FabSwingers.com forum: Loneliness

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Chipping Norton

No one alive does not. At least, nobody sane. In small doses it can even be a good thing, I think, reminding you how much the company and affection of other people matters.

A miserable, corrosive, tormenting experience when it dominates life. I don't imagine anyone hasn't had moments when it dominates, but they're easy to forget (and good that they are) when times are good.

Friendliness is the cure, but it's a cure that's almost impossible to imagine when loneliness is at its worst.

Apologies; that scribble of nonsense is meant to be sympathetic encouragement, on the assumption you're suffering yourself. Hard to do it without sounding blase or patronising. But whenever we're feeling down, things generally do get better.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

No but then at least you have a giant friend

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Have done and may well do again. It can be pretty crushing. Other than saying I hope it gets easier for you, there's not much I can say. This too shall pass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

COVID has had a massive impact on people's feelings of loneliness...a lot of people have confided that COVID really made them feel isolated and have struggled thereafter.

Whilst it's normal to feel lonely for small periods..if it continues then it does impact people's mental health.

Men in particular are poor at recognising this and even worse at talking about it.

Being part of something is soo important for our wellbeing and happiness.

Difficult to give expenses advice on this forum but I hope you have someone you can talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my head I’m lonely

I have a family and colleagues who I see each day.

Friends come and go

My life I feel like I’m in solitude each day

I’m in my own bubble

My mind wanders and start to do things which could destroy my life and those around me.

I’m addicted I can’t stop

I feel great at the time then the fall is quick fast and hard.

The self destruct button is so close…

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

Yeah, I have to make efforts to spend time with people so I’m not alone or lonely, however as an only child I am used to solitude so I can’t be with people all the time and I do enjoy a fair bit of down time away from others.

What has triggered your post op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hardly ever alone but always lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I've been very isolated mentally over the years for various reasons even when surround by friends and family.

These last three weeks have been the hardest though. Toughest point of my life and I've been through some shit.

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By *dmundwilsonMan
over a year ago

Llandudno

We are all ‘in our own’ arent we.

That realisation is pretty stark at times.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Every now and again, but I have things to bring me out of it. Music, movies, going to places I like. It lifts and I'm happy again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah, I have to make efforts to spend time with people so I’m not alone or lonely, however as an only child I am used to solitude so I can’t be with people all the time and I do enjoy a fair bit of down time away from others.

What has triggered your post op? "

Too much time and too much thinking about it probably

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?"

Never. Love being alone. I have dogs for company.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?

Never. Love being alone. I have dogs for company."

Dogs do make great company. What do you have?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?"

Most days, OP. But especially the weekends as the poor staff in Costa will attest.

Are you ok? The forums can be fun but they’re not a solution.

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By *ave05Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford Essex

I’m looking for some new friendships on here non sexual and any gender as I think Im missing some social interaction just a tad and was thinking of some local meet ups groups soon though via here would be great ( non club )

I’m up for a little social group if it ever works out on here and that we share interests of the site and being ourselves.

Happy to chat private just realistic to keep it quite local area to me nothing to lose much to gain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to feel lonely a lot. Then I realised I was actually not. I thought not having a partner meant I was lonely. I thought my life would suddenly be better if I did. I was wrong.

I have my moments, some days it hits me that I don't have anyone to hold me after a really long day or to tell me they love me. I have a huge amount of love to give and I now know I don't need a relationship for that.

My life is busy and full on so now I happily indulge in beautiful moments to compliment my life, because it's already complete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m looking for some new friendships on here non sexual and any gender as I think Im missing some social interaction just a tad and was thinking of some local meet ups groups soon though via here would be great ( non club )

I’m up for a little social group if it ever works out on here and that we share interests of the site and being ourselves.

Happy to chat private just realistic to keep it quite local area to me nothing to lose much to gain. "

That sounds like a decent idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to feel lonely a lot. Then I realised I was actually not. I thought not having a partner meant I was lonely. I thought my life would suddenly be better if I did. I was wrong.

My life is busy and full on so now I happily indulge in beautiful moments to compliment my life, because it's already complete. "

I won't go into details on here but a emotional abusive, narcissistic marriage ensured I lost all friends and have very little communication with family. Moved to Glasgow a few weeks ago and the only time I'm not feeling lonely or lost is when I have my children with me.

Things will get better and I will get to know new friends. Signed up to walking football just to socialise. Not kicked a ball in 10 years due to injury but going to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been feeling very lonely recently. I am suffering from skin hunger. Little to no meaningful physical contact has wrecked my mental health.

I've been battling with daily suicidal thoughts for over a year now.

My therapist knows about these thoughts and so do some of my online friends. My real life friends know about my struggles with mental health. I have loads of mates and a decent social life.

I just need a long hug from someone that I find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loneliness is pretty crushing and I find it creeps up on me. My kids are here all the time, but it's adult company I wish for and at the same time avoid because I feel low & don't consider myself good company. Perhaps others relate?

The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loneliness is pretty crushing and I find it creeps up on me. My kids are here all the time, but it's adult company I wish for and at the same time avoid because I feel low & don't consider myself good company. Perhaps others relate?

The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life! "

The forums/fab make me grateful to be alone.

I like my own company. I like me.

People are the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life!

The forums/fab make me grateful to be alone.

I like my own company. I like me.

People are the problem.

Maybe you're on the wrong thread, Coyote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I value the loneliness that each day I greet,

for when she kisses me it will be so so sweet."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now and again but not always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life!

