FabSwingers.com forum: Oh the choices...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

How easily do you make decisions? Are you a quick "yep that's what I'm doing" sort of person or do you dither about a bit, maybe throw in a healthy measure of overthinking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meli I have anxiety. I’m a fucking nightmare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meli I have anxiety. I’m a fucking nightmare

Except when it comes to dates. I’m excellent at making decisions of things to do for dates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

evaluate all possible outcomes…

Weigh up pros cons and consequences…

Then go round in a few more circles..what if…

On an impulse day all caution is out the window and it’s so now think later…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on what it is.

Sometimes I can make really impulsive decision. Sometimes they might even not be the best decisions.

I am ruled by my heart and it's a liability sometimes.

Other times it can take me a little longer, my head fills with doubt but inevitably my heart wins the battle.

I don't believe in regrets, once I decide to do something there is usually no stopping me.

I also think that bad decisions often make the best stories

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Terrible. I’m incredibly indecisive.

However, I also don’t like being told what to do.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Mèlí, I dither and ruminate but not necessarily overthink things. Some things are worth pondering for without the fear or feeling that it's been 'over thought' to any detriment.

Sometimes I just make a quick judgement call and dive straight in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At work very easily.. In my home life I'm terrible... Short notice seems to have better success for me

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

hmnn depends doesn't it? If it's you asking me for advice on an decision, then I'm quick and decisive.

Trying to coordinate a shirt, tie and jacket, meltdown.

Some decisions take seconds, others weeks.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

dont dither go for it,,

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By *ohndom2023Man
over a year ago

Hastings/Greenwich

Snap decisions are the best and almost always the right ones.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I used to be uncertain, but now I'm just not sure...

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm mostly efficient

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By *andadbodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

i can be quite impulsive at times and then i can overthink situations far too much, im a real pain in the arse to be honest, specially when it comes to deciding meals

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"Fuck it" is usually my last thought before making a decision... sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How easily do you make decisions? Are you a quick "yep that's what I'm doing" sort of person or do you dither about a bit, maybe throw in a healthy measure of overthinking?"

I am the full range! Including the second guessing the decision I’ve made after I’ve done whatever I decided

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make decisions pretty quick.

Then I overthink them and end up changing my mind.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Meli I have anxiety. I’m a fucking nightmare

Except when it comes to dates. I’m excellent at making decisions of things to do for dates. "

Not a nightmare Pickle! You're just you. It can be difficult to decide what to do sometimes.

Oh dates I'm a nightmare for deciding. :D Also, because it's you and I think you'd appreciate this...

https://youtu.be/FzkIJeHNreo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Fuck it" is usually my last thought before making a decision... sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't lol"

oh have we met

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"At work very easily.. In my home life I'm terrible... Short notice seems to have better success for me"

I’m the same - work is no problem because there are people to ask whose opinions you trust, there’s data to look at too. Easy.

In my personal life, doubt is never far away.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Meli I have anxiety. I’m a fucking nightmare

Me too!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

I process choices and possible outcomes in seconds generally , so make absolute decisions very fast

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I overthink everything.

Even when I make a snap decision i then overthink it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I overthink it, overthink it some more, change my mind several times, then have a mind block where I can't think of anything then probably end up doing nothing.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. Things that don't interest me, like clothes, I will decide very quickly. Something technical or a new toy/gadget I will ponder over and research. That said I have made the odd impulse decision because it seemed too good to miss and he/she/they who hesitates shits out.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I find big decisions easy, but can procrastinate terribly over the small ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m absolutely terrible, I get stuck in a choice paralysis type of scenario when there’s too many options. Weirdly though it only applies to my personal life and more so when the choice is trivial like what to have for a snack. The more important the decision and especially when it comes to work life, the less difficult it seems to be. How strange is that ?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Sometimes I overthink it, sometimes I say fuck it and others I overthink and then say fuck it.

All depends what I'm making a decision on

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I do my research.

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By *eliciousDiva69Woman
over a year ago

Schitts Creek

Sometimes I can make really impulsive decisions and other times I can’t make up my mind for shit! How about you OP?

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I take an age and wait at least until the next time i have to cut my toe nails to think about it

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Cheers for this...

I can't help but over think and now thinking about thinking and the perpetual overthink

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I overthink absolutely everything. It's a right proper pain in the arse. But M is the complete opposite and is rather impulsive. So we balance each other out a bit.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm very decisive, often impulsive. Mr KC finds it much more difficult to make decisions.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

Depends on what the detail of the decision to be made is really.

I can be somewhat gung-ho and make an immediate decision.

Or I can cogitate and take a good wee while.

Sometimes I don’t think at all

And I can sometimes overthink!

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

I am neurodivergent, Meli. If I don’t suffer decision paralysis or overthink it 100 times over, I wouldn’t be true to myself.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

""Fuck it" is usually my last thought before making a decision... sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't lol

oh have we met

No but I think cocktails would be fun

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It really depends on what it is.

Sometimes I can make really impulsive decision. Sometimes they might even not be the best decisions.

I am ruled by my heart and it's a liability sometimes.

Other times it can take me a little longer, my head fills with doubt but inevitably my heart wins the battle.

I don't believe in regrets, once I decide to do something there is usually no stopping me.

I also think that bad decisions often make the best stories

Bad decisions really can make the best stories Wyld.

I've started embracing fuck it a bit more. I'm ruled by my heart as well (shocker) but life is good when you just go for things. Rather than thinking about the minutiae and not getting out there. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How easily do you make decisions? Are you a quick "yep that's what I'm doing" sort of person or do you dither about a bit, maybe throw in a healthy measure of overthinking?"

Prone to over thinking to my detriment.

Now try to use the 10 second, minute, hours, day, months, years rule.

At which point will said decision still be a concern, dictates when I stop caring too much.

And if in doubt, shout #yolo with no sense of irony, in your 30's.

Maybe throw in a yeet too. Mention being gucci. I don't know anymore.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

A quick “yes that’s what I’m doing”’person.

I’m not much of an overthinker.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I used to be uncertain, but now I'm just not sure..."

*slow claps appreciatively*

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Depends what it is really , small stuff like food choices in restaurants I satisfice, choose instantly.

Big stuff I deliberate and seek advice from people I trust , often set myself a time limit , but if I don’t have all the info I’ll happily extend the deadline. It’s knowing what is is I need to know to make the decision that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what it is

Some decisions require thought and consideration, others I just wing it

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Mèlí, I dither and ruminate but not necessarily overthink things. Some things are worth pondering for without the fear or feeling that it's been 'over thought' to any detriment.

Sometimes I just make a quick judgement call and dive straight in.

Yes, pondering doesn't mean overthinking does it? I thought I'd amuse myself and post opposing ends of the scale but sometimes it's good to ponder and make sure yep, you're happy with that decision. I did that recently. Not overthought something, just sat with it for a bit and then decided that was the best call to make.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'll weigh up the pros and cons but it all depends on what it is I need to decide about x

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