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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we are all here to be noticed, to find people. I hope I can keep people interested but such a wide variety of people you will never interest all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

All the time.

I bet I’ve put a fair few more off me as well, bless them

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

That does happen alot. Very true.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

I don't really mind either way, if they like me they like me if they don't they don't, we are all strangers until we meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone acts completely out of character to what they show me privately then sure I'd question it, not sure if it would put me off them though. The only thing that geuinuely puts me off someone is that full on attention seeking fawning over everyone who will give them a sniff of attention, that kind of flirting isn't attractive.

For me personally, I don't really care what people think of me from a forum post, it's not the whole picture so their opinion isn't a true reflection of who I am. If someone doesn't want to meet me because of something I've said, cool I have no issues with that.

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By *ohndom2023Man
over a year ago

Hastings/Greenwich

What does it matter if anyone is interested all that counts is that you are having fun with it or just move onto another thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

Depends who.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes

Potentially

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Yes

No .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to say Yes, it can, as somebodys responses to particular threads can give you an insight into their personality, but then it will also depend on how much interest you had in them to begin with and what future interaction you might have been wanting to have with them.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I'm more likely to be intrigued by something someone posts and want to talk to them.

Once I get to know them, I may get put off then. Not in a nasty way. Just if the conversation doesn't flow then what's the point?

Forums are all swings and roundabouts people having bad days, good days etc etc. Someone can say something awesome in one thread and then wtf in an other. I am open to challenge or praise, both can be interesting conversation openers.

Those who know me don't judge me and those who judge me don't get to know me.

Something like that anyway.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Certainly, forum interactions can be very revealing as regards to a person.

I’ve seen a few who have let their forum personas ‘slip’ during certain moments (usually during more heated exchanges with other forumites), revealing their true and frankly, highly unappealing colours as it were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

I’m the opposite. It’s the forums that made me start liking someone enough to then ask to talk privately.

I’m not in the bracket of being able to get a reply from off the forums. And strangers just sound strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have to say Yes, it can, as somebodys responses to particular threads can give you an insight into their personality, but then it will also depend on how much interest you had in them to begin with and what future interaction you might have been wanting to have with them.

For example, I would hope that most of my posts have given an insight to my sense of humour and that people see me as someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously - but then there are some threads where I might have taken a particularly strong view on something which might lead some who aren't perhaps as frequent visiters to the forums, to see me in a different light entirely.

By the way, I also like boobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

Yeah, usually it's a habit over time though or a trend.

That's fine though, I'm sure I put plenty off too. As it should be, we're here to connect with the rare few, not appeal to the masses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My messages that I have been sent unsolicited (I.E. the first message in the conversation) have always been sent as a result of my forum post(s). I think I have a pretty decent profile as well but, meh, it’s all about the forum posts apparently.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes

Not really as it saves everyones time in the end to spot those who are likely to not be compatible.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes as the Mr said but also I've a hotlist curse, I add people see their updates and go off them quickly.

I find it so hard online though in person is so much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

This

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I don't post that often and they are normally ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't post that often and they are normally ignored

Hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Posts that are dismissive of things like the extent of social issues like racism or are dismissive of people caring about it in their partners.

An open minded approach to understanding the lived experiences of others and not being dismissive of those things on topics such as racism make me more into someone. That and actively being an ally.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I think we are all here to be noticed, to find people. I hope I can keep people interested but such a wide variety of people you will never interest all."

No. And it's a fool's errand to try and do so isn't it? When I see that behaviour I think, for about two seconds before I move on, "why?". It's far better to be true to you, well as true as anyone is on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Posts that are dismissive of things like the extent of social issues like racism or are dismissive of people caring about it in their partners.

An open minded approach to understanding the lived experiences of others and not being dismissive of those things on topics such as racism make me more into someone. That and actively being an ally.

