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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you had a friend who spoke as negatively about you as you did yourself, how long would you be friends with them for?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"If you had a friend who spoke as negatively about you as you did yourself, how long would you be friends with them for?"

This is very true

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

A very timely post.. Not very long and consciously working on it

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"If you had a friend who spoke as negatively about you as you did yourself, how long would you be friends with them for?"

Well said!

Jo.Xx

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"If you had a friend who spoke as negatively about you as you did yourself, how long would you be friends with them for?"

If you're gonna use logic, I'm not playing.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"If you had a friend who spoke as negatively about you as you did yourself, how long would you be friends with them for?"

They’d probably be my best friend. Finally someone who gets me.

The mr

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By *ixed MisterMan
over a year ago

London

Mine are my 2 best friends, when I'm acting the twat/in the wrong they tell me, and I love that about them. It's never malicious, and I always reacted more to constructive criticism than positive reinforcement.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

It would really depend on the intention behind the negativity and if they offer the same kind of help that I strive to give myself.

This is often a blanket statement to say that we should be our own best friend first and foremost but without that negative self talk we can easily fall into a trap of saying everything is ok and we are doing just fine.

Understanding negative talk and the reasons behind it means that we are subconsciously identifying where we feel we can do better. The same that that a good friend with good intentions can do.

We can choose what we do with that information. To act upon it or not. Or even try to block out it by losing a friend with our best interests at heart

Marc

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

That's an interesting question.

On the one hand, the brutal honesty would be nice... You know they'd never bullshit you, or take it easy on you.

But on the whole the sheer amount of negativity and disparaging comments would become wearing very quickly.

I would think they are a dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's better they say it to my face rather than behind my back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn’t be friends. My friends are the ones that make me realise I’m horrible to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realised this during lockdown so I make a promise to myself to look after myself, I picked out a ring and wear it to remember

Now I make dates for myself to enjoy, wether that’s a long soak in a bath or just some me time

Seemed to help

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

That's something I'm asked regularly

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I would drop contact but I can't do that with my inner voice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did. Infact she was often worse. I see her far less these days.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"If you had a friend who spoke as negatively about you as you did yourself, how long would you be friends with them for?"

-5 minutes.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd cut them off immediately, then hide in my room and cry, probably.

Nell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you had a friend who spoke as negatively about you as you did yourself, how long would you be friends with them for?"

We're always the most unkind to ourselves, that's a basic tenant that took me a long time to realise and accept.

Kindness, to all those around you is remarkably helpful, but to yourself, it can be life changing.

Negative self talk is an awful thing, especially when we know the most hurtful buttons to press without thinking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd cut them off immediately, then hide in my room and cry, probably.

Nell"

This

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