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By *Misschiefx OP TV/TS
over a year ago

London

Recieving compliments?

Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Terrible..I never know what to say. Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kinda dismiss them as I tend to feel a bit awkward.

Someone says I look nice I'll instantly tell them what a bargain my outfit was or something.

I'm trying to get better at just saying thanks.

I do however love complimenting others.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Absolutely dependent on who they are from, how well they know me, as to how meaningful they are.

Same with critique.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

tbh i think its nice to recieve a complement,, but thats just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, they don't mean a thing.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

I think Im ok, usually just say thankyou. Critique though depends on context and whether I've sought it.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Um, seemingly genuine ones from strangers get a thanks, if it looks like an attempt to get in my pants it gets an I know to stop their track, and if it's from am actual friend I can just about take it but it makes me feel super awkward.

Unless it's a compliment on my blowjob skills. I'm happy to receive those.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

i try to be gracious but no on the whole i.dont believe a word if they are about physical attributes. I take those about my personality more seriously.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Um, seemingly genuine ones from strangers get a thanks, if it looks like an attempt to get in my pants it gets an I know to stop their track, and if it's from am actual friend I can just about take it but it makes me feel super awkward.

Unless it's a compliment on my blowjob skills. I'm happy to receive those."

Nice pants.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It does depend on who it's from. Someone I'm close to, who I know doesn’t give compliments readily it means more than one from someone with a honeyed tongue.

Even a stranger saying "Oh, I really like your dress". And then going. It's an exchange where there's not more expected, it's given because it's how they felt and that's it.

I'm a bit cautious/uncertain about compliments on my physical appearance. I do try and say thank you more often but I value those which compliment something more than my big boobs.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Not good I find them embarrassing and don’t know what to say, not thst it happens very often haha

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Recieving compliments?

Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"

I’m ugly and weird but shallow, so I like to receive compliments. Not meaningless ones for the sake of it, but I like it when friends or partners give me affirmation. Sometimes my ego then sneaks into positive readings.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm not keen on them as a way of trying to engage someone in conversation

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

On the rare occasion they do happen, I generally just say thank you and make a compliment back!

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Always feel at bit embarrassed and try to laugh them off but inside, yeah it feels good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lavish them, ask for more, enquire as to the reasoning behind it, the psychological machinations that make me so wonderful.

It helps my low self esteem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply say thank you. It's another person's opinion not mine.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Recieving compliments?

Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"

Depends what they're complimenting and who certainly makes a difference

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Nice pants."

Come on Felix. I don't even own pants

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Yes, it matters who they are from x

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By *uer MalusMan
over a year ago

Narnia

"On here, they don't mean a thing. "

Sad that you think that way. Potentially a missed opportunity when there is a genuine attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here, they don't mean a thing.

Sad that you think that way. Potentially a missed opportunity when there is a genuine attraction."

Genuine attraction= they want sex.

I'm good with missing certain opportunities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments I receive are usually things I’ve heard before so I usually believe them. I used to to feel awkward and get self deprecating but generally now I’m better and I’m about to just say thank you and also not force an awkward one in return.

So I guess I’m ok at receiving them? I tend to say ‘thank you, I appreciate that’ now mostly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe them depending on what it is that is said.

Any comments about my face and body (from people in real life) I do not believe, but I thank them anyway. I used to always fight people about it but what's the point? It's easier to just say thanks and move on.

I'll often get compliments about my outfits, hair, something I've done etc and I don't doubt that they are being sincere and I do believe them.

If I get complimented on here it doesn't really mean anything because they've probably said the exact same thing to 100 different women.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"I believe them depending on what it is that is said.

I'll often get compliments about my outfits, hair, something I've done etc and I don't doubt that they are being sincere and I do believe them.

If I get complimented on here it doesn't really mean anything because they've probably said the exact same thing to 100 different women. "
.. not me lemon

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

When it’s genuine I’m quite touched it reveals something about the person giving it.

But it’s rare and easy to spot fake. Like ‘you have a gorgeous cock’ is not a compliment it’s an opinion, one I neither agree with or care much about , it’s just the cock I was born with

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"On here, they don't mean a thing.

Sad that you think that way. Potentially a missed opportunity when there is a genuine attraction."

If it's not a mutual attraction, it's not a missed opportunity.

Like when Tinder tells me I missed a match. No I didn't, how could it be a match if I'm not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very,very rarely happens so not quite sure what to say tbh

Obviously I'd be grateful that someone had payed me a complaint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No no ladies, he's right.

You are missing all your opportunities.

