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By *hatismyrealname OP   Man
over a year ago

Canterbury

So I would love to hear from people what they like to receive in a first message…..

What catches your eye and intrigues you?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Tits and a growler

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By *inosaur PantsMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

A well written paragraph that shows they've read my profile and gives me something to reply to.

Or just a pic of boobies

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

An attractive face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One that tells me that I'm getting blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, as it's against site rules to post content of personal messages, no one can really tell you.

In any case, what you write in your message is irrelevant if it never gets read as anyone you contact will always check out your profile first, before they even think about whether or not they're interested in what you've sent them, and have likely already made their mind up about you before they even get to it

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hi (insert name),

I came across your profile and was attracted to the words / pictures / verifications / boobs* and think you look like a fun lady / couple.

I see that you can / can't accommodate but that is fine as I can / can't accommodate and will / won't pay / share costs for a hotel / b+b / dayroom / tent.

As we are both/all classy / adventurous we could / couldn't play in my / your car or outdoors / in a club.

I have / haven't included a cock pic as I saw you love / hate getting them but if you want to chat / fuck let me know.

I'm sure you are swamped with messages but I'm local / just visiting / here for a few hours, and thought you are the kind of person / people I like to meet / fuck.

If you fancy meeting up for a coffee / blow n go / all nighter, we can, and perhaps have a one off / build a friendship.

Anyway you look / sound / I hope to fuck you are stunning / have a pulse and as you have high / no standards, maybe I'm what you are looking for / will take pity on.

I'll wear a smart suit / fireman's uniform / bag over my head if that will help you decide to pick me.

Happy fabbing!

Works 100% of the time for 40% of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to see more replies, especially when I make the effort of being really polite and respectful. But I don't blame women on here, because all I hear as they get bombarded with a lot of shitty messages, with men trying their luck saying "wanna fuck" or something like that! I mean why do that, they wouldn't chat like that to any females in public would they? So they just ruin it for all the other guys who are actually trying to have a sensible conversation and then seeing where it goes.

But this abuse is still happening, so I can understand why females don't reply that much.

But if you want to know what I would like to have for my first message from someone, it would have to be "yes I'm interested, your place or mine?" Haha

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Absolutely anything.

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*obvs this applies only if it's sent from a profile that matches our preferences, is well written and has pretty pictures, otherwise it probably won't get read anyway because we view profiles before opening messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face and bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi (insert name),

I came across your profile and was attracted to the words / pictures / verifications / boobs* and think you look like a fun lady / couple.

I see that you can / can't accommodate but that is fine as I can / can't accommodate and will / won't pay / share costs for a hotel / b+b / dayroom / tent.

As we are both/all classy / adventurous we could / couldn't play in my / your car or outdoors / in a club.

I have / haven't included a cock pic as I saw you love / hate getting them but if you want to chat / fuck let me know.

I'm sure you are swamped with messages but I'm local / just visiting / here for a few hours, and thought you are the kind of person / people I like to meet / fuck.

If you fancy meeting up for a coffee / blow n go / all nighter, we can, and perhaps have a one off / build a friendship.

Anyway you look / sound / I hope to fuck you are stunning / have a pulse and as you have high / no standards, maybe I'm what you are looking for / will take pity on.

I'll wear a smart suit / fireman's uniform / bag over my head if that will help you decide to pick me.

Happy fabbing!

Works 100% of the time for 40% of the time "

I shall copy and paste that into my next DM I send.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

This should be written by female as first message to me .have read your profile I'm greatly impressed and would love to get to know you .I've long wanted to be taught by and wise and experienced gentleman .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi (insert name),

I came across your profile and was attracted to the words / pictures / verifications / boobs* and think you look like a fun lady / couple.

I see that you can / can't accommodate but that is fine as I can / can't accommodate and will / won't pay / share costs for a hotel / b+b / dayroom / tent.

