FabSwingers.com forum: What did you learn from your dad

By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

My gardening knowledge came from my dad x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zest for life, my adventure and wanting to see the world for myself

And that Norwegian women are beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That alcoholics are not fun, stable or dependable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to be a downer but he taught me how not to parent and how not to be a decent respectful human.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.

He was my Dad.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Don't ever get married

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"That alcoholics are not fun, stable or dependable "

Same! Also gamblers too.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

That i want to be the exact opposite of him

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

Absolutely nothing

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

The love of music.

Rip dad.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That love is conditional

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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

"Sorry to be a downer but he taught me how not to parent and how not to be a decent respectful human.

That's cool. My dad is dead 9 years and I'd still describe my relationship with him as complicated.

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By *uff and FruitCouple
over a year ago

ely

My assertiveness came from him plus confidence and being time conscious.

All that I gained from him is used in supporting him and mum now due to their age and medical needs.

Fruit x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That love is conditional "

How not to be a parent

How to avoid men like him

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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

"That love is conditional

How not to be a parent

How to avoid men like him"

Worthwhile lessons. All my brother in laws are the complete opposite of my dad. I don't think that is a coincidence.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.

He was my Dad."

This is beautiful.

And also this applies to my dad

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

To be able to just deal with what life throws my way no matter how unexpected or shit it may be. You just do what you need to do

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.

He was my Dad."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.

He was my Dad."

Nice tribute.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Patience, tolérance and quiet wisdom. Not caring what other people think of you and how to laugh at your own jokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There isn't a blank sheet of canvas big enough for me to describe what my father taught me. He was my mentor. He was my teacher. He was my comfort. He was my hero.

He was my Dad."

Its very difficult for me to comprehend relationships like this.. I love it - I'm in awe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to be the most talented to do well but if you work hard and put effort in, the cream can rise to the top

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Just about everything in life I owe a lot to my dad.

Taught me how to act, how to manage money avoid debt and put away for a rainy day. Most importantly taught me how to earn a living for myself and can’t express how grateful I will always be for this and the feeling of freedom it gives

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

My dad taught me the importance of self esteem, confidence and how to treat others.

It’s his fault I think I’m the bees knees.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

He taught me to love wholeheartedly, deeply and without hesitation.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

How to roll a gig really well.

How to avoid paying child maintenance.

How to drink.

The list is endless.

Mrs

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By *ohndom2023Man
over a year ago

Hastings/Greenwich

Never to pull the zip up too fast when you are d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That alcoholics are not fun, stable or dependable "

Same here

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way."

How not to treat my own kids.

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

He taught me many offensive rude jokes and songs, he taught me to not be offended by anyone, to be who I am and never make apologies for it. He taught me how to build large bonfires, how to gut a fish and how to drive with your knees. My Dad was a 70s swinger and a complete pervert but he was totally awesome

Cherry x

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"That alcoholics are not fun, stable or dependable

Same! Also gamblers too. "

Hear you on both those counts and that children are not prizes to impress your newest bit of skirt

Tinder

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

He did his best and I love him but I’ve learnt how to be a better Dad, I’ve taken his shortcomings and improved. Recognised negative personality traits and try to avoid them for my children’s sake.

For instance he rarely complimented, I would do some school work that I was proud of and he would pick out the negatives, the errors, what I could have done better… I think he was trying in his own way to improve me but it affected me badly. I am, as a result, my own worst critic.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

He taught me how a father really doesn't turn his back, despite having to distance himself, as I walked away. Buy was only waiting for me to return

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"He taught me many offensive rude jokes and songs, he taught me to not be offended by anyone, to be who I am and never make apologies for it. He taught me how to build large bonfires, how to gut a fish and how to drive with your knees. My Dad was a 70s swinger and a complete pervert but he was totally awesome

Cherry x

That is awesome - great Dad stuff

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

"That alcoholics are not fun, stable or dependable "

Oh snap!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

How to shirk responsibilities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To let people underestimate you initially.

To be able to talk to anyone from homeless to CEO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way."

