FabSwingers.com forum: Sorry I don't have time to read all my messages!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it me or do some people think everyone has all day to sit here reading and responding to all and every single message.. come on peeps if a person doesn't respond it's not always because they don't want... Or that they are being rude.. X

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

That's fair enough. I appreciate women get loafs of messages everyday

I get annoyed if I get responses.. they even accept a friend invite.. then they stop replying whilst staying friends.

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By *cotsman269Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

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By *cotsman269Man
over a year ago

Falkirk

You mean to say you have a life away from fab.

How dare you !

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

The moaning about no reply posts drive me crazy, like people don't have anything better to do than sit and read then reply to tons of profiles that either didn't bother to read the profile anyway, out of age range, totally wrong gender or in a totally different country, then moan they didn't reply, never mind the unsolicited shitty cock pics that land in the inbox.

Sorry rant over

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm too busy wanking to read.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

The thing is with our profile if it shows online it doesn't always mean I'm online sometimes it's the mister and he doesn't answer the messages, also some messages answered will turn into a conversation where I just don't have enough time to respond to them all, though I do try my best it's difficult at times.

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

"That's fair enough. I appreciate women get loafs of messages everyday

I get annoyed if I get responses.. they even accept a friend invite.. then they stop replying whilst staying friends.

Loafs of mesages?

Which are bread not read

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"That's fair enough. I appreciate women get loafs of messages everyday

I get annoyed if I get responses.. they even accept a friend invite.. then they stop replying whilst staying friends.

Loafs of mesages?

Which are bread not read "

I need to brace myself for the loaf's don't think I'm bready for even more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really struggle to read my empty inbox every day.

It just takes so long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's fair enough. I appreciate women get loafs of messages everyday

I get annoyed if I get responses.. they even accept a friend invite.. then they stop replying whilst staying friends.

Loafs of mesages?

Which are bread not read

I need to brace myself for the loaf's don't think I'm bready for even more.

Crumbs!

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"That's fair enough. I appreciate women get loafs of messages everyday

I get annoyed if I get responses.. they even accept a friend invite.. then they stop replying whilst staying friends.

Loafs of mesages?

Which are bread not read

I need to brace myself for the loaf's don't think I'm bready for even more.

Crumbs! "

Roll on it could get barmy.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Is it me or do some people think everyone has all day to sit here reading and responding to all and every single message.. come on peeps if a person doesn't respond it's not always because they don't want... Or that they are being rude.. X "
Some people are very demanding! You don't have to explain yourself to anyone you have a life too. I think most of us have experienced this on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all comes down to perspective, if we've not walked in their shoes, we may never understand.

Getting frustrated over other people's frustration due to lack of understanding (both sides) helps nobody.

It can be tough for all, from differing angles.

Expecting others to change in order to please us is silly. (Both sides).

Men say, Women (Couples included) should this and that.

Women (Couples too) say, Men should so and so.

All in order to fit in with the way wev personally choose to use the site.

Same thing over and over.

Meltdown after meltdown.

For an adult site, we certainly give the kids a run for their money.

It can be frustrating for all, accept it and don't let it bother your time here.

Not aimed at any single one person.

Have a good day, life is short.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

Totally with you on that one.

And do people think all we do is sit around all day waiting for someone to invite us to a meeting every day?

I personally work a full time job which sometimes means seven day weeks!

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"It all comes down to perspective, if we've not walked in their shoes, we may never understand.

Getting frustrated over other people's frustration due to lack of understanding (both sides) helps nobody.

It can be tough for all, from differing angles.

Expecting others to change in order to please us is silly. (Both sides).

Men say, Women (Couples included) should this and that.

Women (Couples too) say, Men should so and so.

All in order to fit in with the way wev personally choose to use the site.

Same thing over and over.

Meltdown after meltdown.

For an adult site, we certainly give the kids a run for their money.

It can be frustrating for all, accept it and don't let it bother your time here.

Not aimed at any single one person.

Have a good day, life is short.

I see your point !

