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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We’re all on fab for very many reasons. One that I’ve been thinking and reflecting on a lot recently is catching feelings.

What are your thoughts on catching feelings? Are you open to it? Would you avoid it any way you can? Would you run if someone caught feelings for you? Or are you trying to catch feelings for a sweet one?

I used to be open to feelings but I think I can’t manage any more in my life and so I think I’ll probably try not to become a soppy mess for someone.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I wouldn't be opposed to said thing happening. It would probably be helpful as they would be a swinger so the lifestyle would naturally fall in and make things less complicated

Its not something im looking for though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You feel what you feel, Steve. There's no running away from it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be opposed to said thing happening. It would probably be helpful as they would be a swinger so the lifestyle would naturally fall in and make things less complicated

Its not something im looking for though "

Situations are definitely made easier by those that get your lifestyle it relationship dynamic. But fab is full of monogamous people as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You feel what you feel, Steve. There's no running away from it."

Wanna bet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You feel what you feel, Steve. There's no running away from it.

Wanna bet?"

Don't fight it, Steve. You'll feel better if you don't fight it.

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,

Feelings are great. What matters is how you deal with them

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"I wouldn't be opposed to said thing happening. It would probably be helpful as they would be a swinger so the lifestyle would naturally fall in and make things less complicated

Its not something im looking for though

Situations are definitely made easier by those that get your lifestyle it relationship dynamic. But fab is full of monogamous people as well"

Yeah it would be easier for me as im not a huge swinger mainly a kinkster so it would be easier than others.

I suppose it depends on the person. But that being said no more talk i dont want it to become a thing im quite happy single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love feelings. I welcome them.

But, I am in a relationship. And although my partner is happy for me to fuck whoever I like I have to draw the line somewhere otherwise who knows what could happen if I let myself get lost and deep with someone I massively liked. I know it would end with a lot of sadness.

But feelings are good. I welcome them, but try to keep a reasonable distance.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Being part of a couple it's totally different as you have feelings for your partner, you can like and respect others, but catching feelings wouldn't be something that we would want from the lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a concern at all. No way I'd have a relationship with anyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be opposed to said thing happening. It would probably be helpful as they would be a swinger so the lifestyle would naturally fall in and make things less complicated

Its not something im looking for though

Situations are definitely made easier by those that get your lifestyle it relationship dynamic. But fab is full of monogamous people as well

Yeah it would be easier for me as im not a huge swinger mainly a kinkster so it would be easier than others.

I suppose it depends on the person. But that being said no more talk i dont want it to become a thing im quite happy single "

Don’t worry you can’t catch the feelings just by talking about them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You feel what you feel, Steve. There's no running away from it.

Wanna bet?

Don't fight it, Steve. You'll feel better if you don't fight it."

Are you putting me to sleep

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Fab brings out the lepidopterist in me — I try to catch feelings with my sensual net like butterflies.

Without feelings fab would be less interesting for me. Having feelings doesn't necessarily mean full blown romance or spousal conditions. It gives me substance for my meets.

Perhaps I'm old fashioned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Feelings are great. What matters is how you deal with them "

How do you deal with them, pea?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love feelings. I welcome them.

But, I am in a relationship. And although my partner is happy for me to fuck whoever I like I have to draw the line somewhere otherwise who knows what could happen if I let myself get lost and deep with someone I massively liked. I know it would end with a lot of sadness.

But feelings are good. I welcome them, but try to keep a reasonable distance. "

Poly solves that

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's not something I'm interested in. Friendship yes. Otherwise no.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

For me Toyah I have many naughty friends I have known for a long time & feelings are amazing I think you can love lots of people & be loved back without going off the rails.You have to be very open & communication is so important.Feels actually make the physical side so much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love feelings. I welcome them.

But, I am in a relationship. And although my partner is happy for me to fuck whoever I like I have to draw the line somewhere otherwise who knows what could happen if I let myself get lost and deep with someone I massively liked. I know it would end with a lot of sadness.

But feelings are good. I welcome them, but try to keep a reasonable distance.

Poly solves that"

Poly would be great if it was for us but it definitely isn't the kind of relationship we both want! But I can imagine it's sweet when it works for everyone involved.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"I wouldn't be opposed to said thing happening. It would probably be helpful as they would be a swinger so the lifestyle would naturally fall in and make things less complicated

Its not something im looking for though

Situations are definitely made easier by those that get your lifestyle it relationship dynamic. But fab is full of monogamous people as well

Yeah it would be easier for me as im not a huge swinger mainly a kinkster so it would be easier than others.

