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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Quite often at work

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

It's always a little intrusive voice in the corner.

But fuck that voice

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Yes. Very much so.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Frequently. Then I remembered that sometimes my brain talks shit.

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By *oco_marsWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

Quite often in my home life, I'm fine being alone, but I have no motivation to do things that need doing

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

"It's always a little intrusive voice in the corner.

But fuck that voice

Absolutely this… he’s always there, chuntering away, I just turn up the volume of life and carry on dancing.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"

Always. In every single area of my life.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

All the time. But I learned at a young age to flip that feeling of inadequacy into a sense of amazement at how lucky I am.

I don’t ever feel I deserve this amazing life but I’ve got it. And I’m so fucking grateful, every day.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes. Those days are fewer now.

I more often than not feel that way when another's behaviour is making me think I'm not good enough. Whether that's through lying, lack of respect... you get the idea.

I've experienced imposter's syndrome at work before - in an odd way it motivated me to not be complacent, be more aware of the fact that I have so much to learn.

In relationships it motivates me to cry and start believing it. :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's always a little intrusive voice in the corner.

But fuck that voice

Absolutely this… he’s always there, chuntering away, I just turn up the volume of life and carry on dancing. "

Yup, name that horrible nagging voice (I called mine Amber because of the Jonny Depp trials) so you can tell it to gtfo, it does nothing but lie to you, don’t listen to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont push myself enough. I stay in my comfy, steady corner.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Unfortunately that little voice lives rent free in my head. I try to keep it occupied with snacks and good vibes but she's a bit of a bitch and loves raining on my happy parade daily

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Quite alot... Yeah. Nostalgia waves over me alot more than it used to, making me low more than usual. I can bring myself out of it, but it occurs more these days.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Regularly especially since menopause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time at work. I joke that I'm stealing a living with what I do but know there's an element of truth to it.

I also feel it quite a bit in my dating life. I'm not one for being adventurous and don't see myself as very exciting so can see why I wouldn't be good enough for women I look to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, quite often. Most of the time I can soothe that feeling, or rationalise my way out of it. Sometimes it takes over for a day or two.

Nell

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"
most of the time on here when i browse the forums,,, see a very sexy lady and then find out i am outside her age range and with some i cannot even message her,, certainly does not do my depression much good,,,

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

In a word yes. That was four words..oh well

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

"Unfortunately that little voice lives rent free in my head. I try to keep it occupied with snacks and good vibes but she's a bit of a bitch and loves raining on my happy parade daily

We should take her for a picnic, she’d get on well with my Trevor..

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

less as I get older. When I was 25, I second guessed and undermined myself all the time.

I remember a manager said to me that I consistently underpromised and over delivered and he didn't like it. That started me being more comfortable in my abilities

I am what I am now for better or worse.

As far as relationships go, hardly now.

Ever tried, ever failed, fail again, fail better.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

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By *ighlandGirl14Woman
over a year ago

Inverness

Pretty much every second of every day

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

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Yep, a lot of the time, be it work or play xxx

Just keep swimming xx

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I would have thought everyone does, it just varies by how much and how often from person to person.

To anyone feeling not good enough, whether you are trying your best or whether you are struggling, you are good enough, you are you and unique, so don't even try to compare yourself to anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately yes, it’s hard to control

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Frequently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always.

In practically everything, with everyone

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Not good enough but not quite understanding why it's so difficult to meet anyone, especially finding someone special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"

Think everyone gets days like that...

When I do.. I remind myself what's good in my life and the special people I have in it.

And shut that bitch up

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

So much doesn't matter. it might sound disheartening but so much of what we worry about and tell ourselves doesn't matter. 99.99% of the time it is between your ears.

You have one go at life, no refunds or exchanges. Do you really want to spend it questioning yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going through a bad breakup ATM. So yeah I feel a little... Unworthy.

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By *KloganMan
over a year ago

Ramsbottom

"Not good enough but not quite understanding why it's so difficult to meet anyone, especially finding someone special

Keep going.. you will. Even when you question yourself deeply, what you want is just around the corner..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x

Think everyone gets days like that...

When I do.. I remind myself what's good in my life and the special people I have in it.

And shut that bitch up

Sounds like good advice

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Yep......its like a , it grows every now and then

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Only on here, being old and ugly is a bastard. But I just get on and enjoy what I've got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost hourly- here, life, work

Sometimes though I feel ok and that's a good time to be Alive for those 5 mins or so

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Relationships. It's not so much that I am not good enough. More when it gets to the 'serious' commitment stage I start freaking out, believing that I am cursed and that if I fall in love again they will die. Been a bit of a problem.

Work no I am good at what I do. I get told that by the people who matter consistently and I feel it in my bones.

Life I am still breathing etc.

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"

Constantly, I know I'm not but I strive to be better all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much every single day

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Going through a bad breakup ATM. So yeah I feel a little... Unworthy. "

This too shall pass. I can promise that. Maybe not as fast as you want but it will.

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Not to be that guy but you're all good enough. Yes there's always someone out there better but fuck it, it's our own little journeys and we are all smashing whatever we were meant for.

(Finishes joint)

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Used to but then realized my talents

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Well it's taken my life so far to get to be here where I am. I spend a lot of my time alone, most of the western world has an ongoing campaign of hate against those of my gender identity, I worry that I'm losing my touch at the only thing I'm really good at, my body looks wrong when I look in the mirror, I don't sleep well, and everything aches. I have a few very good friends, but no proper sexual partner.

