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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve just been watching The Anti Depressant Story on BBC1. Having just qualified as a prescriber, it’s a real sticking point for me. Clinicians often don’t warn patients about the effect Anti depressants can have on libido and ability to orgasm. I’m really interested to hear from any of you about your experiences with these drugs, and how they may/ may NOT have affected your sex lives.

It’s personal stuff, and if you prefer to PM me, that’s fine. I’m only interested in the effect of the drugs on sex, I don’t want to hear anyone’s mental health stories- no offence intended.

Thank you for any contributions x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It’s really difficult to say what the effect of the medication was; by the time I was in a state to need them I wasn’t feeling especially sexual anyway.

On balance I’d say it didn’t change my libido much (bearing in mind what I wrote above) but it did seem to reduce my ability to orgasm. I also remember it took a while to come back after I stopped taking them.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

#It can cause ED/ delayed orgasm and bowel complaints that lead to things like Divertculuar Disease.

These side effects can stay years after the medication has ended. Doctors don't realise this happens.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

I am curious too ! My libido has always been high but orgasm varies so I'm wondering if it correlated with meds.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I was on and off them for years, I didn't think it was possible for me to orgasm. But after stopping, I found out I could!

I was also celibate for many of those years as I had no interest in sex at all.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

I'd be interested in knowing the % that experienced no impact on their sex lives.

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By *ohndom2023Man
over a year ago

Hastings/Greenwich

I was taking for six months in which time my libido sunk to zero level.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax


"#It can cause ED/ delayed orgasm and bowel complaints that lead to things like Divertculuar Disease.

These side effects can stay years after the medication has ended. Doctors don't realise this happens. "

That is not quite true about Diviculuar Disease been caused by anti depressants...some can cause constipation that can worsen the symptoms but it doesn't cause the disease.

Diviculitus is the pockets of the bowel swelling & getting infected due to wear & tear on the bowel.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Well I’m on certain anti-depressants for anxiety and my sex drive is pretty much non existent. That said I’m also perimenopausal so it could be that or a combination of the both.

If I was in a relationship I’d maybe be more concerned about it, but as I’m single I’d rather just go with the non sexual flow rather than endure the anxiety I was suffering and which has been lifted. And it’s literally like a weight has been lifted.

When I’ve (rarely) masturbated I’ve been unable to orgasm as well so that was just frustrating. So I’ve stopped doing that too.

However, being happier and less anxious is for me far more important than getting to do the sex (sporadically) as I was. At the moment, at least.

I’ve not mentioned the lack of sex drive to a Dr as frankly I’m just glad the anxiety has gone.

As I say, if I were in a relationship I’d be more concerned about it, but as it stands, I’m good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on them for a few years. I can’t cum easily on them. But it really does quieten the noise in my head so it’s worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"#It can cause ED/ delayed orgasm and bowel complaints that lead to things like Divertculuar Disease.

These side effects can stay years after the medication has ended. Doctors don't realise this happens. "

I think a lot of Doctors do realise, and I’m certainly in the process of educating them. The issue is that, in balance, the depression and anxiety need treating, and there is so little time to counsel.

Thanks for your contribution.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s really difficult to say what the effect of the medication was; by the time I was in a state to need them I wasn’t feeling especially sexual anyway.

On balance I’d say it didn’t change my libido much (bearing in mind what I wrote above) but it did seem to reduce my ability to orgasm. I also remember it took a while to come back after I stopped taking them."

But it did come back? Good news. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am curious too ! My libido has always been high but orgasm varies so I'm wondering if it correlated with meds. "

Yes, quite likely. We do prescribe for PE (off licence), so there is a flip side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"#It can cause ED/ delayed orgasm and bowel complaints that lead to things like Divertculuar Disease.

These side effects can stay years after the medication has ended. Doctors don't realise this happens.

That is not quite true about Diviculuar Disease been caused by anti depressants...some can cause constipation that can worsen the symptoms but it doesn't cause the disease.

Diviculitus is the pockets of the bowel swelling & getting infected due to wear & tear on the bowel. "

Yes to this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I’m on certain anti-depressants for anxiety and my sex drive is pretty much non existent. That said I’m also perimenopausal so it could be that or a combination of the both.