I suppose it depends on the person. But that being said no more talk i dont want it to become a thing im quite happy single

Don’t worry you can’t catch the feelings just by talking about them "

You never know these emotions have weird way about them

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

I'm an incurable romantic seeking a filthy whore.

What's so complicated about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You feel what you feel, Steve. There's no running away from it.

Wanna bet?

Don't fight it, Steve. You'll feel better if you don't fight it.

Are you putting me to sleep "

Just smothering you with love. And a pillow.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I really dislike the term "catching feelings". Like emotions are a disease.

I don't think any of us are immune to feelings. It's how you manage them that differs. I know there are plenty of people who are afraid of them and keep them at arm's length, or simply refuse to acknowledge them.

I've discovered I can burn hot with making new connections on fab, the feelings are intense, then it passes. Because I'm not looking for additional relationships as such - friends, lovers, yes, but not more than that - I feel secure enough in myself to let that happen and enjoy it. I guess my boundaries allow me to experience it safely, in a way?

It's a complex topic, OP.

Mrs TMN x

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm trying not to look at Ricky's profile pic because I know I'll catch feelings all over again.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

To be honest when I joined here it was with very little expectation that I’d find something I’d consider meaningful. I wasn’t particularly looking for a relationship but I also hadn’t closed myself off to the possibility of allowing someone to get close to me again.

Long story short I went out on a limb and met someone for a coffee date, I was pretty sure from the moment I met him there was something there, you know ‘that spark’ a few complications in between and busy schedules we reconvened months later and the rest is history

That’s the thing with feelings - they can sneak up on you in the most unexpected of times and you either have the balls to tell someone you’ve caught them or you don’t - thankfully in this case they were reciprocated. 16 months later a whole load of adventures, laughs and the odd hurdle to jump I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve been in years

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm trying not to look at Ricky's profile pic because I know I'll catch feelings all over again."

That funny feeling in your stomach?

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

It depends entirely on the circumstances for me, but then we are open to poly relationships in our marriage, I've had a girlfriend for years alongside my husband before currently not but I'm absolutely open to dating someone special. Never say never.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm not scared of having more than friendship feelings. Romantic feelings can be nice, and form part of the connection that I need for great sex.

I'm in a loving and happy relationship, but that doesn't mean I leave my heart at the door with anyone else I may meet. It's rare, but if there is a connection with someone there is nothing to stop my heart expanding to give me a piece to offer them as well.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

If it happens it happens, enjoy the ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me once and it was sad to have to walk away from that person. Its difficult when you're in a relationship as ultimately I have to put that first and be respectful to my partner. I don't welcome them anymore, I try to keep the emotional side out of it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Avoid, but as a couple I guess it's different for us than a single, I'm happy with sexual non monogamy but emotionally I'm not at all, I need that stability and trust.

Mrs

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

(Mr)

I can't help it, I'm polyam so catch the feels a lot

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Not a concern at all. No way I'd have a relationship with anyone on here. "
why whats the difference between here and there?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It's not gone well for me in the past so I try very hard to avoid catching the feels. If someone caught them for me, it would depend on whether or not it affected how they behaved towards me. If nothing changed happy life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally I'd try to avoid it. I don't get clingy but not sure how I'd respond to someone I really liked meeting others if they were my sole focus and the sole recipient for my affection. It would absolutely be a 'me' problem but at that point, it would probably be better to break it off see where it took me

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"To be honest when I joined here it was with very little expectation that I’d find something I’d consider meaningful. I wasn’t particularly looking for a relationship but I also hadn’t closed myself off to the possibility of allowing someone to get close to me again.

Long story short I went out on a limb and met someone for a coffee date, I was pretty sure from the moment I met him there was something there, you know ‘that spark’ a few complications in between and busy schedules we reconvened months later and the rest is history

That’s the thing with feelings - they can sneak up on you in the most unexpected of times and you either have the balls to tell someone you’ve caught them or you don’t - thankfully in this case they were reciprocated. 16 months later a whole load of adventures, laughs and the odd hurdle to jump I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve been in years

X"

I absolutely love this

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Feelings are great and as already said it's what you do with them that counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my husband, I’m not looking to catch any romantic feelings for anyone else. I think I’m quite good at knowing where the line is and so I avoid crossing it. If I thought feelings of that nature were starting to creep in I’d step away from it completely. I am however open to friendships and those friendships of course come with feelings.

