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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Couples, if you want your man involved in a meet, what he looks like is very relevant. Meeting a couple does not only involve knowing what the lady looks like. We can't know what he looks like (and therefore know if we are attracted to you as a couple) if you don't put any photos of him in your gallery.

Thank you for your attention. As you were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They only use photos of the female half of the couple cause that gets the messages in

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Amen

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Amen "

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Å men.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"They only use photos of the female half of the couple cause that gets the messages in "

Lady bait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use pictures of both, keeps the inbox manageable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does picture's of jaffa cakes or googly eyes count?

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Does picture's of jaffa cakes or googly eyes count? "

If the male half of the couple is a jaffa cake or googly eyes then yes it would. If it's an actual man then no.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes but he's shy/not photogenic/is a 00 spy/prefers being the other side of the camera/doesn't like having his photo taken/Mrs is the better looking. Delete as appropriate.

That said people should do what they want to do it's all gravy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is more annoying is when you send a face picture and ask for one in return to see if there is a 4 way attraction and they just send pictures of the female half like it doesn't matter what the bloke looks like. It feels like people just expect the woman in the couple to go along with whatever because the male in the couple is attracted to the female and for us it definitely doesn't work like that.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Just get him to pop a bag on his head.

Problem solved.

A

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

We make a point of having Hades in as many photos as we can, as an earlier poster on here write, it helps keep the inbox manageable and our profile accurate. When we we really want it to go quiet, we put photos of Hades as the profile photo.

Hades & Cherry

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We don’t engage with couples profiles with just the lady in now as we know the excuses we’ll get for not having the guy in the pic.

If you’re both meeting then both should be in pics.

But it’s a good filter and saves time.

K

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Yes but he's shy/not photogenic/is a 00 spy/prefers being the other side of the camera/doesn't like having his photo taken/Mrs is the better looking. Delete as appropriate.

That said people should do what they want to do it's all gravy "

Or can't have his picture up due to work!

We still get winks from profiles full of just the lady on our joint profile,it's a straight delete from us.Id both play,both should be shown on the profile in my opinion .

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Surely you can just message couples who have photo's of the Man? Or of the messages you receive, only reply to those who have photo's of the Man?

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Surely you can just message couples who have photos of the Man? Or of the messages you receive, only reply to those who have photo's of the Man?"

The problem is it's virtually all couples. It's not even a lot. It's the norm not to show the guy.

That means that if there's a couple we are potentially interested in, we'd have to send a message asking for a photo of him. If we're actively looking to meet a couple we'd have to send out a bunch of these messages (which may not even get answered) on the off-chance Hannah finds the guy attractive. Then we might have to say we're not interested after seeing the man which might be taken as rude.

The obvious solution is for couples to just show both in their photos. The very purpose of a profile is so somebody can show themselves to see what interest it sparks. It seems ludicrous to say you're a couple but in the gallery treat the man as if what he looks like isn't even vaguely relevant.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Surely you can just message couples who have photos of the Man? Or of the messages you receive, only reply to those who have photo's of the Man?

The problem is it's virtually all couples. It's not even a lot. It's the norm not to show the guy.

That means that if there's a couple we are potentially interested in, we'd have to send a message asking for a photo of him. If we're actively looking to meet a couple we'd have to send out a bunch of these messages (which may not even get answered) on the off-chance Hannah finds the guy attractive. Then we might have to say we're not interested after seeing the man which might be taken as rude.

The obvious solution is for couples to just show both in their photos. The very purpose of a profile is so somebody can show themselves to see what interest it sparks. It seems ludicrous to say you're a couple but in the gallery treat the man as if what he looks like isn't even vaguely relevant. "

It always been this way though.

Tits = bait.

As others have said, use it as a filter. Those couples that realise the importance will have photos. Those that are trying to hide something won't.

Odds are if you can't see him, there's a reason.

A

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Surely you can just message couples who have photos of the Man? Or of the messages you receive, only reply to those who have photo's of the Man?