If I was in a relationship I’d maybe be more concerned about it, but as I’m single I’d rather just go with the non sexual flow rather than endure the anxiety I was suffering and which has been lifted. And it’s literally like a weight has been lifted.

When I’ve (rarely) masturbated I’ve been unable to orgasm as well so that was just frustrating. So I’ve stopped doing that too.

However, being happier and less anxious is for me far more important than getting to do the sex (sporadically) as I was. At the moment, at least.

I’ve not mentioned the lack of sex drive to a Dr as frankly I’m just glad the anxiety has gone.

As I say, if I were in a relationship I’d be more concerned about it, but as it stands, I’m good."

Thank you for your reply. This is what I always have to carefully weigh up- the cost/ benefit. I’m glad things have improved for you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on them for a few years. I can’t cum easily on them. But it really does quieten the noise in my head so it’s worth it. "

Yeah, I get that. My own head is overloaded, but I can’t take them.

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By *ye ManMan
over a year ago

Weymouth

I was on them for 9 months a few years back. There were some side effects. In terms of sexually, it didn’t affect my libido but did make it harder to organism. However, this worked out favourably as I was able to last significantly longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just been watching The Anti Depressant Story on BBC1. Having just qualified as a prescriber, it’s a real sticking point for me. Clinicians often don’t warn patients about the effect Anti depressants can have on libido and ability to orgasm. I’m really interested to hear from any of you about your experiences with these drugs, and how they may/ may NOT have affected your sex lives.

It’s personal stuff, and if you prefer to PM me, that’s fine. I’m only interested in the effect of the drugs on sex, I don’t want to hear anyone’s mental health stories- no offence intended.

Thank you for any contributions x"

I have been on and off citalopram for years. While it helps with depression and anxiety, it always leaves me feeling numb and i don't like not being able to feel. I'd rather feel the sadness and find a way of dealing with it - I've had this discussion a lot recently with the various medical people i see. My libido tends not to be affected - i have a high sex drive anyway, and actually want more sex when I'm feeling down, which i suppose is the same as someone else drinking more to numb the pain. Anyway, when I take citalopram (I haven't for quite a while now) it basically steals my orgasm and it is the most frustrating thing ever. You feel like you're about to cum, it builds up and feels amazing then just suddenly goes away. I discussed this with a GP years ago, and she said, "Do you not think your mental health is more important than your sex life"...I said the loss of orgasm was frustrating and contributing to my feeling crap. I've previously also tried fluoxetine and sertraline but the side effects were awful for me, I can't comment on the effect on orgasm or libido with them as I felt properly psychotic with them.

Mrs

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"#It can cause ED/ delayed orgasm and bowel complaints that lead to things like Divertculuar Disease.

These side effects can stay years after the medication has ended. Doctors don't realise this happens.

That is not quite true about Diviculuar Disease been caused by anti depressants...some can cause constipation that can worsen the symptoms but it doesn't cause the disease.

Diviculitus is the pockets of the bowel swelling & getting infected due to wear & tear on the bowel. "

Wear and tear, you say? Well, I AM speaking from experience and my bowels were getting hammered. I was on Citalopram then sertraline and having the trots on the hour every hour was not what I was expecting.

This has put me off those meds like that for life, and that was several years ago.

Here's an excerpt to back up my experience.....listed as rare

For Healthcare Professionals

Applies to citalopram: oral capsule, oral solution, oral tablet.

General

The side effects observed with citalopram in clinical trials were generally reported as mild and transient, occurring most frequently in the first 1 to 2 weeks of therapy, and attenuating subsequently. The most commonly reported side effects were nausea, somnolence, dry mouth, increased sweating, tremor, diarrhea, and ejaculation disorder.[Ref]

Gastrointestinal

Very common (10% or more): Nausea (up to 21.4%), dry mouth (up to 20%)

Common (1% to 10%): Abdominal pain, constipation, diarrhea, dyspepsia, flatulence, increased saliva, taste loss/perversion, vomiting

Uncommon (0.1% to 1%): Abnormal bleeding (predominantly of the mucous membranes), dysphagia, eructation, esophagitis, gastrointestinal bleeding, gastritis, gastroenteritis, gingivitis, hemorrhoids, stomatitis, teeth grinding

Rare (less than 0.1%): Colitis, diverticulitis, duodenal ulcer, gastric ulcer,

I've got this one too!

