FabSwingers.com forum: Non-negotiables

By *ionandlionessmanc OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

We had a sit down last night to review out last few months and see if there's anything we need to change. Anyway, turns out that Tories and Royalists are a massive turn off.

Does anyone else have ideological non-negotiables or is it just the usual physical ones?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have ideological non-negotiables, certainly. Probably more than physical non-negotiables

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those same two. Racism also is my biggest turn off. We have to be able to hold a conversation beyond flirting or ‘banter’

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By *ionandlionessmanc OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I have ideological non-negotiables, certainly. Probably more than physical non-negotiables "

Your profile is perfect! We love it! X

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Those same two. Racism also is my biggest turn off. We have to be able to hold a conversation beyond flirting or ‘banter’"

My ideological non-negotiables basically boil down to, I want to like and have some respect for the person I'm fucking.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

"Those same two. Racism also is my biggest turn off. We have to be able to hold a conversation beyond flirting or ‘banter’"
Yes this is us.x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have ideological non-negotiables, certainly. Probably more than physical non-negotiables

Your profile is perfect! We love it! X"

Thank you! I usually get people griping about the "disclaimer" (it's a joke you guys, untwist the knickers

) or the not meeting bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Double standards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can easily accept that others may have different political views to me and provided they’re not extremist or offensive, as long as we can engage civilly with each other, then I’m less bothered whether they vote Tory, Labour, Liberal, Green, Nationalist Party etc or support, or not, the monarchy.

I’m not on Fab for political or ideological debate, sure if their views are extremist or offensive then there is unlikely to be any compatability.

But I won’t rule out meeting anyone just because the like the King, for example.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Tories, royalists, racists...

Yep if I find that out then it's a no.

Oddly they seem to be the type I attract though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno how to describe it, but I know my turn offs when I see ‘em

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By *ionandlionessmanc OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I can easily accept that others may have different political views to me and provided they’re not extremist or offensive, as long as we can engage civilly with each other, then I’m less bothered whether they vote Tory, Labour, Liberal, Green, Nationalist Party etc or support, or not, the monarchy.

I’m not on Fab for political or ideological debate, sure if their views are extremist or offensive then there is unlikely to be any compatability.

But I won’t rule out meeting anyone just because the like the King, for example."

The chances of us being attracted to anyone with views juxtaposed to ours is very slim. We only want to let people into our inner sanctum who deserve to be there, so for us it's as bad as extremist views. We deserve the best in our relationship, both in and out of the bedroom.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"We had a sit down last night to review out last few months and see if there's anything we need to change. Anyway, turns out that Tories and Royalists are a massive turn off.

Does anyone else have ideological non-negotiables or is it just the usual physical ones? "

I have literally been looking for a Tory voting Masochist, who enjoys degradation and humiliation.

Hard to find up here as most of us Scots have the good sense to hate the Tories.

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By *ionandlionessmanc OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I have ideological non-negotiables, certainly. Probably more than physical non-negotiables

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Thank you! I usually get people griping about the "disclaimer" (it's a joke you guys, untwist the knickers

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The disclaimer is the thing that made us sit up and take note.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dunno how to describe it, but I know my turn offs when I see ‘em"

This. And sometimes they just creep up on me so I change my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manchester Ciddy fans........usually I don’t bother but at the moment they are quite insufferable.

Manky teeth, Jacob Rees Mogg, Nadine Dorris well sometimes) and Michael Fabricant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a sit down last night to review out last few months and see if there's anything we need to change. Anyway, turns out that Tories and Royalists are a massive turn off.

Does anyone else have ideological non-negotiables or is it just the usual physical ones?

I have literally been looking for a Tory voting Masochist, who enjoys degradation and humiliation.

Hard to find up here as most of us Scots have the good sense to hate the Tories."

And those who allegedly purchase very expensive motor homes?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I won't deal with anyone who thinks they're an Alpha or Sigma.