Finally- no I don’t care if they’re less interested in me. Over 75% of the people in the forums openly express not liking people that talk like me, listen to the music I do and don’t understand my references

if they don’t like me jets fine we probably aren’t going to be anything anyway.

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

Just depends on what the post is about to keep me interested in keep coming back to reply to it or not

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

Ha! This energy. Lilith, oh Lilith.

A friend and I have been talking this morning about her latest no following on from a forum post. It made me laugh and call her a twonk but then I was thinking "is she a twonk?". I think it's happened to me before. Will again.

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

Less so their posts and more their attitude and behaviour. You have to remember a lot of people’s forum personas are different to who they are in real life. Some people who could be considered dickish are decent folks, while other more popular people are dangerous predators taking advantage of others.

A post may make me notice someone, that leads me to clicking on their profile, that leads to interest. But mainly its more admiration from afar. That person sounds decent.

Not really. People block you for all manner of reasons. People attack you for having a different point of view, opinion or even experience. I post to engage, not seek validation.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

No.

Yes

No.

To expand on the first maybe go from neutral to disinterest.

Yes, words as sexy, well they can be. Can you express yourself, make your points? You have my attention.

Finally no, I don't view it as a popularity thing.

What about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I probably have put off plenty people from my oversharing comments or threads over the years. They clearly wouldn't be my people.

Equally though, I've also struck up friendships and had wonderful times as a result of comments on the forums.

So it's actually a good pretty good filter at times.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

Yes it generates interest for me as well as causing me to lose it. But then it's just me in here, ever so rarely Fox, so it's only affecting the view of one of us.

Do I care if my posts and views cause others to lose interest? Nope. Because it just indicates we wouldn't be compatible. If it stirs interest then that's fine, but it's not that important either, because my views aren't Fox's and anyone would have to be interested in us both anyway.

The long and the short? Yes, no, maybe and depends on the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I probably have put off plenty people from my oversharing comments or threads over the years. They clearly wouldn't be my people.

Equally though, I've also struck up friendships and had wonderful times as a result of comments on the forums.

So it's actually a good pretty good filter at times. "

Yeah not sure if this is what you mean but an example- if you talk about mental health and stuff, not just on here but social media in general, people feel so uncomfortable.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"All the time.

I bet I’ve put a fair few more off me as well, bless them

The mr "

Oh I don't know. The bit of a dick thing isn't offputting, it's kind of offset by those rare soft squidgy moments from you.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

I use my comments to put people off of messaging me

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

It is exactly because of people’s posts that I am attracted to them.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I don't really mind either way, if they like me they like me if they don't they don't, we are all strangers until we meet

We are. But... you can form friendships online that are real. So they're not really strangers are they? This is a bit of a tangent but it's interesting.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Meli, you could post the first 10 pages of the dictionary and I would still be interested, you sexy minx

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don't really mind either way, if they like me they like me if they don't they don't, we are all strangers until we meet

We are. But... you can form friendships online that are real. So they're not really strangers are they? This is a bit of a tangent but it's interesting.

I can confirm this. I'm closer to some people I've interacted with only online and known for close to 15 years, than I am with most people I've known from childhood.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"It is exactly because of people’s posts that I am attracted to them. "
This and it is the same for me as well

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I like to post fun threads where possible, I love it if people find the content interesting, what I don't like is answering within the threads as I don't want to leave anyone out, so I tend to post and let everyone take over which is great when they are all interacting amongst themselves.

Do I find the people who post thread's more interesting? Well yes but also the people who interact within the threads too, they certainly become more interesting than one of the local people, you don't get to find out anything about their lifestyle etc.

Has the forums turned me off anyone? Not at all I only get involved in the thread's that I feel comfortable with the subject and I just wouldn't rise to the occasion if someone was trying to goad me.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

Lordy, there’s a question….

I don’t think I’ve ever lost interest in someone from a post, probably the opposite. I did once make the mistake at looking at a virus thread, b ut I’ve not done that since.

