friendship and easy conversation. I'm happy I'm the sort of person who does leave the door slightly open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When all is said and done, the messages grow Infrequent and neither of you wish to meet each other anymore, as you have simply grown apart. Can you let them go, or do you hold on with hope "

If a person here, or in the real world, hasn't mentioned meeting within a week l just politely show myself to the door simply because there is absolutely nothing to stop them from mentioning it and never have any intention of meeting, yes l know they might not be able to meet in whatever time BUT they mention it, it's easy to suggest IF a person want to meet.

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