(gastroesophageal reflux aka GERD/GORD) or long term heartburn

, gingival bleeding, glossitis, rectal hemorrhage

Frequency not reported: Gastrointestinal hemorrhage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on them for a few years. I can’t cum easily on them. But it really does quieten the noise in my head so it’s worth it.

Yeah, I get that. My own head is overloaded, but I can’t take them. "

Therapy helped me but find it best alongside them. I do hope to come off them in time and I guess I’ll find other ways to quieten the noise.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

Been on them changed to wellbutrin got it in USA.Only one that didn't stop orgasms.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve just been watching The Anti Depressant Story on BBC1. Having just qualified as a prescriber, it’s a real sticking point for me. Clinicians often don’t warn patients about the effect Anti depressants can have on libido and ability to orgasm. I’m really interested to hear from any of you about your experiences with these drugs, and how they may/ may NOT have affected your sex lives.

It’s personal stuff, and if you prefer to PM me, that’s fine. I’m only interested in the effect of the drugs on sex, I don’t want to hear anyone’s mental health stories- no offence intended.

Thank you for any contributions x

I have been on and off citalopram for years. While it helps with depression and anxiety, it always leaves me feeling numb and i don't like not being able to feel. I'd rather feel the sadness and find a way of dealing with it - I've had this discussion a lot recently with the various medical people i see. My libido tends not to be affected - i have a high sex drive anyway, and actually want more sex when I'm feeling down, which i suppose is the same as someone else drinking more to numb the pain. Anyway, when I take citalopram (I haven't for quite a while now) it basically steals my orgasm and it is the most frustrating thing ever. You feel like you're about to cum, it builds up and feels amazing then just suddenly goes away. I discussed this with a GP years ago, and she said, "Do you not think your mental health is more important than your sex life"...I said the loss of orgasm was frustrating and contributing to my feeling crap. I've previously also tried fluoxetine and sertraline but the side effects were awful for me, I can't comment on the effect on orgasm or libido with them as I felt properly psychotic with them.

Mrs"

Thanks for your reply. It’s a minefield hey? Sex is so important, I wish more doctors would understand the seriousness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on them changed to wellbutrin got it in USA.Only one that didn't stop orgasms."

Yeah- it’s unfortunately not licensed here in the uk. It works really well for smoking cessation too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t comment on the science of it all I can say is that I’ve been on fluoxetine for last 11 years now and the only issues I had were at the start when sex was the absolute last thing on my mind anyway, all I wanted was to get through the day.

I’ve tried coming off a few times now and with the stories in the news today it makes me think about it again but experience has told me that I’m better with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can’t comment on the science of it all I can say is that I’ve been on fluoxetine for last 11 years now and the only issues I had were at the start when sex was the absolute last thing on my mind anyway, all I wanted was to get through the day.

I’ve tried coming off a few times now and with the stories in the news today it makes me think about it again but experience has told me that I’m better with them."

You do what feels right. There is science, and there is patient experience. I know which one I take more notice of.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I’ve just been watching The Anti Depressant Story on BBC1. Having just qualified as a prescriber, it’s a real sticking point for me. Clinicians often don’t warn patients about the effect Anti depressants can have on libido and ability to orgasm. I’m really interested to hear from any of you about your experiences with these drugs, and how they may/ may NOT have affected your sex lives.

It’s personal stuff, and if you prefer to PM me, that’s fine. I’m only interested in the effect of the drugs on sex, I don’t want to hear anyone’s mental health stories- no offence intended.

