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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So you've put in the work and she says yes to come over (so you are accommodating).

How do you prepare ?

Do you find that you prepare with the mindset of making it extra special so you have a repeat meet ?

Or do you just wash your cock off and sit by the door waiting ?

There was a thread I saw a while back where a male was talking about prepping for a meet , he spoke about cleaning up and making sure he had things she might like to drink etc on hand. I was impressed with this and it made me curious ...do all males do this for meets?

I haven't had meets with any who put thought like that into meeting up ...

So is it the norm or the exception ?

As a side note I'd add all Couples I've met always put thought into the meets like this and TVs ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people make more effort than others and I appreciate when they do.

Sadly though sometimes people stop making that effort and then it's game over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wash it in the sink and give it a spray with Lynx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clean the whole house. Get drinks to offer. Make sure I’ve cooked cooked or have snacks to offer. And fresh sheets ofc.

Then I listen to my sexy playlist on low in the background and wait.

I had one fabber at mine (extra special person) and I cooked for her etc and did all the stuff to make her comfy. We’d been seeing each other a while. Then we never saw each other again I figured my gf left a massive shit in the toilet when she left

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

gretna


"So you've put in the work and she says yes to come over (so you are accommodating).

How do you prepare ?

Do you find that you prepare with the mindset of making it extra special so you have a repeat meet ?

Or do you just wash your cock off and sit by the door waiting ?

There was a thread I saw a while back where a male was talking about prepping for a meet , he spoke about cleaning up and making sure he had things she might like to drink etc on hand. I was impressed with this and it made me curious ...do all males do this for meets?

I haven't had meets with any who put thought like that into meeting up ...

So is it the norm or the exception ?

As a side note I'd add all Couples I've met always put thought into the meets like this and TVs ..."

Well theres an assumption in there that she’s coming over for sex…. But wine and some food, petals on the bed, romantic music, scented massage oils … candlelight… will all be missing and she’ll just get bent over the sofa - drilled then sent packing if the footys on

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

Before having someone round, you would definitely want to get to know what makes them tick. So you can ensure they have a good time. Get in the drinks and eats they like.

Cleaning and fresh bedding are just basics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wash it in the sink and give it a spray with Lynx."

Then take a pic of it with the lynx can and send it to her while she’s on her way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wash it in the sink and give it a spray with Lynx.

Then take a pic of it with the lynx can and send it to her while she’s on her way "

I didn’t even think of that. This is why you’re the king.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

gretna


"Wash it in the sink and give it a spray with Lynx.

Then take a pic of it with the lynx can and send it to her while she’s on her way "

Thinking ahead… good man!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want a comedy answer or the truth.

I’m giving a choice on this one.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"So you've put in the work and she says yes to come over (so you are accommodating).

How do you prepare ?

Do you find that you prepare with the mindset of making it extra special so you have a repeat meet ?

Or do you just wash your cock off and sit by the door waiting ?

There was a thread I saw a while back where a male was talking about prepping for a meet , he spoke about cleaning up and making sure he had things she might like to drink etc on hand. I was impressed with this and it made me curious ...do all males do this for meets?

I haven't had meets with any who put thought like that into meeting up ...

So is it the norm or the exception ?

As a side note I'd add all Couples I've met always put thought into the meets like this and TVs ..."
,,, this guy had it spot ,

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

I'd always make sure my house was tidy, a few candle lit and a drink or 3 chilling in the fridge. As for myself showered clean shaven if required and smart casual dressed.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Make sure the house is clean, even though the cat is doing her best to moult over every single surface.

I’m not saying I’d go full estate agent on the place with the fresh smell of baked bread but why wouldn’t you make the effort.

Food would be something that didn’t need much prep so we could spend the time talking.

Probably leave the toilet seat up with brown streaks on the bowl because that’s what my pictures have

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I've never gone to anybody's home and expected a wine, beer, food, scented candles. I expect if I did walk in and find the above laid out, I'd be a bit put off. There's nothing wrong with cleanliness and hospitality but you can see through overkill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it just me that would never go to a guys house??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want a comedy answer or the truth.

