FabSwingers.com forum: How many messages on average do guys send without a response?

By *entInEssex OP Man
over a year ago

Grays

How many messages does the average guy send on here before receiving any form of response or, before he decides to just give up and stick to having a wank?

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

245 the last time, but it was a man behind the profile

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Well it depends how many you actually send in the first place.

If you throw a message at any and every profile, the average is going to be extremely low, potentially higher chance to find somebody that may be interested in you. But your shots on target will be very low.

If you are extremely selective and pay attention to what each profile wants, so that you fit that. Then chances it being on target are higher, but your total shots lower.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I don’t spam

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

It shouldn't be a question of how many.

One to the right profile may be enough.

Hundreds to people you're not compatible with will yield no results.

I've this week had to block several people who have sent repeat messages asking to meet, contrary to all the advice on our profile, who've ignore the fact we haven't responded to previous messages.

It's not, and never has been, a numbers game. If you think it is then you're in the wrong place.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Depends, if you copy/paste "Hey, wanna fuck?" to a random 1000 people you are guaranteed to get at least 50 replies.

All of them saying "fuck off".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it depends how many you actually send in the first place.

If you are extremely selective and pay attention to what each profile wants, so that you fit that. Then chances it being on target are higher, but your total shots lower. "

Agreed.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"How many messages does the average guy send on here before receiving any form of response or, before he decides to just give up and stick to having a wank?

I'm sure fab admin or their IT droid would have this info.

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

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By *inosaur PantsMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

I count read and deleted as a response, so not many at all

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

0 - I don’t sent messages first. I reply to winks or on received messages. This strategy works for me so far.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I send hardly any maybe 1-2 a month and they nearly always get a reply.

Before sending I ask myself, so I really (really) like this person, is she something else?

Do I want to meet her enough to move things around, travel at some hassle/cost etc

If the answers no, I think it’s best not to start a conversation.

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By *adbod2godbodMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'll read someone's profile, try and craft a message accordingly. And 99% of the time I don't get a reply.

If they don't reply, I don't send another. If someone can't be bother to send a "no ta, not my type" or anything like that, just think it shows their character.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

Aside from the reciprocal and synchronous messages between friends and forumites, I've only sent two messages in the last two years. My engagements and meets have been the fruition of women sending the first message to me. They rarely send repeat messages. I probably wouldn't either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I have sent less than 20 since being on here.

Read the profile, no matter how hot the photos look or the videos are, if I am not what that person or persons is or are looking for it seems a waste of my time and theirs to send a message.

Occasionally I will get a reply, mostly not but I would never send a follow up message demanding to know why my last message wasn't relied to!

For a brief time I did have a couples profile and God it was hard fire fighting pointless messages!

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By *entInEssex OP Man
over a year ago

Grays

Agreed, and I am on the same page.

I only ever send a message to someone who genuinely raises my interest but, like you, I rarely receive a reply even though they have read the message.

As you say, a polite no thank you wouldn’t go a miss sometimes

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I stopped messaging women privately now since they love to ignore 99% of the messages they receive

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

0. I don't tend to send first messages and only do so after a wink or message received and hence, always tend to get a reply

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By *rs322Woman
over a year ago

sandy

Just putting my two pence in as my filters allow men to message but I don't meet or play with them.

Probably around 60% get a reply from me, it all depends on the first message. Most of the time their decent messages with context and would be something they say to me in the street or I'm just replying for the batnter

either way it works for me and in some way I hope I'm doing some good for fab itself, being sociable to those that make fab a better place

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

If I a tually counted it would be too depressing

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

All depends if you are a sniper or a stormtrooper.

The latter couldn't hit a barn door while the former is more selective in his targets.

I haven't sent a single first contact message in 3½ years so every conversation since has been started by someone else.

Does that make me a jedi?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'd not send many messages. Would do so only if I felt I met the criteria stated on the profile. I'd get a reply 80-90% of the time even if only to say thanks but not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just looked at my stats.

24 messages to new people since May. 9 replies.

