FabSwingers.com forum: What do I do? Help?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but

What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!

Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends why you aren't meeting?

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Whats the worse that could happen by replying

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I’m in similar position as you.

There’s no harm in replying, I think but be openly honest from the start.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"I’m in similar position as you.

There’s no harm in replying, I think but be openly honest from the start."

This sounds like the very best option to me x

Good luck OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all allowed to change our minds and adapt at any given time.

Though, I guess it can depend on you reasoning.

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

what is your absolute weakness?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends why you aren't meeting?

Medical x

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I suppose it very much depends on what it is or why you are thinking you are needing to resist. Only you can make the decision, I know what my ultimate weakness is, and I am sure I would be unable to resist if it were offered, fortunately (or not) it is never likely to be an issue.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"There’s no harm in replying, I think but be openly honest from the start."

Yep. Good advice from Dee there. “I don’t usually go for [whatever] but I really liked your profile and thought I’d say hi anyway.”

I swear half the first messages I get start like that and the honesty is always welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"what is your absolute weakness?"

I'll be called out if I say it lol

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Pump first.

Think later

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By *oco_marsWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

You could always start a conversation and when it comes to it, say you're not meeting right now but happy to talk?

I can talk for months before meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pump first.

Think later

Shocking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pump first.

Think later

Pumping is off the menu lol

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"You could always start a conversation and when it comes to it, say you're not meeting right now but happy to talk?

I can talk for months before meeting "

I can see that people would be happy to chat for months to you as well !

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"Pump first.

Think later

Pumping is off the menu lol "

Well message him/her at least. Enjoy a wee flirtation.

Then reconsider the pumping part.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

What's meant to be is meant to be but if I wasn't wanting to meet my profile would be hidden or stating the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's meant to be is meant to be but if I wasn't wanting to meet my profile would be hidden or stating the same."

Wise words indeed.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

If you never bend them, you'll never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people’s own rules are usually only ever guidelines I find on here. Whether that be regarding age, body shape, beards and apparently even race.

If you’re here for a good time not a long time then snap that shit in half!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but

What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!

Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns?

Ah have some fun.

What's the worst that could happen.

Death.

That's what.

So you be careful missy.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

The person who messaged you probably read your profile (yes, it does happen) and then immediately tweaked his own profile with 'enticing entrapments' of text to appease you, before messaging you.

It may be a ruse.

It may not be.

It...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

A reply message never hurt, could turn to be a good meet when your ready, if they don't want to wait then their loss

Mrs

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

As long as they have clearly read your profile then what harm is there in talking?

Often the right things will happen at the wrong times it’s up to you to communicate this and if they are happy with the current situation and happy to continue then this could be everything you didn’t know you wanted

Marc

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

You should ask yourself, Would you feel bad or disappointed in yourself if you bent the rules? Could bending the rules tempt you into doing something you've decided you don't want to do? If the answer is yes to either then don't bend them. You're the one who put the rules in place, so only you can decide if they need to stay in place or not.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but

What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!

Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns?

It's your rule.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If it was me I'd ask myself this.

Why is someone sending me a message when it clearly says I won't reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its just a matter of time until your medical situation is better, i see no harm in starting a conversation, perhaps prefacing it with your situation - if they are in no rush, Bob's your uncle?!

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

London

Enjoy yourself!

Rules rules rules….we live by the rule of others so why impose rules on one’s self.

The message sender has the goods that make you go weak so why deny yourself this nectar.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"If its just a matter of time until your medical situation is better, i see no harm in starting a conversation, perhaps prefacing it with your situation - if they are in no rush, Bob's your uncle?! "

She didn’t say it was uncle Bob. He’s a right knob

Marc

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"You could always start a conversation and when it comes to it, say you're not meeting right now but happy to talk?

I can talk for months before meeting "

Yeah me too ,this seems good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sticking to my rules. Maybe one day I won't but for now I'll stick with them

Thanks for the posts everyone

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"There’s no harm in replying, I think but be openly honest from the start.

Yep. Good advice from Dee there. “I don’t usually go for [whatever] but I really liked your profile and thought I’d say hi anyway.”

I swear half the first messages I get start like that and the honesty is always welcome.

But seriously, Why mention that you don’t usually go for x ? Is it relevant?

You’re either responding or not, it’s almost like saying you’re a bit ugly but fuck it, I need a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a weird thing to ask others. You have your rules for a reason which we know nothing about. You do you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pump first.

Think later

I like your thinking lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seems a weird thing to ask others. You have your rules for a reason which we know nothing about. You do you. "

Sometimes it's good to get a perspective from others. Maybe someone has been through a dilemma like this

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Maybe take some time to be a bit more sure about what your boundaries actually are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sticking to my rules. Maybe one day I won't but for now I'll stick with them

Thanks for the posts everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same position OP. Not been meeting for a long time now, my choice but I sometimes get this sort of thing too. I remind myself that I can't and won't meet so I stick to my guns x

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but

What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!

Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns?

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stick to your guns

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"I'm only using the forum's at the moment and not chatting but

What do you do when a profile sends you a message and the profile has something on it that's your absolute weakness!!

Do I bend my rules and reply or stick to my guns?

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