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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My little one is poorly. She came out in a rash on Friday which has been getting worse all day. She says it's itchy but isn't scratching loads. She now has a temperature and has started with a barking cough. She's just turned 6. Has anyone else experienced these symptoms/ know what it might be? Thanks

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By *rs and mr sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

Boldon

You best ring NHS helpline - or take her to walk in centre - she probably needs antibiotics x

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Where is the rash?.....if it's on her trunk and/or her back then seek a professional opinion straight away, any doctor worth his or her salt will be out to you post haste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but, a fever a rash and now a cough... Clearly not getting better - I would say time to check with doctors.... Out if hrs GP or even A&E....

Best wishes hope she gets well soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People are so quick to judge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was nice to get message of judgement rather than support.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are so quick to judge"

Sorry, but you left yourself wide open to that one. You only gave half the facts.

Somebody only said what I for one was thinking

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Having had personal experience of something very much like this I would ask if the Op has a car?.....if so, please don't hang around and get that child straight down to the hospital.

Chances are it's something minor, but please don't take that chance and if you have a car then use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys - I'd suggest there was confusion and miss understanding...

More importantly, did you hear back from NHS? and how's your baby? Still feverish, I'd keep an eye on that! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course as a parent myself, I hope its nothing serious and the little one is better soon x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I hope your daughter gets well soon but maybe here is not the best place to ask as we are not doctors....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having had personal experience of something very much like this I would ask if the Op has a car?.....if so, please don't hang around and get that child straight down to the hospital.

Chances are it's something minor, but please don't take that chance and if you have a car then use it."

prolly something minor, but you can't chance it... and waiting to hear back, can potentially be dangerous :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why'd you be asking on here either, especially when there's sites such as netmums etc that would be much more likely to give you some clues as to what it could be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I would assume considers people on here sincere and friendly... Only natural if you are stressed and worried that you would ask for advice and support from such people.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wasn't asking for medical advice merely trying to pass some time to stop my worrying. They called back and were unconcerned said to carry on as I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was asking on here because there always seems to be someone with an answer and yes, I felt there to be genuine people on here and other parents. I've learnt my lesson though so thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

Ring NhS asp they will be your best bet or even take them to AnE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't asking for medical advice merely trying to pass some time to stop my worrying. They called back and were unconcerned said to carry on as I am. "

Glad to hear xxx sure she would recover soon.... Prolly the rubbish weather with all the bugs in the air :-/

Still keep an eye on the temp! Can be tricky...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wee cousin developed the tell tale rash on his stomach and arms and is now very ill in hospital with meningitis

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By *ubyExpreeWoman
over a year ago

BBBW Heaven

Your 6 year old had a rash, high temperature, cough and is unwell and NHSDirect told u not to take her to hospital. In ally years in healthcare I have never heard such rubbish unless there is something your not saying. I will give you my professional advice take that child to A&E!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I would take them to ae just for my peace of mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I don't understand why'd you be asking on here either, especially when there's sites such as netmums etc that would be much more likely to give you some clues as to what it could be "

Netmums is'nt the only place on the net that has mums

OP even though they have said not to be concerned,If you are still concerned you take your child to A&E,you know them better than anyone else,hope they feel better soon

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By *nnejohnCouple
over a year ago

warrington

sounds like chicken pox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mum here 4 kids age 11-2 mine have all has similar symptoms turned out to be nasty virus just keep ur eye on temp n trust ur gut hun mum knows best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why'd you be asking on here either, especially when there's sites such as netmums etc that would be much more likely to give you some clues as to what it could be

Netmums is'nt the only place on the net that has mums

OP even though they have said not to be concerned,If you are still concerned you take your child to A&E,you know them better than anyone else,hope they feel better soon "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why'd you be asking on here either, especially when there's sites such as netmums etc that would be much more likely to give you some clues as to what it could be

Netmums is'nt the only place on the net that has mums

OP even though they have said not to be concerned,If you are still concerned you take your child to A&E,you know them better than anyone else,hope they feel better soon "

True but if you're looking for info on childhood diseases you'd be better off starting there surely, especially as they have online HV's