Though I don’t think highlighting a point on the forums necessarily constitutes a meltdown.

Though of course you are correct in pointing out that we could all benefit from showing more tolerance and more empathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could find the time. I just choose not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's also those guys who say it's rude not to reply.

There is a faq on fab which says, no reply means not interested but some struggle to accept that.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"It all comes down to perspective, if we've not walked in their shoes, we may never understand.

Getting frustrated over other people's frustration due to lack of understanding (both sides) helps nobody.

It can be tough for all, from differing angles.

Expecting others to change in order to please us is silly. (Both sides).

Men say, Women (Couples included) should this and that.

Women (Couples too) say, Men should so and so.

All in order to fit in with the way wev personally choose to use the site.

Same thing over and over.

Meltdown after meltdown.

For an adult site, we certainly give the kids a run for their money.

It can be frustrating for all, accept it and don't let it bother your time here.

Not aimed at any single one person.

Have a good day, life is short.

Definitely an empathy deficit. I'm never going to have the fab experience that others may have and vice versa. Equally the impacts and effects on others can be misunderstood.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Sorry if it sounds obvious but have you tried to tighten your filters? I found this helpful and I only get a couple of messages a day now.

(It’s probably mostly because my profile is not user friendly)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all comes down to perspective, if we've not walked in their shoes, we may never understand.

Getting frustrated over other people's frustration due to lack of understanding (both sides) helps nobody.

It can be tough for all, from differing angles.

Expecting others to change in order to please us is silly. (Both sides).

Men say, Women (Couples included) should this and that.

Women (Couples too) say, Men should so and so.

All in order to fit in with the way wev personally choose to use the site.

Same thing over and over.

Meltdown after meltdown.

For an adult site, we certainly give the kids a run for their money.

It can be frustrating for all, accept it and don't let it bother your time here.

Not aimed at any single one person.

Have a good day, life is short.

I see your point !

Though I don’t think highlighting a point on the forums necessarily constitutes a meltdown.

Though of course you are correct in pointing out that we could all benefit from showing more tolerance and more empathy. "

Meltdown used for dramatic effect, because why not

What I notice regularly is when a couple, even more so when a woman expresses frustration on their side of this aspect, it's met with understanding and agreement.

When a man does similarly about his experiences to the same problem.

The result is often very different.

Fact is, it's the same coin, different side.

Either everyone has to jump on board to the same way of using, or accept it can be very frustrating for all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also lose track of who's messaged and I don't remember everyone's profile names

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Is it just you? Yes. Perhaps. No. Maybe.

I have no compunction chastising those who instigate conversations with me on here and then, without prompting, are happy to move over to WhatsApp for more 'meaningful dialogue' only then to lament that they're too busy...

...whilst they're uploading fresh photographs of their cleavage, posting arbitrary status updates several times a day and creating threads all over the fora.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know right...! How bad of me..!

Giggles I also lose track of chats it's hard to keep up,.. only just found the save opinion lol

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Well..... as lovely as you look in your blue underwear I shall refrain from sending you a message.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"It all comes down to perspective, if we've not walked in their shoes, we may never understand.

Getting frustrated over other people's frustration due to lack of understanding (both sides) helps nobody.

It can be tough for all, from differing angles.

Expecting others to change in order to please us is silly. (Both sides).

Men say, Women (Couples included) should this and that.

Women (Couples too) say, Men should so and so.

All in order to fit in with the way wev personally choose to use the site.

Same thing over and over.

Meltdown after meltdown.

For an adult site, we certainly give the kids a run for their money.

It can be frustrating for all, accept it and don't let it bother your time here.

Not aimed at any single one person.

Have a good day, life is short.

I see your point !

Though I don’t think highlighting a point on the forums necessarily constitutes a meltdown.

Though of course you are correct in pointing out that we could all benefit from showing more tolerance and more empathy.

Meltdown used for dramatic effect, because why not

What I notice regularly is when a couple, even more so when a woman expresses frustration on their side of this aspect, it's met with understanding and agreement.