Thank you for any contributions x

I have been on and off citalopram for years. While it helps with depression and anxiety, it always leaves me feeling numb and i don't like not being able to feel. I'd rather feel the sadness and find a way of dealing with it - I've had this discussion a lot recently with the various medical people i see. My libido tends not to be affected - i have a high sex drive anyway, and actually want more sex when I'm feeling down, which i suppose is the same as someone else drinking more to numb the pain. Anyway, when I take citalopram (I haven't for quite a while now) it basically steals my orgasm and it is the most frustrating thing ever. You feel like you're about to cum, it builds up and feels amazing then just suddenly goes away. I discussed this with a GP years ago, and she said, "Do you not think your mental health is more important than your sex life"...I said the loss of orgasm was frustrating and contributing to my feeling crap. I've previously also tried fluoxetine and sertraline but the side effects were awful for me, I can't comment on the effect on orgasm or libido with them as I felt properly psychotic with them.

Mrs

Thanks for your reply. It’s a minefield hey? Sex is so important, I wish more doctors would understand the seriousness. "

There are CB therapists that hate these meds with a vengeance, as it's a case of "harmaceuticals", that swap one set of symptoms for several more.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax


"#It can cause ED/ delayed orgasm and bowel complaints that lead to things like Divertculuar Disease.

These side effects can stay years after the medication has ended. Doctors don't realise this happens.

That is not quite true about Diviculuar Disease been caused by anti depressants...some can cause constipation that can worsen the symptoms but it doesn't cause the disease.

Diviculitus is the pockets of the bowel swelling & getting infected due to wear & tear on the bowel.

Wear and tear, you say? Well, I AM speaking from experience and my bowels were getting hammered. I was on Citalopram then sertraline and having the trots on the hour every hour was not what I was expecting.

This has put me off those meds like that for life, and that was several years ago.

Here's an excerpt to back up my experience.....listed as rare

For Healthcare Professionals

Applies to citalopram: oral capsule, oral solution, oral tablet.

General

The side effects observed with citalopram in clinical trials were generally reported as mild and transient, occurring most frequently in the first 1 to 2 weeks of therapy, and attenuating subsequently. The most commonly reported side effects were nausea, somnolence, dry mouth, increased sweating, tremor, diarrhea, and ejaculation disorder.[Ref]

Gastrointestinal

Very common (10% or more): Nausea (up to 21.4%), dry mouth (up to 20%)

Common (1% to 10%): Abdominal pain, constipation, diarrhea, dyspepsia, flatulence, increased saliva, taste loss/perversion, vomiting

Uncommon (0.1% to 1%): Abnormal bleeding (predominantly of the mucous membranes), dysphagia, eructation, esophagitis, gastrointestinal bleeding, gastritis, gastroenteritis, gingivitis, hemorrhoids, stomatitis, teeth grinding

Rare (less than 0.1%): Colitis, diverticulitis, duodenal ulcer, gastric ulcer,

I've got this one too!

(gastroesophageal reflux aka GERD/GORD) or long term heartburn

, gingival bleeding, glossitis, rectal hemorrhage

Frequency not reported: Gastrointestinal hemorrhage

."

I reiterate I'm not saying it doesn't contribute towards making Divicular Diseases worse but it doesn't cause them.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I was on them and I usually struggle to orgasm without but with them I could try for a few hours and nothing, they didn't affect my sex drive but orgasms were very evasive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve just been watching The Anti Depressant Story on BBC1. Having just qualified as a prescriber, it’s a real sticking point for me. Clinicians often don’t warn patients about the effect Anti depressants can have on libido and ability to orgasm. I’m really interested to hear from any of you about your experiences with these drugs, and how they may/ may NOT have affected your sex lives.

It’s personal stuff, and if you prefer to PM me, that’s fine. I’m only interested in the effect of the drugs on sex, I don’t want to hear anyone’s mental health stories- no offence intended.

Thank you for any contributions x

I have been on and off citalopram for years. While it helps with depression and anxiety, it always leaves me feeling numb and i don't like not being able to feel. I'd rather feel the sadness and find a way of dealing with it - I've had this discussion a lot recently with the various medical people i see. My libido tends not to be affected - i have a high sex drive anyway, and actually want more sex when I'm feeling down, which i suppose is the same as someone else drinking more to numb the pain. Anyway, when I take citalopram (I haven't for quite a while now) it basically steals my orgasm and it is the most frustrating thing ever. You feel like you're about to cum, it builds up and feels amazing then just suddenly goes away. I discussed this with a GP years ago, and she said, "Do you not think your mental health is more important than your sex life"...I said the loss of orgasm was frustrating and contributing to my feeling crap. I've previously also tried fluoxetine and sertraline but the side effects were awful for me, I can't comment on the effect on orgasm or libido with them as I felt properly psychotic with them.

