FabSwingers.com forum: Being disabled on fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So as you can see in my profile I’m a left leg amputee with a prosthetic leg I’m curious to know if there are any other disabled people on this site and how you find it on here it’s kinda hard for me don’t get many replies to my messages I know it’s a busy site but you know sometimes it’s hard when nobody wants to chat with you

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Your age could be a factor. You are young enough to be the ages of many people's children which is often out of their comfort zone. Keep posting on the forums, it will enable people to see a better picture of the person behind the profile so to speak

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

And if you start a thread, try and stay online rather than open it then log off, interact with people who are responding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get disheartened OP. Lack of replies has nothing to do with your disability. use the forum search function for similar threads, there are a lot more men than women on the site so it's a patience game and the forums are a great way to get your profile noticed. Congrats on making an honest profile, be yourself and you will find a good bunch here that don't look at disabilities, we look at the person

(Occasionally penis too)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha I didn’t think anyone would actually respond so I’ll know for next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks obviously if you see my profile what you see is what you get I have nothing to hide but yeah I’ll have to look into these forums a bit more

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So as you can see in my profile I’m a left leg amputee with a prosthetic leg "

For me, I can't see that. In your profile pic it looks like you are a right leg amputee.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No left leg it’s cause it’s a mirror selfie so looks like it’s the right

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Wishing you success on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks obviously if you see my profile what you see is what you get I have nothing to hide but yeah I’ll have to look into these forums a bit more "

Hello

I'd say it's more your age that rules you out. Or your long hair. Or your shoes. Or that you're a man. Men struggle to get replies to messages. You were probably dismissed before they even noticed your leg.

This sounds so cruel, sorry. But basically if you're not what someone is looking for, it doesn't make you a bad person. I'm not at all attracted to Barry Manilow or Harry Styles but some women would hump them into next week.

You have a nice smile and you seem friendly. Don't let the lack of messages make you feel bad.

Your profile is one of the best I've seen lately. Keep smiling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mirror selfie is playing tricks with my brain

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Why not try identifying as a person?

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don’t diss the long hair lol why is the age factor a thing I’m 24 not like I’m 19 but I’ll take the profile compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t diss the long hair lol why is the age factor a thing I’m 24 not like I’m 19 but I’ll take the profile compliment "

Because a lot of us have kids your age, for us it’s weird

Plus the fact of you didn’t take the no for what it is, the why isn’t necessary, no is a full sentence, older swingers know that and don’t need to push an unwelcome why

Your disability isn’t the problem in the slightest

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

You're not the only disabled Fabber, there's a fair few of us! To be honest, disability (any) does put some people off. We've found that. Unless a wheelchair pic is front and centre, we explain it in messages and quite a lot of previously interested parties just disappear. Having had a FWB who is also an amputee and knowing some of the issues he had with intimacy post-amputation, some people might worry about hurting you or worry about their reaction to your stump. Because as you have possibly experienced, not everyone has a positive reaction to limb difference or anything to do with disability.

Keep on keeping on. It's hard for single guys on here whoever they are. Keep being polite, you have decent pics and are making the effort to join in on here, so stick around and see what's what.

You can join me in rolling your eyes at things like "best foot forward" or telling you that you "haven't got a leg to stand on"

Welcome!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

As the others have said, it's more likely your age and the fact you're a single man.

Get involved in the forums, you'll soon see how things work and get advice on how to make the most of Fab.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Don't worry young man. I'm sure you'll have no problem getting your leg over eventually.

Your profile is far better than many I've seen over the years and I doubt anyone would be put off by the lack of a leg unless they have a serious foot fetish.

You'll do fine. Give it time.

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