FabSwingers.com forum: Standing a meet up

By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

Have you done it? If so why? Was it an emergency or did you just bottle it? Really curious to know what reason you might have to do this.

Has it happened to you… what was the reason… if you got one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done it and never had it done to me thank God.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Sometimes I've had to cancel things at short notice. Always with the honest reason and if not an immediate offer to reschedule an apology then and attempt to reschedule once things have settled.

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By *oco_marsWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

I've had to cancel the day before once, but I'd never just not show up and hopefully that doesn't happen to me either

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Never have I cancelled or been cancelled on. (But never say never)

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

Nope x

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Have you done it? If so why? Was it an emergency or did you just bottle it? Really curious to know what reason you might have to do this.

Has it happened to you… what was the reason… if you got one..

Ha, we've never done it yet it has been done to us so many times it makes us sick to the back teeth... excuses ?

Same couple THREE TIMES on separate dates 1.Son was beat up 2.Husband had to be rushed into hospital 3.They ghosted us !

Another couple admitted 15 MINUTES before agreed time that they were withholding their address as only using us as backup incase the other couple didn't appear

Another, she'd slipped and broken her ankle but he was still free to meet

Most simply ghost us a few days before the agreed date

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I've never stood anyone up ,years ago I did have to cancel same day as my dad who I looked, after got taken to hospital.

I think it's just rude to no show and not let the person know in advance.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

If I'm dead, I ain't coming. Otherwise, I'm as reliable as a Swiss watch

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

I have done couple times before but did try give notice wasn't a bottle job style just life gets in way sometimes

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Have never done it, but have been stood up a few times. Mainly ghosted on day of meet and usually account blocked in the next day or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've cancelled on the day on short notice and felt awful for it. Luckily I got a second chance and didn't let it slip!

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We have never stood anyone up but we've had to cancel at short notice.

M and M

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I have had to cancel a few times but only due to usually kids...

I have had it done to me a few times too...

Been sat waiting at place and they turned up and didn't like so didn't get out the car then messaged me on here then blocked..

Ghosted another time while still talking to me while I was getting ready..

And one said he bottled it

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I have tried to reschedule and told them at the earliest notice ...

Wouldn't do it purposely though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have hidden illnesses and had to cancel on the day because of them.

But I've never stood someone up.

Not had it done to me either on fab.

I have however pulled out of a social or two the day before but explained why I didn't want to entertain the idea anymore. Yet still come off the bad guy regardless.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Never done it, had it happen once, but it was only a spur of the moment cuppa social with a newbie

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I haven't stood someone up.

I have been stood up. Some years back, I was on Fabguys. I don't meet easily, even if I do meet, and i chatted to this guy for a few weeks. Eventually he talked me into it, gave me his postcode and said he'd give me the house number when I got there. I drove half an hour, parked up in the right street and messaged him. Nothing. The little "in your area" feature on Fab said he was old and "within touching distance". So he was probably in one of the nearby houses. After sitting there for 15 minutes, I gave up.

2 hours later he messaged to say he'd had to go out suddenly for some bullshit reason. I blocked him.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"I haven't stood someone up.

2 hours later he messaged to say he'd had to go out suddenly for some bullshit reason. I blocked him.

*online not old lol - autocorrect strikes!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Once and only once. I just totally forgot.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"I haven't stood someone up.

2 hours later he messaged to say he'd had to go out suddenly for some bullshit reason. I blocked him.

*online not old lol - autocorrect strikes! "

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you done it? If so why? Was it an emergency or did you just bottle it? Really curious to know what reason you might have to do this.

Has it happened to you… what was the reason… if you got one..

Me, no. I’ve never done it, and never will. If I arrange to meet someone, it’s because I’m excited to meet them.

Some people over exaggerate what they think an emergency is.

Just say, you’ve changed your mind, I can deal with the truth.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Never stood anyone up but we have been in a pub and still getting messages from someone even an hour after the agreed time saying they are running late until they finally admitted they weren't coming, luckily we still enjoy eachother's company so we had a lovely even regardless (I guess it would be so much worse for a single)

Mr Hayes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been stood up around 3 times (all socials, a few years ago now). 1 guy I had been chatting to for ages, made the arrangements I turned up, he didn't. I sent him a photo to prove I'd turned up. He saw the message and deleted no response. I subsequently blocked him.

Similar story for 2nd and third (I'd sent photos of where we arranged to meet) chatted right up until the morning of coffee date then off the radar. I always make a back up plan to do some shopping or drop in on friwnss and family so my time isn't wasted.

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By *he terrierMan
over a year ago

gateshead

Never stood anyone up if you arrange a meet then meet

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Not been stood up but cancelled on! Have never stood up or cancelled on anyone either! If I'm cancelled on I never rearrange if asked x

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By *ighlandGirl14Woman
over a year ago

Inverness

Would never just not turn up. Have quite often had to cancel at short notice but I always try to be upfront from the start as to why I might need to cancel last minute. It's still rubbish having to do it though.