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Have you done the glass test for meningitis rash look it up and do it . Only offering advice with love and concern . Dad and grandad so been there got the t shirt . Hope it's not serious and little one recovers soon .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you done the glass test for meningitis rash look it up and do it . Only offering advice with love and concern . Dad and grandad so been there got the t shirt . Hope it's not serious and little one recovers soon . "

Thank you, yes, that was the first thing I did on Friday. She's asleep and comfy. She's had calpol and is drinking plenty water. If she is no better in the morning I will take her straight to the hospital. There are so many bugs going round that I felt sure someone would recognise the symptoms and be able to put my mind at rest while I waited for the callback.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I ask lots of questions on here, simply because all walks of life use the forums and there is generally someone that can answer a question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ask lots of questions on here, simply because all walks of life use the forums and there is generally someone that can answer a question"

Exactly right... and as I said before, OP didn't do anything wrong, shame we jumped to conclusions....

I personally would say, fabs is GREAT as your almost 100 percent likely to find someone online.... In stress, a part from professional advice you need someone to talk to... What better then a fab forum which actually has real people in it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with diamond up there, this is a great ace for support and advice and u can learn soapy things by just asking a simple question. It's a rolling conversation. There is no question to silly to ask.

As for a&e on a Saturday night at 2/3 pm with a small fractious child and god knows how many d*unks! Never! Unless it was an ambulance job, maybe local gp center.

If child is resting and comfy and taking fluids and u done the glass test follow ur instinct

Hope she's well again soon xx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I think the support and help shown on here has been first class and for a non medical site I think we done well . Just shows what can be done and how the fab community pulls together . I've seen the caring side of people on here and it makes me proud to be a member of fabswingers

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By *ucyhenry69Couple
over a year ago

Hampton

You can also give paediatric nurofen along with calpol, keep her cool and as she is taking plenty of oral fluids she should be fine. I would advise seeing a doctor as soon as possiable in case she has croup although the rash dosent fit in. Best of luck.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"OP I would assume considers people on here sincere and friendly... Only natural if you are stressed and worried that you would ask for advice and support from such people.....

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As a mum, this site would be the furthest from my mind...but hey, we all are different!

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Very odd place to ask for support just the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope your daughter gets well soon but maybe here is not the best place to ask as we are not doctors...."

Im pretty sure out of the thousands of people on here there has got to be a few doctors or do doctors not swing or enjoy sex??

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I had some fantastic support and advice from someone on here over something i didnt know about. A very helpful and informative person they are as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do hope your daughter is feeling better today, we all react differently to situations personally I wouldn't have even thought about turning on my laptop let alone fab ,but like I say we each are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope your daughter gets well soon but maybe here is not the best place to ask as we are not doctors....

Im pretty sure out of the thousands of people on here there has got to be a few doctors or do doctors not swing or enjoy sex??"

And even if there is I doubt any doctor worth their salt I am sure would never diagnose without seeing the patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope your daughter gets well soon but maybe here is not the best place to ask as we are not doctors....

Im pretty sure out of the thousands of people on here there has got to be a few doctors or do doctors not swing or enjoy sex??

And even if there is I doubt any doctor worth their salt I am sure would never diagnose without seeing the patient."

I understand that but they couldn't have given any worse advice than NHS direct seem to have done.

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By *r and Mrs BiteMeCouple
over a year ago

Belbroughton, Stourbridge

Not read all the responses but a barking cough is a sign of croup x x

Hope you have had your call back x

Hugs for your little one xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I hope your daughter gets well soon but maybe here is not the best place to ask as we are not doctors....

Im pretty sure out of the thousands of people on here there has got to be a few doctors or do doctors not swing or enjoy sex??

And even if there is I doubt any doctor worth their salt I am sure would never diagnose without seeing the patient.

I understand that but they couldn't have given any worse advice than NHS direct seem to have done."

Personally, if I were worried (mother who has taken four babies home, but only has three children), I'd pick up my child, get in my car, call a cab or ambulance and get them to hospital.

