FabSwingers.com forum: Social meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One for the single ladies I think, do you feel safer meeting socially for a drink or coffee somewhere first so that you know the guy is who he says he is?

I always prefer to do this, but even then I have managed to get myself into a bit of a sticky situation.

But the point is, I've just had a guy turn me down saying he'd feel to nervous to meet socially knowing what would happen later, even though i explained there was absolutely no guarantee that anything more would happen.

Am I just attracting the strange people today?

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha , he'd feel nervous meeting in a public place , but would be ok without his kecks on !! yeh right !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

come sit beside me lol!!!

i always meet socially in public first safety is paramount and i dont want some deranged weirdo knowin where i live!! if you meet in public and you or the other party dont feel comfortable u can leave knowin u never need to see them again!! he has obviously got summat to hide!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what he means is he cant be arsed to talk and drink with you but would be happy to nip to your place and shag

tell him to sling his hook

I always meet first in a public place for a drink, if they not happy with that they can simple meet someone else

As single women it can be dodgy meeting guys off of the internet our safty comes first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The guy's been verified so he couldn't have been that nervous last time.

Plus he's complaining about not getting meets so I suggested a drink to see how we get on and he reckons it'll be too daunting for him, poor lamb.

Oh how i'd love to name and shame sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u can private mail he he!!!

verified means nothin really it has been known on here for fake verifications!! xx

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If hes genuine he wont mind....if he minds then theres a high probability he's a wrong 'un

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey , I know how he feels drinking coffee with strange women !! Anything could happen !! lol

Seriously , your probably best not meeting him !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We need a girlie night out missy, then we can do all the naming and shaming we want to!

I've noticed over the months verifications are hugely exaggerated, someone meets for a quite drink and it ends up with a when Harry Met Sally Moment over the table.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hell yeah that sounds a good idea!!! i can put my hand on heart and read some verifications and thought wow!!! then met them...letdown!! but maybe im just hard to please lol!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of guys just dont want to meet for a drink, and i think a lot that do only do it because they feel obligated to rather than want to, i remember once i was meeting a guy and the idea was meet for a drink see if we got on if we did i said i was happy to play first meet but only if we got on, he was ok with that arranged to meet him in a pub but that morning the dreaded happened lol yep the painters arraived lol so i mentioned it to him, i said that i was still happy to met for a drink but i had come on so it would only be a drink and if we got on could arrange another time, to which is said he'd rather leave it, so i said but there was no garentee of sex anyway so he said i know i dont mind meeting for a drink if theres a chance of play but if you cant play id sooner leave it for another night and meet you when you can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe i'm harsh but i wouldn't have arranged to meet him again. If someone wants me they get me on my terms, i don't have the time, patience or inclination to go through the motions unless i do genuinely wanna play with them xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wonder if there some who really would ride the crack of dawn!! iv got to be able to chat with the person i MAY be screwing!!! there never a guarantee with me and luckily most have accepted this and the ones that dont can go jump!!xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i didnt arrange to meet him again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But the problem is there are single females on here who will literally shag everyone so if they're lucky enough to meet someone like that early on then they wrongly presume everyone is the same.

If they're going to the effort of buying a drink you're supposed to open your legs in return...nah not me i'm afraid.

Fussy madam I am xxx

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"But the problem is there are single females on here who will literally shag everyone"

We keep missing them

so, if you bump into them, direct them our way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup!! had that one at a meet " oh but so and so i met last wk fucked me" and your point is...... drink a shot and a packet of nuts and i might consider!! not lol!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally I don't think there's anything to be proud of when you can't remember how many different people you've slept with in a week, each to their own though, but there is the misconception that if you're a single fem on here you're desperate to meet. you can't get laid anywhere else so you're on here to take the first offer that comes along.

Oh how wrong these people are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have to say i been lucky with most of the ones i have met they understand im not just goin to fuck them when they say so iv usually chatted with them for ages first!! i prefer a more select regular thing than loads of random meets!! but thats just me each to thier own! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bottom line, sorry no pun intended(!!lol), is that if a guy is in any way iffy about meeting for a coffee/drink with no expectations, then stuff him!!

As a single lady, you'll not be spoilt for choice, so forget/ignore him/them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kiny diva hun I was chatting to a guy from your neck of the woods last night, and what a lovely bloke he was.