When a man does similarly about his experiences to the same problem.

The result is often very different.

Fact is, it's the same coin, different side.

Either everyone has to jump on board to the same way of using, or accept it can be very frustrating for all.

Sorry, is this Mr M writing or Mrs A ?

I just need to know so I can gauge the correct response to your argument

I AM JOKING

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fantastic response thank you, some amazing points there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use appropriate filters and dont have an issue. I think some profile text and status updates may attract more attention than others. Ultimately if I were troubled by too much mail I'd simply use filters to stop all mail and put my efforts into finding people I would want contact with.

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Ohhhhhh.

Somebody is popular.

There is no excuse for his behaviour young lady. If required, book annual leave to catch up on messages or even hire a PA. No excuses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all comes down to perspective, if we've not walked in their shoes, we may never understand.

Getting frustrated over other people's frustration due to lack of understanding (both sides) helps nobody.

It can be tough for all, from differing angles.

Expecting others to change in order to please us is silly. (Both sides).

Men say, Women (Couples included) should this and that.

Women (Couples too) say, Men should so and so.

All in order to fit in with the way wev personally choose to use the site.

Same thing over and over.

Meltdown after meltdown.

For an adult site, we certainly give the kids a run for their money.

It can be frustrating for all, accept it and don't let it bother your time here.

Not aimed at any single one person.

Have a good day, life is short.

I see your point !

Though I don’t think highlighting a point on the forums necessarily constitutes a meltdown.

Though of course you are correct in pointing out that we could all benefit from showing more tolerance and more empathy.

Meltdown used for dramatic effect, because why not

What I notice regularly is when a couple, even more so when a woman expresses frustration on their side of this aspect, it's met with understanding and agreement.

When a man does similarly about his experiences to the same problem.

The result is often very different.

Fact is, it's the same coin, different side.

Either everyone has to jump on board to the same way of using, or accept it can be very frustrating for all.

Sorry, is this Mr M writing or Mrs A ?

I just need to know so I can gauge the correct response to your argument

I AM JOKING

READ THE PROFILE!!!!

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"I use appropriate filters and dont have an issue. I think some profile text and status updates may attract more attention than others. Ultimately if I were troubled by too much mail I'd simply use filters to stop all mail and put my efforts into finding people I would want contact with. "

Where's the fuckwit filter or is that only for special members?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Where's the fuckwit filter or is that only for special members?

I think they call that filter 'men'.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I tend to stay out of people’s inboxes (unless they’re friends) for this exact reason…

Call me a cynic if you will, but I personally find the act of notifying people of the fact they’re getting “too many messages” or “sorry can’t reply, I’m being inundated” etc etc to give off pretentious vibes…

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I know right...! How bad of me..!

Giggles I also lose track of chats it's hard to keep up,.. only just found the save opinion lol"

And you can be aware that the issue you have is something that the majority will never have. That's not meant to sound like its dismissing what you're saying. But it's just a fact.

I won't be inundated with mail. I'll never get hate mail or abuse. I won't have to read the stuff that the trans folks get here.

But it's a problem for you, I get that.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

People demanding replies really pisses me off, even if it’s read doesn’t mean I have to reply , it’s not ping pong.

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

"I tend to stay out of people’s inboxes (unless they’re friends) for this exact reason…

Ohhhhhh somebody is jealous

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

"I tend to stay out of people’s inboxes (unless they’re friends) for this exact reason…

Ohhhhhh somebody is jealous

Yep, totally jealous of those who are being inundated with in most cases unwanted attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes noticed this too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be useful when overwhelmed with messages to close up the filters, as suggested earlier, or to hide profile whilst gathering yourself together.

Generally, we've managed to cut messages down a lot by expressing clearly that we're currently unavailable by that I mean it's captioned in the first picture they see.

This hasn't prevented messages though, we still are asked if we will meet today, and the latest popular message is suggesting we chat until we're available.

It's manageable though.

When we're looking, it is overwhelming, and sometimes I struggle to get through the messages, then I'll likely add a status expressing I'm struggling to keep up.