As we are both/all classy / adventurous we could / couldn't play in my / your car or outdoors / in a club.

I have / haven't included a cock pic as I saw you love / hate getting them but if you want to chat / fuck let me know.

I'm sure you are swamped with messages but I'm local / just visiting / here for a few hours, and thought you are the kind of person / people I like to meet / fuck.

If you fancy meeting up for a coffee / blow n go / all nighter, we can, and perhaps have a one off / build a friendship.

Anyway you look / sound / I hope to fuck you are stunning / have a pulse and as you have high / no standards, maybe I'm what you are looking for / will take pity on.

I'll wear a smart suit / fireman's uniform / bag over my head if that will help you decide to pick me.

Happy fabbing!

Works 100% of the time for 40% of the time "

Hilarious.

I'm stealing it for the next man I find interesting enough to message.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Hi (insert name),

I came across your profile and was attracted to the words / pictures / verifications / boobs* and think you look like a fun lady / couple.

I see that you can / can't accommodate but that is fine as I can / can't accommodate and will / won't pay / share costs for a hotel / b+b / dayroom / tent.

As we are both/all classy / adventurous we could / couldn't play in my / your car or outdoors / in a club.

I have / haven't included a cock pic as I saw you love / hate getting them but if you want to chat / fuck let me know.

I'm sure you are swamped with messages but I'm local / just visiting / here for a few hours, and thought you are the kind of person / people I like to meet / fuck.

If you fancy meeting up for a coffee / blow n go / all nighter, we can, and perhaps have a one off / build a friendship.

Anyway you look / sound / I hope to fuck you are stunning / have a pulse and as you have high / no standards, maybe I'm what you are looking for / will take pity on.

I'll wear a smart suit / fireman's uniform / bag over my head if that will help you decide to pick me.

Happy fabbing!

Works 100% of the time for 40% of the time

Hilarious.

I'm stealing it for the next man I find interesting enough to message."

Pick me to message lol

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Hi (insert name),

I came across your profile and was attracted to the words / pictures / verifications / boobs* and think you look like a fun lady / couple.

I see that you can / can't accommodate but that is fine as I can / can't accommodate and will / won't pay / share costs for a hotel / b+b / dayroom / tent.

As we are both/all classy / adventurous we could / couldn't play in my / your car or outdoors / in a club.

I have / haven't included a cock pic as I saw you love / hate getting them but if you want to chat / fuck let me know.

I'm sure you are swamped with messages but I'm local / just visiting / here for a few hours, and thought you are the kind of person / people I like to meet / fuck.

If you fancy meeting up for a coffee / blow n go / all nighter, we can, and perhaps have a one off / build a friendship.

Anyway you look / sound / I hope to fuck you are stunning / have a pulse and as you have high / no standards, maybe I'm what you are looking for / will take pity on.

I'll wear a smart suit / fireman's uniform / bag over my head if that will help you decide to pick me.

Happy fabbing!

Works 100% of the time for 40% of the time

I shall copy and paste that into my next DM I send. "

No need to thank me, your diary will now be busier than Boris's party calendar during a lockdown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be chilled out, normal, to the point, face pics and all that good shit.

Don't be weird or creepy. Yes, it happens to us too.

And chatty, if you communicate at a maximum rate of 4 syllables a message, seek help. Away from me mind. I'm not helping you.

Go read a mister men book, learn some words and stuff.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

The contents of the message is less important. The sentiment is what captivates me: gracious words, a witty remark and even a compliment thrown in - direct inferences to my profile or forum posts.

Women are rather good at these things and I've been most fortunate for my inbox 'rattling'.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I like messages that make me laugh or at least smile. The content is less important than the content of the profile though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're 1st message should say that there is something in that person's profile that they find interesting, it proves that you have read their profile and are interested in them.