But otherwise I find people can be amazing even if their ideological path is a far stretch from mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not on Fab for political or ideological debate, sure if their views are extremist or offensive then there is unlikely to be any compatability.

But I won’t rule out meeting anyone just because the like the King, for example.

Yes, I can understand that. A meeting of minds as well as bodies.

However from my perspective I’ve seen previously strong families and friends literally split over politics and world events (eg Brexit, Covid etc). Some even over sporting rivalries (one side supports the team in blue, the other the team in red!)

As I’ve got older I’ve realised that life would be boring (and it is indeed far too short!) if we all lived in an echo chamber and shielded ourselves from variety and other points of view.

But as I say, only if we can engage civilly with each other and no extremism or offensive views. In those cases, I agree, there is unlikely to be any compatibility.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Racists bigots and tories! Royalists are fine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bigots and AHs with any views!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to say intolerant people but then realised in this context talking about myself...I'd quite like to continue to meet myself!

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Tories, racists and TERFs

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

I had sex with a tory once, she really thought herself superior. Ex wife of a parliamentary candidate.

I was the gardener to her lady chatterley. The sex was good but the dynamic stank.

Somethings just ain't worth it, you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror.

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I doubt there's anything in an ideological sense that would come up in conversation.

I spend a lot of time in the politics sections, and I'm no doubt blocked by plenty if people because of my views (I'm not Tory) but I have to say politics has never come up in conversation via DM or on a meet.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Anyone who holds extreme nasty views on things like race ,gender or disabilities.

Also as I'm a big animal lover and veggie ,I'd swerve anyone who is cruel to animals too ie I'd never be compatible with a hunter.

I agree that I want to be in the company of people of a similar mindset to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Liberal Democrat’s would need to persuasive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tories, racists, conspiracy theorists, misogynists, anti vaxxers, knobheads

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I doubt there's anything in an ideological sense that would come up in conversation.

I once had someone declare, just before a gangbang (where they found out I was not British) that Brexit was amazing because now we get to kick out all the filthy foreigners.

... It comes up. (also, I bathe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Racist bastards. I’ve just had a stand up argument with one, and I’m furious again. I warned them not to bring up the subject of immigration. And they still did because they want to make sure they are still u happy about OUR COUNTRY being over run by THEM!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Racist bastards. I’ve just had a stand up argument with one, and I’m furious again. I warned them not to bring up the subject of immigration. And they still did because they want to make sure they are still u happy about OUR COUNTRY being over run by THEM!!

I find this fucking hilarious when people do it to me.

They expect me to be on their side. Hating all the immigrants.

I'm an immigrant you guys!

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"I doubt there's anything in an ideological sense that would come up in conversation.

I once had someone declare, just before a gangbang (where they found out I was not British) that Brexit was amazing because now we get to kick out all the filthy foreigners.

... It comes up. (also, I bathe

Fair enough, it obviously does come up. Never has for us though.

I assume he was swiftly removed, and rightly so.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

I find this fucking hilarious when people do it to me.

They expect me to be on their side. Hating all the immigrants.

I'm an immigrant you guys!

Yeah, but you're one of the good ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can accept others views, what I can't accept is someone being a massive dickhead. That's my non negotiable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find this fucking hilarious when people do it to me.

They expect me to be on their side. Hating all the immigrants.

I'm an immigrant you guys!

When they know I made it here by a dinghy

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I must be weird then as I have a fair few fab friends and I don't think politics has ever come up in a conversation anyway !!

Which is awesome as I'd rather discuss tea towel patterns than that anyway

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Those same two. Racism also is my biggest turn off. We have to be able to hold a conversation beyond flirting or ‘banter’

My ideological non-negotiables basically boil down to, I want to like and have some respect for the person I'm fucking."

That sums it up well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find this fucking hilarious when people do it to me.

They expect me to be on their side. Hating all the immigrants.

I'm an immigrant you guys!

What’s hilarious is when I give stats from actual figures they can find in the internet.