I’m giving a choice on this one. "

I vote the truth

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

I'd do whatever I felt would make then most comfortable, some People don't like fuss, some do. I'd try and gauge that before hand and act accordingly. I'd always get a few extra drinks in though, because I basically only drink water at home. Other than that it's dependant kn that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house??"

We’re not all Dahmer. Although I did want to take some pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house??

We’re not all Dahmer. Although I did want to take some pictures "

I aren't even ask what kind of pictures.

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By *lfacatMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

I always treat it like an guest coming to my home, clean, tidy (myself and the house;-)).

Good coffee, something to drink and some snacks would be a minimum…

Anyone invited to my home is a welcome guest

IA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house??

We’re not all Dahmer. Although I did want to take some pictures

I aren't even ask what kind of pictures. "

I’ve got loads of props like one of those photo booths at weddings. Moustaches, bunny ears, oversized glasses. That sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house??

We’re not all Dahmer. Although I did want to take some pictures

I aren't even ask what kind of pictures.

I’ve got loads of props like one of those photo booths at weddings. Moustaches, bunny ears, oversized glasses. That sort of thing."

I wont need the moustache one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house??

We’re not all Dahmer. Although I did want to take some pictures

I aren't even ask what kind of pictures.

I’ve got loads of props like one of those photo booths at weddings. Moustaches, bunny ears, oversized glasses. That sort of thing.

I wont need the moustache one

"

I forgot you only shave at Halloween and Christmas.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

I dont need candles and flowers or a full on meal. Clean sheets in a clean house though, especially the bathroom, is essential!

And a drink, but a glass of water, or a cuppa is fine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want a comedy answer or the truth.

I’m giving a choice on this one.

I vote the truth "

1 vote. You win!

I’d do a proper tidy up, I mean after all, I’ve respected her and given her enough trust to invite her, and she’s done the same with me to accept the invitation.

A choice of everything, drinks and food obviously. Have I tidied my bedroom? It’s always tidy, and the bathroom? I e definitely checked for any stray hairs in the plug hole of the bath!!

So yes. I’d agree, it’s like brushing your hair and wearing some nice purfume, your house is an extension of you, so I’d present it well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house??"
it's my preference as I've had one too many stalkers ....I do not accomodate , don't care who you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house?? it's my preference as I've had one too many stalkers ....I do not accomodate , don't care who you are."

I want a hotel!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never gone to anybody's home and expected a wine, beer, food, scented candles. I expect if I did walk in and find the above laid out, I'd be a bit put off. There's nothing wrong with cleanliness and hospitality but you can see through overkill "
of course not a full spread but surely you clean up a bit and at least have a drink around ....I always go with the expectation of at least a clean bedroom and bathroom .. ...sadly not been the reality

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house?? it's my preference as I've had one too many stalkers ....I do not accomodate , don't care who you are.

I want a hotel! oh my this is even better ! hmm I may just strictly do hotels now I think about it , unless it's a couple

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"Is it just me that would never go to a guys house?? it's my preference as I've had one too many stalkers ....I do not accomodate , don't care who you are.

I want a hotel!

"
,,, caravan anygood,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you want a comedy answer or the truth.

I’m giving a choice on this one.

I vote the truth "
yes the truth please

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd always make sure my house was tidy, a few candle lit and a drink or 3 chilling in the fridge. As for myself showered clean shaven if required and smart casual dressed. "
candles might be a bit much but I'm sure would be appreciated by some, just tidy and the thoughtfulness with drinks on hand is great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would of thought putting in effort was the norm, just as if it was any other date?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd do whatever I felt would make then most comfortable, some People don't like fuss, some do. I'd try and gauge that before hand and act accordingly. I'd always get a few extra drinks in though, because I basically only drink water at home. Other than that it's dependant kn that person. "
this is a great answer the fact that you are putting thought into it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make sure the house is clean, even though the cat is doing her best to moult over every single surface.

