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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " Just look at the penis in depth and get to know it's soul | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " Maybe try not getting to know them as much and just get freaky | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? Maybe try not getting to know them as much and just get freaky " If only it were that easy! | |||
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"Get freaky with women instead." Oh well yeah that solves everything! Never have the same issues there! | |||
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"Erm, what's 'the ick'?,..... Asking for an older friend obviously "Haha! Just means getting turned off, you look at them and do a little mouth sick! Lol. | |||
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"Get freaky with women instead." This lol | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " stick to women work for me x | |||
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"Less i know about whom i meet the better i need to know i fancy them and i need to know ill get on with them whiles we have fun ....anything else no thanks and they get the same back private life is just that swinging is for fun ... "I hear you! See a lot of my attraction comes from personality etc. But then I notice something in their behaviour and it just ruins it for me  | |||
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"If you’re getting to know them, then something is putting you off maybe you just aren’t that compatible? " Very true. | |||
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"Erm, what's 'the ick'?,..... Asking for an older friend obviously
Haha! Just means getting turned off, you look at them and do a little mouth sick! Lol. "Ahhh! New words, but old familiar feeling ?? | |||
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"Ok, sounds like I need to ditch the men and hook up with the ladies instead. Now where to find them!? Lol. " you not trued me lol | |||
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"Ok, sounds like I need to ditch the men and hook up with the ladies instead. Now where to find them!? Lol. " Hello  | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilemma? " You don't, resign yourself to be celibate for the remainder of your life... Welcome to the club. | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilemma? You don't, resign yourself to be celibate for the remainder of your life... Welcome to the club." Luckily the ladies have agreed to help me out! | |||
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"Less i know about whom i meet the better i need to know i fancy them and i need to know ill get on with them whiles we have fun ....anything else no thanks and they get the same back private life is just that swinging is for fun ...
I hear you! See a lot of my attraction comes from personality etc. But then I notice something in their behaviour and it just ruins it for me "thats good id be the same and bye bye im very picky in the first place i wont lower my standards (if thats the right word?) im lucky 30 years on the scene and you get to know a few real decent guys one of them ive know the whole 30 years lol but its friends and i still dont know the ins and outs of his life and i dont want to  | |||
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"Ha ha I saw a clip the other day, comedian saying she had changed tactics, very funny! " Ooo, where did you see that? I obvs need to change my ways too. | |||
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"Less i know about whom i meet the better i need to know i fancy them and i need to know ill get on with them whiles we have fun ....anything else no thanks and they get the same back private life is just that swinging is for fun ...
I hear you! See a lot of my attraction comes from personality etc. But then I notice something in their behaviour and it just ruins it for me
thats good id be the same and bye bye im very picky in the first place i wont lower my standards (if thats the right word?) im lucky 30 years on the scene and you get to know a few real decent guys one of them ive know the whole 30 years lol but its friends and i still dont know the ins and outs of his life and i dont want to "See this is where it probably goes wrong for me. Due to my day job, I am very very easy to talk to, people tell me everything about themselves, even when I don't want to know! | |||
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"Less i know about whom i meet the better i need to know i fancy them and i need to know ill get on with them whiles we have fun ....anything else no thanks and they get the same back private life is just that swinging is for fun ...
I hear you! See a lot of my attraction comes from personality etc. But then I notice something in their behaviour and it just ruins it for me
thats good id be the same and bye bye im very picky in the first place i wont lower my standards (if thats the right word?) im lucky 30 years on the scene and you get to know a few real decent guys one of them ive know the whole 30 years lol but its friends and i still dont know the ins and outs of his life and i dont want to
See this is where it probably goes wrong for me. Due to my day job, I am very very easy to talk to, people tell me everything about themselves, even when I don't want to know! "lol i keep my job secret not that id be in trouble as im the boss | |||
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"Less i know about whom i meet the better i need to know i fancy them and i need to know ill get on with them whiles we have fun ....anything else no thanks and they get the same back private life is just that swinging is for fun ...