And there’s come from ‘ the taxi driver even said!’ Ffs.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I find this fucking hilarious when people do it to me.

They expect me to be on their side. Hating all the immigrants.

I'm an immigrant you guys!

Yeah, but you're one of the good ones "

Lol. Yeah

I'm going to sit with the bad immigrants now. I like them better than anyone who thinks I'm a "good one" on the criteria this shit gets justified with

(I will also sit with those fresh off the boat where I'm from, for the same fucking reasons

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I find this fucking hilarious when people do it to me.

They expect me to be on their side. Hating all the immigrants.

I'm an immigrant you guys!

What’s hilarious is when I give stats from actual figures they can find in the internet.

And there’s come from ‘ the taxi driver even said!’ Ffs.

I tend to delve into history. I know you think I'm British really, but did you know that Australia voted for independence in the 18-fucking-80s? That we're actually a country? (There's indirect evidence in my family tree that my family were thinking about the question of federation at the time it was happening - some extremely historically contingent names going on

)

It's this weird kind of backhanded cultural erasure. You look like me, therefore any differences don't count. Ok. Thanks I think, I'm out.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

I find this fucking hilarious when people do it to me.

They expect me to be on their side. Hating all the immigrants.

I'm an immigrant you guys!

Yeah, but you're one of the good ones

Lol. Yeah

I'm going to sit with the bad immigrants now. I like them better than anyone who thinks I'm a "good one" on the criteria this shit gets justified with

(I will also sit with those fresh off the boat where I'm from, for the same fucking reasons

Yes, I remember the time Australia refused to let the Norwegian vessel tampa, full of immigrants, dock and sent in Australian special forces.

Not their finest hour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must be weird then as I have a fair few fab friends and I don't think politics has ever come up in a conversation anyway !!

Which is awesome as I'd rather discuss tea towel patterns than that anyway

well exactly!

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

Anyone who lists on their profile that they won't meet anyone who votes for a particular party, regardless of the political party, is a complete no for me.

It tells me they have a complete inability to respect and understand the views of others unless they are the same as their own which is really unattractive to me.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I must be weird then as I have a fair few fab friends and I don't think politics has ever come up in a conversation anyway !!

Which is awesome as I'd rather discuss tea towel patterns than that anyway

well exactly! "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I find this fucking hilarious when people do it to me.

They expect me to be on their side. Hating all the immigrants.

I'm an immigrant you guys!

Yeah, but you're one of the good ones

Lol. Yeah

I'm going to sit with the bad immigrants now. I like them better than anyone who thinks I'm a "good one" on the criteria this shit gets justified with

(I will also sit with those fresh off the boat where I'm from, for the same fucking reasons

)

Yes, I remember the time Australia refused to let the Norwegian vessel tampa, full of immigrants, dock and sent in Australian special forces.

Not their finest hour."

Indeed not. The children overboard scandal that resulted from that, compounded with the panic over September 11, led to a bipartisan fascist turn on immigration in Australia. They're doing better now, but that's damning with pretty fucking faint praise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Those same two. Racism also is my biggest turn off. We have to be able to hold a conversation beyond flirting or ‘banter’

My ideological non-negotiables basically boil down to, I want to like and have some respect for the person I'm fucking."

And I’d also like it if they had some respect for me or people like me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Most politics and stuff wouldn't come up in conversation.

My biggest one is as long as they aren't complete cunts or up themselves.

I like laughter and friendly, all the non fun boring chat stuff doesn't belong.

Mrs

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Those same two. Racism also is my biggest turn off. We have to be able to hold a conversation beyond flirting or ‘banter’

My ideological non-negotiables basically boil down to, I want to like and have some respect for the person I'm fucking.

And I’d also like it if they had some respect for me or people like me

Absolutely!

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By *astandFeistyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Anyone who lists on their profile that they won't meet anyone who votes for a particular party, regardless of the political party, is a complete no for me.

It tells me they have a complete inability to respect and understand the views of others unless they are the same as their own which is really unattractive to me."