On the other side, I usually just get ghosted.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I've been stood up several times, I think I have had to reschedule a couple of times, but courtesy dictates you let the other person know. Sadly we're living in times when good manners are sadly lacking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stood up 3 times on here. Once he decided watching football was more important messsges me while I was at the meet point). 2nd just didn’t turn up no message. Few weeks later messaging me in chat like nothing happened (blocked immediately after I pointed out he’s a timewaster). 3rd just ghosted me in the night.

Sad sad little men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once have we had to cancel, as mother nature visited a week earlier than expected.

We let them know as soon as we could, though it was on the same morning as the planned afternoon meet.

Actually turned out to be a blessing in disguise for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've cancelled on the day as they've started to say things that I didn't like or started to show in messages they don't respect boundaries

I don't regret it and will do it every time if at any point I start to feel uncomfortable

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

I've cancelled a couple of times for different reasons, never stood someone up though. I've been stood up once from here, a couple of times from other sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've cancelled on the day as they've started to say things that I didn't like or started to show in messages they don't respect boundaries

I don't regret it and will do it every time if at any point I start to feel uncomfortable "

I've done this but they usually start with sexual suggestive crap very soon after a social is arranged.

If it got to the day and they started then I'd cancel last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'd never do that to someone

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By *vilsluggMan
over a year ago

"I've cancelled on the day as they've started to say things that I didn't like or started to show in messages they don't respect boundaries

I don't regret it and will do it every time if at any point I start to feel uncomfortable "

Perfectly reasonable and understandable. If you don’t feel comfortable about it then you don’t go through with it.

I’ve limited experience but so far I’ve not been stood up or done it myself.

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Only cancelled on the day once, but I don't think it counts because we were stuck at a standstill on the M25 for 3hrs after a major accident and kept him updated throughout, and we did say we would probably be unable to meet him after all. He said this was fine and to let him know when we were home "so that he knew we were safe".

We rocked up home at 11pm and he starts DEMANDING that we still meet. Obviously at that point we had been on the road for 6 hours, we were exhausted, we were starving, we were fed up, neither of us had showered or shaved and we were the furthest thing from horny you could ever bloody imagine, and he was calling us every name under the sun and moaning that he had turned down other people to meet us.

Only time meeting has ever gone wrong, but in this case, I was glad it did!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I have only ever been cancelled on once, on the ¹¹th hour as I left my home. She had a genuine reason and it was all amicable. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've cancelled on the day on short notice and felt awful for it. Luckily I got a second chance and didn't let it slip!"

Absolutely despicable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been stood up too many times to count on here it's frustrating I get plans change but all it takes is a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never stood anyone up but I've cancelled sure. Sometimes the energy can change after a meet is set and if I start to feel the vibe is weird, I'll leave it.

We all have a right to change our minds or cancel for whatever reason but the key to all this is communication between everyone.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've never stood someone up or cancelled. Good chemistry was always established before any meets that was sure to make them memorable.

I did have one meet I was very much looking forward to cancelled on me with very short notice. I was able to sort alternative plans though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only cancelled on the day once, but I don't think it counts because we were stuck at a standstill on the M25 for 3hrs after a major accident and kept him updated throughout, and we did say we would probably be unable to meet him after all. He said this was fine and to let him know when we were home "so that he knew we were safe".

Only time meeting has ever gone wrong, but in this case, I was glad it did!"

One gets an enormous sense of relief when one discovers one has indavertantly dodged a bullet - particularly after having felt so bad about having let someone down through no fault of ones own, doesn't it?

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I've had too cancel a social before, and I do like to re arrange but he wasn't willing.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Never had a no show or been one in more than 6 years here so can't speak from experience.

Some people do appear to have genuine reasons and others are serial offenders and/or victims judging by other threads.

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By *aughtyfireflyWoman
over a year ago

Near Llanidloes

There are a few guys in Newtown (Powys) that bottle it last minute and cancel. Makes me wonder if they are fake accounts

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

"I've never stood anyone up but I've cancelled sure. Sometimes the energy can change after a meet is set and if I start to feel the vibe is weird, I'll leave it.

We all have a right to change our minds or cancel for whatever reason but the key to all this is communication between everyone."

Best post I’ve seen . Couldn’t agree more .

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've never stood anyone up or been stood up. I've been cancelled on three times a couple of hours before meeting. Twice by the same guy who was subsequently blocked.

I've cancelled twice, once due to getting stuck really late at work but offered to reschedule. The second time last week because he got very sexual with his messages during the day, putting me under pressure to at least have oral sex with him when we met, so I cancelled and told him why then blocked him.

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By *ritladMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Not been stood up or stood anyone else up but have been ghosted when it gets to the point of finalising details of the meet

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

In over 10 years of using Fab, I’ve never not made it to a meet.

I have however, been stood up, ghosted, postponed, and cancelled on many times. You just take it on the chin, block their profile (if it’s still here), and move on. Plenty of genuine people who mean what they say to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not without good reason, although I have encountered people who get uppity despite good notice. Meh.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've had to raincheck on plans a couple of times. Once my mother went into hospital leaving me unable to leave dad and make the social I'd planned, and more recently the clutch went on my car meaning my cross country trip (and coffee/social) had to be postponed.

But I always let the person know as soon as possible, and so far they've been very understanding and happy to rearrange.

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