I hear you! See a lot of my attraction comes from personality etc. But then I notice something in their behaviour and it just ruins it for me
thats good id be the same and bye bye im very picky in the first place i wont lower my standards (if thats the right word?) im lucky 30 years on the scene and you get to know a few real decent guys one of them ive know the whole 30 years lol but its friends and i still dont know the ins and outs of his life and i dont want to
See this is where it probably goes wrong for me. Due to my day job, I am very very easy to talk to, people tell me everything about themselves, even when I don't want to know!
lol i keep my job secret not that id be in trouble as im the boss "Oh I don't tell them what I do. Think it is just so natural in me that it just happens! | |||
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"The ick is so unfortunate and can happen without warning. No advice, just sympathy." Ah thanks babe. Nice to know I am not alone in this! | |||
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"Ha ha I saw a clip the other day, comedian saying she had changed tactics, very funny! Ooo, where did you see that? I obvs need to change my ways too." It was on FB, black woman, but she basically said the same about not jumping into bed and getting to know men first. I'll try and find it | |||
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"Is it a certain level of ‘knowingthemness’ that gives you the ick or is it just that something about that guy ends up giving you the ick? If it’s the former then maybe try and cut to a meet a bit earlier. If it’s the latter you’re doing nothing wrong and if he gives you the ick you don’t want that dick! (Trademark)" Haha, love that! A bit of both I guess. Sometimes I'll get to know them, get the dick and then they'll do or say something and I am like... oh no! | |||
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"Is it a certain level of ‘knowingthemness’ that gives you the ick or is it just that something about that guy ends up giving you the ick? If it’s the former then maybe try and cut to a meet a bit earlier. If it’s the latter you’re doing nothing wrong and if he gives you the ick you don’t want that dick! (Trademark) Haha, love that! A bit of both I guess. Sometimes I'll get to know them, get the dick and then they'll do or say something and I am like... oh no! " Yes you have a severe case of being normal. Just do what you feels right. If you want to jump on him early doors do it, if you want to get to know them first do that. The ick can appear at anytime without warning and don’t think you can plan for that. Trust me as someone one who oozes ick | |||
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"https://youtu.be/-kMER0mPLTs Easier than I thought lol" Lol, I relate too much to this!! | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! · How does one navigate this dilemma? " • You are sailing in the wrong sea of expectations and against unfavourable trade winds. Follow your charts and survey your maps and you shall disembark onto a land-lubbing gentleman of your dreams. | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " Women. | |||
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"Do you think you absolutely need peen in your life? I think if you can live without it you should. I do and I’m so much happier than those that get it. " Down with the peen. | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " Choose better men. | |||
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"Do you think you absolutely need peen in your life? I think if you can live without it you should. I do and I’m so much happier than those that get it. Down with the peen. " Solidarity  | |||
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"Do you think you absolutely need peen in your life? I think if you can live without it you should. I do and I’m so much happier than those that get it. Down with the peen. Solidarity "Keep your peen down. | |||
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"Do you think you absolutely need peen in your life? I think if you can live without it you should. I do and I’m so much happier than those that get it. Down with the peen. Solidarity
Keep your peen down. "I will. In solidarity. | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " I know how you feel! The ick is real 
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? Choose better men." Lol, thing is we don't know if they are better/decent til we get to know them. They might start off good but then.... ick! | |||
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9/10 will give me the ick over something, but the special one, I hold onto for a long time, and we are on our 4 year fwb anniversary now | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " This is exactly my problem trying to meet couples, I need to get to know the male half but when I do they generally put me off. Mrs | |||
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"That's what makes the one who doesn't give you the ick special
9/10 will give me the ick over something, but the special one, I hold onto for a long time, and we are on our 4 year fwb anniversary now "Aw that's amazing! | |||
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"Maybe only your head is Demi sexual but your body likes the opposite." Yeah, I think I am realising I am far more Demi than I thought.  | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? This is exactly my problem trying to meet couples, I need to get to know the male half but when I do they generally put me off. Mrs " Oh exactly this! | |||
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 ) is the common denominator in all of this?