I'd probably agree with this actually.

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By *irty_DeedsMan
over a year ago

Teesside

"Anyone who lists on their profile that they won't meet anyone who votes for a particular party, regardless of the political party, is a complete no for me.

It tells me they have a complete inability to respect and understand the views of others unless they are the same as their own which is really unattractive to me."
Same here.

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

"I have ideological non-negotiables, certainly. Probably more than physical non-negotiables

Your profile is perfect! We love it! X

Thank you! I usually get people griping about the "disclaimer" (it's a joke you guys, untwist the knickers

) or the not meeting bit

The disclaimer is the thing that made us sit up and take note.

I agree very much fuck the tories

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have ideological non-negotiables, certainly. Probably more than physical non-negotiables

Your profile is perfect! We love it! X

Thank you! I usually get people griping about the "disclaimer" (it's a joke you guys, untwist the knickers

) or the not meeting bit

The disclaimer is the thing that made us sit up and take note.

I agree very much fuck the tories

My... profile doesn't mention political parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I don't feel the need to ideologically agree with someone over everything...in fact I prefer it if we don't agree on everything.

I do know that if your a Tory, royalist etc... It's highly likely your not my people and not someone I want to spend time with.

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

"I have ideological non-negotiables, certainly. Probably more than physical non-negotiables

Your profile is perfect! We love it! X

Thank you! I usually get people griping about the "disclaimer" (it's a joke you guys, untwist the knickers

) or the not meeting bit

The disclaimer is the thing that made us sit up and take note.

I agree very much fuck the tories

My... profile doesn't mention political parties

I was meant to reply and quote to the very top message

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

I tend to think political views are too intricate to group into left and right etc. More views issue by issue that matter, to me.

Being able to hold a conversation with that kind of depth is a non-negotiable. Different opinions are welcomed and appreciated. With a few exceptions...

Racism is definitely a non-negotiable; there have been people immediately kicked into touch on that one. 'I wouldn't have said that if I knew your kids were mixed-race.' Oh that's ok then, you're racist, but you know it's offensive - that's so much better. Sure let's go for cocktails.

Ability to appreciate dark humour, sarcasm satire is a must. It's an ideological belief for me.

Authoritarianism: believing you have a right to tell other people how to live their lives can be

for me.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Tories seems to be one of the big noes on here. I have to say that I would not exclude somebody solely on the basis of the specific label of their political leanings, but feel that I should consider their character in a more holistic manner. There is clearly an immense difference between an erudite and horourable individual such as Rory Stewart, once outside odds contender for the leadership of the Conservative and Unionist Party, and the fat pig that did in fact become the tory PM through a process of lying and corruption.

I am certain that if I were somehow invited for dinner with Rory and his good lady Shoshana, it would be an evening of excellent conversation, agreeable disagreement at times, finding points in common at other times. All present would show empathy, tolerance, intelligence, understanding, humanity...

However I would rather fuck a p*g than spend any time with the canker on the face of the body politic that spent the last several years destroying the United Kingdom, betraying everything decent purely out of greed and self-entitlement.

So for me, fewer hard lines, much more of an intersectionalist approach.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

I couldn’t give a monkey’s about someone’s personal life outside fab. As long as they aren’t thick as pigshit and can actually hold a normal conversation initially by text and then at a social, ideally with a sense of humour, I’m in. I do need to fancy them.

Pulse - check.

Minge - check.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Tories seems to be one of the big noes on here. I have to say that I would not exclude somebody solely on the basis of the specific label of their political leanings, but feel that I should consider their character in a more holistic manner. There is clearly an immense difference between an erudite and horourable individual such as Rory Stewart, once outside odds contender for the leadership of the Conservative and Unionist Party, and the fat pig that did in fact become the tory PM through a process of lying and corruption.

So for me, fewer hard lines, much more of an intersectionalist approach."