Mrs

Thanks for your reply. It’s a minefield hey? Sex is so important, I wish more doctors would understand the seriousness.

There are CB therapists that hate these meds with a vengeance, as it's a case of "harmaceuticals", that swap one set of symptoms for several more."

Likewise, there are many therapists who recommend them as adjunct treatment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was on them and I usually struggle to orgasm without but with them I could try for a few hours and nothing, they didn't affect my sex drive but orgasms were very evasive "

Bad for you, but sounds like a whole long night of fun for your partner.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been on antidepressants since way before I was sexually active. None of the ones I've been on (I'm treatment resistant, I've been on about 12?) have had sexual side effects for me. Or at least, while I've been sexually active I cum easily, quickly, and repeatedly.

Untreated or insufficiently treated depression/anxiety kills my libido stone cold dead

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I don't take antidepressants for depression but two of my pain meds are on the list... it has dampened my drive a little but as it was already off the chart I've not noticed any real ill effects to be fair.

I am still multi orgasmic and some annoying men in my life can get me there in minutes

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"I’ve just been watching The Anti Depressant Story on BBC1. Having just qualified as a prescriber, it’s a real sticking point for me. Clinicians often don’t warn patients about the effect Anti depressants can have on libido and ability to orgasm. I’m really interested to hear from any of you about your experiences with these drugs, and how they may/ may NOT have affected your sex lives.

It’s personal stuff, and if you prefer to PM me, that’s fine. I’m only interested in the effect of the drugs on sex, I don’t want to hear anyone’s mental health stories- no offence intended.

Thank you for any contributions x"

This explains a lot - No orgasms? It seems everyone I’ve ever shagged had been on anti-depressants beforehand (and I thought it would just be afterwards)

Standard disclaimer which I should maybe introduce to all my posts:

“I’m just joking.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started on antidepressants,it was practically impossible to orgasm, I could go ages.About a year later everything came back to normal.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I was on them and I usually struggle to orgasm without but with them I could try for a few hours and nothing, they didn't affect my sex drive but orgasms were very evasive

Bad for you, but sounds like a whole long night of fun for your partner. "

I can still provide that now, I don't rush. It was really frustrating though, like watching a good movie and feeling like there wasn't a proper end to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I've been on all sorts for years, PTSD, depression, anxiety etc. The last two years of swinging, I've never been able to cum on a meet. I could with my ex but that's because she knew what buttons to press to get me there.

It felt great, fucking like a porn star for the last few years. Especially in open rooms.

A load of shit happened and and I'm now separated, I'm not on any tablets and it's made me horny as hell. Just constant sexy, naughty thoughts after naughty thoughts.

I've not had a meet since I stopped taking the tablets and separated from the X. I'm worried that it's going to be a pump pump squirt moment after all these years

I've had such a mental block on for years and now feel so free and lifted, but at the same time shit scared.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

My wife has been on Setraline or Citralopan for 15 of the last 17 years. When combined with the menopause her libido has gone through the floor. We do have sex occasionally, mainly because she knows that I enjoy it and she does have some intense orgasms however she shows no interest in initiating it and if it wasn't for my interest in the intimate side of our marriage I doubt she'd ever be interested in having sex again.

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Chipping Norton


"I was on them and I usually struggle to orgasm without but with them I could try for a few hours and nothing, they didn't affect my sex drive but orgasms were very evasive

Bad for you, but sounds like a whole long night of fun for your partner. "

That inability to climax was the same for me during a brief period on sertraline. Years ago now, and everything normalised fine off the drug.

Sounds potentially fun for partners, but it wasn't. Nothing's more essential for good sex than that feeling of mutual enjoyment. For one partner to be frustrated (and feel things aren't going normally for them) always communicates itself.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I was on them and I usually struggle to orgasm without but with them I could try for a few hours and nothing, they didn't affect my sex drive but orgasms were very evasive

Bad for you, but sounds like a whole long night of fun for your partner.