That average was pulled down massively by a splurge of quick fire massagea on coronation day, that had maybe a 1 in 4 success.

More personal ones at about 1 in 2. Possibly a bit higher.

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By *hatsthisMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Id say about 70 % dont reply and ive no problem, also i dont message anyone profiles that are out of age , size etc . I mean id not reply to me when so many hunks and sexy folk out there

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Probably 50/50 but i don’t send messages asking to meet….generally I respond to a status update and don’t expect a reply but it’s always lifting if you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably get replies 3/10 people I message

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By *entInEssex OP Man
over a year ago

Grays

Thanks for your two pence

much appreciated to have feedback from a lady.

That’s a fairly high percentage on replies so, fair play to you and thank you for your input x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only send a response about something they have on the profile...or status..or something they have said on the forums, l don't really send asking to meet , maybe if they're interested they will send one also.

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

"I'll read someone's profile, try and craft a message accordingly. And 99% of the time I don't get a reply.

If they don't reply, I don't send another. If someone can't be bother to send a "no ta, not my type" or anything like that, just think it shows their character."

Telling on yourself there tbh

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Maybe I'm feeling a little sensitive today, but I'm feeling I'm marginally better than a wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I'm feeling a little sensitive today, but I'm feeling I'm marginally better than a wank

Ok shrek

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By *untimes!!666Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I tried to reply to everyone the first hour I joined and within that time, I had over 200 messages....I can only see so many as I'm not a site supporter. If I don't think it's a fit, I can't possibly reply to everyone telling them that. So as suggested by the admin, I just block that person so I'm not wasting either of our times. It must suck for a guy at times on here. But I've literally got over 1000 unread messages. It's a good problem for me but the no reply thing is not out of disrespect or anything. It's simply a question of time.... It's definitely not personal.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I don’t send messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to the age range I'm looking for not too many however I sometimes get a thanks, or a polite no thank you. The search goes on x

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I get more replies than not, but I don't message every single profile I find attractive.

It's easy for a message to get lost amongst others so I send one and see what happens and I've had replies that have been days, weeks and months after I sent a message.

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

About a million a day

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

[Removed by poster at 21/06/23 15:22:25]

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I dont really send any messages

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

When I had my single account they nearly always got a reply. Probably because I was polite, jovial, I read their profile and talking about stuff (mostly nothing to do with sex) which was interesting. Oh and I NEVER sent a dick pic! EVER!

Hades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just try and keep your messages original and maybe a bit funny at times plus send a face pic at the same time

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"How many messages does the average guy send on here before receiving any form of response or, before he decides to just give up and stick to having a wank?

Well, I'm not 'the average guy' (he says smugly). Normally just one - no reply generally means to me 'sod off fatty'

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Define "the average guy".

If the messages we get are from such people then they should expect to wait a bloody long time.

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By *entInEssex OP Man
over a year ago

Grays

Thanks for taking the time to add a comment, much appreciated and makes much more sense why sometimes, messages don’t receive a reply.

I wasn’t aware that, if your not a site supporter, you only get to see an amount of received messages and not all of them

Once again, thanks for your comment and happy fabbing

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

When I was a single guy on here I only messaged profiles that intrigued me and after reading their profile thought we might be compatible.

I made a few connections and 2 weeks in I sent a message to C and we got chatting.

What makes a difference in whether you get a reply is having a good profile that sells you as a person as well as a sex god and also being respectful too.

It’s also luck too - C had a local guy leaving her stable and wanted a replacement - my message was right timing but it was also tailored to C as women get hundreds of messages and you’ve got to stand out. She had a few hundred to choose from that day and choose me because I made an effort with my message.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I reckon it's about 1 in 20 of my messages that get a reply. That said, 15 in 20 of my messages don't even get read.

Either my profile is *really* terrible, or the vast majority of my messages are lost under 500 "FAF?" one-liners and are never seen at all.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Maybe I'm feeling a little sensitive today, but I'm feeling I'm marginally better than a wank

Yeah you really should know your own worth.

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