I think it's my favourite thread today. Thanks

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

He made me the man I am 2day ..just hope I didn't dissapiont him .RIP dad x

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Tenacity and how to fix cars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That if I did that again I’d be sorry??!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

How to dig a garden over properly.

How to paint woodwork.

How to wire a plug.

How to play Backgammon/Chess/card games.

An appreciation of classical music.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

If you lend money don't expect to get it back, if you see it buy it because it won't be there when you go back, do it yourself it's cheaper and you'll do a better job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way."

My dad is dying, so I've been reflecting a lot on this recently. I'm basically the person I am today thanks to my dad. From him, I've learned to be non-judgemental, to treat everyone equally, to stand by my beliefs and to stick up for myself. He also taught me to own my mistakes and know to apologise when I've behaved like a dick lol.

Mrs

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

How to fight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Appreciation for variety of music.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

There’s a lot of pollen, dust and grit getting in my eyes reading these - some very poignant, some wonderful and some that make you feel sorry for kids that suffered with ‘those’ kind of fathers…

Positive Vibes to you all

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

Not to be a cunt like him

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Fuck all

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

How to wire a plug, unblock a toilet / sink, change a tap, loose my temper in spectacular fashion, sulk for weeks.

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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way.

I think it's my favourite thread today. Thanks

You're very welcome, it's nice to see other people reflect on what they learned. Some is very touching and thoughtful. Some is painful.

My ex used to say 'you're just like your dad' when she wanted to hurt me. I learned good and bad from him and in no small part is responsible for the person I am today.

Fathers day isn't just about the socks.

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

That marriage can allow someone to completely fuck you over, even when they have put nothing into the home or savings you owned before, and have left you with the kids with zero emotional or financial contribution to their upkeep.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

That he is the ONLY man who would never use/hurt me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How not to be a dad.

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By *ellanbennyCouple
over a year ago

cambs

How not to be a parent or even a human being. (Waste of skin)

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Never judge anyone on apperances, my dad was a six foot 2 big bearded Scottish biker covered in tattoos, people got the wrong impression of him all the time. He loved people, hearing their life stories and getting to know them, he did not suffer fools gladly though.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

How to get on with people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He taught me how to cut people from my life without giving them a second thought

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

How to complain - effectively.

How to compare prices/get a bargain.

To have expensive taste lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing really...

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

my dad taught me to become hard as nails mentally and physically

. handy life skills tbh

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By *elescopes1Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way."

To never cross a picket line

To never hit a woman

And to make sure you get your round in in the pub.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

To be honest be proud of who you are don't take no shit stick up for yourself

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Not to invest in Lloyd's.

To love your family no matter what, to pick them up each time they fall.

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

The most important things in life. How to read a map, and how to fix the toilet.

Also how to be a caring human being

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Mine taught me nothing. I had to teach myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How addiction can turn people into a shell of who they used to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That he was a bully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And after 18 years of it.....

I learnt bullies don't like a punch on the nose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt how not to be a dad.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

How to manipulate people, that I should always keep enough money aside to escape a bad relationship and that the only person I can ever truly depend on is myself.

Tough lessons to learn but extremely useful and I'm grateful for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many things

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

A hard work ethic

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

My dad let us all be the best we could. He worked hard and wanted us to have best education and good opportunities in life. He loved partying with family and friends too and he also liked a glass or two of good red wine as I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way.

I think it's my favourite thread today. Thanks

You're very welcome, it's nice to see other people reflect on what they learned. Some is very touching and thoughtful. Some is painful.

My ex used to say 'you're just like your dad' when she wanted to hurt me. I learned good and bad from him and in no small part is responsible for the person I am today.

Fathers day isn't just about the socks.

It doesn't have to be. And pain is a good teacher too.

Exes eh?

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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago

Derry

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way.

I think it's my favourite thread today. Thanks

You're very welcome, it's nice to see other people reflect on what they learned. Some is very touching and thoughtful. Some is painful.

My ex used to say 'you're just like your dad' when she wanted to hurt me. I learned good and bad from him and in no small part is responsible for the person I am today.

