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By *ames-77 OP   Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

You could be with surrounded by a thousand people and still feel alone.. you hear conversations about worldly things and think to yourself who cares and you almost exclude yourself and go quiet.. in the end your left with a pure sense of loneliness even if your not physically alone

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

In a manner of speaking. I struggle to focus if there's too much background chatter. It becomes like static to me.

I wouldn't class it as loneliness but I struggle to communicate.

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By *yndz n dazCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Exactly, I’m Darren and I’ve been there, I can easily relate to it

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By *ames-77 OP   Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"In a manner of speaking. I struggle to focus if there's too much background chatter. It becomes like static to me.

I wouldn't class it as loneliness but I struggle to communicate."

I really want to understand why I'm feeling like this recently .. I'm very social and outgoing am blessed with great friends.. at the moment I couldn't care about anything and a toxic side of me tells me to just stay by myself

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By *ames-77 OP   Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Exactly, I’m Darren and I’ve been there, I can easily relate to it"

You all good now Darren ? Or do you still go in and out of it

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Sometimes being alone is good for you and healthy! Learning to like your own company is so important, But it's all about balance. I can relate to that though from being kid never really fitted in hey ho but being different isn't a bad thing. Hope you are okay OP

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

There's nothing wrong with you.its not toxic.I've been out with people and couldn't give a shit or relate to what they are talking about.

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By *ames-77 OP   Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Sometimes being alone is good for you and healthy! Learning to like your own company is so important, But it's all about balance. I can relate to that though from being kid never really fitted in hey ho but being different isn't a bad thing. Hope you are okay OP "

I love my own company I've always been fine being by myself when I am .. this is certainly nothing about relationship.. I'm lucky I have people in my life it just doesn't change how I feel right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I can very much.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Sometimes being alone is good for you and healthy! Learning to like your own company is so important, But it's all about balance. I can relate to that though from being kid never really fitted in hey ho but being different isn't a bad thing. Hope you are okay OP

I love my own company I've always been fine being by myself when I am .. this is certainly nothing about relationship.. I'm lucky I have people in my life it just doesn't change how I feel right now "
Wasn't meant in a negative way! Aww glad to hear you do and it's perfectly fine to have bad days too. You are human not a robot lol

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By *ames-77 OP   Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Sometimes being alone is good for you and healthy! Learning to like your own company is so important, But it's all about balance. I can relate to that though from being kid never really fitted in hey ho but being different isn't a bad thing. Hope you are okay OP

I love my own company I've always been fine being by myself when I am .. this is certainly nothing about relationship.. I'm lucky I have people in my life it just doesn't change how I feel right now Wasn't meant in a negative way! Aww glad to hear you do and it's perfectly fine to have bad days too. You are human not a robot lol "

That is true .. I just want to figure this out because it's not me and I hate it I haven't trained for 2 weeks because of this .. my mindset is very different to a lot of other peoples in this world

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Sometimes being alone is good for you and healthy! Learning to like your own company is so important, But it's all about balance. I can relate to that though from being kid never really fitted in hey ho but being different isn't a bad thing. Hope you are okay OP

I love my own company I've always been fine being by myself when I am .. this is certainly nothing about relationship.. I'm lucky I have people in my life it just doesn't change how I feel right now Wasn't meant in a negative way! Aww glad to hear you do and it's perfectly fine to have bad days too. You are human not a robot lol

That is true .. I just want to figure this out because it's not me and I hate it I haven't trained for 2 weeks because of this .. my mindset is very different to a lot of other peoples in this world "
Aww bless you! Hey you will get there, Just don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone is unique and have their own mindset and ways! Tomorrow is a new day. Friendly hugs

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

This started to happen to me awhile ago.I started to seem to need time just for me and space to just be.Ive got great family and friends but the constant chatter starts to make me feel unsettled.Ive learned when I feel like this indeed to just be on my own & this has worked for me.x

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By *ames-77 OP   Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Sometimes being alone is good for you and healthy! Learning to like your own company is so important, But it's all about balance. I can relate to that though from being kid never really fitted in hey ho but being different isn't a bad thing. Hope you are okay OP

I love my own company I've always been fine being by myself when I am .. this is certainly nothing about relationship.. I'm lucky I have people in my life it just doesn't change how I feel right now Wasn't meant in a negative way! Aww glad to hear you do and it's perfectly fine to have bad days too. You are human not a robot lol

That is true .. I just want to figure this out because it's not me and I hate it I haven't trained for 2 weeks because of this .. my mindset is very different to a lot of other peoples in this world Aww bless you! Hey you will get there, Just don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone is unique and have their own mindset and ways! Tomorrow is a new day. Friendly hugs "

Thank you they are kind words I appreciate you

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A


"In a manner of speaking. I struggle to focus if there's too much background chatter. It becomes like static to me.

I wouldn't class it as loneliness but I struggle to communicate.

I really want to understand why I'm feeling like this recently .. I'm very social and outgoing am blessed with great friends.. at the moment I couldn't care about anything and a toxic side of me tells me to just stay by myself "

I believe it is because I have ADHD I got diagnosed recently.

I've had the issue my whole life though.

If it's a new thing for you I'd consider counselling. Certainly a good way to find out what's going on for you.