Everyone here knows why everyone is here ..to fuck ...BUT if a person has shown that they are interested in that person's interests then it's closer for them getting laid , Women fuck here but not with everyone , 1st message has to stand out.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Fulwood


"Hi (insert name),

I came across your profile and was attracted to the words / pictures / verifications / boobs* and think you look like a fun lady / couple.

I see that you can / can't accommodate but that is fine as I can / can't accommodate and will / won't pay / share costs for a hotel / b+b / dayroom / tent.

As we are both/all classy / adventurous we could / couldn't play in my / your car or outdoors / in a club.

I have / haven't included a cock pic as I saw you love / hate getting them but if you want to chat / fuck let me know.

I'm sure you are swamped with messages but I'm local / just visiting / here for a few hours, and thought you are the kind of person / people I like to meet / fuck.

If you fancy meeting up for a coffee / blow n go / all nighter, we can, and perhaps have a one off / build a friendship.

Anyway you look / sound / I hope to fuck you are stunning / have a pulse and as you have high / no standards, maybe I'm what you are looking for / will take pity on.

I'll wear a smart suit / fireman's uniform / bag over my head if that will help you decide to pick me.

Happy fabbing!

Works 100% of the time for 40% of the time "
this is genius…. Properly genius!

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

It coming from an actual woman would be a good starting point haha

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"You're 1st message should say that there is something in that person's profile that they find interesting, it proves that you have read their profile and are interested in them.

Everyone here knows why everyone is here ..to fuck ...BUT if a person has shown that they are interested in that person's interests then it's closer for them getting laid , Women fuck here but not with everyone , 1st message has to stand out."

Not everyone is here for the same thing

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always say “GIZZASHAG!” And I almost always get a reply.

Usually quite enthusiastic too, although if I attempted the physical manipulations they suggest, I think I’d roll over like an apple down a slide.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I would like to see more replies, especially when I make the effort of being really polite and respectful. But I don't blame women on here, because all I hear as they get bombarded with a lot of shitty messages, with men trying their luck saying "wanna fuck" or something like that! I mean why do that, they wouldn't chat like that to any females in public would they? So they just ruin it for all the other guys who are actually trying to have a sensible conversation and then seeing where it goes.

But this abuse is still happening, so I can understand why females don't reply that much.

But if you want to know what I would like to have for my first message from someone, it would have to be "yes I'm interested, your place or mine?" Haha"

Don't call us females for a start...

Be polite, send a clear recent face pic, pay a genuine compliment, say why you think me might be a good match, ask a question so we've got something to respond to.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I won't reply to one or two word messages.

I prefer something that shows they have at least read my profile. I don't like crude first messages telling me what you want to do to/with me either.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.


"Tits and a growler "

Stop giving my secrets away!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Gaped bum hole 9 times out of 10 will have me firing off a reply.

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By *hatismyrealname OP   Man
over a year ago

Canterbury


"Tits and a growler

Stop giving my secrets away! "

Look forward to receiving your message!!

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By *hatismyrealname OP   Man
over a year ago

Canterbury

Thanks Juliette

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By *hatismyrealname OP   Man
over a year ago

Canterbury

Thanks mimi rouge

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Message content / crafting only takes you so far. Most women will look at the profile first before dwelling on the message. If they don't like what they see, the quality of the message becomes mostly irrelevant.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"So I would love to hear from people what they like to receive in a first message…..

"

FaF?

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

A generic cut and paste. In this you must highlight that you've read my profile in depth and understood every detail. Every syllable. Every nuance.

Then, despite the fact that you're everything my profile says I'm not looking for send the generic message.

What does this tell me?

1. You're just lazy and opportunistic.

2. You've chosen to completely ignore my wishes.

3. You think you're an Adonis sex God and no woman can resist you.

Try stepping into the real world guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pint

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I love a funny opening message. But try to be a bit different, which I know is asking for a lot. My statuses often get the same responses from everyone.

Also just reading my bio and showing you have. There is plenty in my bio to start a conversation with. Show me that you match the vibe too.

(I know, I'm so demanding )

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