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"On the plus side you could chain her up on some railings whilst you nip in the offy for 20 Benson and Hedges "  | |||
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"What is the issue with her nose ring, out of curiousity? And I’d say no if someone asked me to take mine out. " My issue it just gives me the trembles. I know this is my flaw and i should be able to move past it. I think it is because kisses are so intimate for me that i do not want anything in the way | |||
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"What is the issue with her nose ring, out of curiousity? And I’d say no if someone asked me to take mine out. My issue it just gives me the trembles. I know this is my flaw and i should be able to move past it. I think it is because kisses are so intimate for me that i do not want anything in the way" How big is her nose if her rings going to get in the way?  | |||
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"What is the issue with her nose ring, out of curiousity? And I’d say no if someone asked me to take mine out. My issue it just gives me the trembles. I know this is my flaw and i should be able to move past it. I think it is because kisses are so intimate for me that i do not want anything in the way How big is her nose if her rings going to get in the way? "Fuck nose | |||
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"The diplomatic answer, You can ask, and should ask. If it was me with the nose ring though, I'd not be removing it. If it were an actual relationship it work some compromise. Though I'd not really get with somebody who would be wanting me to change/remove part of who I am, instead of accepting it's part of me. But the honest and blunt answrr is that it's a you problem to get over, and not something for her to fix. Get over it, or find somebody else. " Agreed. | |||
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"and people wonder why they can't get meets.... "She is not on here and has nothing to do with meets. Thank you for the informative comment it was so helpful. | |||
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"You can ask here OP but be prepared... she may ask you to remove your socks... Could be a game changer "Cool a negotiated compromise. | |||
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"You can ask I guess, but sounds like maybe she’s just not your type. Personally, I love nose rings on women, very hot and no problem when kissing in my experience." Very much my type and thank you. | |||
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"Just how big is this nose ring? Are we talking Ferdinand the Bull proportions? I personally don't like them, but nobody I would kiss has one anyway. If you know her well enough, why not buy her a gift of a smaller, cuter nose ring? Bess x" Not the size just the visual and the possible of touch,i cannot emphasize more this is ny issue. | |||
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"I have been chatting to a lady that is lovely unfortunately for me she has a nose ring. I know this is my issue and i believed i could get past it but now that we could meet i dread the thought of kissing her with this. Is it ok to ask her to remove it while we are together? " Not sure why youd consider getting to the point of kissing her if it's such an issue for you. I'd not take it out if asked though it's a bit like asking a man to shave cause I dont like beards (I love beards btw) lol | |||
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"It could be very short." Press ‘reply & quote’ so we know who you’re talking to | |||
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"On the plus side you could chain her up on some railings whilst you nip in the offy for 20 Benson and Hedges " | |||
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"Wouldn't have one but wouldn't remove it if I did x" Same | |||
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"Maybe you should just face your fears and kiss her anyway." I know that is the right thing to do. | |||
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"I have been chatting to a lady that is lovely unfortunately for me she has a nose ring. I know this is my issue and i believed i could get past it but now that we could meet i dread the thought of kissing her with this. Is it ok to ask her to remove it while we are together? Not sure why youd consider getting to the point of kissing her if it's such an issue for you. I'd not take it out if asked though it's a bit like asking a man to shave cause I dont like beards (I love beards btw) lol" Take it out? | |||
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"My Mrs has a septum one. Before we met I wasn't a massive fan but it's really grown on me. Give it a chance mate, you never know " And no issues when kissing | |||
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"My Mrs has a septum one. Before we met I wasn't a massive fan but it's really grown on me. Give it a chance mate, you never know And no issues when kissing" Thank you i know it is psychological and i need to deal with it. | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it "Absolute bollocks but thank you for the interest | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it "You've seen me and I definitely don't rock the look you're describing ha ha ha | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it
Absolute bollocks but thank you for the interest"thats the theory anyway | |||