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By *ames-77 OP   Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"This started to happen to me awhile ago.I started to seem to need time just for me and space to just be.Ive got great family and friends but the constant chatter starts to make me feel unsettled.Ive learned when I feel like this indeed to just be on my own & this has worked for me.x"

That's the thing mate I understand what you mean I have friends family.. but I just feel a deep dark feeling of solitary loneliness.. I'm not one to accept therapy or prescribed drugs I want to figure this out .. it's getting worse though and as a result drink to numb it

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I said it on another thread, but there is this quote here.

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“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”

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Arthur Schopenhauer, Essays and Aphorisms.

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YMMV of course, and I hope you find your balance

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you feel like an outsider looking in or somehow disconnected or could be that you're depressed.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Sometimes being alone is good for you and healthy! Learning to like your own company is so important, But it's all about balance. I can relate to that though from being kid never really fitted in hey ho but being different isn't a bad thing. Hope you are okay OP

I love my own company I've always been fine being by myself when I am .. this is certainly nothing about relationship.. I'm lucky I have people in my life it just doesn't change how I feel right now Wasn't meant in a negative way! Aww glad to hear you do and it's perfectly fine to have bad days too. You are human not a robot lol

That is true .. I just want to figure this out because it's not me and I hate it I haven't trained for 2 weeks because of this .. my mindset is very different to a lot of other peoples in this world Aww bless you! Hey you will get there, Just don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone is unique and have their own mindset and ways! Tomorrow is a new day. Friendly hugs

Thank you they are kind words I appreciate you "
Aww you are very welcome!

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By *ames-77 OP   Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


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That is true ..makes perfect sense.. loyalty and honesty are big key factors in this life .. if you feel like you are not getting that from someone it can play with your mind whether it be friends family spouse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a manner of speaking. I struggle to focus if there's too much background chatter. It becomes like static to me.

I wouldn't class it as loneliness but I struggle to communicate.

I really want to understand why I'm feeling like this recently .. I'm very social and outgoing am blessed with great friends.. at the moment I couldn't care about anything and a toxic side of me tells me to just stay by myself "

Has something happened that hurt you? Sounds like a form of depression. You're pushing people away so you don't get hurt. Your emotions shutting down to protect you.

If you don't want counselling or medication, perhaps just try to go with it. It may pass in time.

If you want to feel better maybe try a text service like Shout so you can talk to someone. Not actually counselling but a release of feelings.

Hope you feel better.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"You could be with surrounded by a thousand people and still feel alone.. you hear conversations about worldly things and think to yourself who cares and you almost exclude yourself and go quiet.. in the end your left with a pure sense of loneliness even if your not physically alone "
Yes but as long as you enjoy your own company you're never alone but i get what you mean

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's hard to feel alone surrounded by people I have periods where that happens, there's usually something else going on at the time though or in just generally a little down.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does sound like depression. How well do you sleep? That's a key indicator. What else have you lost interest in, besides training? How's your personal hygiene? All these things can by signs of depression. I would strongly suggest speaking to your GP, to see what help is available if you are so dead set against counselling and traditional meds. If you're ok with herbal remedies, At Johns Wort is an option for mild symptoms, and Bach remedies are supposed to be effective, although I've never tried them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does sound like depression. How well do you sleep? That's a key indicator. What else have you lost interest in, besides training? How's your personal hygiene? All these things can by signs of depression. I would strongly suggest speaking to your GP, to see what help is available if you are so dead set against counselling and traditional meds. If you're ok with herbal remedies, At Johns Wort is an option for mild symptoms, and Bach remedies are supposed to be effective, although I've never tried them. "

St. John's Wort

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"This started to happen to me awhile ago.I started to seem to need time just for me and space to just be.Ive got great family and friends but the constant chatter starts to make me feel unsettled.Ive learned when I feel like this indeed to just be on my own & this has worked for me.x

That's the thing mate I understand what you mean I have friends family.. but I just feel a deep dark feeling of solitary loneliness.. I'm not one to accept therapy or prescribed drugs I want to figure this out .. it's getting worse though and as a result drink to numb it "

It sounds like you may be on the verge of spiralling into depression, drinking alcohol will only make that worse. I really would encourage you to speak to your GP...there's absolutely no shame in having therapy or medication...in fact it was the best thing I ever did.. i just wish I'd done something sooner. Try and do one thing every day that you enjoy to try and curb the negative feelings. Feel free to message if you need a chat. You've got this x

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"It does sound like depression. How well do you sleep? That's a key indicator. What else have you lost interest in, besides training? How's your personal hygiene? All these things can by signs of depression. I would strongly suggest speaking to your GP, to see what help is available if you are so dead set against counselling and traditional meds. If you're ok with herbal remedies, At Johns Wort is an option for mild symptoms, and Bach remedies are supposed to be effective, although I've never tried them.

St. John's Wort"
.... is absolutely pointless and interacts with a lot of prescription medicines...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" If you're ok with herbal remedies, At Johns Wort is an option for mild symptoms, and Bach remedies are supposed to be effective, although I've never tried them.

St. John's Wort.... is absolutely pointless and interacts with a lot of prescription medicines..."

OP has said he doesn't like prescription meds.

Some people do find St John's Wort helpful, especially if symptoms are mild.

Some people find counselling useful, for others it's a waste of time.

Suggestions the OP may wish to explore or ignore. Their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, when I start feeling off, I surround myself in nature. Where it’s silent, but you’re not really alone, there’s wildlife with me.

Mrs

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