I’m not saying I’d go full estate agent on the place with the fresh smell of baked bread but why wouldn’t you make the effort.

Food would be something that didn’t need much prep so we could spend the time talking.

Probably leave the toilet seat up with brown streaks on the bowl because that’s what my pictures have "
sir sir .....no LOL

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've had one where the flat was immaculate, he cooked dinner and bought my favourite wine, asked what kind of music I liked and played it and even asked me to adjust the lighting in the bedroom to what I preferred.

Then there was another where the house was filthy, I had a drink and made my excuses and left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always treat it like an guest coming to my home, clean, tidy (myself and the house;-)).

Good coffee, something to drink and some snacks would be a minimum…

Anyone invited to my home is a welcome guest

IA

"
precisely , I wonder if men understand that most of us ladies look at these things...not just the sex part . The sex is better when you are comfortable...and it goes towards a repeat meet .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont need candles and flowers or a full on meal. Clean sheets in a clean house though, especially the bathroom, is essential!

And a drink, but a glass of water, or a cuppa is fine!"
exactly like basic stuff like this .. I had a meet where because the house was so dirty I actually was thinking about what insects would be lurking while on the bed ...I almost high tailed it for the car without changing out of my lingerie...just wanted to get out.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Would Just make sure the dogs had his dinner as he’s a massive pest when hungry. Other than that Nowt if anyone doesent like my house the way it is they can fuck off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had one where the flat was immaculate, he cooked dinner and bought my favourite wine, asked what kind of music I liked and played it and even asked me to adjust the lighting in the bedroom to what I preferred.

Then there was another where the house was filthy, I had a drink and made my excuses and left."
yes I seem to mainly get the latter ... like I don't get it , at least clean the bathroom

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would of thought putting in effort was the norm, just as if it was any other date? "
it is far from the norm for some it seems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you are personally clean smelling good - Fresh breath etc, house is clean, clean sheets on bed. Condoms and lubricant available. Little blue pill one hour beforehand, wank 1/2 hour before time, just so you don't get too excited.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

It’s pretty hard to make a shed in the woods look appealing to visitors. I’ve gone for an old English retreat vibe but it’s still rustic at best.

About ten minutes before she comes round, I check there are no stray body parts sticking out of hidey holes, sweep out any pubes, bleach the shitting hole, and kill a few bed ants. Oh - and open the home made cider to let it breathe.

Then wow her with smooth chat and a solid 8/10 ploughing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make sure you are personally clean smelling good - Fresh breath etc, house is clean, clean sheets on bed. Condoms and lubricant available. Little blue pill one hour beforehand, wank 1/2 hour before time, just so you don't get too excited. "
yes sir you've got it right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s pretty hard to make a shed in the woods look appealing to visitors. I’ve gone for an old English retreat vibe but it’s still rustic at best.

About ten minutes before she comes round, I check there are no stray body parts sticking out of hidey holes, sweep out any pubes, bleach the shitting hole, and kill a few bed ants. Oh - and open the home made cider to let it breathe.

Then wow her with smooth chat and a solid 8/10 ploughing. "
The home made cider will make everything better ...and exactly extra smooth chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you want a comedy answer or the truth.

I’m giving a choice on this one.

I vote the truth

1 vote. You win!

I’d do a proper tidy up, I mean after all, I’ve respected her and given her enough trust to invite her, and she’s done the same with me to accept the invitation.

A choice of everything, drinks and food obviously. Have I tidied my bedroom? It’s always tidy, and the bathroom? I e definitely checked for any stray hairs in the plug hole of the bath!!

So yes. I’d agree, it’s like brushing your hair and wearing some nice purfume, your house is an extension of you, so I’d present it well. "
expected no less of you sir and nicely put

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire


"I'd always make sure my house was tidy, a few candle lit and a drink or 3 chilling in the fridge. As for myself showered clean shaven if required and smart casual dressed. candles might be a bit much but I'm sure would be appreciated by some, just tidy and the thoughtfulness with drinks on hand is great"

Candles are for fragrance, as a single dad of 2 boys the air need freshening up some times. Lol

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"So you've put in the work and she says yes to come over (so you are accommodating).