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"Why would you be touching her nose ring whilst kissing? Mine doesn't get in the way of kissing or anything else naughty either. " It is not just touch as i said it is psychological and as i get closer it will be worse. | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it
You've seen me and I definitely don't rock the look you're describing ha ha ha "im not saying its a bad look | |||
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"You can ask I guess, but sounds like maybe she’s just not your type. Personally, I love nose rings on women, very hot and no problem when kissing in my experience. Very much my type and thank you." How can she be your type if something about her gives you the "trembles"? I suggest exploring why you have the trembles and considering a compromise and the consequences before you ask her to alter her appearance. This is why I'm single. Too many men do and say things exclusively from their own wants but are clueless about their own needs, the needs of their partner, the impact, and consequences or take responsibility for their own weaknesses or skilled in conflict resolution. I as a woman would never think of asking a man ( or woman or child) to alter their appearance due to my own phobias....I have many phobias. My phobias are my responsibilities, not anyone else's. From my limited viewpoint it feels incompatible, inconsistent and disingenuous. That's just my opinion. The lady will have hers. Good luck Sir. | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it
You've seen me and I definitely don't rock the look you're describing ha ha ha im not saying its a bad look "For fuck sake it is not the look, it is not the touxch it is me. | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it
You've seen me and I definitely don't rock the look you're describing ha ha ha im not saying its a bad look
For fuck sake it is not the look, it is not the touxch it is me."100% suggest you look for someone else with no piercings 8f this is what it does to you. Even a bog standard ear piercing could make you feel "off" towards someone so it's not worth meeting them at all,as you could make them feel really uneasy about their appearance as well even though you knew beforehand. | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it
You've seen me and I definitely don't rock the look you're describing ha ha ha im not saying its a bad look
For fuck sake it is not the look, it is not the touxch it is me.
100% suggest you look for someone else with no piercings 8f this is what it does to you.
Even a bog standard ear piercing could make you feel "off" towards someone so it's not worth meeting them at all,as you could make them feel really uneasy about their appearance as well even though you knew beforehand. ""If" | |||
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"You can ask I guess, but sounds like maybe she’s just not your type. Personally, I love nose rings on women, very hot and no problem when kissing in my experience. Very much my type and thank you. How can she be your type if something about her gives you the "trembles"? I suggest exploring why you have the trembles and considering a compromise and the consequences before you ask her to alter her appearance. This is why I'm single. Too many men do and say things exclusively from their own wants but are clueless about their own needs, the needs of their partner, the impact, and consequences or take responsibility for their own weaknesses or skilled in conflict resolution. I as a woman would never think of asking a man ( or woman or child) to alter their appearance due to my own phobias....I have many phobias. My phobias are my responsibilities, not anyone else's. From my limited viewpoint it feels incompatible, inconsistent and disingenuous. That's just my opinion. The lady will have hers. Good luck Sir." Completely agree apart from tou can go from casual to caring and then it does matter that you are totally honest. If removing a piercing changes who you are then i agree tell mw to fuck of. | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it
You've seen me and I definitely don't rock the look you're describing ha ha ha im not saying its a bad look
For fuck sake it is not the look, it is not the touxch it is me.
100% suggest you look for someone else with no piercings 8f this is what it does to you.
Even a bog standard ear piercing could make you feel "off" towards someone so it's not worth meeting them at all,as you could make them feel really uneasy about their appearance as well even though you knew beforehand.
"If""I have my info in my profile so that people know and can either ask me about it or can move along | |||
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"What if she doesn’t want to kiss you anyway tho? For info, if it helps, (former) fwb has piercings and not all can be felt touched or even seen. Perhaps try some de sensitising exercises before had and rub random metal stuff against your face and lips and see how it actually feels (you seem to have a problem with something unknown and not previously experienced so this may help). Chances are you don’t even really notice it and hopefully lose the fear ahead of potential kisses "Thank you all great advice annd will include in my talk to her. I did have a similar issue with a tongue stud that i overcame. | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it
You've seen me and I definitely don't rock the look you're describing ha ha ha im not saying its a bad look
For fuck sake it is not the look, it is not the touxch it is me.