I hope people are more interested in me but who knows, one can only be oneself

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Yes, No, it depends but if they're put off by what I say on the forum they wouldn't like me anyway, so I guess that saves time.

I have almost exclusively met forum people since lockdown ended, and will only be meeting forum people from now on, as I enjoy getting to know people on here, and I'm only looking to socialise anyway (I reserve the right for an exception that proves the rule of course).

So I can be swayed by forum posts, but there is a while picture that I'll take into account as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often find that people i like are not aligned to my values... So then I'm like, do you need to have aligned values to bang someone

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

It goes both ways, it can absolutely make me lose interest in someone but it can also pique my curiosity about someone a lot.

There's some crushes I have just from what they post on the forums.

The debate threads are good for putting me off people.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I post to provide my viewpoint and humble insights.

I read postings from others.

I avoid threads and posts from those with whom I have no shared interest/s. They tend to be characteristically insipid and hackneyed.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

To lose intrest suggests there was interst there in the first, very very few pique my Intest from what they post on the forums. That being said the occasional comment has raised an eyebrow in a good way

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

I don’t know anyone well enough to be put off by what they post, so that’s not an issue.

Someone’s attitude to a thread may pique my interest but I can’t say it has made me want to know more about them. So far.

I say what it occurs to me to say, sometimes considered, often flippant. Again, I don’t know anyone here ( as far as I am aware) so I’m not concerned what they think. As long as I don’t inadvertently offend.

I would like to know some better, but you have to take me as I am. No one has shown sufficient interest in my posts to make me thin that is going to happen soon.

What was the question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

I'm pretty sure I've put plenty off of me with my posts.

However can be put off someone quite easily that posts nicely, sanely and insightfully on the forums but behind DM's is a complete dickhead, insulting, or is actually hiding something people of the forums would never think of them. That's happening a lot!

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By *ohndom2023Man
over a year ago

Hastings/Greenwich

Shit you found out about the serial killing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes

Yes

I'm pretty sure I've put plenty off of me with my posts.

I'm just as big a dickhead in the forums as I am with DM's

Promise.

See, consistency matters.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Yes, I can definitely like people more or less from their posts.

That's the big plus of the forum, isn't it - seeing more of someone's personality than you'd from a profile or single message, especially over time.

That said, if I'm not physically attracted to someone, their posts alone are unlikely to make me want to get naked with them. It could definitely happen in reverse though!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

Not me though, you still want me more than Ryan don't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

At the risk of being one of the 'eurrghhhs', your name does bring a smile each time I see you post, cos I automatically think of Dr Frasier Crane's wife Lilith (from Cheers or the subsequent spinoff Frasier).

Not sure that the photos or text fit with that formidable image (though Lilith did have a formidable bite!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, a post or series of posts can gain or my lose my interest.

I really don't mind if people gain or lose interest in me, or us, as a result of my posting.

I post for me, not for anyone else, not even for my Mrs.

I post to express, not impress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To lose intrest suggests there was interst there in the first, very very few pique my Intest from what they post on the forums. That being said the occasional comment has raised an eyebrow in a good way

An eyebrow!

Sure.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

Not sure that the photos or text fit with that formidable image (though Lilith did have a formidable bite!)"

I get Niles crane from a certain forumite but I won't say who just incase I offend them.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I post to provide my viewpoint and humble insights.

I read postings from others.

I avoid threads and posts from those with whom I have no shared interest/s. They tend to be characteristically insipid and hackneyed."

Ever the wordsmith, Nero

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Most people on the forums are only here to find something to wank to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people on the forums are only here to find something to wank to.

Really? Wow

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Most people on the forums are only here to find something to wank to.

Bloody bunch of wankers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the forum is a great filter so yes some ppl's post definitely throw red flags or put me off them, on the other hand I'm unbothered by what anyone thinks about what I post ...to each his own.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Most people on the forums are only here to find something to wank to.