How do you prepare ?

Do you find that you prepare with the mindset of making it extra special so you have a repeat meet ?

Or do you just wash your cock off and sit by the door waiting ?

There was a thread I saw a while back where a male was talking about prepping for a meet , he spoke about cleaning up and making sure he had things she might like to drink etc on hand. I was impressed with this and it made me curious ...do all males do this for meets?

I haven't had meets with any who put thought like that into meeting up ...

So is it the norm or the exception ?

As a side note I'd add all Couples I've met always put thought into the meets like this and TVs ..."
i think i put some effort into it if they were meeting at mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd always make sure my house was tidy, a few candle lit and a drink or 3 chilling in the fridge. As for myself showered clean shaven if required and smart casual dressed. candles might be a bit much but I'm sure would be appreciated by some, just tidy and the thoughtfulness with drinks on hand is great

Candles are for fragrance, as a single dad of 2 boys the air need freshening up some times. Lol "
ohhhh then definitely something to clear the air !

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Clean, tidy and air my flat. Put heating on if it’s winter. Fresh sheets, trim and tidy downstairs, have shower…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clean, tidy and air my flat. Put heating on if it’s winter. Fresh sheets, trim and tidy downstairs, have shower…"
yes so this should be very least you do , like the basic . Anything else is just a plus

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Make sure that cleaning staff do an extra special job.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I've been to guys houses...and I wouldn't expect the full shebang!! Just for it to be clean (smelling nicely) maybe offered a drink then up to me if I want one or not.

The rest would be nice too though.. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been to guys houses...and I wouldn't expect the full shebang!! Just for it to be clean (smelling nicely) maybe offered a drink then up to me if I want one or not.

The rest would be nice too though.. lol"
not looking for the full shebang but I've found most guys struggle with just the basics....

then they expect you to want to do a 2nd meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make sure that cleaning staff do an extra special job. "
I see what u did there

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

To elaborate on my previous post (realised it could be interpreted as house being a tip haha) I would do anything as maintaining a general level of tidy ness day in day out isn’t exactly hard do never get the place enough of a tip to require doing anything different if was having anyone over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To elaborate on my previous post (realised it could be interpreted as house being a tip haha) I would do anything as maintaining a general level of tidy ness day in day out isn’t exactly hard do never get the place enough of a tip to require doing anything different if was having anyone over. "

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Be yourself.

Whatever that may be. Personally put effort in and make sure she feels welcomed, desired, comfortable and safe...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be yourself.

Whatever that may be. Personally put effort in and make sure she feels welcomed, desired, comfortable and safe... "
part of that comfort includes at least a clean bedroom and bathroom , mainly what I was highlighting. Of course you should always be yourself ...unless being yourself is generally dirty and unkept

In which case be someone else for a bit

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Be yourself.

Whatever that may be. Personally put effort in and make sure she feels welcomed, desired, comfortable and safe... part of that comfort includes at least a clean bedroom and bathroom , mainly what I was highlighting. Of course you should always be yourself ...unless being yourself is generally dirty and unkept

In which case be someone else for a bit "

Mr clean? We know a song about that dont we...

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

If the meet is after a couple of days, I even get a professional cleaner to clean my place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the meet is after a couple of days, I even get a professional cleaner to clean my place "
you jest ...lol

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London


"If the meet is after a couple of days, I even get a professional cleaner to clean my place you jest ...lol"

I am serious. I am usually nervous about the meets and what people think of my place. So I try to do my best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the meet is after a couple of days, I even get a professional cleaner to clean my place you jest ...lol

I am serious. I am usually nervous about the meets and what people think of my place. So I try to do my best. "
well cheers to you for the effort then

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By *andadbodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

When accommodating of course the house would be clean, fresh linen on the bed (just in case), the room would be candle lit and soft easy listening music or classical music would be in the background, loud enough to break the silence but not too loud you can’t hear what’s being spoken.