Maybe if I'd been more of a bastard when I was young, cared less about people, shagged around and generally had a good time? But I didn't.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

No, I couldn't stand a life with constant self doubt

That's not to say that I'm always supremely confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"
No. Because you can't live up to everyone's expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

Had a period in my life during which someone did everything they could to make me feel worthless

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Well it's taken my life so far to get to be here where I am. I spend a lot of my time alone, most of the western world has an ongoing campaign of hate against those of my gender identity, I worry that I'm losing my touch at the only thing I'm really good at, my body looks wrong when I look in the mirror, I don't sleep well, and everything aches. I have a few very good friends, but no proper sexual partner.

Maybe if I'd been more of a bastard when I was young, cared less about people, shagged around and generally had a good time? But I didn't."

For whatever it's worth polly, Ive always thought you one of the wiser compassionate empathetic souls here. Your contributions are measured and valuable. Maybe you don't think it right now but you've a great head on those shoulders.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Sometimes yes. In my relationship I feel very secure, work I’m secure as I’m good at what I do. My issue is body confidence, I’ve lost over 3.5 stone in the last year but I’m still a big chap and so think when it comes to swinging opportunities are very limited. I do not think other people will find me attractive, I do have a cracking personality though lol

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

No. The day I think that is the day that I stop striving to learn, grow, and experience new things...and that will be the day that they put me in a wooden box.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Yes but i have no control of such things

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

No. I'm not good enough.

That's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Px

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Not at work no if business dries up then maybe haha

In relationships yes my ex who was with 15 years could somehow make you feel so small I’m not aware of how she could manage it I’d like to say it’s after she cheated ran off then came back that laid the groundwork to enable her to make me feel that way but it was well before that and it did rob me off all self confidence even today i can’t recapture the feeling I had before I met her

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"

Nope. Not any more.

I used to. Especially as the first wife was knocking off a guy at work for 6 months before I realised and then it seemed obvious. In old jobs it happened a few times, not because I'd actually been bad at the jobs, but because the bosses had unrealistic expectations of all employees and we were pushed to the limit until we quit, thinking it was us not them at fault.

But around a decade ago I realised that whenever I felt 'not good enough' it wasn't because I wasn't, it was down to the expectations of others. So I decided to adopt the 'fuck it' approach to life, accept that what will be will be and focus on what I wanted, rather than others.

Now if someone doesn't think I'm good enough, be it work or personal relationships then I view it as a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.

I know my worth. If that's not good enough for others so be it. I don't let it bother me one bit any more.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x

Nope. Not any more.

Now if someone doesn't think I'm good enough, be it work or personal relationships then I view it as a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.

I know my worth. If that's not good enough for others so be it. I don't let it bother me one bit any more.

Sound indeed….

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

This is a deep thread and I'm sure it relates to a lot of people

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"

Most weeks actually

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By *avrick180Man
over a year ago

Pontypool

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"
all the time

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By *accar305Man
over a year ago

Somerset

Is this referring to “imposter syndrome?”

I’ve wondered that for most of my professional life tbh!! …. but they keep asking me back ??

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Not good enough but not quite understanding why it's so difficult to meet anyone, especially finding someone special

Keep going.. you will. Even when you question yourself deeply, what you want is just around the corner..

Maybe I don't know really what he looks or acts like anymore. Just not keen on most men's attitude on dating sites or on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally everyday. In most aspects of my life.

I’m learning that it’s not always true. Knowing your worth is so important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffo but conscious can be a bitch towards me

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By *TminxTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Whenever I get glammed up and then look in the mirror. Getting older is a bitch!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No never.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once. In my marriage it the very end, that’s why I left.

Now? No, I’m the best version of myself I can be in every aspect, and good enough for anything.

Be proud of yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly when I was younger.

Could be imposter syndrome. Always good to remember thoughts are not truths.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes often unfortunately.

Mrs

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

No. I am comfortable in my own skin. I know I will make mistakes but that is life and not something I feel I should define my self by.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Feel it? I live it..

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By *elix85Man
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

All the time. I guess I’m glutton for punishment by coming onto this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, my boss is a c...I need to really change my job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frequently, but not always. It’s one of life’s challenges to overcome.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x

Nope. Not any more.

Now if someone doesn't think I'm good enough, be it work or personal relationships then I view it as a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.

I know my worth. If that's not good enough for others so be it. I don't let it bother me one bit any more.

I'm hoping old age grants me this wisdom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time. I try really hard not to overthink it and just go with it.

I often have moments so good that it feels like they're happening to someone else and I'm just watching on. I hold on to those when I start to worry I'm not good enough.

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

I don't think I have ever felt good enough at anything or for anyone!!!

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By *hongman1Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

All. The. Time.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Yes, but I have worked hard to improve this.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x

Nope. Not any more.

Now if someone doesn't think I'm good enough, be it work or personal relationships then I view it as a 'them' problem, not a 'me' problem.

I know my worth. If that's not good enough for others so be it. I don't let it bother me one bit any more.

I'm hoping old age grants me this wisdom.

At some point you just got to rock what you got.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Do you ever feel "not good enough" be it in life, work or relationships? x"

often

but then we get over it and try harder

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

"It's always a little intrusive voice in the corner.

But fuck that voice

Absolutely this… he’s always there, chuntering away, I just turn up the volume of life and carry on dancing. "

I love this, am going to try to keep this thought in my head and dance more x

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

All the time.

It's worse since my wife passed away, she was my biggest cheerleader, and always reassured me and gave me perspective.

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