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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello everyone! Happy Sunday! I'm sure you've seen posts like this before.

So, I'm a single guy and have been on here in the past and just got back on again. I'm struggling to understand where I'm going wrong in trying to talk to people lol.

I've messaged a fair few people on here and literally everyone ignores or deletes. Is it just being a single guy or is my profile absolutely shocking? Haha.

I know I'm not green ticked and that doesn't help but I don't see how you can get varified if noone talks.

If it is my profile then feel free to be brutally honest below lol.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon


"Hello everyone! Happy Sunday! I'm sure you've seen posts like this before.

So, I'm a single guy and have been on here in the past and just got back on again. I'm struggling to understand where I'm going wrong in trying to talk to people lol.

I've messaged a fair few people on here and literally everyone ignores or deletes. Is it just being a single guy or is my profile absolutely shocking? Haha.

I know I'm not green ticked and that doesn't help but I don't see how you can get varified if noone talks.

If it is my profile then feel free to be brutally honest below lol. "

Make sure you have tons of cock pics in various poses…. Best advice I can give

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really?? See personally I wouldn't have thought shoving my cock all over my profile would appeal to people haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone! Happy Sunday! I'm sure you've seen posts like this before.

So, I'm a single guy and have been on here in the past and just got back on again. I'm struggling to understand where I'm going wrong in trying to talk to people lol.

I've messaged a fair few people on here and literally everyone ignores or deletes. Is it just being a single guy or is my profile absolutely shocking? Haha.

I know I'm not green ticked and that doesn't help but I don't see how you can get varified if noone talks.

If it is my profile then feel free to be brutally honest below lol. "

Meet veris aren't everything I've (Mrs) met guys not verified, everyone has to start somewhere.

Guys are out numbered on here. Just the luck of the draw that you message the right message, to the right person, at the right time.

At a glance your profile looks fine.

Keep at it or try a club.

Mrs

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon


"Really?? See personally I wouldn't have thought shoving my cock all over my profile would appeal to people haha"

Women say they hate it but they lie….

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Nothing wrong with your profile besides that bdsm test stuff...No-one cares.

For me, it's your age that would make me not want to engage with or meet you.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello everyone! Happy Sunday! I'm sure you've seen posts like this before.

So, I'm a single guy and have been on here in the past and just got back on again. I'm struggling to understand where I'm going wrong in trying to talk to people lol.

I've messaged a fair few people on here and literally everyone ignores or deletes. Is it just being a single guy or is my profile absolutely shocking? Haha.

I know I'm not green ticked and that doesn't help but I don't see how you can get varified if noone talks.

If it is my profile then feel free to be brutally honest below lol.

Meet veris aren't everything I've (Mrs) met guys not verified, everyone has to start somewhere.

Guys are out numbered on here. Just the luck of the draw that you message the right message, to the right person, at the right time.

At a glance your profile looks fine.

Keep at it or try a club.

Mrs

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Thanks for that! I have been thinking about going to a club but I would have thought a single guy walking around a club on his own wouldn't appeal either lol.

I did go to Xtasia with an ex on a quiet night and I always remember a single guy loosely following us whilst we were just looking around the club. Made us feel a bit weirded out

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"Really?? See personally I wouldn't have thought shoving my cock all over my profile would appeal to people haha"

It's probably useful spotting when people are being facetious too. Most people will look at your profile without even opening your message. They'll do it in 'ninja' mode so you won't even realise. If you're not what they're looking for, the message will get deleted.

For us a blurry cock profile pic is an instant delete.

J

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Hello everyone! Happy Sunday! I'm sure you've seen posts like this before.

So, I'm a single guy and have been on here in the past and just got back on again. I'm struggling to understand where I'm going wrong in trying to talk to people lol.

I've messaged a fair few people on here and literally everyone ignores or deletes. Is it just being a single guy or is my profile absolutely shocking? Haha.

I know I'm not green ticked and that doesn't help but I don't see how you can get varified if noone talks.