100% suggest you look for someone else with no piercings 8f this is what it does to you.
Even a bog standard ear piercing could make you feel "off" towards someone so it's not worth meeting them at all,as you could make them feel really uneasy about their appearance as well even though you knew beforehand.
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I have my info in my profile so that people know and can either ask me about it or can move along "Very faair although she was not on this site i knew of her piercing i just never thought we would get beyond flirting online and now i care. | |||
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"My Mrs has a septum one. Before we met I wasn't a massive fan but it's really grown on me. Give it a chance mate, you never know And no issues when kissing Thank you i know it is psychological and i need to deal with it." No worries mate happy to help. I'd probably stay clear of asking her to remove it though, I think K would have told me to piss off if I asked her early doors, and probably even now. It's part of who she is | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it "Is this just rings specifically or all nose piercings? Asking for a friend... | |||
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"Why do you dread kissing her with it? Where the hell do you stick your tongue??!?" In her ear. | |||
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"Thank you guys and gals i am going to ask this evening. I just have to be true to who i am later i will be a puddle of goo that you can all say i told you so. " I won't be saying that. I get what you've said. I threw up on a man that had his tongue pierced when he stuck it out. In a beer garden. Good luck OP | |||
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"Thank you guys and gals i am going to ask this evening. I just have to be true to who i am later i will be a puddle of goo that you can all say i told you so. " Best of luck mate, hope it goes well | |||
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"I think its secret code for lesbican/bi based on the lasses i seen with em so may up your chances of a 3some at least if she keeps it "I asked someone in the family with a nose ring if they were a lesbian...they told me in no uncertain term no....I said well you know because I've never met any of your boyfriends so I just wanted you to know it's ok if you are a lesbian. They said thanks for your concern but I'm straight. Lol! Someone told me that my new hair cut was lesbian hair cut....I just laughed...Bro I'm clinically straight....it's interesting how it's always men who come up with these alleged secret codes.... | |||
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"You can ask I guess, but sounds like maybe she’s just not your type. Personally, I love nose rings on women, very hot and no problem when kissing in my experience. Very much my type and thank you. How can she be your type if something about her gives you the "trembles"? I suggest exploring why you have the trembles and considering a compromise and the consequences before you ask her to alter her appearance. This is why I'm single. Too many men do and say things exclusively from their own wants but are clueless about their own needs, the needs of their partner, the impact, and consequences or take responsibility for their own weaknesses or skilled in conflict resolution. I as a woman would never think of asking a man ( or woman or child) to alter their appearance due to my own phobias....I have many phobias. My phobias are my responsibilities, not anyone else's. From my limited viewpoint it feels incompatible, inconsistent and disingenuous. That's just my opinion. The lady will have hers. Good luck Sir. Completely agree apart from tou can go from casual to caring and then it does matter that you are totally honest. If removing a piercing changes who you are then i agree tell mw to fuck of." I'm honest from the start. My neurodivergent brain stops me faking and truth withholding...even if it's an inappropriate thing to say. My weakness is that I'm too fucking honest and that probably makes a lot of people feel bad. I have to stay grounded...away with fairies is not great for me for a prolonged time. I agree with the desensitizing activities. Do you know why she got it? Do you know if it mean something important to her? My starting point with all interpersonal interactions is "this is a human not an object"...so I can't be casual in picking them up and putting them down. I have to practice sensitivity to others as it doesn't come natural to me, I wasn't parented sensitively and I don't pick up social cues easily. For any man entering into a relationship, you are going to have to develop sensitive communication skills while keeping your sense of self intact. Same for a woman, LGBTQIA, etc. Going straight into let's remove the nose ring, is problem-solving ( avoiding) and That's not ( as I have learnt to my detriment) not the great first approach in relationships with humans. One therapy skill I learnt ( not mastered) was to go in with questions and curiosity.....not "fixing"...I'm shit at curiosity. Lol! I always want to fix the thing....( read avoid also) People generally do not need fixing unless it's some sort of harm reduction. something about the nose ring is activating your flight/avoid, fright, fawn, freeze, fight response. And sadly in the course of a committed relationship this won't be the first activation of that response which you have to recognise and mitigate. It's ok to be afraid/uncomfortable but not if it starts to make your partner insecure or upset or hurt. | |||
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"What if she doesn’t want to kiss you anyway tho? For info, if it helps, (former) fwb has piercings and not all can be felt touched or even seen. Perhaps try some de sensitising exercises before had and rub random metal stuff against your face and lips and see how it actually feels (you seem to have a problem with something unknown and not previously experienced so this may help). Chances are you don’t even really notice it and hopefully lose the fear ahead of potential kisses
Thank you all great advice annd will include in my talk to her.