Tell us how you really feel

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I need to keep my skin from crawling, long after I've met someone who I allowed myself to spend time with

. I'm not particularly easy to get along with sometimes, so they'll - I hope - infer this and do one before any or much contact. I don't want to be intolerable to myself.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"We had a sit down last night to review out last few months and see if there's anything we need to change. Anyway, turns out that Tories and Royalists are a massive turn off.

Does anyone else have ideological non-negotiables or is it just the usual physical ones? "

A pulse

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

So for me, fewer hard lines, much more of an intersectionalist approach."

Taking each individual as they come? That will never catch on. Prejudice seems to be key to success.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Closed mindedness and intolerance are pretty big no go areas for us.

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I try not to talk serious politics and religion on meets. Nothing kills the mood faster.

I do find Brexiteers very difficult to put up with though.

And those people who harp on endlessly about traffic conditions, petrol prices, the highway code etc. Yawn, shut up!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Anyone who lists on their profile that they won't meet anyone who votes for a particular party, regardless of the political party, is a complete no for me.

It tells me they have a complete inability to respect and understand the views of others unless they are the same as their own which is really unattractive to me."

Well said

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Tories... Ultimate block list material.

Badly kept feet.. trim your toenails it literally takes seconds.. please!! :-

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By *exySunshine83Woman
over a year ago

Livingston

Saliva puddles in the corner of the mouth...boke! Surely you're aware of it!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I had sex with a tory once, she really thought herself superior. Ex wife of a parliamentary candidate.

I was the gardener to her lady chatterley. The sex was good but the dynamic stank.

Somethings just ain't worth it, you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror."

Was she from here?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I give a hard pass to anyone who is a cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I give a hard pass to anyone who is a cunt

That's why you didn't reply...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We could never meet a Trumpist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think any ideologies would be spoken about that much to be honest. I would hope that as long they make me laugh and aren't completely dismissive of my beliefs and what I want, we'd get on grand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a sit down last night to review out last few months and see if there's anything we need to change. Anyway, turns out that Tories and Royalists are a massive turn off.

Does anyone else have ideological non-negotiables or is it just the usual physical ones? "

Same plus those with the

The Sydney university thing in their profile,it puts me off badly

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't think any ideologies would be spoken about that much to be honest. I would hope that as long they make me laugh and aren't completely dismissive of my beliefs and what I want, we'd get on grand."

I've been surprised by how often it does come up - and I used to bite my tongue and let it be.

Now I'm just like, nope. I don't need that discomfort in my life when I'm trying to have fun. Preference is sacrosanct etc

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's a hard no for me if they are playing behind their partners back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been surprised by how often it does come up - and I used to bite my tongue and let it be.

Now I'm just like, nope. I don't need that discomfort in my life when I'm trying to have fun. Preference is sacrosanct etc "

That's a good point, I suppose all it takes is an off the cuff remark for your opinion to really turn. Now that I think about it, I have had it in clubs and socials. There was one guy I was talking to who was part of a couple and he actually described himself as "more of an alpha"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been surprised by how often it does come up - and I used to bite my tongue and let it be.

Now I'm just like, nope. I don't need that discomfort in my life when I'm trying to have fun. Preference is sacrosanct etc

I remember several moments where my stomach dropped. But I tried to make nice.

My comfort matters too, though, and nope. I'm done with that. I'm here to have fun not fix democratic fragmentation or whatever.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm all for people having something they feel passionate about.

Just don't bang on about it while you're with me.

I don't want debates, or lectures with people from here.

I'm here to give my brain a rest and give my body pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a couple on here who would not meet golfers...

I'm guessing a golfer flaked on them but I did find it funny

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've been surprised by how often it does come up - and I used to bite my tongue and let it be.

Now I'm just like, nope. I don't need that discomfort in my life when I'm trying to have fun. Preference is sacrosanct etc

There's the problem.

If someone doesn't say anything before you meet it can be awkward afterwards.

I had someone drop me home once and tell me he doesn't meet anyone who's had sex with black or bi men.