Fathers day isn't just about the socks.

It doesn't have to be. And pain is a good teacher too.

Exes eh?

tbf, she had a point, but you shouldn't vulnerabilities and confidences to hurt someone.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Never wear a ring if your operating machinery.

Thanks Dad x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How not to treat woman. But did introduce me to queen

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I learned that what you have can be taken away far to soon, RIP old man x

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"That alcoholics are not fun, stable or dependable "

This sadly he drank himself to death and pushed his family away in the process.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

How to punch someone in the solar plexus

How to tie an Oxford tie knot

How to tie my shoelaces

All the songs sung on the terraces at Tranmere Rovers

The geographic distribution of the football stadia of the English lower leagues and thus, all the major motorway and A road routes

Tour guiding

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

That there is no God and to live each day like it could be your last. A harsh lesson to learn for a six year old boy seeing his dad die from a massive coronary.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way."

Work ethic!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Don’t try to live your life through your kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To never trust a promise and to stand on my own 2 feet

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

The thing that’s paid my wage for the last 35 years. For that I will be eternally grateful.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Oh, so much.

How to show love by doing - the 'little, unremembered acts of kindness'. Long into his final illness, he would head onto the drive and into my mother's iced-over, frozen car, to defrost and warm it for her.

That 'time spent in reconnaissance is never wasted'.

That promotion can often mean co-option.

That people can change, both themselves and others...whole cascading generations of lives can be transformed, and even created, because someone decided to try something different that day.

That all true trades and professions are equally fascinating mysteries, that none is 'better' than another, and that to hate what you do but do it nonetheless is one of the worst, and most common, forms of cowardice.

That the natural world is a gift, and that it can be read.

That life is for spending your last pennies on wine and friends, not hoarding like a miser.

One day, if I am lucky, I hope to be half the man, father, and teacher he was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so much what they taught you but what you learned along the way."

Not to be anything like him as a parent

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

How to arc weld, use a wood working lathe, work on a bike, build a bike wheel, a sarcastic sense of humour.

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By *lubchuckerMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Not much to be honest, never got on with each other or spent time doing things together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt more of my grandad and my brother

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Music and history.

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By *exy Pretty FeetCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

To work hard

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I learned slowly that if I metaphorically asked what would my dad do? And then did the exact opposite, it was likely the best course of action.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

How to have a zest for life. Even into his 70's he was still modding cars, going on holiday with his mates and getting too d*unk and falling into a bush.

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By *pen2UMan
over a year ago

Telford

Never rewlly had that closeness with my dad at all, so I wouldnt even know what I learnt from him which is a shame.

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Always look after your money and don’t borrow when you can save and pay cash ,

Don’t work down the pit,

Don’t smoke

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Mostly, how not to be a father

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By *phialtesMan
over a year ago

Beyond the Wall

"Mostly, how not to be a father "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be an honorable man, to stick by your word and handshake.

He never argued with fools or gave to much information away about himself.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

The sort of man I never want to be.

The mr

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"If you lend money don't expect to get it back, if you see it buy it because it won't be there when you go back, do it yourself it's cheaper and you'll do a better job

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this exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have asked me when he was alive not sure what said. Now looking back.

Showed me thing but never said it

He could go from talking to millionaires to local dustman never changed how he spook to anyone there were all the same. He would help anyone in his own way. He worked self employed 7 days a week but still take my mum shopping or anywhere when needed. Sometime thought he was deaf or not listening but he heard what he want never panicked or was seen to worry. Only ever heard him say once he disliked someone that was Someone that looked down on my mum treated her like dirt.

Don't believe he ever looked at another lady. He make joke to us kids your nagging mother but you new never to say it your self.

Mainly showed me good work effect and to treat people right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't ever get married

this

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By *aracd69TV/TS
over a year ago

ivybridge

Look at the mother thats how the daughter will turn out in about 30 years

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

My dad taught me how to grow plants from taking cuttings as well as the seeds etc, also taught me how to use a chisel, hand saw and hand drill from a young age.. Also to question things, anything and everything

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