If it is my profile then feel free to be brutally honest below lol. "

If no-one talks hit the club

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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Hey OP! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your profile. Your bio and pics are fine (only thing I would remove is the BDSM test results) and you seem like a very positive, friendly person. It is tough for guys on here as they outnumber women about 100:1. Are you reading bios to see if you fit what they are looking for before messaging? What type of thing are you sending in your initial message? Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey OP! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your profile. Your bio and pics are fine (only thing I would remove is the BDSM test results) and you seem like a very positive, friendly person. It is tough for guys on here as they outnumber women about 100:1. Are you reading bios to see if you fit what they are looking for before messaging? What type of thing are you sending in your initial message? Good luck "

Hey! Thanks for that

Yeah it does seem that single guys are extremely over populated haha. I'll always read someone's bio and mention something in my message to them, try and leave it open for a conversation. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, just found it odd that noone seems up for a chat lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for that! I have been thinking about going to a club but I would have thought a single guy walking around a club on his own wouldn't appeal either lol.

I did go to Xtasia with an ex on a quiet night and I always remember a single guy loosely following us whilst we were just looking around the club. Made us feel a bit weirded out "

Plenty want single guys at clubs.

You get single guys following but if you don't act like that. Make conversation with people and go with no expectations who knows.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting things to think about. Thanks for replying everyone

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"Hey OP! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your profile. Your bio and pics are fine (only thing I would remove is the BDSM test results) and you seem like a very positive, friendly person. It is tough for guys on here as they outnumber women about 100:1. Are you reading bios to see if you fit what they are looking for before messaging? What type of thing are you sending in your initial message? Good luck

Hey! Thanks for that

Yeah it does seem that single guys are extremely over populated haha. I'll always read someone's bio and mention something in my message to them, try and leave it open for a conversation. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, just found it odd that noone seems up for a chat lol"

I’m sure it will just be a matter of time

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Hey. Just looked at your profile and it looks ok but imo doesn’t stand out a great deal but it’s a good start.

My suggestion would be just to keep working on it in the positive way that you are. I think the best profile as always work in progress as you learn more about fab and what actually makes you tick too.

I would also drop the hygiene part too.

Happy to chat anytime, just don’t be one of those guys with alt motives

Marc

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Profile looks good, don't think with your dick and be polite.

Looks like your doing that anyway.

Good luck op.

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey OP! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your profile. Your bio and pics are fine (only thing I would remove is the BDSM test results) and you seem like a very positive, friendly person. It is tough for guys on here as they outnumber women about 100:1. Are you reading bios to see if you fit what they are looking for before messaging? What type of thing are you sending in your initial message? Good luck

Hey! Thanks for that

Yeah it does seem that single guys are extremely over populated haha. I'll always read someone's bio and mention something in my message to them, try and leave it open for a conversation. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, just found it odd that noone seems up for a chat lol"

Join in on the forums and chat here.

When men say they want a chat it's usually wank chat they want.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"Hey OP! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your profile. Your bio and pics are fine (only thing I would remove is the BDSM test results) and you seem like a very positive, friendly person. It is tough for guys on here as they outnumber women about 100:1. Are you reading bios to see if you fit what they are looking for before messaging? What type of thing are you sending in your initial message? Good luck

Hey! Thanks for that

Yeah it does seem that single guys are extremely over populated haha. I'll always read someone's bio and mention something in my message to them, try and leave it open for a conversation. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, just found it odd that noone seems up for a chat lol

Join in on the forums and chat here.

When men say they want a chat it's usually wank chat they want. "

Hence my comment. I once talked to a guy who was struggling with mental health so I reached out and within 2 messages he was asking to meet tinder

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've been on here before, what did you learn last time?

You find a lot of single guys come onto fabwith unrealistic ecpectations thinking it's jyst a matter of knocking up a quick profile, uploading a couple of pictures and be expecting to be knee deep in pussy by lunch time.

Then, after a few weeks when it dawns on them that that's not how fab works, they then come to the forum asking where tgey're going wrong as if there's some kind of magic secret formula to getting replies. When there isn't.

Everyone you message will always check out your profile before even considering reading what you've sent them, but as most women and a lot of couples browse in mode, you won't know anything about it.

If they don't think you're suitable to them, why bother to read your message?

And you have to consider the very real probability that you're not going to appeal to everyone.

Probably only asmall handful. And of those, you'll likely fancy a small percentage of them.

Just because people are on fab, they're neither obliged nor looking to shag anyone who asks.

Then consider that there are over a hundred men to evrey woman on fab and pretty soon it becomes clear why most single guys don't get that first meet until they've bern on here for around a year.

Instashag this is not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks good to me!

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