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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What life lesson did you win the hard way?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

That’s it’s not up to me to fix *everything*. Not all of those monkeys are from my circus.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

That I couldn’t fly and condor man wasn’t real

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What life lesson did you win the hard way?"

Learn. God damn it. Win isn’t even a similar word to learn ffs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"That’s it’s not up to me to fix *everything*. Not all of those monkeys are from my circus."

Not my circus, not my monkeys.

That's been a mantra for me the past year or so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That I couldn’t fly and condor man wasn’t real "

Mmmm, condorrrr

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"What life lesson did you win the hard way?"

That life definitely is a journey… not a destination

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"That's been a mantra for me the past year or so "

Just for once, I said something that could have come from your brain instead of you always doing it to me.

Achievement unlocked.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Don't try and please everyone.

You'll fail, it'll piss you off....and some of the fuckers don't deserve your efforts anyway.

A

*Oh. And admit it when you've fucked up.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

J

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

That so called " friends " aren't there when you need them ..

I now choose friends very carefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone holds a higher position than you in a company doesn't mean they care about what's best for your career.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Latex and I don't get on (allergy)

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By *ilkstressWoman
over a year ago

Drasnia

If someone thinks it's ok to try to manipulate me or change me, it's time to walk away. Or run, if it isn't excessively hot.

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By *tudentForFunMan
over a year ago

Craigavon

Believe actions over words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t eat the yellow snow?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Always listen to your gut instinct,it knows.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

That most friends you help out will do fuck all if you ever asked the same back and most will disappear when you no longer have anything to offer them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t rely on anyone. Ever.

It’s the biggest waste of time and energy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That most friends you help out will do fuck all if you ever asked the same back and most will disappear when you no longer have anything to offer them"

God I feel that. I used to be the one to always offer my time and energy, would always go out of my way to message my ‘friends’ to catch up, see how they are etc. Especially during covid, we were helping out two sets of friends with food shops, one couple lives over an hour away yet we helped with a five month old baby.

But when my mental and physical health got bad, they did fuck all. No messages, no check ups, no popping in - nothing. Was a huge wake up call, because they all bitched about each other to me, but they were suddenly all best pals. Ah well. Not my issue anymore

Although I now have like….no friends lol. I have a few mum-friends from my sons nursery, but it’s not the same

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

You can pick your friends

And you can pick your nose

But you can’t pick your friend’s nose.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I would say, trusting too easily, and thinking most people are on the same wavelength as myself. I’ve learned that a few times now I know properly.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"That most friends you help out will do fuck all if you ever asked the same back and most will disappear when you no longer have anything to offer them"

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"That so called " friends " aren't there when you need them ..

I now choose friends very carefully "

I hear you on this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be there for everyone all the time but there are very few people who are there when you need someone

Such is life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I’ll never biologically be the man I want to be…but not in a ‘transphobic gotcha moment’ more in a…I’m never going to biologically be who I want to be, so I could just stop trying so hard, and redefine my own masculinity. Being trans is no fun, but at least I can do it my own way

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I learned everything the hard way. I still do I'm really rubbish at doing it any other way

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

I am sure that for many of us will have been times we wished we let the head rule rather than the heart

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By *0shadesOfFilthMan
over a year ago

nearby

It’s easier to stay out of trouble, than to get out of trouble.

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

It was winter, a little bird fell out of the nest, a cow came by and dropped a cow pie on the little bird, little bird was warm and started chirping,a coyote came along and gobbled the little bird up.the morale of the story, it's not always the people that get you into shit,and it's not always a friend who gets you out

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


" It was winter, a little bird fell out of the nest, a cow came by and dropped a cow pie on the little bird, little bird was warm and started chirping,a coyote came along and gobbled the little bird up.the morale of the story, it's not always the people that get you into shit,and it's not always a friend who gets you out"

What have I done now?

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever


" It was winter, a little bird fell out of the nest, a cow came by and dropped a cow pie on the little bird, little bird was warm and started chirping,a coyote came along and gobbled the little bird up.the morale of the story, it's not always the people that get you into shit,and it's not always a friend who gets you out

What have I done now? "
as soon as I typed in little bird up popped X's and o's

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


" It was winter, a little bird fell out of the nest, a cow came by and dropped a cow pie on the little bird, little bird was warm and started chirping,a coyote came along and gobbled the little bird up.the morale of the story, it's not always the people that get you into shit,and it's not always a friend who gets you out

What have I done now? as soon as I typed in little bird up popped X's and o's "

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If you don't let them have the satisfaction you can keep your self-respect.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Allowing people close enough to see the real you is more dangerous than jumping out of a plane above an active volcano in the end its gonna hurt regardless the excitement of it all so either grow wings or your fucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned so much but I think learned a lot about family and how they can sometimes be your biggest opps and your biggest haters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I learned so much but I think learned a lot about family and how they can sometimes be your biggest opps and your biggest haters. "

Legit

Don’t speak to half of mine because they chose my abuser over me low contact with my parents, barely see my grandparents because of it…thank god for my in laws

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I learned so much but I think learned a lot about family and how they can sometimes be your biggest opps and your biggest haters.