That was a conversation we should have had before he put his penis in me; and I told him so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's a good point, I suppose all it takes is an off the cuff remark for your opinion to really turn. Now that I think about it, I have had it in clubs and socials. There was one guy I was talking to who was part of a couple and he actually described himself as "more of an alpha"

I remember several moments where my stomach dropped. But I tried to make nice.

My comfort matters too, though, and nope. I'm done with that. I'm here to have fun not fix democratic fragmentation or whatever."

I'm a bit sad to say this but I wish I was the same. I think I'd try to compromise a bit too much when I should stand my ground and not mind if it creates conflict on their side. To sum it up... I'm a fucking soft touch

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I remember several moments where my stomach dropped. But I tried to make nice.

My comfort matters too, though, and nope. I'm done with that. I'm here to have fun not fix democratic fragmentation or whatever.

I used to be and thinking back makes my skin crawl.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

In a club I’ll generally stay away from subjects I’m passionate about, but if something is said and it really gets under my skin. There is always someone out for everyone is all I will say as I head to the bar and not the bedroom.

On here I do read profiles so won’t engage if they have something written I totally find abhorrent.

At the same time I have no doubt that my woke, lefty, anti Tory and snowflake opinions will put others off me, GOOD

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

I don’t care for people’s ideologies/ political preferences. Just here to meet fuck and light banter enough to enable that.

If people start asking me stuff about that I just say I don’t discuss stuff like that .

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I saw a couple on here who would not meet golfers...

I'm guessing a golfer flaked on them but I did find it funny "

Always licking their balls clean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We could never meet a Trumpist. "

Took me a while, then I realised that the word I *thought* you were talking about is actually “trumpeter”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't let me go down on them...

I might not even do it but I want it available

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By *parkyjayneCouple
over a year ago

midlands

You can almost condense it down to daily mail readers. Useful time saving tip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Closed mindedness and intolerance are pretty big no go areas for us. "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can accept that we all have differing views, morals etc. What is completely non negotiable to me is, anyone spreading hatred, people without a kind heart, I just can’t accept that in my life.

Mrs

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

The irony is strong

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By *ionandlionessmanc OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"The irony is strong"

And that's the reason for the question. We're fully aware of the paradoxical nature of this, but for us to share ourselves with someone else, we have to have certain boundaries.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

They have to like me.

It's a deal breaker, and those people aren't easy to find.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"They have to like me.

It's a deal breaker, and those people aren't easy to find."

*waves*

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Anyone who thinks that they can disrupt others lives to inflict their cause on others, such as just stop oil or extinction rebellion protests.

Anyone who thinks laws and decency don’t apply to them.

They can all do one.

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By *ionandlionessmanc OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Anyone who thinks that they can disrupt others lives to inflict their cause on others, such as just stop oil or extinction rebellion protests.

Anyone who thinks laws and decency don’t apply to them.

They can all do one."

Do you have the same views about the Suffragettes and Emmeline Pankhurst and what they did for womens rights? Honest question.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I’d like to think I wouldn’t meet anyone who’s particularly nasty or extremist in their views.

But no one on a swinger site would know what political party I vote for and it’s not something I’d discuss, similar to other beliefs.

If we match sexually and aesthetically, I’m happy.

Dating, I’d have a much higher standard for personality and beliefs. But i don’t have such deep conversations with fab/ clubs guys as I don’t do regular meets and not here for friends.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
over a year ago

York

Racists, Tories and the "get over it" Brigade.. you know who you are.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Anyone who thinks that they can disrupt others lives to inflict their cause on others, such as just stop oil or extinction rebellion protests.

Anyone who thinks laws and decency don’t apply to them.

They can all do one.

Do you have the same views about the Suffragettes and Emmeline Pankhurst and what they did for womens rights? Honest question. "

Yes, the ones who thought that bombing arson and murder was acceptable.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not for me , I quite like people with different views and perspectives to mine

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