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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If someone asks you "How are you? generally (not just on fab)

Do you answer honestly or sidestep the question?

My go to reply is "I'm fine" even though that us is so far from the truth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My response is ‘not too bad actually’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone asks you "How are you? generally (not just on fab)

Do you answer honestly or sidestep the question?

My go to reply is "I'm fine" even though that us is so far from the truth x"

I'm fine is default most times I am anything but though..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends who it is, as to how much i want to burden them if I'm low. Thete are a couple of people that if they catch me at the right time I'll tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you are OK Sparkle (echoing M Pickles). From an earlier post it does sound as though things have not been smooth in the past (understatement).

Fine here honestly, just not on top of work.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

In person, unless it's from someone I know actually gives a shit and has a genuine reason to ask me that question, the answer is "Fine, but why are we doing small talk?"

Random nobodies on here just get a flat "Fine."

When I believe someone is asking me because they're genuinely interested in how I'm feeling there's a proper answer.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Always with good thanks you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends who it is, as to how much i want to burden them if I'm low. Thete are a couple of people that if they catch me at the right time I'll tell them"

I’m with midnight here, there are a very small number of people I would feel ok about sharing the low feelings with. Mostly I’m a “not bad”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone asks you "How are you? generally (not just on fab)

Do you answer honestly or sidestep the question?

My go to reply is "I'm fine" even though that us is so far from the truth x"

Well normally its "I'm good thanks you?" If its someone I don't really know but if it's a close mate I would say "actually... I'm struggling"

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Are you ok? "

It would be a bit ironic now of me to say I'm fine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone asks you "How are you? generally (not just on fab)

Do you answer honestly or sidestep the question?

My go to reply is "I'm fine" even though that us is so far from the truth x"

I answer honestly.

After the first torrent of existential crises laced with waves of nihilistic dread topped off with whimsical notions that driving into traffic might be my best solution to todays problems...

They never ask twice.

Modern problems, modern solutions.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Sorry to hear things are tough for you.

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Sorry to hear things are tough for you. "

Thank you....I'll survive and hopefully come out the other side stronger x

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ask this question twice.... the first response will always be im ok... the second one... take a pause and look into their eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like when someone asks that question they aren’t looking for a truthful answer so I always just say I’m fine.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Just remember you are not alone! We all have good and bad days. Hugs xox

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Not matter how crap or bad thing are I'll always say yeah good and you?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Same answer, everytime.

“ sound mate “

My problems are nobody else’s, so why do they need to hear them.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always answer good thanks even if I'm dying inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it is. A lot of the time I just do the standard “yeah all good”

Mr

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Rarely answer honestly as most people don't honestly care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually go for "meh"

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Generally, I'll say I'm okay or good thanks

Because generally, I am

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I go honestly and humour it up a little, if I'm not too tired

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

It’s the standard “not bad, how about you”, unless I know them well and the circumstances are right- then it’s more honest!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Always reply I'll live hopefully

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Or bust out into a song I'll survive

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

When someone asks 'how are you', they seldom want to know.

It can be hard to deflect when you're desperate to tell someone you're feeling shit.

It's the standard greeting in the shops here, never can I help you. Mr literal here had big problems with that one.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

For some reason if anyone asks me this I really really hate it. I go out of my way not to answer it like out of extreme stubbornness. I mean.... how are you? I'm fine thanks, how are you? fine thanks, and I fell asleep already. I seem to have a small talk phobia. I just completely ignore the question and ask them a more interesting question.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I just answer 'I am very good thanks'. Could mean a lot of things

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I am good , very good as I always am. Is usually the reply from me

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I always say I'm ok ..I'm getting there ..lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to answer honestly but without to much detail…

“I’m good thanks”

“No to bad, thanks”

“Shattered”

With friends I do have on here I will open up a little more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always fine. Even when I’m not.

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’m always fine. Even when I’m not. "

This is me. No-one is really interested or bothered at the end of the day x

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Side step as much as possible. I find that there's very few people who actually want to know.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m always fine. Even when I’m not.

This is me. No-one is really interested or bothered at the end of the day x"

That’s how I see it. Nobody really want a truthful answer, do they?

I’m pretty shit, do you have a few hours to talk me through it all untill I come out the other side and start talking about normal stuff? That’s what I sometimes want to say.

But saying I’m fine, keeps their day a bit brighter by me not bringing their mood down to mine. You know.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If I'm normally in a good mood then I reply with something other than the usual response.

Saying 'marvellous', 'peachy' or 'superb' are common for me.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Usually reply with, could be worse, could be better

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"I’m always fine. Even when I’m not.

This is me. No-one is really interested or bothered at the end of the day x"

I wouldn't say that no one is but the majority wouldn't be equipped or willing for a honest answer

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

I tell them that my life is sunshine and rainbows, with a splattering of slef-pity self-loathing and general malaise

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"If someone asks you "How are you? generally (not just on fab)

Do you answer honestly or sidestep the question?

My go to reply is "I'm fine" even though that us is so far from the truth x"

I’m good thanks. How are you?

Unless it’s someone I fancy then I normally reply FAF

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"My response is ‘not too bad actually’"

I hate that , it’s such an English thing though!

I’m learning Arabic so currently they get badly pronounced versions of peace be with you or something

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Our bio asks for a bit more and to engage us, people who make an effort get a good reply and some have even been told where they might find us when we go to a club. But, generic "hey" messages generally get ignored.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I very often tell them how I actually feel, which is generally not what they want!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

If someone asks me and I think they really want to know? I'll tell them. Sometimes it might be ND waffle!

Most of the time I'm quite closed off so I'll side step and ask them questions - I know I have a real interest in the person if I ask it and I'm there for the good, the bad and the ugly.

I hate small talk, it's really rather dull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 didn't realise so many other people have the same mindset as me - if I know someone is being genuine they might get a brief breakdown of what is going on, other than that it's usually, fine thanks, how are you.

My ex best mate and ex wife pretty much destroyed my faith in people caring how I feel.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

On here "I'm fine" unless it's a person I've met and feel comfortable with. In general only close friends and family get the reality

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