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By *asygoingcouple1000Couple
over a year ago

all over

No one chooses to catch feelings. No matter how hard you try not to or don't want to, it still sometimes happens.

Don't put yourself in a situation where it's a possibility.

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over a year ago

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

I guess its easier for couples like us to have that "line in the sand" when it comes to feelings, as we are devoted to each other so don't have a need for anyone/anything else in our relationship.

That being said, we have developed a number of friendships that mean we are close to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feelings are great. What matters is how you deal with them "

This. I love the butterflies and the intensity that happens when you just give into wherever moments you're lost in.

I'm a hopeless romantic and I embrace every part of that as a result.

Yes, I might catch feelings and I might have my heart broken but I'd still not do without them.

Its who I am. My heart has always been a beautiful liability and I'm OK with it.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It wouldn't bother me if someone from here said they had fallen for me.

What I don't want is the sentiment without the commitment.

If you only want to see me to get your penis sucked, don't bother me with useless conversations about how you feel about me.

I won't care.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I agree with Mrs TMN, catching feelings sounds like it's some sort of awful disease. :D

It's not. I love developing feelings for others, that initial rush when you realise there *could* be something more there. That new relationship energy, the excitement of leaning into that effervescence, the way the world seems a little bit brighter.

A couple of my close friends have told me recently to protect my heart. To step away from that, enjoy a hot girl summer. And part of me thinks, perhaps I should. You can't be hurt if you don't care - lies, cheating, all of that doesn't matter because there's nothing there. No emotional investment.

But...

It's not being true to myself. I've not loved anyone since an ex a few years ago but I have developed strong feelings for others. A deep connection and sense of care. I like that my heart feels strongly and deeply. I like that others leave their mark on me, have loved me and care for me.

So yes, it can be difficult to navigate. It can be truly upsetting. Scary at times. You have that potential for those intense low periods where you swear yourself off feelings, that chance of crying over another.

But with those lows come the highs. The sharing, the delight in a spark with another. The adventures that unfold. The happiness you feel in spending time with them, that bliss in doing nothing but being in their presence. The intimacy. The care.

Right now I'm not looking for anything, I'm gently healing. Equally, I'm not closing myself off from the joy of others. Those feelings that can unexpectedly creep in until one day you realise this person is a chapter in your book that's unfolding.

That's living for me.

And yes, I'm poly. Perhaps not the poly ideal as a friend has repeatedly said to me. I'm being true to myself though and that's the most important thing.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Feelings don’t scare me. I’ve had feelings for everyone I’ve met and still am good friends with them all. Like someone said above, if you know what you want in life and you can handle it then it’s not an issue. Unfortunately many can’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with Mrs TMN, catching feelings sounds like it's some sort of awful disease. :D

It's not. I love developing feelings for others, that initial rush when you realise there *could* be something more there. That new relationship energy, the excitement of leaning into that effervescence, the way the world seems a little bit brighter.

A couple of my close friends have told me recently to protect my heart. To step away from that, enjoy a hot girl summer. And part of me thinks, perhaps I should. You can't be hurt if you don't care - lies, cheating, all of that doesn't matter because there's nothing there. No emotional investment.

But...

It's not being true to myself. I've not loved anyone since an ex a few years ago but I have developed strong feelings for others. A deep connection and sense of care. I like that my heart feels strongly and deeply. I like that others leave their mark on me, have loved me and care for me.

So yes, it can be difficult to navigate. It can be truly upsetting. Scary at times. You have that potential for those intense low periods where you swear yourself off feelings, that chance of crying over another.

But with those lows come the highs. The sharing, the delight in a spark with another. The adventures that unfold. The happiness you feel in spending time with them, that bliss in doing nothing but being in their presence. The intimacy. The care.

Right now I'm not looking for anything, I'm gently healing. Equally, I'm not closing myself off from the joy of others. Those feelings that can unexpectedly creep in until one day you realise this person is a chapter in your book that's unfolding.

That's living for me.

And yes, I'm poly. Perhaps not the poly ideal as a friend has repeatedly said to me. I'm being true to myself though and that's the most important thing."

Poly is different for everyone.

