FabSwingers.com forum: Are you ok?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init?

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init? "

Ok is ok, its not good is it? Its like adequate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok to me is you know, still alive and stuff.

So yeah, I'm ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“ Fairly good “ rarely elicits further comment, or even a response

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init? "

Yes. No one really cares how you are. Be tight lipped and suffer on your own.

Bollocks! People want to connect and know, they may not have the best skills at opening up a conversation but I’m sure it’s genuine. Paranoia and self doubt often rob us of having authentic connection ruin with others.

Be real.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yeah I'm fine. Which I'm completely not obviously you know it and I know it. I'm just giving you a get out of jail free card.

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By *iss_FickleWoman
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init? "

No, I thought by now we all know "it's OK, not to be ok"...

But maybe it depends who's asking & how comfortable you feel sharing your true feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess when someone asks you that question that knows you, knows something isn't okay and is hoping the answer is "no i'm not okay." but fully expects the answer to be "yes"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye not too bad = no, I’m dying inside but being terribly British about it all

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init?

Yes. No one really cares how you are. Be tight lipped and suffer on your own.

Be real. "

Erroneous ‘ruin’

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init? "

Depends what mood I'm in. If I've had enough of weird neurotypical norms I'll give someone who asks a literal answer.

How am I?

My anxiety levels are currently sky high and I'm not sure why. It's infuriating because my body has decided to feel a ton of anxiety and it's getting in the way of things I'm trying to do. Complete nuisance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init?

Yes. No one really cares how you are. Be tight lipped and suffer on your own.

Be real.

Erroneous ‘ruin’

Do a be real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah not really but yolo

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init? "

Why does it have to be to answer thst......you could answer I'm fair to middling or I'm feel middle of the road for instance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I'm fine. Which I'm completely not obviously you know it and I know it. I'm just giving you a get out of jail free card. "

I’m like this. If they then ask again you know they actually want to know and not just hoping for a get out of jail free card

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, are you ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a very good boss who used to ask people are you ok?

Yes fine thank you

Boss: ok let me try this again, are you ok? Real answer please.

I learned a lot from him.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init?

Yes. No one really cares how you are. Be tight lipped and suffer on your own.

Be real.

Erroneous ‘ruin’

Do a be real

But my face is burnt to a crisp! But for you - fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init? "

No. No the answer does not always have to be "yes" or "fine" - in a culture where we are trying to normalise talking about our mental health, and where we are promoting "it's OK not to be ok", we really need to stop saying we are fine when we aren't. And if you ask someone how they are, and they open up to you, don't ignore them or brush off their feelings...

Mrs

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By *cotsguyyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

If my response isn't "yes, all good, thanks" I find "meh" covers it all suitably.

Hope everyone is currently in a good place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly, are you ok?"

No but I don’t want to talk about it. - that’s genuine and also what I say if I’m not ok and don’t want to talk about it

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By *cotsguyyMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Talking helps

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By *asterofmaidsMan
over a year ago

Telford

"Nah not really but yolo"

Your defo a 10 x

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Firstly, are you ok?

No but I don’t want to talk about it. - that’s genuine and also what I say if I’m not ok and don’t want to talk about it"

Don't talk about it, and sit with the feelings

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

On the whole only family get the truth to that question as they are the only ones i feel comfortable with enough to burden with the truth.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yeah I'm fine is what I'll usually say

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly, are you ok?

No but I don’t want to talk about it. - that’s genuine and also what I say if I’m not ok and don’t want to talk about it

Don't talk about it, and sit with the feelings "

I actually do try to do this it’s really good

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

How was the sex? ok

were they hot? they were ok

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Firstly, are you ok?

No but I don’t want to talk about it. - that’s genuine and also what I say if I’m not ok and don’t want to talk about it

Don't talk about it, and sit with the feelings

I actually do try to do this it’s really good"

Where the greatest lessons are, learn to sit with self makes life easier

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Yeah I'm fine. Which I'm completely not obviously you know it and I know it. I'm just giving you a get out of jail free card.

I’m like this. If they then ask again you know they actually want to know and not just hoping for a get out of jail free card "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah pretty good apart from this heat !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, it generally is to be honest. I can be guilty of asking that question and not being prepared for a real answer. I wish we could normalise it more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Slowly moon walks in*

Annie, are you okay?

So, Annie, are you okay?