Thinking about my laptop, let alone this site would be the furthest from my mind, but I acknowledge we are all different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was nice to get message of judgement rather than support. "

But you only gave half a story, not the full one hence the comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope your baby is feeling better!! Would be nice to hear xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hiya, master here..... wee one is ok, she has a viral rash, nothing desperate. p posted on here after consulting nhs direct to see if there might have been a bug going around, there are lots of mums here after all........

Id like to say thanks for the useful posts, those who have instructions, well thanks for the advice but suffice to say we don't need to be told to care for a child we were looking for help on the network but acknowledge that the pp was not clear, we didnt think it necessary to explain the actions taken to you all as explained........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hiya, master here..... wee one is ok, she has a viral rash, nothing desperate. p posted on here after consulting nhs direct to see if there might have been a bug going around, there are lots of mums here after all........

Id like to say thanks for the useful posts, those who have instructions, well thanks for the advice but suffice to say we don't need to be told to care for a child we were looking for help on the network but acknowledge that the pp was not clear, we didnt think it necessary to explain the actions taken to you all as explained........ "

I am glad she is okay now as we all will be and I am glad to you acknowledge that your post was not clear hence the comments. It is necessary to post the whole story and not half of one, had you done that in the first place, the comments would have been totally different. And yes I have children too though mine are a lot older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wee cousin developed the tell tale rash on his stomach and arms and is now very ill in hospital with meningitis "

Fingers crossed she is okay xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the time this was posted there was no need to keep having a pop at the couple that started the thred and I could not quot all the post that had . But this one inplys people are so thick they would have to ask what a fire is yet she her self hasn't read the hole thred be for posting !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the time this was posted there was no need to keep having a pop at the couple that started the thred and I could not quot all the post that had . But this one inplys people are so thick they would have to ask what a fire is yet she her self hasn't read the hole thred be for posting ! "

I don't think there is a need to be rude Like I said, people read the post and commented thus, had they said in that post that they were waiting on the nhs comments would have been totally different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the time this was posted there was no need to keep having a pop at the couple that started the thred and I could not quot all the post that had . But this one inplys people are so thick they would have to ask what a fire is yet she her self hasn't read the hole thred be for posting !

I don't think there is a need to be rude Like I said, people read the post and commented thus, had they said in that post that they were waiting on the nhs comments would have been totally different"

I am sorry you think I am being rude witch bit do you think is rude ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the time this was posted there was no need to keep having a pop at the couple that started the thred and I could not quot all the post that had . But this one inplys people are so thick they would have to ask what a fire is yet she her self hasn't read the hole thred be for posting !

I don't think there is a need to be rude Like I said, people read the post and commented thus, had they said in that post that they were waiting on the nhs comments would have been totally different

I am sorry you think I am being rude witch bit do you think is rude ? "

You called people thick?? No-one is, I was trying to make a point, nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your both over 35 years old! and your asking on a swingers site for advice, log off, phone the docs phone your mum or phone nhs direct.

The mind boggles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are miss under standing the post x I don't think anyone is think the post I quoted inplys that the people on here are so thick they would have to ask what a fire was lol go read the1st bit of the post I made .

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"your both over 35 years old! and your asking on a swingers site for advice, log off, phone the docs phone your mum or phone nhs direct.

The mind boggles."

And as others have said, before you bash read the whole thread.

In an explanatory post after the first one it was explained that the OP had rung NHS direct and was waiting for the callback and had come online to distract from the pacing/nerves while they waited.

Perhaps it would have been helpful if that piece of info was in the OP? But when stressed who amongst us manages to be so thorough?

Step back a bit people. Take a breath before you post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your both over 35 years old! and your asking on a swingers site for advice, log off, phone the docs phone your mum or phone nhs direct.

The mind boggles.

And as others have said, before you bash read the whole thread.

In an explanatory post after the first one it was explained that the OP had rung NHS direct and was waiting for the callback and had come online to distract from the pacing/nerves while they waited.

Perhaps it would have been helpful if that piece of info was in the OP? But when stressed who amongst us manages to be so thorough?

Step back a bit people. Take a breath before you post."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to be automatic to judge people on here, and with human nature being prone to always think the worst we suddenly have a very bad mum with a very sick child who could be close to death being castigated for asking for advice from a community that claims to be helpful and sympathetic to it's members. Shame on you all.