Revisit every single nice thing said and take stock.

Now.

You are hurting the flow of the universe and the flow of their peens.

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By *ate_BMan
over a year ago

London

"Recieving compliments?

Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"

I like to follow a compliment with a ‘Well… I try’. Don’t wanna give the impression of having a big ego.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Uncomfortable.

But I do think I'm getting better at accepting them. It's definitely easier to accept a compliment from someone I know. On here they seem less 'genuine'. I no longer like that word.

Jo.Xx

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Terrible, make me feel uncomfortable if I don't believe they are genuine. I very much dislike when men give you ridiculously inflated compliments because they just want to shag you. But if the compliment comes from someone I like and I believe it is genuine it makes me smile but I still feel a bit awkward and never know what to say

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I've learnt to smile and say thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recieving compliments?

Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"

I’m ok with compliments but I love it when someone say “Thank you”.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Recieving compliments?

Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"

Excellent. I never used to be in my younger years but i've learned to thank people for their kind words without doing the fake humility denial thing AND most importantly I am able to use my Bullshit and insincerity filters and not buy into manipulative or sycophantic shite.

In short..... I know myself best. I know myself very well. Others are allowed their ill informed opinions. It's fine

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Nice pants.

Come on Felix. I don't even own pants

Haha!! Silly Felix

Oh - and nice minge.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm good at it. I can tell genuine from faux flattery too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Terrible because I know they’re wrong.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh, I just say thank you and shrug it off. Turning the conversation back to something else. I don't like talking about myself or letting others compliment me because it makes me feel like I need to say it back but then that feels like you're just saying it because they have and it just turns into a mess.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Depends...

From here I take it with a grain of salt

Work --- I accept it

Strangers --- I embrace it and am flattered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In life i have started to acknowledge them and thank people - i find it very curious to be viewed through someone else's lens

On here pffffttt its mostly just bs to try and make legs open!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I had a colleague who constantly complimented me. She admitted my clothes,hair, figure etc on a daily basis. Eventually I asked to stop because I became uncomfortable with it daily. She wasn't offended but she couldn't understand why I felt discomfort.

There's a level I think

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

12 months ago compliments actually used to make me feel really awkward and uncomfortable.

My confidence has increased significantly since we started swinging, and this has had a knock on effect on my ability to actually accept a compliment. I can usually manage a thank you followed by lots of blushing now

The "giver" absolutely makes a difference. If it's someone who's obviously just trying to get into my pants, it's taken with a grain of salt. If it's someone who's opinions matter to me, it means more

On a night out recently I got stopped by several guys who said thing like "I'm gay, but I just had to tell you, you look fabulous"

This actually made me feel amazing because there was obviously no motivation other than making a stranger feel good about themselves

K x

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Depends on who and what they're complimenting.

On here don't believe a word.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Nice pants.

Come on Felix. I don't even own pants

Haha!! Silly Felix

Oh - and nice minge."

I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having spent so many years in an emotional abusive marriage, I never believe anyone is being genuine if they give me a compliment, and if I realise they are being genuine often it reduces me to tears. It's still very early days in recovery though.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yeah I'm not ready for compliments, happy to agree, smile and brush it under the carpet. That's down to historical abuse though and I'll work on it when I'm ready

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don't believe them on here but I am better at accepting them in real life.

I read a great thing about someone paying a compliment that was dismissed. I forget the exact words but it was along the lines of "I'm going to give you your flowers, but it's up to you whether you water them or not".

Water your damn flowers!

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"On here, they don't mean a thing.

Sad that you think that way. Potentially a missed opportunity when there is a genuine attraction.

If it's not a mutual attraction, it's not a missed opportunity.

Like when Tinder tells me I missed a match. No I didn't, how could it be a match if I'm not interested?"

I had an image of you telling your phone off then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to quickly dismiss them, now I just say thank you and pay them little attention.

Compliments can be as much about the person offering them, as it is about the one recieving.

Mrs used to not only dismiss, but argue against, her confidence has grown and she happily accepts them now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shockingly bad! I always feel there's some hidden agenda.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"Recieving compliments?

Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"

I’m terrible and turn into a tawdry self deprecating Hugh Grant xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They confirm what I already know. I accept them gracefully. Anything else is just bad manners.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I tend to just agree

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

On here? Pretty good. I graciously accept and get on with my day, without thinking too much on them.

In person, I'll obviously say thank you, but will quickly deflect: 'Oh you like my shirt, thanks; where did you get your shoes?' I'm better at accepting compliments about my work or something non-physical.

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