Sorry just had too lol. In all honestly never bottle anything in. Let it all out

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Unspoken rule. Someone who asks that doesn't mean it. It's social lubricant. A lie. I could be clearly bleeding to death and I'm yeah fine ta

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Unspoken rule. Someone who asks that doesn't mean it. It's social lubricant. A lie. I could be clearly bleeding to death and I'm yeah fine ta"

Tis but a scratch!

No it's not. Yer legs off......

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By *utterfly64Woman
over a year ago

Raynes Park

I’m ok. Thank you for asking. Home from work with a cuppa. About to get ready for dinner and a play session this evening. Bring it on!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Not at all, many people have wished that they, had not asked me that question Pickle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I’m fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *iggingMan
over a year ago

Oldham

Fair to middling.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

Meh

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It depends who asks. If it's a friend then just be honest. Strangers, well fuck them just lie ')

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

gretna

Someone asks me that - door locked - take a seat.. this could take a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pdg.... How are you OP?

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

Depends who asks the questions and my mood at the time. Sometimes I don't want to talk about it and other times I start talking and don't stop, sometimes I'm actually fine and it's not a lie, sometimes meh covers everything.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

Okay today feeling really good so just enjoying that feeling.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm pdg.... How are you OP? "

Pretty damn good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm pdg.... How are you OP?

Pretty damn good?

Yup

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

To me im starting to see my life is designed to be no more than ok with the odd highlight and downer so could be better could be worse

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I’m peachy thanks Steve, and thanks for asking.

I won’t ask you ‘cause I know you don’t wanna talk about it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Is that you Holly ?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"That’s one of them ones where the answer always has to be yes init? "

As well as could be expected in the circumstances.

This is my usual reply to the aforementioned question.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is that you Holly ?"

Yes. Thought I’d have a face pic as my profile pic for once

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bless you all I wasn’t actually asking how you are but I’m glad you’re ok and sad you’re not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find myself asking this question twice now .

“Are you okay?”, “no, really, are you okay?”

It can’t be said often enough that it is okay not to be okay.

As it is, I’m doing really good at the moment. Feel in control of things and that I’m making my life better.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Bless you all I wasn’t actually asking how you are but I’m glad you’re ok and sad you’re not

I actually feel like something out of the film Alien is happening inside me. Feels like my uterus is trying to make its way out via my belly button or something. Not pleasant.

But I'll be fine n stuff. Won't finish me off. Etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find myself asking this question twice now .

“Are you okay?”, “no, really, are you okay?”

It can’t be said often enough that it is okay not to be okay.

As it is, I’m doing really good at the moment. Feel in control of things and that I’m making my life better. "

More people like you please

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bless you all I wasn’t actually asking how you are but I’m glad you’re ok and sad you’re not

I actually feel like something out of the film Alien is happening inside me. Feels like my uterus is trying to make its way out via my belly button or something. Not pleasant.

But I'll be fine n stuff. Won't finish me off. Etc. "

True. Wanna finish me off?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope

But I'm sure their is someone in a worser position then myself so don't let it bother me

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Bless you all I wasn’t actually asking how you are but I’m glad you’re ok and sad you’re not

I actually feel like something out of the film Alien is happening inside me. Feels like my uterus is trying to make its way out via my belly button or something. Not pleasant.

But I'll be fine n stuff. Won't finish me off. Etc.

True. Wanna finish me off? "

Bins, or bike shed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bless you all I wasn’t actually asking how you are but I’m glad you’re ok and sad you’re not

I actually feel like something out of the film Alien is happening inside me. Feels like my uterus is trying to make its way out via my belly button or something. Not pleasant.

But I'll be fine n stuff. Won't finish me off. Etc.

True. Wanna finish me off?

Bins, or bike shed?"

Sofa? Mine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find myself asking this question twice now .

“Are you okay?”, “no, really, are you okay?”

It can’t be said often enough that it is okay not to be okay.

As it is, I’m doing really good at the moment. Feel in control of things and that I’m making my life better. "

Does the other person say 'am i ok... in myself?'

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Bless you all I wasn’t actually asking how you are but I’m glad you’re ok and sad you’re not

I actually feel like something out of the film Alien is happening inside me. Feels like my uterus is trying to make its way out via my belly button or something. Not pleasant.

But I'll be fine n stuff. Won't finish me off. Etc.

True. Wanna finish me off?

Bins, or bike shed?

Sofa? Mine?

I'll be with you in probably 3-4hrs

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