The child has probably caught a bug that's going around and the OP has done everything a normal mum would do whilst awaiting for NHS Direct to confirm of allay her fears. She thought she'd pop on here in the meantime and ask if anyone else had knowledge of the symptoms she described. Maybe she asked on here because she's got to know certain posters and trusts their advice, as opposed to netmums where it also masquerades as loonies.com (Siren used to use it and the amount of wierdos on there is unreal).

If the OP really believed her child was imminent danger she would have her child up A&E immediately.

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

Think people need to read ALL the posts before they comment........my sympathies go to the op who I'm sure didn't expect all this abuse about a simple question xx hope yr little ones better soon xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your both over 35 years old! and your asking on a swingers site for advice, log off, phone the docs phone your mum or phone nhs direct.

The mind boggles.

And as others have said, before you bash read the whole thread.

In an explanatory post after the first one it was explained that the OP had rung NHS direct and was waiting for the callback and had come online to distract from the pacing/nerves while they waited.

Perhaps it would have been helpful if that piece of info was in the OP? But when stressed who amongst us manages to be so thorough?

Step back a bit people. Take a breath before you post. "

Yes as you point out they had phoned nhs direst , so all is now well and they can sit back and log on to a swingers site to kill some time every bodys happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow some of these responses are amazing, the OP didn't say it was a life and death situation, just the child was ill. Children get ill all the time its part of building immunity.

No wander the nhs is struggling to cope if everyone goes running to A&E cos a child gets a cough,rash and fever

Unless the fever is over 40 or isn't going down with calpol and nurofen being given or the cough is making their lips blue or they're breathing I'd bad or the rash doesn't disappear under a glass or the child isn't responding well then why go to hospital?

Of course there is always the option to call the out of hours GP too.. They will ask standard questions when u ring and can decide how urgent it maybe for starters.

When I read the OP I took it as it sounded like a viral thing, which she has been told it is. No need to go into panic mode people.

Well done OP for dealing with the illness as it should be with calpol etc.. All you can do is keep them as comfy as poss and make sure there are no dramatic changes.

And no can't say its going around down here but I bet u will find most of the class have had this now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow some of these responses are amazing, the OP didn't say it was a life and death situation, just the child was ill. Children get ill all the time its part of building immunity.

No wander the nhs is struggling to cope if everyone goes running to A&E cos a child gets a cough,rash and fever

Unless the fever is over 40 or isn't going down with calpol and nurofen being given or the cough is making their lips blue or they're breathing I'd bad or the rash doesn't disappear under a glass or the child isn't responding well then why go to hospital?

Of course there is always the option to call the out of hours GP too.. They will ask standard questions when u ring and can decide how urgent it maybe for starters.

When I read the OP I took it as it sounded like a viral thing, which she has been told it is. No need to go into panic mode people.

Well done OP for dealing with the illness as it should be with calpol etc.. All you can do is keep them as comfy as poss and make sure there are no dramatic changes.

And no can't say its going around down here but I bet u will find most of the class have had this now"

Good, reasoned post. Nice one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow some of these responses are amazing, the OP didn't say it was a life and death situation, just the child was ill. Children get ill all the time its part of building immunity.

No wander the nhs is struggling to cope if everyone goes running to A&E cos a child gets a cough,rash and fever

Unless the fever is over 40 or isn't going down with calpol and nurofen being given or the cough is making their lips blue or they're breathing I'd bad or the rash doesn't disappear under a glass or the child isn't responding well then why go to hospital?

Of course there is always the option to call the out of hours GP too.. They will ask standard questions when u ring and can decide how urgent it maybe for starters.

When I read the OP I took it as it sounded like a viral thing, which she has been told it is. No need to go into panic mode people.

Well done OP for dealing with the illness as it should be with calpol etc.. All you can do is keep them as comfy as poss and make sure there are no dramatic changes.

And no can't say its going around down here but I bet u will find most of the class have had this now"

+1

I mean really, it's not like the OP was asking for a meet while waiting for a call-back. And just because she didn't give a detailed account of her actions prior to logging onto fabs, does that really justify being lambasted by folk - personally, I think not.