It can get too much at times, for sure, and that's a side that many here will not experience.

Some delete and block if they feel there's no interest at all, I personally prefer to type out a polite no thanks of a message and copy and paste it.

That's two ways to quickly narrow down the messages.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Shocking behaviour you should be ashamed, employ a fanlv PA to give those men what they so crave..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes noticed this too.. "

If you click 'Reply +quote', to the right under the post, it'll highlight what you're replying to.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Yes noticed this too.. "

Michelle, if you press the 'reply+quote' icon on the message you want to answer then we'll know who you're talking to. Xx

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Yes noticed this too..

If you click 'Reply +quote', to the right under the post, it'll highlight what you're replying to.

Mr Kamando how the devil r ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes noticed this too..

If you click 'Reply +quote', to the right under the post, it'll highlight what you're replying to.

Mr Kamando how the devil r ya "

Oh don't even get me started.

I'm good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, totally jealous of those who are being inundated with in most cases unwanted attention

Unwanted attention? If you have a visible profile on a sex site, with photos, then I put it to you that attention is wanted.

Filters can be used very effectively to narrow down the potential audience of suitors. This helps.

I get that an inbox full of “Fancy a fuck” messages is monotonous and undeserving of a reply, but what about those messages that have been carefully written by those who have read your profile, and (in certain cases) including information asked for in the profile? You can’t take the same brush to tar everyone.

I don’t message often, and only message those where I think I match what they’re looking for, and could be a good fit. The upside of this is the majority of my messages get read. If I get a reply, terrific. If it’s deleted without reply then I block, so I never bother them again. I don’t block read but neither replied or deleted… but I don’t have a hissy either.

I understand that no reply means no interest unless proven.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"It all comes down to perspective, if we've not walked in their shoes, we may never understand.

Getting frustrated over other people's frustration due to lack of understanding (both sides) helps nobody.

It can be tough for all, from differing angles.

Expecting others to change in order to please us is silly. (Both sides).

Men say, Women (Couples included) should this and that.

Women (Couples too) say, Men should so and so.

All in order to fit in with the way wev personally choose to use the site.

Same thing over and over.

Meltdown after meltdown.

For an adult site, we certainly give the kids a run for their money.

It can be frustrating for all, accept it and don't let it bother your time here.

Not aimed at any single one person.

Have a good day, life is short.

I see your point !

Though I don’t think highlighting a point on the forums necessarily constitutes a meltdown.

Though of course you are correct in pointing out that we could all benefit from showing more tolerance and more empathy.

Meltdown used for dramatic effect, because why not

What I notice regularly is when a couple, even more so when a woman expresses frustration on their side of this aspect, it's met with understanding and agreement.

When a man does similarly about his experiences to the same problem.

The result is often very different.

Fact is, it's the same coin, different side.

Either everyone has to jump on board to the same way of using, or accept it can be very frustrating for all.

Sorry, is this Mr M writing or Mrs A ?

I just need to know so I can gauge the correct response to your argument

I AM JOKING

READ THE PROFILE!!!!

Oh I do apologise Mr M

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Yes noticed this too..

If you click 'Reply +quote', to the right under the post, it'll highlight what you're replying to.

Mr Kamando how the devil r ya

Oh don't even get me started.

I'm good.

Heat or ppl both lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you spent less time on the forums, you could answer more messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to stay out of people’s inboxes (unless they’re friends) for this exact reason…

Agreed.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

"Yep, totally jealous of those who are being inundated with in most cases unwanted attention

Unwanted attention? If you have a visible profile on a sex site, with photos, then I put it to you that attention is wanted.

Filters can be used very effectively to narrow down the potential audience of suitors. This helps.

I understand that no reply means no interest unless proven."

Ummm… well regardless of the fact some of us having public profiles containing provocative pictures of ourselves, we still have an ideal person in both the physical and characteristic sense that we find attractive. So if someone is getting bombarded by a bag of people they don’t find attractive I would say that’s unwanted attention…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to stay out of people’s inboxes (unless they’re friends) for this exact reason…

That says as much about you, in all honesty.