Maybe it’s some kind of projection on your behaviour that makes men (eventually) react in a certain way?
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " You could try meeting us and then you have a spare in the event of getting the ick with Luke. | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " Stop reading mumsnet. | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? Choose better men. Lol, thing is we don't know if they are better/decent til we get to know them. They might start off good but then.... ick! " Ahem. I'm fucking delightful. Even I think so. | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! · How does one navigate this dilemma? • You are sailing in the wrong sea of expectations and against unfavourable trade winds. Follow your charts and survey your maps and you shall disembark onto a land-lubbing gentleman of your dreams." What my erudite friend is trying to say is, only have sex with men on P&O cruises. (nerodot) (nerodot) | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! · How does one navigate this dilemma? • You are sailing in the wrong sea of expectations and against unfavourable trade winds. Follow your charts and survey your maps and you shall disembark onto a land-lubbing gentleman of your dreams. · What my erudite friend is trying to say is, only have sex with men on P&O cruises. (nerodot) (nerodot) "•  | |||
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"What *kind* of behaviour do you always eventually uncover in men that turns you off? I mean for it to happen once or twice is understandable. But all the time? What (or who? ) is the common denominator in all of this?
Maybe it’s some kind of projection on your behaviour that makes men (eventually) react in a certain way?
"Lol... a man trying to tell me that I am the problem... yep, that's icked me! Literally something different every time. | |||
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"What *kind* of behaviour do you always eventually uncover in men that turns you off? I mean for it to happen once or twice is understandable. But all the time? What (or who? ) is the common denominator in all of this?
Maybe it’s some kind of projection on your behaviour that makes men (eventually) react in a certain way?
Lol... a man trying to tell me that I am the problem... yep, that's icked me!
Literally something different every time. "I'm not saying it is but is it possible that its a you problem? | |||
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"Help a girl out! I seem to need to get to know men a little bit before getting freaky with them.... however.... as soon as I get to know men I totally get the ick! How does one navigate this dilema? " Don't be a swinger | |||
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"Take a chance on me "Jeez man, after that thread yesterday. Have a drink if you're thirsty. | |||
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Jeez man, after that thread yesterday. Have a drink if you're thirsty."after the thread yesterday I will not be meeting anymore  | |||
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"Take a chance on me
Jeez man, after that thread yesterday. Have a drink if you're thirsty.after the thread yesterday I will not be meeting anymore "You're too young, I'm too old and the OP finds too easy to find reasons to reject men. I think we should be just drawing names from a hat by this point. | |||
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"Take a chance on me
Listening to ABBA again "Here I go again! Or am I watching Mamma Mia! | |||
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"Take a chance on me
Jeez man, after that thread yesterday. Have a drink if you're thirsty.after the thread yesterday I will not be meeting anymore
You're too young, I'm too old and the OP finds too easy to find reasons to reject men.
I think we should be just drawing names from a hat by this point. "I’d play that game | |||
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"What *kind* of behaviour do you always eventually uncover in men that turns you off? I mean for it to happen once or twice is understandable. But all the time? What (or who? ) is the common denominator in all of this?
Maybe it’s some kind of projection on your behaviour that makes men (eventually) react in a certain way?
Lol... a man trying to tell me that I am the problem... yep, that's icked me!
Literally something different every time. "Well there you go then. Another man, another ick. Only one constant … Yet you’re the one saying it’s the men that’s the problem. Touché  | |||
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"If you’re getting to know them, then something is putting you off maybe you just aren’t that compatible? " This. Eleventy billion percent. 
You won't know them til you get to know them and if you get to know them and don't like them - move on to someone else.
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