OP, hope your baby is feeling better soon, and yes, there are a lot of nasty bugs going around - well done on doing the basics, keeping your head and not being a panic-stricken mum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the new understanding. When I posted on here originally it was 2am, I was on my own with a poorly child. She was perfectly safe and comfortable, sleeping soundly. I had rung NHS Direct but didn't think it was prudent to explain that (obviously my mistake was very quickly made clear to me) as I didn't realise that people would think I was asking for medical advice on a swingers site!!! I don't have a laptop, I do everything on my phone so while I was waiting for the callback I was keeping my phone in my hand so thought I'd see if anyone else had experienced anything similar. If I had felt it was A&E worthy I would have been straight down there, but I didn't feel it was, plus 2am Saturday night at A&E as someone pointed out is not the place for a sick child, she was better off to stay safe in her own bed. Of course if when the NHS rang back they felt it was necessary to go I would have, but from the symptoms I described they advised I was doing everything I could and to carry on. The next morning she was singing and dancing and back to her usual lovely self which was fantastic. I still took her to the out of hours doctors to be on the safe side and he confirmed it was viral, she was probably getting a cold and that she could even go back to school if I felt she was well enough (which I don't, so she's staying off today). I'm not a bad mother and was very upset that before asking the question "have you phoned nhs direct" was asked, it was assumed that I hadn't and that I was perving on a swinging site instead of caring for my sick child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for the new understanding. When I posted on here originally it was 2am, I was on my own with a poorly child. She was perfectly safe and comfortable, sleeping soundly. I had rung NHS Direct but didn't think it was prudent to explain that (obviously my mistake was very quickly made clear to me) as I didn't realise that people would think I was asking for medical advice on a swingers site!!! I don't have a laptop, I do everything on my phone so while I was waiting for the callback I was keeping my phone in my hand so thought I'd see if anyone else had experienced anything similar. If I had felt it was A&E worthy I would have been straight down there, but I didn't feel it was, plus 2am Saturday night at A&E as someone pointed out is not the place for a sick child, she was better off to stay safe in her own bed. Of course if when the NHS rang back they felt it was necessary to go I would have, but from the symptoms I described they advised I was doing everything I could and to carry on. The next morning she was singing and dancing and back to her usual lovely self which was fantastic. I still took her to the out of hours doctors to be on the safe side and he confirmed it was viral, she was probably getting a cold and that she could even go back to school if I felt she was well enough (which I don't, so she's staying off today). I'm not a bad mother and was very upset that before asking the question "have you phoned nhs direct" was asked, it was assumed that I hadn't and that I was perving on a swinging site instead of caring for my sick child.

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Well this is the lounge part of the forums which is to do with other things than swinging..

Don't let a few silly responses get to u.. Some people just enjoy causing drama

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"OP I would assume considers people on here sincere and friendly... Only natural if you are stressed and worried that you would ask for advice and support from such people.....

"

The thing is... having seen some of the good natured and friendly advise in the past, which has been utter bollox posted for the effect of looking 'friendly', it's really the last place to seek advice. Seeking a bit of support may be, but that is not how the opening post was set out... no matter what claims of 'misunderstanding' there have been.

The best advice given has been to ring NHS direct or take the child to hospital. As the OP claims they already knew that, it seems they didn't need advice after all.

Threads such as this one do make me wonder about people's priorities.... and common sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wasn't asking for advice, simply whether anyone else recognised the symptoms I quoted. I presume that not many did, as that question wasn't answered. I had asked the question in places other than on here, but as I had expected this was the place that got that fastest response. Writing on here wasn't jeopardising my child, no one was hurt by my asking the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hope she is ok mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I would assume considers people on here sincere and friendly... Only natural if you are stressed and worried that you would ask for advice and support from such people.....

The thing is... having seen some of the good natured and friendly advise in the past, which has been utter bollox posted for the effect of looking 'friendly', it's really the last place to seek advice. Seeking a bit of support may be, but that is not how the opening post was set out... no matter what claims of 'misunderstanding' there have been.

The best advice given has been to ring NHS direct or take the child to hospital. As the OP claims they already knew that, it seems they didn't need advice after all.

Threads such as this one do make me wonder about people's priorities.... and common sense."