How we view things, often does, so that's not a dig, by the way.

I'm sure we're not the most popular here, we certainly never get close to page one of hot pics for example.

It can though become overwhelming dealing with messages, it's not that we're special, it's simply the law of averages, as Women in any form seem to be the minority here and yet the most desired.

Not to mention that we all have our own tolerances, and so it's not necessarily stating the messages are in the thousands.

The quality of messages can also have an effect, be that many pointless messages from those with no profile to speak of and an easy 'how are you', or an influx of eye catching messages with eye catching profiles, just a dozen can have some overwhelmed with choice, or frustrated with time wasters that think it's time wasting to not reply to someone with an empty profile and basic message.

A Woman stating she has too many messages, is no more pretentious than a Man stating he receives no messages is a reflection on his worth.

It is the law of averages is all.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

"I tend to stay out of people’s inboxes (unless they’re friends) for this exact reason…

That says as much about you, in all honesty.

How we view things, often does, so that's not a dig, by the way.

I'm sure we're not the most popular here, we certainly never get close to page one of hot pics for example.

It can though become overwhelming dealing with messages, it's not that we're special, it's simply the law of averages, as Women in any form seem to be the minority here and yet the most desired.

Not to mention that we all have our own tolerances, and so it's not necessarily stating the messages are in the thousands.

A Woman stating she has too many messages, is no more pretentious than a Man stating he receives no messages is a reflection on his worth.

It is the law of averages is all.

I say this because there’s folk (in general, not specifically aimed at anyone personally) who choose not to use the filters that are in place for whatever reason which can prevent them from being bombarded…

I appreciate you weren’t having a dig so no offence taken at all. I fully empathise with how overwhelming it can be, that’s what the first point in my original comment eluded to. A lot of men on here I’m sure have taken the same stance as myself as it is just as tiresome sending out a well crafted, polite message for it only to get lost amongst the poor quality of messages which i’m sure far outweigh the better ones

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

I try my best, but when i have 500+ inbox, i can't attend em all timely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if someone is getting bombarded by a bag of people they don’t find attractive I would say that’s unwanted attention… "

To a degree, I get your point. However, without first receiving the attention, how can you know if the person is attractive or not? And remember, instant attraction based on looks isn’t necessarily what everyone needs. For many, attraction can be found in many areas. I’m thinking sapiosexual specifically.

Sure, we know our trigger types, but fab hasn’t wet got enough filters to configure that, or the technology to read your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to stay out of people’s inboxes (unless they’re friends) for this exact reason…

That says as much about you, in all honesty.

How we view things, often does, so that's not a dig, by the way.

I'm sure we're not the most popular here, we certainly never get close to page one of hot pics for example.

It can though become overwhelming dealing with messages, it's not that we're special, it's simply the law of averages, as Women in any form seem to be the minority here and yet the most desired.

Not to mention that we all have our own tolerances, and so it's not necessarily stating the messages are in the thousands.

A Woman stating she has too many messages, is no more pretentious than a Man stating he receives no messages is a reflection on his worth.

It is the law of averages is all.

It's a vicious circle for sure, and we all need to take a look at the issues before simply pointing our finger towards the easy to blame, Men.

We use very few filters because I like to be inclusive, we've received messages through the forum from those that don't post so often because it can sometimes feel very unwelcoming here.

I've chatted, helped, advised and listened (well, read) with several.

I instead use a different approach, our captioned picture being one, and sometimes we hide the profile.

We can sometimes (when looking) post a status expressing we are inundated, that's in the hope to slow down messages whilst we catch up and to let those that have messaged know we're not simply ignoring.

If though things do get too much, we may tighten up our filters, temporary at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try my best, but when i have 500+ inbox, i can't attend em all timely."

Oh damnit, we were just about to message you.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I try my best, but when i have 500+ inbox, i can't attend em all timely."