Personally, i’d be shaved and shower fresh wearing what I hope would be a nice cologne. Smart casual dress. The conversation I hope wouldn’t be about sex but more about the world outside, keeping it very relaxed and none pushy……. then just take the evening as it comes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When accommodating of course the house would be clean, fresh linen on the bed (just in case), the room would be candle lit and soft easy listening music or classical music would be in the background, loud enough to break the silence but not too loud you can’t hear what’s being spoken.

Personally, i’d be shaved and shower fresh wearing what I hope would be a nice cologne. Smart casual dress. The conversation I hope wouldn’t be about sex but more about the world outside, keeping it very relaxed and none pushy……. then just take the evening as it comes."
maybe you can offer beginner classes to males who don't do this

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By *andadbodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"When accommodating of course the house would be clean, fresh linen on the bed (just in case), the room would be candle lit and soft easy listening music or classical music would be in the background, loud enough to break the silence but not too loud you can’t hear what’s being spoken.

Personally, i’d be shaved and shower fresh wearing what I hope would be a nice cologne. Smart casual dress. The conversation I hope wouldn’t be about sex but more about the world outside, keeping it very relaxed and none pushy……. then just take the evening as it comes. maybe you can offer beginner classes to males who don't do this "

Not sure some males are in to this kind of evening, i like to take my time, stimulate the mind first

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Before having someone round, you would definitely want to get to know what makes them tick. So you can ensure they have a good time. Get in the drinks and eats they like.

Cleaning and fresh bedding are just basics. "

My thoughts exactly, as my lady friends would confirm….

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Before having someone round, you would definitely want to get to know what makes them tick. So you can ensure they have a good time. Get in the drinks and eats they like.

Cleaning and fresh bedding are just basics.

My thoughts exactly, as my lady friends would confirm…. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got it on good authority, there's at least one man in existence that doesn't care whether I've dome the washing up and hoover.. he isn't interested in my kitchen apparently

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got it on good authority, there's at least one man in existence that doesn't care whether I've dome the washing up and hoover.. he isn't interested in my kitchen apparently "
sheets clean though ? and bathroom ?

when I used to have men over in my younger days , I'd clean , make sure I knew what they like to eat and drink and have all that ready so they can feast on me then feast on the grub.

But truly most men don't care about the stuff we do .. they just wanna fuck .. at least I think so

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I've been to guys houses...and I wouldn't expect the full shebang!! Just for it to be clean (smelling nicely) maybe offered a drink then up to me if I want one or not.

The rest would be nice too though.. lolnot looking for the full shebang but I've found most guys struggle with just the basics....

then they expect you to want to do a 2nd meet "

I just tell them they not for me if I'm not happy with what I get the first time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been to guys houses...and I wouldn't expect the full shebang!! Just for it to be clean (smelling nicely) maybe offered a drink then up to me if I want one or not.

The rest would be nice too though.. lolnot looking for the full shebang but I've found most guys struggle with just the basics....

then they expect you to want to do a 2nd meet

I just tell them they not for me if I'm not happy with what I get the first time "
They don't take it well .. ...and become extremely persistent .. I've had to block all.

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

Even if it's just vanilla friends coming round, the house is clean and tidy and we make sure there's food and drink to offer. If there's a chance of getting laid, why would you do less?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I only accommodate at a hotel.

I would never entertain the notion or be entertained at a woman's home.

A hotel is a safe, clean and neutral territory for me.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

My home is always clean and tidy.

But to meet someone it’s at a hotel.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

The fact shes meeting me is treat enough

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over


"I only accommodate at a hotel.

I would never entertain the notion or be entertained at a woman's home.

A hotel is a safe, clean and neutral territory for me. "

Absolument xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can't make an effort on the first meeting I'd say give up now!