Wow u make it sound as if u r god of the forums and decide what is bollox and what isn't..

I thought the final sentance of the OP was very clear and the fact none of it was written with urgency or panic..

Seriously, if u don't like a thread.. Move on, ur not obligued to comment on every thread

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Thank you for the new understanding. When I posted on here originally it was 2am, I was on my own with a poorly child. She was perfectly safe and comfortable, sleeping soundly. I had rung NHS Direct but didn't think it was prudent to explain that (obviously my mistake was very quickly made clear to me) as I didn't realise that people would think I was asking for medical advice on a swingers site!!! I don't have a laptop, I do everything on my phone so while I was waiting for the callback I was keeping my phone in my hand so thought I'd see if anyone else had experienced anything similar. If I had felt it was A&E worthy I would have been straight down there, but I didn't feel it was, plus 2am Saturday night at A&E as someone pointed out is not the place for a sick child, she was better off to stay safe in her own bed. Of course if when the NHS rang back they felt it was necessary to go I would have, but from the symptoms I described they advised I was doing everything I could and to carry on. The next morning she was singing and dancing and back to her usual lovely self which was fantastic. I still took her to the out of hours doctors to be on the safe side and he confirmed it was viral, she was probably getting a cold and that she could even go back to school if I felt she was well enough (which I don't, so she's staying off today). I'm not a bad mother and was very upset that before asking the question "have you phoned nhs direct" was asked, it was assumed that I hadn't and that I was perving on a swinging site instead of caring for my sick child.

"

Hmmmmm.... of course the other 'spin' on this is....

The rash started Friday.

The symptoms got worse.

You didn’t seek medical advice until Saturday night.

Despite at that time not knowing what was wrong you felt it was better for her to be left in bed than go to A&E because A&E would be busy.

If people didn't give you the replies you were hoping for it is because of the concern they had for your child's wellbeing....... is that such a bad thing or would you have preferred a bunch of fluffy replies and them not give a shit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't asking for advice, simply whether anyone else recognised the symptoms I quoted. I presume that not many did, as that question wasn't answered. I had asked the question in places other than on here, but as I had expected this was the place that got that fastest response. Writing on here wasn't jeopardising my child, no one was hurt by my asking the question."

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

Wow u make it sound as if u r god of the forums and decide what is bollox and what isn't..

I thought the final sentance of the OP was very clear and the fact none of it was written with urgency or panic..

Seriously, if u don't like a thread.. Move on, ur not obligued to comment on every thread "

Oh please.... that would be goddess not god.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I would assume considers people on here sincere and friendly... Only natural if you are stressed and worried that you would ask for advice and support from such people.....

The thing is... having seen some of the good natured and friendly advise in the past, which has been utter bollox posted for the effect of looking 'friendly', it's really the last place to seek advice. Seeking a bit of support may be, but that is not how the opening post was set out... no matter what claims of 'misunderstanding' there have been.

The best advice given has been to ring NHS direct or take the child to hospital. As the OP claims they already knew that, it seems they didn't need advice after all.

Threads such as this one do make me wonder about people's priorities.... and common sense.

Wow u make it sound as if u r god of the forums and decide what is bollox and what isn't..

I thought the final sentance of the OP was very clear and the fact none of it was written with urgency or panic..

Seriously, if u don't like a thread.. Move on, ur not obligued to comment on every thread "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for the new understanding. When I posted on here originally it was 2am, I was on my own with a poorly child. She was perfectly safe and comfortable, sleeping soundly. I had rung NHS Direct but didn't think it was prudent to explain that (obviously my mistake was very quickly made clear to me) as I didn't realise that people would think I was asking for medical advice on a swingers site!!! I don't have a laptop, I do everything on my phone so while I was waiting for the callback I was keeping my phone in my hand so thought I'd see if anyone else had experienced anything similar. If I had felt it was A&E worthy I would have been straight down there, but I didn't feel it was, plus 2am Saturday night at A&E as someone pointed out is not the place for a sick child, she was better off to stay safe in her own bed. Of course if when the NHS rang back they felt it was necessary to go I would have, but from the symptoms I described they advised I was doing everything I could and to carry on. The next morning she was singing and dancing and back to her usual lovely self which was fantastic. I still took her to the out of hours doctors to be on the safe side and he confirmed it was viral, she was probably getting a cold and that she could even go back to school if I felt she was well enough (which I don't, so she's staying off today). I'm not a bad mother and was very upset that before asking the question "have you phoned nhs direct" was asked, it was assumed that I hadn't and that I was perving on a swinging site instead of caring for my sick child.