I’m poly but not in a polycule. I have a nesting partner and I have another partner I’m in love with. My nesting partner has another partner she’s in love with. We feel safe and secure. Meli, being you is all you can be and as another poly person it’s inspiring seeing your journey.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling


"To be honest when I joined here it was with very little expectation that I’d find something I’d consider meaningful. I wasn’t particularly looking for a relationship but I also hadn’t closed myself off to the possibility of allowing someone to get close to me again.

Long story short I went out on a limb and met someone for a coffee date, I was pretty sure from the moment I met him there was something there, you know ‘that spark’ a few complications in between and busy schedules we reconvened months later and the rest is history

That’s the thing with feelings - they can sneak up on you in the most unexpected of times and you either have the balls to tell someone you’ve caught them or you don’t - thankfully in this case they were reciprocated. 16 months later a whole load of adventures, laughs and the odd hurdle to jump I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve been in years

X

I absolutely love this "

Aw thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a concern at all. No way I'd have a relationship with anyone on here.

why whats the difference between here and there? "

I wouldn't trust anyone on here not to fuck around.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"We’re all on fab for very many reasons. One that I’ve been thinking and reflecting on a lot recently is catching feelings.

What are your thoughts on catching feelings? Are you open to it? Would you avoid it any way you can? Would you run if someone caught feelings for you? Or are you trying to catch feelings for a sweet one?

I used to be open to feelings but I think I can’t manage any more in my life and so I think I’ll probably try not to become a soppy mess for someone. "

I'm probably the worst person to ask this question....

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest when I joined here it was with very little expectation that I’d find something I’d consider meaningful. I wasn’t particularly looking for a relationship but I also hadn’t closed myself off to the possibility of allowing someone to get close to me again.

Long story short I went out on a limb and met someone for a coffee date, I was pretty sure from the moment I met him there was something there, you know ‘that spark’ a few complications in between and busy schedules we reconvened months later and the rest is history

That’s the thing with feelings - they can sneak up on you in the most unexpected of times and you either have the balls to tell someone you’ve caught them or you don’t - thankfully in this case they were reciprocated. 16 months later a whole load of adventures, laughs and the odd hurdle to jump I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve been in years

X"

This is so lovely.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

catching feeling with someone you shouldn't be catching feelings with.

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By *enedict2020Man
over a year ago

London

“Catching feelings” is a term only used by teenage girls!


"We’re all on fab for very many reasons. One that I’ve been thinking and reflecting on a lot recently is catching feelings.

What are your thoughts on catching feelings? Are you open to it? Would you avoid it any way you can? Would you run if someone caught feelings for you? Or are you trying to catch feelings for a sweet one?

I used to be open to feelings but I think I can’t manage any more in my life and so I think I’ll probably try not to become a soppy mess for someone. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being part of a couple it's totally different as you have feelings for your partner, you can like and respect others, but catching feelings wouldn't be something that we would want from the lifestyle."

I think yes if you meet together and are say not poly then I would say- eurgh feelings gross

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"“Catching feelings” is a term only used by teenage girls!

We’re all on fab for very many reasons. One that I’ve been thinking and reflecting on a lot recently is catching feelings.

What are your thoughts on catching feelings? Are you open to it? Would you avoid it any way you can? Would you run if someone caught feelings for you? Or are you trying to catch feelings for a sweet one?

I used to be open to feelings but I think I can’t manage any more in my life and so I think I’ll probably try not to become a soppy mess for someone. "

Well that’s cap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not a concern at all. No way I'd have a relationship with anyone on here. "

If you say so. But I’m what you want and need.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"“Catching feelings” is a term only used by teenage girls!

We’re all on fab for very many reasons. One that I’ve been thinking and reflecting on a lot recently is catching feelings.

What are your thoughts on catching feelings? Are you open to it? Would you avoid it any way you can? Would you run if someone caught feelings for you? Or are you trying to catch feelings for a sweet one?

I used to be open to feelings but I think I can’t manage any more in my life and so I think I’ll probably try not to become a soppy mess for someone. "

Can we give the language policing a rest?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fab brings out the lepidopterist in me — I try to catch feelings with my sensual net like butterflies.

Without feelings fab would be less interesting for me. Having feelings doesn't necessarily mean full blown romance or spousal conditions. It gives me substance for my meets.

Perhaps I'm old fashioned."

Completely feel you here. Real shit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not something I'm interested in. Friendship yes. Otherwise no."

