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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi, my girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore, only once a week twice a week, some time ago I was doing it twice a day, and she wonders why she doesn't do it so much anymore, she knows I'm here and supports me, can you help me with a advice, what can I do to make it more horrny

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The person who's most likely to have the answer to that question is your girlfriend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Popcorn anyone?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Sex doesn't start with sex it starts with actions throughout the day, are you still as complimentary as you were, still flirt with each other, the random ass grabs, kisses, hugs, date nights etc.... The loss of these things can have a big impact on sex for me.

Mrs

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Is it twice a week or doesn't want sex...two very different things?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Is it twice a week or doesn't want sex...two very different things?"

This.

What you describe is some sex, not no sex.

A

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Popcorn anyone? "

Don't like popcorn what else have you got but I don't think this will last as long as you think .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

only once a week is enough for her, I talked to her and we always talk, I'm always horny and I always want something new, she doesn't, we always love each other like in the beginning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband would LOVE it if I managed sex at least once a week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication. A bunch of strangers on a swingers site (that I’m assuming you’re on to try and cheat on your girlfriend) can’t help you

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

We got no sex either due to health reasons but we have lot of fun .try the fun bit. If the no sex it not a health reason and you both are into each other the sex might come back .but that's down to you talking with her not us .

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By *ardhatCharlieMan
over a year ago

Northwest

Bromide. Stick a bit in your tea, it will hammer your horny to nothing.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"Communication. A bunch of strangers on a swingers site (that I’m assuming you’re on to try and cheat on your girlfriend) can’t help you "

Wow just ignore his opening post then about her knowing and supporting him. Let’s go straight for the kill

Marc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I always talked to her, nothing has changed, I am worried because she is young, only 24 years old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Communication. A bunch of strangers on a swingers site (that I’m assuming you’re on to try and cheat on your girlfriend) can’t help you

Wow just ignore his opening post then about her knowing and supporting him. Let’s go straight for the kill

Marc"

Gonna be honest, I read it, did my original reply then forgot so replied again

Okay OP. Apologies. If she is genuinely behind ya being on here, then cool

But my point still stands - we can’t solve this for ya. You need to talk to her

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Maybe OP if you are talking about sex as in penetration you could try other things that are also sexual.

I don’t think anything anyone can suggest will be of much help without knowing a fuller picture.

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always talked to her, nothing has changed, I am worried because she is young, only 24 years old"

Yeah I stopped regular sex when I was 18

Is she on birth control? Cause that sucked the sex drive right out of me

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Might be a health issue, really an honest conversation is needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I could get sex twice a week

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"I always talked to her, nothing has changed, I am worried because she is young, only 24 years old"

I could be stress related. There are many reasons why

Marc

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By *omething4theweekend2023Couple
over a year ago

newcastle


"hi, my girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore, only once a week twice a week, some time ago I was doing it twice a day, and she wonders why she doesn't do it so much anymore, she knows I'm here and supports me, can you help me with a advice, what can I do to make it more horrny"

Sound like you think it’s owed to you.

Nothing is more of a turn off if you feel entitled.

Make her feel special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi, my girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore, only once a week twice a week, some time ago I was doing it twice a day, and she wonders why she doesn't do it so much anymore, she knows I'm here and supports me, can you help me with a advice, what can I do to make it more horrny

Sound like you think it’s owed to you.

Nothing is more of a turn off if you feel entitled.

Make her feel special "

Also this

Focus on intimacy, rather than sex

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

How long have you been together and has anything happened recently that could affect her physically being disinterested in sex? Like, has she just given birth or something?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I always talked to her, nothing has changed, I am worried because she is young, only 24 years old"

When I've been in a regular relationship and my sex drive dried up, it's because a) my stress level killed it, b) the person available to have sex with is upsetting me or stressing me out or not giving me what I need, or c) a health problem.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Wish I could get sex twice a week "

I'd go for once a week be a good start I remember back in the day when I was young I had sex 365 times year or more on principle granted that wasn't every day of the year but I was young we have sex all day then so it soon added up for the days you didn't to make my yearly total .

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Twice a day is probably quite unrealistic to sustain

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Twice a day is probably quite unrealistic to sustain "

It wasn't when I was young and it isn't now given the opportunity .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean she only wants it once or twice with you OP

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Sex doesn't start with sex it starts with actions throughout the day, are you still as complimentary as you were, still flirt with each other, the random ass grabs, kisses, hugs, date nights etc.... The loss of these things can have a big impact on sex for me.

Mrs "

exactly this. It’s the little things that make the big difference

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Wish I could get sex twice a week "

Once a week would be a bonus lol

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Sex doesn't start with sex it starts with actions throughout the day, are you still as complimentary as you were, still flirt with each other, the random ass grabs, kisses, hugs, date nights etc.... The loss of these things can have a big impact on sex for me.

Mrs

exactly this. It’s the little things that make the big difference "

Also do things to help with the housework .but the most important thing is throught about her needs and what please her .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice a week. No need to brag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's quite common for established couples to grow apart sexually

I don't give much thought to how often we have sex

I do so knowing that when we do, it is natural, unplanned or mutually consenting

I would find nothing horny about sex that I thought the other person was just not that into or just going through the motions for me

Go have a wank

When you have a clear head, think about all the positives in your relationship and not the perceived negatives

Concentrate on that

I can't speak for others, but there isn't much that turns me off more than someone pushing me for sex at their pace, not mine

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

You're looking at a symptom not the problem. Is she happy, how's her health, stress? Has she young children?

I'm reluctant to suggest any action because I don't know the circumstances. But I will say one thing. Don't having feeling her pressured, that will backfire so quick.

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