The forums/fab make me grateful to be alone.

I like my own company. I like me.

People are the problem.

Maybe you're on the wrong thread, Coyote

Story of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forum can be an antidote at times, but it also reinforces feeling lonely if you don't have a bountiful sex life!

The forums/fab make me grateful to be alone.

I like my own company. I like me.

People are the problem.

Maybe you're on the wrong thread, Coyote

Story of my life"

Is that why you start your own?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, lonely for years. I have acquaintances and work colleagues but no friends and certainly no love life. The severity comes and goes. I am an introvert so I like my own company but it's not the same thing.

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By *ime-banditMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I enjoy my own company to a certain extent, but yes I get very lonely at times. It would be lovely to have someone special to share life with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?"

I always feel lonely. I wear my mask.

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By *mDeethatsmeWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

Yes even more so atm. My husband has got a brain tumour (diagnosed this May) & my long term Feb called things off also this May. Miss him so much . There’s so much I want to tell him,but I know he wouldn’t be interested. I found him in here yesterday (I wasnt even looking for him & Lied he’s still as sexy as I remember

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I talk to people all the time, I've had partners who would take me back and who i speak to but i felt alone with them, so now i enjoy doing what i want, when i want but on my own or with somebody i meet

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I need a hug

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By *hriscooperMan
48 weeks ago

Warrington

Yep... Had some terrible news and a massive hug would help a massive amount.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I wrote my suicide note yesterday

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Yes. Have done on and off for years. Xmas is the worst time of year.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I wrote my suicide note yesterday"

116 123

24 hrs helpline

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?"

Often. Sometimes I do. I’m learning that this is what I have to live with.

Let’s see if next year (if this thread get redirected again) I feel the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I wrote my suicide note yesterday

116 123

24 hrs helpline"

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I wrote my suicide note yesterday"

Despite the nature of this place ,one thing i do know alot caring people on here .

Reach out to anyone and myself included even just if 2mins

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By *acktar74Man
47 weeks ago

leeds

"I wrote my suicide note yesterday"

You are here today though

It's a day to allow help into your life.

Let me know if you need a chat or if you want numbers or websites to turn to

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I find that helplines are for crisis situations. This isn't really crisis management.

Most services exist to get you through the day. I have been suicidal for over a year. My therapist knows all about it.

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By *ames-77Man
47 weeks ago

milton keynes

It's human instinct to need to be with others comes from our ancestry of being in groups

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By *obilebottomMan
47 weeks ago

All over

For all the people needing a hug, lots of hugs from me. We all sometimes javeca moment thst we need a hug. Sad to hear so many people suffering. Please speak to someone, anyone, a stranger on here, me.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?

Never. Love being alone. I have dogs for company."

Well said .By the way I will be collecting for dog charity to day 17 th Dec Belfast

Love pics oh YOU STILL GOT IT Lot love to you & dogs gave them a pat from me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"For all the people needing a hug, lots of hugs from me. We all sometimes javeca moment thst we need a hug. Sad to hear so many people suffering. Please speak to someone, anyone, a stranger on here, me.

WELL SAID

MERRY CHRISTMAS XX

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By *ames-77Man
47 weeks ago

milton keynes

Yeah must remember this is a lonely time of year for some people feeling those feelings already .. don't be afraid to message

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I wrote my suicide note yesterday

116 123

24 hrs helpline"

I was in a very dark place after divorce Children away with her .ready to end it .I do vol work in HOSPICE it works for me matey ther so so many vol work in shoos .

SENDING YOU A BIG HUG AND LOVE

NEVER EVER GAVE UP

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By *ames-77Man
47 weeks ago

milton keynes

"I wrote my suicide note yesterday

116 123

24 hrs helpline

I was in a very dark place after divorce Children away with her .ready to end it .I do vol work in HOSPICE it works for me matey ther so so many vol work in shoos .

SENDING YOU A BIG HUG AND LOVE

NEVER EVER GAVE UP

XX"

I can relate to this mate never understood things such as depression but similar thing happened in my life like yours.. I took the route of kick boxing.. I love your choice of path though that's beautiful well done bro x

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Yes even more so atm. My husband has got a brain tumour (diagnosed this May) & my long term Feb called things off also this May. Miss him so much . There’s so much I want to tell him,but I know he wouldn’t be interested. I found him in here yesterday (I wasnt even looking for him & Lied he’s still as sexy as I remember

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Am here for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I volunteer a lot. Teenagers from disadvantaged areas. Ex-sexual harm convicts.

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By *ippy68Man
47 weeks ago

Weymouth

"Does anyone else suffer with loneliness?"

Yes quite often and it’s soul destroying. Many don’t realise how bad you feel and brush it aside with smart arse remarks. I don’t envy anyone who suffers lonliness on a regular basis.

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47 weeks ago

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By *ippy68Man
47 weeks ago

Weymouth

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47 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I wrote my suicide note yesterday

Despite the nature of this place ,one thing i do know alot caring people on here .

Reach out to anyone and myself included even just if 2mins "

WELL SAID

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I'm too fucking busy to worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I'll give hugs to anyone who wants one am on my own to witch I choose I prefer it I don't upset anyone at all can fall out with myself at times

But if you're alone and need a chat or cuddles or both am free over Christmas

Katie

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Thanks for the virtual hugs. A real hug would be wonderful.

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By *obilebottomMan
47 weeks ago

All over

"Thanks for the virtual hugs. A real hug would be wonderful. "

I hope you get many of those real soon

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