Boooooooooring.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me Toyah I have many naughty friends I have known for a long time & feelings are amazing I think you can love lots of people & be loved back without going off the rails.You have to be very open & communication is so important.Feels actually make the physical side so much better. "

Completely agree about loving more than one person and I’d add in loving people differently. Not everyone you’re in love with you want to spend your life with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm an incurable romantic seeking a filthy whore.

What's so complicated about that"

Literally nothing. It should be easier to find than it is in all honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens.

Natural, normal, don't quite understand the fuss to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really dislike the term "catching feelings". Like emotions are a disease.

I don't think any of us are immune to feelings. It's how you manage them that differs. I know there are plenty of people who are afraid of them and keep them at arm's length, or simply refuse to acknowledge them.

I've discovered I can burn hot with making new connections on fab, the feelings are intense, then it passes. Because I'm not looking for additional relationships as such - friends, lovers, yes, but not more than that - I feel secure enough in myself to let that happen and enjoy it. I guess my boundaries allow me to experience it safely, in a way?

It's a complex topic, OP.

Mrs TMN x"

I’m a complex man, Mrs TMN. But I agree with you completely. And see you. Obvs not where I’m at but I get you if that makes sense.

By the way, catching feelings is gross eww eww eww

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Feelings?... It's been so long, what are they like?

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"It happens.

Natural, normal, don't quite understand the fuss to be honest. "

I go further and say it's going to happen at some point, maybe not for everyone.

There's always that possibility of the spark, the curiosity that makes you want to know more about them. The sex is great, they get you, you can be vulnerable with them. The oxytocin gets addictive.

Then you realise you're somewhere where you weren't planning on being.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

They are inevitable, and they are terrifying. Like death.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"I agree with Mrs TMN, catching feelings sounds like it's some sort of awful disease. :D

It's not. I love developing feelings for others, that initial rush when you realise there *could* be something more there. That new relationship energy, the excitement of leaning into that effervescence, the way the world seems a little bit brighter.

A couple of my close friends have told me recently to protect my heart. To step away from that, enjoy a hot girl summer. And part of me thinks, perhaps I should. You can't be hurt if you don't care - lies, cheating, all of that doesn't matter because there's nothing there. No emotional investment.

But...

It's not being true to myself. I've not loved anyone since an ex a few years ago but I have developed strong feelings for others. A deep connection and sense of care. I like that my heart feels strongly and deeply. I like that others leave their mark on me, have loved me and care for me.

So yes, it can be difficult to navigate. It can be truly upsetting. Scary at times. You have that potential for those intense low periods where you swear yourself off feelings, that chance of crying over another.

But with those lows come the highs. The sharing, the delight in a spark with another. The adventures that unfold. The happiness you feel in spending time with them, that bliss in doing nothing but being in their presence. The intimacy. The care.

Right now I'm not looking for anything, I'm gently healing. Equally, I'm not closing myself off from the joy of others. Those feelings that can unexpectedly creep in until one day you realise this person is a chapter in your book that's unfolding.

That's living for me.

And yes, I'm poly. Perhaps not the poly ideal as a friend has repeatedly said to me. I'm being true to myself though and that's the most important thing.

Poly is different for everyone.

I’m poly but not in a polycule. I have a nesting partner and I have another partner I’m in love with. My nesting partner has another partner she’s in love with. We feel safe and secure. Meli, being you is all you can be and as another poly person it’s inspiring seeing your journey. "

Oh you. I'm going to blame my ugly tears on hayfever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest when I joined here it was with very little expectation that I’d find something I’d consider meaningful. I wasn’t particularly looking for a relationship but I also hadn’t closed myself off to the possibility of allowing someone to get close to me again.

Long story short I went out on a limb and met someone for a coffee date, I was pretty sure from the moment I met him there was something there, you know ‘that spark’ a few complications in between and busy schedules we reconvened months later and the rest is history

That’s the thing with feelings - they can sneak up on you in the most unexpected of times and you either have the balls to tell someone you’ve caught them or you don’t - thankfully in this case they were reciprocated. 16 months later a whole load of adventures, laughs and the odd hurdle to jump I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve been in years

X"

God. Beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh wow there’s a lot

I’ll be back later. Keep em coming

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just to reiterate I’m into feelings. Like I said I love more than one person. My partner loves more than one person. But loving more people is scary and especially when it ends it’s sad. And sometimes it’s ok to just be satisfied and content with something less intense. Maybe? Or maybe we can’t control that and it’ll swoop you up and fuck up your plans. Idk.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not afraid of feelings but I don't enjoy bad ones. It's pretty difficult to get me to do more than like you, maybe that's why

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Fab brings out the lepidopterist in me — I try to catch feelings with my sensual net like butterflies.

