FabSwingers.com forum: Mutism

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Peopling is sometimes really hard. I’ve felt lonely today but unable to reach out to friends. Just couldn’t articulate what was happening for me. Luckily one friend noted something was off and stepped in, bless him. Do you ever really want interaction with people but feel unable to voice it?

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Peopling is sometimes really hard. I’ve felt lonely today but unable to reach out to friends. Just couldn’t articulate what was happening for me. Luckily one friend noted something was off and stepped in, bless him. Do you ever really want interaction with people but feel unable to voice it? "

A year ago I would have said "no idea what you're talking about"

But since January for unknown reason i started struggling reaching out to friends for socializing and keeping contact

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No people sticking their nose in annoys me.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, but I had selective mutism as a kid so it's not surprising that I struggle to initiate contact as an adult. Knowing what to say is so hard when you're not feeling quite right.

Nell

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The opposite, I just want zero interaction sometimes , like a holiday from messaging and speaking, it’s so good.

There’s a lot of noise on here and with so called friends. I have a couple of people I can sit in their presence , or pottering; none of us need to say much at all, there’s just a peace and tranquility.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

No because I tend to withdraw when I'm feeling like that.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

I hate you, don't leave me is putting too strongly but yeah sometimes we can simultaneously both want people and not be able for them. Close but not too close.

We're contrary sometimes.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

How are you feeling now Estella?

No, if I'm shutting people out it's a deliberate choice. I don't want to interact and want that space, whether space from them, space from conversation. Most of the time I prefer space if I'm honest - I'm happy keeping people at arms length for anything more than superficial.

If I really want interaction with someone, there are a couple of people I can open up to; they don't mind if it takes streams of waffle and diversionary questions.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't have friends I can reach out to if I'm feeling down or lonely.

I have an online acquaintance I can tell I'm not doing great, but I don't go into detail.

He's the same with me.

I've always internalised my problems and let them sort themselves out, while I get on with life.

When I was married I never spoke to my husband about my feelings, as he wouldn't have been much help.

I used to go to see my mum for a cup of tea and chat about nothing, or sit in her garden and listen to the birds.

She's gone now so I go to see my children or my sister, but I don't talk about my feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I have something on my mind, I like to gather my thoughts before I speak up.

I can detract from people and find I have a lot less to say.

Once I've understood, I'll happily speak up and go back to my usual self.

I know it can be tough for those around me in those moments, but they mainly understand, and my son's mum always checks in on me if she feels I've been quiet.

Mrs just leaves me to it, possibly enjoying the peace and quiet.

They don't fully understand, but they kinda get it.

OP, inbox is open if you feel you'd be happy to vent to me in any way.

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