That inability to climax was the same for me during a brief period on sertraline. Years ago now, and everything normalised fine off the drug.

Sounds potentially fun for partners, but it wasn't. Nothing's more essential for good sex than that feeling of mutual enjoyment. For one partner to be frustrated (and feel things aren't going normally for them) always communicates itself."

That's the stuff I was on, ruined my relationship as well when we had a stupid argument because I just didn't have any emotion at the time. Stopped taking them shortly after and about a month later all the hurt hit me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was on them and I usually struggle to orgasm without but with them I could try for a few hours and nothing, they didn't affect my sex drive but orgasms were very evasive

Bad for you, but sounds like a whole long night of fun for your partner.

That inability to climax was the same for me during a brief period on sertraline. Years ago now, and everything normalised fine off the drug.

Sounds potentially fun for partners, but it wasn't. Nothing's more essential for good sex than that feeling of mutual enjoyment. For one partner to be frustrated (and feel things aren't going normally for them) always communicates itself.

That's the stuff I was on, ruined my relationship as well when we had a stupid argument because I just didn't have any emotion at the time. Stopped taking them shortly after and about a month later all the hurt hit me "

Umm, so I have around a week or two left before I have a potential breakdown I thought everything would of been put my system now.

Anybody wanna meet in the next week?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I was on them and I usually struggle to orgasm without but with them I could try for a few hours and nothing, they didn't affect my sex drive but orgasms were very evasive

Bad for you, but sounds like a whole long night of fun for your partner.

That inability to climax was the same for me during a brief period on sertraline. Years ago now, and everything normalised fine off the drug.

Sounds potentially fun for partners, but it wasn't. Nothing's more essential for good sex than that feeling of mutual enjoyment. For one partner to be frustrated (and feel things aren't going normally for them) always communicates itself.

That's the stuff I was on, ruined my relationship as well when we had a stupid argument because I just didn't have any emotion at the time. Stopped taking them shortly after and about a month later all the hurt hit me

Umm, so I have around a week or two left before I have a potential breakdown I thought everything would of been put my system now.

Anybody wanna meet in the next week? "

I'd say if you just stopped taking them it will hit you, if you weaned yourself off gradually like meant to, should be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine removed my ability to orgasm completely, which isn't a problem for me.

My issue is we're too quick to be given them. Ive been told it's anxiety and depression for 15 years, turns out I'm autistic, and didnt need anti depressants.

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Chipping Norton

Definitely worth weaning the dose rather than stopping cold; takes time for your body to get used to them not being there.

Full of side effects, drugs, but sometimes worth it overall. Lovely to be completely free of them, but that's good fortune not moral superiority. Nothing worse than feeling derailed by anxiety or sunk by depression. If that's the case for you, may it pass & I wish you sunnier days ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I weaned myself of Tramadol a year or two ago, all the tablets I was on 3 or 4 weeks ago I just stopped but at the moment feeling great.

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over a year ago


"Mine removed my ability to orgasm completely, which isn't a problem for me.

My issue is we're too quick to be given them. Ive been told it's anxiety and depression for 15 years, turns out I'm autistic, and didnt need anti depressants. "

I've been told by a few mental health experts over the last few years that I need to be tested for Autism. It's so obvious if you know me and makes so much sense, just never got round to doing it but I really should now I'm on my own. Still have the anxiety but I'm working on myself and I'll get there.

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By *irwolf20Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I've been various meds for depression, stress and anxiety.. I've been prescribed Sertraline, Propranolol, Paroxetine(Seroxat),Mirtazapine on and off since 1995 and last prescribed Sertraline Mirtazapine 2019 and 2020. I've struggled with orgasm via intercourse since around 2000, wasn't really an issue, because, as has been said it can make you look pretty good as you can keep going till you or her are knackered. It's only in the last few years that it's started to bother me (not as young as I was 20 years ago lol). But as my prescriptions were usually only a month or two every now an then over the years, I just thought it was a psychological block on my part. I never knew about the side effects on your sex life until fairly recently.