When I mentioned I like to meet for a coffee before agreeing to anything, he said well instead of you traveling miles and meeting closer to me why not meet in such and such town (that town being quite close to me) and only for a coffee!! He doesnt expect anything to happen at all during this coffee meeting.

However I have chatted to a guy who said that if he was going to travel half way round Fife (he want I was traveling to his town!!) then he expected sex the first meeting!! Needless to say I decided against meeting him!!

Seems there are lovely and daft guys everywhere and I really dont blame you for wanting to meet socially first I always take my hubby with me but I still dont want a stranger just turning up at my front door!!

Shona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every guy i've ever met was at my place, and touch wood , never had a problem with it, then again , i do have a baseball bat and stun gun....

and i wouldnt think twice about using any of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i do have a baseball bat and stun gun....

Now thats what I call kinky foreplay!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't laugh, however, I was a bit green when I first started to meet peeps for NSA fun in Aug 09, and I travelled for an hour to this gent's house after chatting to him for about 1.5h on MSN.

The meet turned out to be quite fun.

However, with hindsight, it was a stupid thing to do, and potentially quite dangerous.

He could have a number of other people waiting at his house to jump on me etc...

I had another gent who once asked me to meet him up "anywhere along a quiet road near so and so", and I replied to say this is not something a sensible single fem would ever do, and he realised what he had asked me and laughed to apologise for being inconsiderate.

Nowadays, I would ask to meet at a public place first, usually a pub to have a pint and a meal.

Or if I have a really strong rapport with a gent, then I may invite him home instead. That's for those whom I am prepared to cook for

IMHO, personal safety is of paramount importance. If the other party does not respect your stance on taking all neccessary precautions to ensure you are safe, then the other party is not worth the effort

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I have a rule and it say this on my profile, I would always meet socially for a drink/coffee/lunch etc in a public place and if get on them make arrangements for a second meet, I always said In conversations that I never play on a first meet, and luckily I have had no problems. Just a saftey thing really and also easier to get away in the person you are meeting turns out not to be your cup of tea.

Only broke this rule once, with a guy I arranged to meet at a local pub back in Aug, we went back to mine with a bottle wine and had a fantastic night, have to add hes now my regular and only fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but there is the misconception that if you're a single fem on here you're desperate to meet. you can't get laid anywhere else so you're on here to take the first offer that comes along.

Oh how wrong these people are xx"

I don't personally think there is this misconception at all!! Not with the majority at least...

If anything the women are more likely to think this of the men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but there is the misconception that if you're a single fem on here you're desperate to meet. you can't get laid anywhere else so you're on here to take the first offer that comes along.

Oh how wrong these people are xx

I don't personally think there is this misconception at all!! Not with the majority at least...

If anything the women are more likely to think this of the men."

Gosh I hope I do not come across as being desparate!

When I am feeling mean, e.g. after being pestered by someone who thinks he is god's gift to women and won't take no as an answer, I would reply something in the line of, with attitude like his, no wonder he could not pull in real life, let alone in the cyber world etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even some couples prefer to meet publicly too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet socially, coffee or a meal, one lovely chap met me for coffee, which led onto lunch, we got on so well. it was still the second meet for dinner before anything happened between us.

On the other hand I had arranged to meet with one guy for coffee, telling him that nothing was guaranteed until we had met socially, that I never accommodate in my own home etc. after about 30 mins of chatting with him he had got it into his head that he WAS going to have a play meet after coffee, he WAS going to bring a f/bud for a 3some with me and how much he was going to enjoy it all.

A male friend had been watching this developing in the chat room and whispered to me that if I went through with this meet then he was going to turn up also, so concerned was he at this guys attitude.

Needless to say I didn't meet with him.

Turned out after talking to another single female friend he had arrived at her family home unannounced after a social meet and was also stalking another.

Always trust your instincts ladies. xxxx

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

As a couple, we are more than happy to meet socially for the first time, whether it be a single female or couple. We never expect anything on a first meet, other than to come away having made some new friends, anything else is a major bonus!

We find the anticipation of the next meet a major thrill, knowing that we all get on and we all want to play, the sexy texts or emails back and forth, the countdown to the day, the build up of nervous anticipation, all makes for a very sexy experience!

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