Without feelings fab would be less interesting for me. Having feelings doesn't necessarily mean full blown romance or spousal conditions. It gives me substance for my meets.

Perhaps I'm old fashioned.

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Completely feel you here. Real shit "

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Life would be a lot less ordinary if we could buy those feelings from a vending machine.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling


"To be honest when I joined here it was with very little expectation that I’d find something I’d consider meaningful. I wasn’t particularly looking for a relationship but I also hadn’t closed myself off to the possibility of allowing someone to get close to me again.

Long story short I went out on a limb and met someone for a coffee date, I was pretty sure from the moment I met him there was something there, you know ‘that spark’ a few complications in between and busy schedules we reconvened months later and the rest is history

That’s the thing with feelings - they can sneak up on you in the most unexpected of times and you either have the balls to tell someone you’ve caught them or you don’t - thankfully in this case they were reciprocated. 16 months later a whole load of adventures, laughs and the odd hurdle to jump I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve been in years

X

God. Beautiful. "

Thank you Pickle

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By *ornygencplCouple
over a year ago

manchester

My wife likes a connection, more than feelings I suppose, but it puts her off when the bulls start trying to date or own her, she plays in clubs sometimes and loves cocks and the odd bull has acted like they are a couple and doesn't like to share..

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By *oco_marsWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

I like a connection, but I try not to catch feelings. Last time I did I was engaged to someone from here for 6 years

Me and a tinder date this year may have caught feelings a little bit and I don't think it'll end well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing about feelings...them kinda feelings have a habit of sneaking up on you. And I don't think most people go on here looking for that. I suspect most want a connection of some sort tho, especially if it's a ongoing thing.

But feelings happen ...and it's just part of the beautiful chaos of being human

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I embrace them, I do prewarn anyone who I enter a friendship with that I have a lotta love to give, I don't get on intimately with people , who are out of touch with their feelings

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I already caught feelings for someone here & we've been together over 7.5 years.

I wouldn't be looking for anything more than fun and friendship here.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I like feelings. They’re real and honest. I don’t see it as catching feelings though OP, I just see it as them being important to me and a joy to have in my life.

I’ve made a few friends here this time and I have a few from when I was here a long time ago who i love the bones of. Am I in love with them? No.

Am I capable of being love with anyone ever again - probably not.

So I enjoy the feelings. They rock my world

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I don’t think it’s something you actively look for on here but it stands to reason that if you get on well with someone it could happen.

We weren’t looking for anything other than fun when we met as singles on here…then the more we seen each other the more the feels kicked in

Obviously my magnetic personality won C over

K

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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago

your wildest dreams,


"Feelings are great. What matters is how you deal with them

How do you deal with them, pea? "

Really badly,

that’s how I know

I think awareness and communication is the key. That and honesty, with yourself and the other person.

Is it what you want? Is it what you both want? If not then take a step backwards

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I must admit I tried to actively avoid feelings but they kind of found me. And I'm very happy about that. I'm a firm believer of what is meant to be will be, at this moment in time the fates have gifted me feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings for me aren't something I can turn off and on. Or choose to have or not to have. They happen and its lovely when they do, especially if they're reciprocated. I think having sex with someone, there's always a risk that feelings will happen. But that's not just fab life, it's "normal" life too

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over a year ago

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We have lots of friends and that’s great but that’s as far as it goes .Emotionally we are both monogamous.

I’m probably if I’m honest to selfish to ever consider being poly

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'm not really looking for that kind of thing, but feelings are feelings... One of my fwb tells me he loves me, which is rather sweet. I think you can feel for people without falling head over heels, getting overly soppy.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"I'm not really looking for that kind of thing, but feelings are feelings... One of my fwb tells me he loves me, which is rather sweet. I think you can feel for people without falling head over heels, getting overly soppy."

Is it the diffrrence between loving someone and being in love with someone?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"I'm not really looking for that kind of thing, but feelings are feelings... One of my fwb tells me he loves me, which is rather sweet. I think you can feel for people without falling head over heels, getting overly soppy.

Is it the diffrrence between loving someone and being in love with someone?"

It really is. I mean I've got lots of friends I love, and feel for. But actually being in love with? Whole different ball game. And obviously it would have to be mutual.

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