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By *irwolf20Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton


"Mine removed my ability to orgasm completely, which isn't a problem for me.

My issue is we're too quick to be given them. Ive been told it's anxiety and depression for 15 years, turns out I'm autistic, and didnt need anti depressants.

I've been told by a few mental health experts over the last few years that I need to be tested for Autism. It's so obvious if you know me and makes so much sense, just never got round to doing it but I really should now I'm on my own. Still have the anxiety but I'm working on myself and I'll get there."

I raised my concerns to my doctor about possibly being on the spectrum in 2020 when I had depression after my marriage ended..my ex & I suspected for some time, she'd noticed how similar I was to her son who is diagnosed high functioning Autistic. I had no idea what ASD was other what you see in movies... meeting my stepson seemed to burst my protective bubble and I saw many of his issues he was having growing up in myself as a kid and explained why I struggled as an adult too.. when I mentioned this to my doctor, he laughed and said 'you couldn't he on the spectrum cos if you were you wouldn't have managed to come to see me to talk about it.' And prescribed Sertraline. Would love a definitive diagnosis, but without my quacks referral I have no idea how to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine removed my ability to orgasm completely, which isn't a problem for me.

My issue is we're too quick to be given them. Ive been told it's anxiety and depression for 15 years, turns out I'm autistic, and didnt need anti depressants.

I've been told by a few mental health experts over the last few years that I need to be tested for Autism. It's so obvious if you know me and makes so much sense, just never got round to doing it but I really should now I'm on my own. Still have the anxiety but I'm working on myself and I'll get there.

I raised my concerns to my doctor about possibly being on the spectrum in 2020 when I had depression after my marriage ended..my ex & I suspected for some time, she'd noticed how similar I was to her son who is diagnosed high functioning Autistic. I had no idea what ASD was other what you see in movies... meeting my stepson seemed to burst my protective bubble and I saw many of his issues he was having growing up in myself as a kid and explained why I struggled as an adult too.. when I mentioned this to my doctor, he laughed and said 'you couldn't he on the spectrum cos if you were you wouldn't have managed to come to see me to talk about it.' And prescribed Sertraline. Would love a definitive diagnosis, but without my quacks referral I have no idea how to."
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That is nearly a spitting image of my story. Although I have not been to the doctor's about it as I put a very good mask on things and without realising it, relied on my X for a lot.

Regarding the docs, they are fucking useless. Can't get help without seeing someone, go to someone and get told you looked for help so it's not that.

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over a year ago


"Mine removed my ability to orgasm completely, which isn't a problem for me.

My issue is we're too quick to be given them. Ive been told it's anxiety and depression for 15 years, turns out I'm autistic, and didnt need anti depressants.

Reluctant as I am to jump in here, as my post was only to ask about sexual function, I’m sorry to hear your GP experience has been so negative. Unfortunately though, as it requires funding, an ASC referral must go through GP.

Hope you get sorted.

I've been told by a few mental health experts over the last few years that I need to be tested for Autism. It's so obvious if you know me and makes so much sense, just never got round to doing it but I really should now I'm on my own. Still have the anxiety but I'm working on myself and I'll get there.

I raised my concerns to my doctor about possibly being on the spectrum in 2020 when I had depression after my marriage ended..my ex & I suspected for some time, she'd noticed how similar I was to her son who is diagnosed high functioning Autistic. I had no idea what ASD was other what you see in movies... meeting my stepson seemed to burst my protective bubble and I saw many of his issues he was having growing up in myself as a kid and explained why I struggled as an adult too.. when I mentioned this to my doctor, he laughed and said 'you couldn't he on the spectrum cos if you were you wouldn't have managed to come to see me to talk about it.' And prescribed Sertraline. Would love a definitive diagnosis, but without my quacks referral I have no idea how to..

That is nearly a spitting image of my story. Although I have not been to the doctor's about it as I put a very good mask on things and without realising it, relied on my X for a lot.

Regarding the docs, they are fucking useless. Can't get help without seeing someone, go to someone and get told you looked for help so it's not that.