Bloody brunch of wankers

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PD, you and I should go for a bloody brunch: a Bloody Mary and a Fry Up. Deal?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Most people on the forums are only here to find something to wank to.

Easier to find porn to do that.

Kind of difficult to get turned on reading the forums when you have a load of profile pics of cocks staring at you while trying to have serious debates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

Not sure that the photos or text fit with that formidable image (though Lilith did have a formidable bite!)

I get Niles crane from a certain forumite but I won't say who just incase I offend them.

Oh gosh, Niles, he had some classic issues and lines:

"Don't you dare call me irrational! You know that makes me crazy!"

Now wondering who I might apply that to.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

Not sure that the photos or text fit with that formidable image (though Lilith did have a formidable bite!)"

I know Lilith as the mother of Nephalem. Angel and demon hybrids.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Most people on the forums are only here to find something to wank to.

Bloody brunch of wankers

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PD, you and I should go for a bloody brunch: a Bloody Mary and a Fry Up. Deal?"

I see what you did and we should and invite PW and another pretty lady to join us

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

No i dont really read most things i get a general idea then spout bubbles iv no idea what others say

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"No i dont really read most things i get a general idea then spout bubbles iv no idea what others say"

You saying you've missed all my important input?

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By *ea wangMan
over a year ago

scunthorpe

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"
don't give a fuck either way ,a post is only a snapshot of u and I prefer to get to know more than a snapshot

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

"I don't really mind either way, if they like me they like me if they don't they don't, we are all strangers until we meet

Yes this is us too not everyones cuppa tea.

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

Herts

Because sarcasm and nuance are soo difficult to portray in the written word and take what I say too seriously or superficially soo the meaning is lost.

Therefore I don’t comment much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks op. I now know who to avoid.

That’s how this works isn’t it?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

Not sure that the photos or text fit with that formidable image (though Lilith did have a formidable bite!)

I know Lilith as the mother of Nephalem. Angel and demon hybrids.

Adam's first woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the posters that put me off, I wouldn't meet anyway and if I did, I'd definitely be put off even if their profile is amazing!

I used to care a lot about putting people off with my posts so would always try to be as inoffensive as possible and not try to be too controversial. However, with time spent here I've become more comfortable in my opinions and not really fussed if people are put off with my comments anymore

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Yes, those toxic views have made for a private note a plenty

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"This is why I shouldn't use the forums, it puts me off everyone eventually. All it takes is one little comment and I'm eurrghhh. Done.

Soz

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

You can tease me any time Meli.

I can be put off by forum posts and comments. The problem is I have an awful memory and then forget who it was anyway.

A post might interest me enough to read a profile. The profile might make me message.

I am pretty much me in here so if I put someone off or turn someone on that is absolutely fine.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

Is that an eyebrow in your boxers or has your interest been piqued?

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Forum posts can put me off most people sooner or later but then, some of the dickish comments I've made in light hearted or misread jest would put me off me too

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Definitely. I really can’t be arsed with one forumite now because of this

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Is that an eyebrow in your boxers or has your interest been piqued?"

Just telegram it

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"I don't really mind either way, if they like me they like me if they don't they don't, we are all strangers until we meet

We are. But... you can form friendships online that are real. So they're not really strangers are they? This is a bit of a tangent but it's interesting.

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friendly strangers? Ooooo a little odd don't you think, we are talking people we've never met right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll agree to anything if it gets my dick wet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The internet can be a funny thing really, you kind of make assumptions about people based on what you read and write in forums, true of this site and other more vanilla sites.

I’ve met people at football matches that I’ve seen on Twatter or the football forums and some of them have been totally different in real life to their online persona. True also of people off here.

Conversely, I’ve met people that are EXACTLY like their online persona in real life.

I’ve also have private conversations with people on here that are very different to the way they portray themselves in the forums - I’ve got to see a very different side to them.