I did have a similar issue with a tongue stud that i overcame."See you can do it...   | |||
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"Thank you guys and gals i am going to ask this evening. I just have to be true to who i am later i will be a puddle of goo that you can all say i told you so. I won't be saying that. I get what you've said. I threw up on a man that had his tongue pierced when he stuck it out. In a beer garden. Good luck OP " I threw up on an uber. Sigh when our body and brains fail us.. I come with a warning label now.....A hidden disability lanyard at work...Lol! So that when managers, colleagues, and the general public trigger me I can leg it to the loo and pop a sedative and do the 4-7-8 breathing technique for 15 minutes. | |||
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"I have been chatting to a lady that is lovely unfortunately for me she has a nose ring. I know this is my issue and i believed i could get past it but now that we could meet i dread the thought of kissing her with this. Is it ok to ask her to remove it while we are together? " You can ask... But I wouldn't be surprised if you didn't get the response your after. | |||
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"I have asked and no response at all. Thank you all for your advice it is very much appreciated." Whaaaaaaat? She can't have just ignored you? If I was sat having that conversation I'd expect a reply. | |||
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"I have asked and no response at all. Thank you all for your advice it is very much appreciated. Whaaaaaaat? She can't have just ignored you? If I was sat having that conversation I'd expect a reply. " If I got a text about that I'd probably not respond and delete their number  | |||
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"I have asked and no response at all. Thank you all for your advice it is very much appreciated." And you're suprised about that..?? | |||
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"I have asked and no response at all. Thank you all for your advice it is very much appreciated. Whaaaaaaat? She can't have just ignored you? If I was sat having that conversation I'd expect a reply. If I got a text about that I'd probably not respond and delete their number "Never thought of text, please no, you didn't?  | |||
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"At least she hasn’t got a Prince Albert "He hasn’t got there yet | |||
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"I have asked and no response at all. Thank you all for your advice it is very much appreciated. Whaaaaaaat? She can't have just ignored you? If I was sat having that conversation I'd expect a reply. If I got a text about that I'd probably not respond and delete their number "Oh, I'd respond... | |||
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"At least she hasn’t got a Prince Albert
He hasn’t got there yet"Is it weird that I want to be there if he does? | |||
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"At least she hasn’t got a Prince Albert
He hasn’t got there yet
Is it weird that I want to be there if he does?"We won't kink shame. | |||
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"At least she hasn’t got a Prince Albert
He hasn’t got there yet
Is it weird that I want to be there if he does?
We won't kink shame. "Thanks. I knew I could count on you to be caring of others feelings. | |||
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"Considering you haven’t even met I don’t think it’s right asking her to take it out if it’s that much of a issue then don’t meet her." Asking not insisting or being pushy. If we do not reveal ourselves to a certain extent before meeting is that not dishonest? | |||
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"Considering you haven’t even met I don’t think it’s right asking her to take it out if it’s that much of a issue then don’t meet her. Asking not insisting or being pushy. If we do not reveal ourselves to a certain extent before meeting is that not dishonest?" Maybe add it in your profile then so that people that have their nose pierced know not to message you.I definitely don’t think it’s dishonest tho we wouldn’t even think to mention piercings or tattoos. | |||
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