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By *egoMan
over a year ago

Preston

For me, citralapram was vital. However, curiously I could still have sex. But never climax.

Still not my normal level of hormones. But would rather not feel suicidal.

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By *uksungCouple
over a year ago

wednesbury

I was on mirtazapine for 5 years. I can confirm it did effect my sex drive. I still had sex but it wasn't at the same level and I could of easily have passed it up. I've been off them now for a while and back to normal.

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over a year ago


"I’ve just been watching The Anti Depressant Story on BBC1. Having just qualified as a prescriber, it’s a real sticking point for me. Clinicians often don’t warn patients about the effect Anti depressants can have on libido and ability to orgasm. I’m really interested to hear from any of you about your experiences with these drugs, and how they may/ may NOT have affected your sex lives.

It’s personal stuff, and if you prefer to PM me, that’s fine. I’m only interested in the effect of the drugs on sex, I don’t want to hear anyone’s mental health stories- no offence intended.

Thank you for any contributions x

I have been on and off citalopram for years. While it helps with depression and anxiety, it always leaves me feeling numb and i don't like not being able to feel. I'd rather feel the sadness and find a way of dealing with it - I've had this discussion a lot recently with the various medical people i see. My libido tends not to be affected - i have a high sex drive anyway, and actually want more sex when I'm feeling down, which i suppose is the same as someone else drinking more to numb the pain. Anyway, when I take citalopram (I haven't for quite a while now) it basically steals my orgasm and it is the most frustrating thing ever. You feel like you're about to cum, it builds up and feels amazing then just suddenly goes away. I discussed this with a GP years ago, and she said, "Do you not think your mental health is more important than your sex life"...I said the loss of orgasm was frustrating and contributing to my feeling crap. I've previously also tried fluoxetine and sertraline but the side effects were awful for me, I can't comment on the effect on orgasm or libido with them as I felt properly psychotic with them.

Mrs

Thanks for your reply. It’s a minefield hey? Sex is so important, I wish more doctors would understand the seriousness.

There are CB therapists that hate these meds with a vengeance, as it's a case of "harmaceuticals", that swap one set of symptoms for several more."

My therapist is one of these people. She totally respects the fact that sometimes medicines are required in the appropriate circumstances, but she'd rather work with you to un-knot your head and get to the root of what's fucking up your mental health. I appreciate that's not right for everyone but it's working for me

Mrs

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over a year ago


"I’ve just been watching The Anti Depressant Story on BBC1. Having just qualified as a prescriber, it’s a real sticking point for me. Clinicians often don’t warn patients about the effect Anti depressants can have on libido and ability to orgasm. I’m really interested to hear from any of you about your experiences with these drugs, and how they may/ may NOT have affected your sex lives.

It’s personal stuff, and if you prefer to PM me, that’s fine. I’m only interested in the effect of the drugs on sex, I don’t want to hear anyone’s mental health stories- no offence intended.

Thank you for any contributions x

I have been on and off citalopram for years. While it helps with depression and anxiety, it always leaves me feeling numb and i don't like not being able to feel. I'd rather feel the sadness and find a way of dealing with it - I've had this discussion a lot recently with the various medical people i see. My libido tends not to be affected - i have a high sex drive anyway, and actually want more sex when I'm feeling down, which i suppose is the same as someone else drinking more to numb the pain. Anyway, when I take citalopram (I haven't for quite a while now) it basically steals my orgasm and it is the most frustrating thing ever. You feel like you're about to cum, it builds up and feels amazing then just suddenly goes away. I discussed this with a GP years ago, and she said, "Do you not think your mental health is more important than your sex life"...I said the loss of orgasm was frustrating and contributing to my feeling crap. I've previously also tried fluoxetine and sertraline but the side effects were awful for me, I can't comment on the effect on orgasm or libido with them as I felt properly psychotic with them.

Mrs

Thanks for your reply. It’s a minefield hey? Sex is so important, I wish more doctors would understand the seriousness. "

Exactly. If I'd been able to properly enjoy sex, it would've made me feel better about myself. Instead, the inability to orgasm made me feel frustrated and contributed to my poor mental health.

Mrs

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