The problem is it's virtually all couples. It's not even a lot. It's the norm not to show the guy.

That means that if there's a couple we are potentially interested in, we'd have to send a message asking for a photo of him. If we're actively looking to meet a couple we'd have to send out a bunch of these messages (which may not even get answered) on the off-chance Hannah finds the guy attractive. Then we might have to say we're not interested after seeing the man which might be taken as rude.

The obvious solution is for couples to just show both in their photos. The very purpose of a profile is so somebody can show themselves to see what interest it sparks. It seems ludicrous to say you're a couple but in the gallery treat the man as if what he looks like isn't even vaguely relevant.

It always been this way though.

Tits = bait.

As others have said, use it as a filter. Those couples that realise the importance will have photos. Those that are trying to hide something won't.

Odds are if you can't see him, there's a reason.

A"

Maybe, but that really doesn't leave many to view, and there's no filter that lets us search only for couples that show both of them.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Surely you can just message couples who have photos of the Man? Or of the messages you receive, only reply to those who have photo's of the Man?

The problem is it's virtually all couples. It's not even a lot. It's the norm not to show the guy.

That means that if there's a couple we are potentially interested in, we'd have to send a message asking for a photo of him. If we're actively looking to meet a couple we'd have to send out a bunch of these messages (which may not even get answered) on the off-chance Hannah finds the guy attractive. Then we might have to say we're not interested after seeing the man which might be taken as rude.

The obvious solution is for couples to just show both in their photos. The very purpose of a profile is so somebody can show themselves to see what interest it sparks. It seems ludicrous to say you're a couple but in the gallery treat the man as if what he looks like isn't even vaguely relevant.

It always been this way though.

Tits = bait.

As others have said, use it as a filter. Those couples that realise the importance will have photos. Those that are trying to hide something won't.

Odds are if you can't see him, there's a reason.

A"

This totally

When we first started out on our couple account we'd give these profiles a chance .It normally then took ages to get pics of the man & then I'd have no attraction to him.

Now we just delete winks/messages ,the lady is of no interest to me & it feels like if there's no pics of the man,it would all be about the lady in the pics.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

We will always send private face pictures of us both before we arrange a meeting.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I never understand why there's no men pics or just a cock one, my time is precious I'm not wasting it chatting to an invisible man.

We come as a pair we photo as a pair, the ladies want to see my man too.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve always found this really odd and we’ve even commented at clubs on occasion that some poor woman is taking one for the team tonight.

We’re only seeking guys so only a couple of me to show the sort of guy she likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never understand why there's no men pics or just a cock one, my time is precious I'm not wasting it chatting to an invisible man.

We come as a pair we photo as a pair, the ladies want to see my man too.

Mrs "

We do want to see your man, yes, definitely

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

If a couple with no photos of the Man send some via a message that's all good isn't it? We've met several couples who don't have photo's of the Man on their profile but have sent in a message. We would advise don't waste your time looking through loads of profiles that don't have what you want. Wait for people to message you and reply if you may be compatible.

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"We use pictures of both, keeps the inbox manageable "

Mmm. I fancy a hotdog after going through your pics

Mr

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I think this comes down to who a couple is looking to attract and the dynamic.

As a couple who is primarily looking for other couples and females we understand the importance of showing both of us and we do though as the male half I am often overlooked, but that is just fab and actually opens up other questions in itself.

If a couple was looking to attract a male then photos of the male half seems a little pointless especially in say a hotwife scenario where the male takes more of a back seat.

Ultimately your profile will attract who you are looking for so as others have said use it as a filter

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most do it to get the messages in

But then there are some that are fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wait until they are invested in a little us before whipping out pictures of Mr. I’m just used as bait

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"We wait until they are invested in a little us before whipping out pictures of Mr. I’m just used as bait "

And us, plus we’d never meet pushy demanding people who think they can dictate how we use this site.

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