Legit

Don’t speak to half of mine because they chose my abuser over me low contact with my parents, barely see my grandparents because of it…thank god for my in laws "

Sorry

And agreed about inlaws. I have a positive in laws relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you don't let them have the satisfaction you can keep your self-respect."

This!!!! I’ve had so much shit thrown my way over the years by two family members in particularly, and for the last three or so years I’ve just smiled and went on my merry way. It’s been bliss and the abuse has definitely died down

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By *he terrierMan
over a year ago

gateshead

Life leason respect is earnet not a privilege

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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago

Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton,

We are all on our own,surrounded and outnumbered by superior forces.The odd one or two people wil bring you food and more ammunition.Most however want mowing down. Never surrender.

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington


"That most friends you help out will do fuck all if you ever asked the same back and most will disappear when you no longer have anything to offer them

God I feel that. I used to be the one to always offer my time and energy, would always go out of my way to message my ‘friends’ to catch up, see how they are etc. Especially during covid, we were helping out two sets of friends with food shops, one couple lives over an hour away yet we helped with a five month old baby.

But when my mental and physical health got bad, they did fuck all. No messages, no check ups, no popping in - nothing. Was a huge wake up call, because they all bitched about each other to me, but they were suddenly all best pals. Ah well. Not my issue anymore

Although I now have like….no friends lol. I have a few mum-friends from my sons nursery, but it’s not the same"

That’s really shitty after going g to great lengths to consistently help them out prior. Unfortunately most are like this in my experience I have 2 really good mates who have and I know would help when needed. I don’t like to end friendships but the ones I know are all for self I just refuse to do owt for anymore as hard as it is to say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone will have the same mind set and heart as you do. People only care about themselves. You can give your all to people but when you at your lowest no one is there and no one seems bothered to check up on you. Never give your all. Never wear your heart on your sleeve. Learn not to give so much when people can walk all over you and ignore you. People will always talk whether it's at work or anywhere else. Never mistaken kindness for weakness. Just because a person is smiling doesn't mean they are happy. Probably went overboard lol

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

Be careful who you trust and dont eat yellow snow

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Blood isn't always thicker than water.

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By *c_FingersMan
over a year ago

Stoke On Trent

Good things don’t come easy in life and You Don’t Always Get What You Want.

That some People Don’t Want You to Succeed and good things don't always happen to the good people.

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By *ax19862002Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Never lend friends a large ish amount of cash x

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

No matter how hard you work it wont always be appreciated or get you the results people make out. Hard work is definitely important but there are a lot of other factors that play into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop caring and they can't hurt you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never cross an ocean for someone who won't even jump a puddle for you

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Don't rely on anyone at work. There are no friends at work.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Don't rely on anyone at work. There are no friends at work."

Add to that, the person who does the performs the worst at your pay grade receives the same salary as the person who performs the best

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By *unky_PhoenixMan
over a year ago

Boston

When to let go. Sometimes it feels like the hardest thing to do, but in reality it's harder to stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What life lesson did you win the hard way?"

Not everyone thinks like I do.

And I’m done at learning things the hard way now, I just want to enjoy my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't rely on anyone at work. There are no friends at work.

Add to that, the person who does the performs the worst at your pay grade receives the same salary as the person who performs the best"

Which is why I was self employed for most of my working life.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"I learned everything the hard way. I still do I'm really rubbish at doing it any other way"

Unfortunately it's the only way we learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That it’s ok to take time for yourself, you don’t have to be busy 24/7.

Learnt the hard way when I ignored a UTI as I was too busy to go to the docs and it went rogue and I ended up in hospital

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Learn to love yourself (not masturbation, although if you’re getting that wrong ) as in the end it’s down to you those successes and failures. Once you appreciate what you actually are and what you’re capable of, then you could be too far down the road to enjoy them.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

As shit as things can get and they've been bottom of the bottom they'll always get better.

Don't let a bad moment turn into a bad day.

Time is precious.

Sumo - shut up and move on - I love this there's no reason to keep going over and over the same things.

Stand up for yourself!

Yes I'm wired and slightly awkward but someone will come along who loves the wierd.

A few of mine.

Mrs

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

There's a lot here that have been burnt by others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter if it's family ,friends , acquaintances. If they don't enhance your life...( Or more so if the detract from it) you don't need to have them in your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That i can't fix people with serious addictions and issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

747s are awesome machines when they remain in 1piece

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit happens.

You can’t save a World, or a person, that doesn’t want to be saved.

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