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I’d expect it to be clean and tidy, but homely. It’s attractive when a guy knows how to look after his home, rather than live in squalor and give it a quick tidy round if he thinks he might be getting his leg over

Fresh, good quality bedding (not just polyester value stuff and one flat misshapen pillow), something nice to drink, maybes a candle (not overkilll, just one’ll do) and it goes without saying that they should be showered, groomed and smelling good.

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By *r Discreet 75Man
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

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By *r Discreet 75Man
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

I normally have a quick clean change to fresh bedding have a shit shower and shave then go to the asda for stuff for the after party

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

He has an effluent shower. ^

I have an affluent shower. »

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if someone is coming to my house I keep it as clean as possible regardless of if it’s just a drink and a chat or something more. Even though I have clutter and books everywhere I try my best to tidy up and make the place presentable so their not uncomfortable or thinking things on their surroundings

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"He has an effluent shower. ^

I have an affluent shower. »"

Saucy

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By *harlie197357Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"He has an effluent shower. ^

I have an affluent shower. »"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Even if it's just vanilla friends coming round, the house is clean and tidy and we make sure there's food and drink to offer. If there's a chance of getting laid, why would you do less? "
precisely... man seems I can't even get the basics

but as you are a couple I find couples are great at this just the dingle males I've met been like ...wtf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they can't make an effort on the first meeting I'd say give up now!"
yes if no effort for a first meet I don't even entertain a 2nd meet , I just block .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you've put in the work and she says yes to come over (so you are accommodating).

How do you prepare ?

Do you find that you prepare with the mindset of making it extra special so you have a repeat meet ?

Or do you just wash your cock off and sit by the door waiting ?

There was a thread I saw a while back where a male was talking about prepping for a meet , he spoke about cleaning up and making sure he had things she might like to drink etc on hand. I was impressed with this and it made me curious ...do all males do this for meets?

I haven't had meets with any who put thought like that into meeting up ...

So is it the norm or the exception ?

As a side note I'd add all Couples I've met always put thought into the meets like this and TVs ..."

Erm, always prepare and be thoughtful.

Fresh linens, particular drinks or snacks if required.

I'd consider a lot of this the absolute Billy basics, but I know for some it isn't.

I'm not going to let their low standards make me feel like doing what I consider, the bare minimum, something special.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you've put in the work and she says yes to come over (so you are accommodating).

How do you prepare ?

Do you find that you prepare with the mindset of making it extra special so you have a repeat meet ?

Or do you just wash your cock off and sit by the door waiting ?

There was a thread I saw a while back where a male was talking about prepping for a meet , he spoke about cleaning up and making sure he had things she might like to drink etc on hand. I was impressed with this and it made me curious ...do all males do this for meets?

I haven't had meets with any who put thought like that into meeting up ...

So is it the norm or the exception ?

As a side note I'd add all Couples I've met always put thought into the meets like this and TVs ...

Erm, always prepare and be thoughtful.

Fresh linens, particular drinks or snacks if required.

I'd consider a lot of this the absolute Billy basics, but I know for some it isn't.

I'm not going to let their low standards make me feel like doing what I consider, the bare minimum, something special. "
it's good to know that's the bare minimum....maybe the guys I've been meeting just have that singular thought 'must wet cock'

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Lick my arm pits spit on my cock give it a quick rub, pull up the towel I'm wearing good to go

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Wash it in the sink and give it a spray with Lynx."

Lynx Africa, please. Others are just imitating.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I've been to guys houses...and I wouldn't expect the full shebang!! Just for it to be clean (smelling nicely) maybe offered a drink then up to me if I want one or not.

The rest would be nice too though.. lolnot looking for the full shebang but I've found most guys struggle with just the basics....

then they expect you to want to do a 2nd meet

I just tell them they not for me if I'm not happy with what I get the first time They don't take it well .. ...and become extremely persistent .. I've had to block all."

Oh good god I know.. but there are some good ones out here... they not all idiots (I'd say 90% are good people) x

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