Why do I not believe this

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Me either

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

"So if someone is getting bombarded by a bag of people they don’t find attractive I would say that’s unwanted attention…

Sure, we know our trigger types, but fab hasn’t wet got enough filters to configure that, or the technology to read your mind."

“Sapiosexual” what a coincidence that was your choice of words… which again boils down to the content of a message. “Fancy a fuck” or something of a more crude nature, coupled with those in high volume is unwanted and doesn’t show a level of intellect on any level at all…

You’re right though, sadly fab doesn’t have enough filters to cater to everyone’s triggers but that’s a whole conversation for a completely separate thread…

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Put decent filters on. Simple.

And another great time saving idea is to browse your local area for those that fit your preferences and then block everyone that doesn't take your fancy.

It'll cut down no end on pointless messages and save any worry of appearing rude.

We do this and have no more than 20 odd messages a week. Easily manageable.

People can do a lot to help themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't win here!!

I've decided to take a career break to go through mine- proper hard core!

Go hard or go home

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I don’t think I’ve ever had so many I don’t have time. I’ve had many that I can’t be bothered to reply to though.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’ve just replied to someone who said on their profile that everyone was a timewaster…

…didn’t see the irony when I pointed out he was for sending us a copy and paste message

I don’t understand why people just send a bland message with a bland profile and bland pics - they’d be better just saving all the time wasted on here and meet people in a pub or something - get a hobby.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I assume they will get back to me at some point if interested, unless they bulk delete and if that happens they probably never will because I only message once without reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“Sapiosexual” what a coincidence that was your choice of words… which again boils down to the content of a message. “Fancy a fuck” or something of a more crude nature, coupled with those in high volume is unwanted and doesn’t show a level of intellect on any level at all… "

I’m not sure I’m understanding your argument here… are you suggesting that being a sapiosexual means you’d shag anyone? It doesn’t. It just means that being the blue eyed blonde with the perfect face and figure isn’t necessarily the requirement to attraction, which can be found in other less obvious areas.

The purpose of the initial message is surely to initiate a conversation, and start to get to know each other, presuming that the message has some depth alongside a profile that registers interest?

As Obi suggested blocking those in your area who you feel would be unwanted attention reduces your inbox, and local update feed. It’s a slow but useful exercise.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I tend to stay out of people’s inboxes (unless they’re friends) for this exact reason…

I actually say the opposite on my profile, that's how I know they haven't read it when I get the "you must be inundated" in a msg.

Luckily due to geography I don't have this problem.

OP, you just need to prioritise your time better... Couple of hours less sleep should do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't it fine to just reply to a status too rather than reading the full bio?

Sometimes I just click on updates and reply to funny statuses so don't necessarily read the bio.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

The purpose of the initial message is surely to initiate a conversation, and start to get to know each other, presuming that the message has some depth alongside a profile that registers interest?

As Obi suggested blocking those in your area who you feel would be unwanted attention reduces your inbox, and local update feed. It’s a slow but useful exercise."

No, that is not what I was suggesting at all, quite the opposite in fact. Everything you’ve just said I’m in complete agreement with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you set you message filters correctly, that helps a lot and then just block people you are 100% not interested in, that saves all the repeat messages.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

Of I could suggest a straight delete too if not interested.

It's what I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s why I copy and paste my responses.

Op, don’t moan about people moaning. Because there’s now 2 people moaning.

Also, take it as a compliment, they really really really want to talk to you.

**For the people moaning about not receiving a quick reply. TAKE IT AS A POLITE NO THANK YOU.

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

It's like this for me. I am talking to a few women. I engage with the conversations that flow and where they are putting in the time and showing interest.

You get out what you put in with me.

I'm not going to drop someone I am having a great convo with to answer someone who is erratic with their interest in me. Simple as that really.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"I also lose track of who's messaged and I don't remember everyone's profile names

Same I'm completely useless at remembering profile names and who they are.

It's why I pop up all the time on forum posters whos looked at my profile, I forgot who you are. Sorry. Or maybe I fancy them and I keep perving. Who knows?

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