You kind of don’t know until you meet them or speak more intimately to them, so I try not to *overly* pre-judge if I can help it (although we all have our un-conscious biases. I had to hyphenate that otherwise it’s a banned word!

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I do tend to shut off from people that tend to regularly vocalise extreme views on here - either far right wing or far left wing. I’m happier sat gathering splinters on the fence in the middle on a fuck site ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll agree to anything if it gets my dick wet.

I’ve said this before.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m not a big fan of the heavy duty multi person on the go flirters, so that would be the main thing to put me off.

That said I don’t tend to meet from the forums anyway.

I’m sure what I’ve said on the forums has put some off over the years, I’ve not always been a delight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not a big fan of the heavy duty multi person on the go flirters, so that would be the main thing to put me off.

That said I don’t tend to meet from the forums anyway.

I’m sure what I’ve said on the forums has put some off over the years, I’ve not always been a delight.

Your the only one for me V

*ignore my other comment above yours.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I’m not a big fan of the heavy duty multi person on the go flirters, so that would be the main thing to put me off.

That said I don’t tend to meet from the forums anyway.

I’m sure what I’ve said on the forums has put some off over the years, I’ve not always been a delight.

Your the only one for me V

*ignore my other comment above yours.

you hear that? That’s the sound of my heart breaking B!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

What people say and how they say it can certainly inform and influence my opinion of someone. I tend to skim read through the forums and mostly focus on people I recognise. I quite like diversity of views, and some people fascinate me even if I wouldn't share their views.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Most of the people I’ve met have been from the forum and chat develops from it. It’s probably the reason why meets have always been enjoyable, even if they don’t necessarily go far afterwards.

Being interesting to talk to and making me laugh is a shortcut to my desires, whilst norks are lovely I need more than that.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

Posts put me off people often yes. My posts also put people off me.

All in all, this is absolutely a thing

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Definitely. I really can’t be arsed with one forumite now because of this

It was the talk of Anusol, wasn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know, I know. Another tease of a header. Final thread because I'm trying to keep up productivity.

So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Do you care if people are more/less interested in you because of what you post?"

I don't care for the opinions of strangers

It's nice to be liked, but not if it comes at the cost of being disingenuous or true to yourself

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that happens to us all.

You can have an idea of someone, and then you find out something you didn't expect and it can kind of throw you off. Or when you're being sweet talked behind the scenes, made to feel special, and then see comments that make you realise they are doing the same to every other woman they fancy too, which is fine, but if you're anything like me it definitely changes how you view that person.

I've gained interest in people too after reading their posts. I love the way the forum works. It's a good way to work up an idea of who someone is.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Definitely. I really can’t be arsed with one forumite now because of this

It was the talk of Anusol, wasn't it

The talk was fine but the diagrams and audio recordings “in action” were a bit much

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Yes and no, words on a screen can be very subjective and can be read differently to how the author is actually meaning them to come across and no actual intent or offense meant.

That said if someone is just an outright utter cockwomble then yeah it may put me off them.

Tinder

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

It’s far more likely that certain comments would really put me off someone much more than them make someone seem more attractive.

A slight caveat of the above however is that most of the time when I’m scanning threads I’m not even looking at who has said what, so I’ve no idea most of the time whose opinions are whose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of what’s post on the forums is just a bit of fun,some topics actually surprised us

One this morning actually caught our attention due to the content,a certain female had posted in who we both wasn’t keen on due to her posts on certain topics and a few disagreements

I can honestly say I have to some degree (Mr)

Realised that she has a very good reason for the posts, so yes it’s changed my view for the better

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

"So... posts on the forum. Do you ever read a post from someone and lose interest in them? Can a post make you more interested in someone?

Well, some folks Red Flag themselves on the forums, so we'll pop them on Block and add a note why. We are all someone's Red Flag

Yes, a post can make us more interested. Articulate and serious posts attract my attention. Frivolous and trivial posts do not.

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