Hmmmmm.... of course the other 'spin' on this is....

The rash started Friday.

The symptoms got worse.

You didn’t seek medical advice until Saturday night.

Despite at that time not knowing what was wrong you felt it was better for her to be left in bed than go to A&E because A&E would be busy.

If people didn't give you the replies you were hoping for it is because of the concern they had for your child's wellbeing....... is that such a bad thing or would you have preferred a bunch of fluffy replies and them not give a shit?"

Omg so they all thought they knew best of a situation they barely knew anything about?? For real

If there wasn't enough info in the OP then ask? But everyone is just assuming..

I serisously can't believe this response that people are concerned when they don't even have the facts or asked them! What a joke

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


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Omg so they all thought they knew best of a situation they barely knew anything about?? For real

If there wasn't enough info in the OP then ask? But everyone is just assuming..

I serisously can't believe this response that people are concerned when they don't even have the facts or asked them! What a joke"

Yes I am 'for real' are you?

Why would they need more facts when the best advice is....... seek advice from medical people.

It's really easy to say people should have asked this that and the other when we now know it is nothing serious.... in hindsight.

The child had had a rash since Friday and symptoms had got worse... yet the OP didn't ring NHS Direct until late on Saturday night. The OP must have been concerned or why ring then? At the time of posting the OP didn't know what was wrong.... thankfully it has turned out to be nothing serious where time was of the essence. Had that not been the case, would you still have wanted people to waste time asking for more details?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the child is ok, this thread seems to have become redundant now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As the child is ok, this thread seems to have become redundant now."

Agreed

(no forumite was harmed in the making of this thread )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for the new understanding. When I posted on here originally it was 2am, I was on my own with a poorly child. She was perfectly safe and comfortable, sleeping soundly. I had rung NHS Direct but didn't think it was prudent to explain that (obviously my mistake was very quickly made clear to me) as I didn't realise that people would think I was asking for medical advice on a swingers site!!! I don't have a laptop, I do everything on my phone so while I was waiting for the callback I was keeping my phone in my hand so thought I'd see if anyone else had experienced anything similar. If I had felt it was A&E worthy I would have been straight down there, but I didn't feel it was, plus 2am Saturday night at A&E as someone pointed out is not the place for a sick child, she was better off to stay safe in her own bed. Of course if when the NHS rang back they felt it was necessary to go I would have, but from the symptoms I described they advised I was doing everything I could and to carry on. The next morning she was singing and dancing and back to her usual lovely self which was fantastic. I still took her to the out of hours doctors to be on the safe side and he confirmed it was viral, she was probably getting a cold and that she could even go back to school if I felt she was well enough (which I don't, so she's staying off today). I'm not a bad mother and was very upset that before asking the question "have you phoned nhs direct" was asked, it was assumed that I hadn't and that I was perving on a swinging site instead of caring for my sick child.

"

You don't need to explain or justify yourself. Glad she is better xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

This thread will look disjointed as I took off a load of posts that contained a link and number.

To the OP I am glad your little one is fine now.....but I would have given you the same advice of you need medical help not help from a swinging website.

After you had been given this advice you then decided to elaborate and say you had already phoned them....people can't read your mind so will have answered to your first post, which is allowed.

I am in the camp of a swinging site would not be somewhere I would log in when I was worried over a sick child....it doesn't make me a bad person for saying so.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

glad your little un is better now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might just be me but I can't see the difference between reading a newspaper, watching the television, or reading posts on a forum on a website be it a swingers site or the local forum for the area where you live whilst a sick child is in bed asleep while waiting for NHs direct to ring back concerning the child to give advice can't see the harm in it in my opinion don't see why the fingers are being pointed to make out the op is a bad parent for doing this

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