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Number of message before social ?

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

How many messages do you exchange from first contact until you agree a social ?

With verified people we reckon less than 10 each way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than 10 for sure.

T

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Thousands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never 10, some of my messages on here and other places have exceeded well over 300,400,500,600..... etc etc...

If you end up chatting every day for quite some time it's easily done.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

More than 10 for sure

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I think maybe the resurrection of Christ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Around 10 yes then numbers exchanged with group formed for all involved

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It depends. Normally it's a lot. Into the hundreds probably because I'm a bit of a talker. But recently I met someone after less than fifty messages were exchanged and it's going brilliantly.

So it varies.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Depends on how busy we or the other person/people are

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Depends if I'm near a weekend, if I'm out and about and they are near, then less than 10 to meet up for a cuppa

Otherwise its normally minimum a few days nattering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dread to think.

I hop off here early doors as, well, ya know.

After that, plenty of texting, calls, video chats blah blah blah.

Some happen sooner, others later, depends on the quality of the connection and the logistics to be fair.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If we don't arrange a social within 10 messages we abandon the conversation.We find that a quick social is far better than endless messaging.It works for us!

M and M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person, location and availability. I try not to talk for long periods these days because 9 times out of 10, it comes to nothing.

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By *unnybunny1000Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Varies for me..

Within first 20 or so, you can usually tell if someone is wasting your time I think

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"How many messages do you exchange from first contact until you agree a social ?

With verified people we reckon less than 10 each way. "

Yep couple to couple 10 or so. Man to lady probably a few more. The longer it goes the less likely something going to happen.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I don't really base it on messages, usually I like to have a social within a couple of weeks, not a fan of chatting for months on end.

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

On my single profile I chat for quite a while before I meet someone. The only time I didn't it was the worst and scariest meet I've had on here. So now when I am meeting new people I will chat for a good while and doing that has worked for me. It's fine if someone doesn't want to they can move on to someone else.

And it would be the same on this profile as well. I have no interest in rushing to meet people off here.Bo.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

If I’m enjoying the chat I rarely count how many messages

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

It's about the vibe I get, but I am a believer in let's get a social done as soon as possible, then can see if we vibe and match on a level to take things further. Why fuck about

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

More than ten, probably about 2 weeks with speaking mostly daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to say. Some of the people I chat to we have done so for ages without a meet (both via Fab and other social media), some it has been a few messages and then we meet for a social and take it from there, but usually there are numerous messages back and forth as we get to know each other.

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk


"It's about the vibe I get, but I am a believer in let's get a social done as soon as possible, then can see if we vibe and match on a level to take things further. Why fuck about "

Because some people are not what they seem when chatting. The worst meet I had was a coffee and chat and we had parked our cars in the same area and he didn't want to stop at just a coffee and chat I found out when I went to leave. Had I spoken longer I believe I would have spotted red flags and not met him at all,just like I haven't met several other men I spoke to on here because after a while things they say have been massive red flags to me .That's why I now 'fuck about' when meeting anyone new. And it hasn't let me down since. .Bo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I’m enjoying the chat I rarely count how many messages "

This too. or more like never.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

It depends, of there's immediate chemistry and I'm in the mood then a couple. I can be quite impulsive so if the stars align then I'm packing my tits and heading over. Sometimes it's a slow burn though.

Obviously if I get hit with a "wut u up 2, want dis dik?" Then my panties are already on the floor and I'm doing my best to run directly towards this irresistible offer with pants round my ankles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way way way more than 10.

However by 10 I've very often decided they aren't for me!

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere


"Never 10, some of my messages on here and other places have exceeded well over 300,400,500,600..... etc etc...

If you end up chatting every day for quite some time it's easily done. "

I messaged back and forth over 200 times with someone before they carelessly dropped themselves in it… so it pays to make sure and as Boo said its easily done over a xple days messaging back and forth

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By *orl1971 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If we don't arrange a social within 10 messages we abandon the conversation.We find that a quick social is far better than endless messaging.It works for us!

M and M"

That’s exactly our view. Better to meet in person as you can invest a lot of time to find it doesn’t work out when you meet.

After a meet lots of flirty messages are fine as you know the person and that they are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 milion sounds about right!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Hundreds. And then hundreds more on either Telegram or WhatsApp.

(I'm tempted to say thousands)

I'm not swayed by the quantity. It's the quality of messaging for me.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

I'm in the 'it depends' camp too. Often a lot, and often because there's a bit of distance/planning needed.

But I can be clear if I would like to (or would be likely to) meet someone after only a few messages, or even just one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hundreds. And then hundreds more on either Telegram or WhatsApp.

(I'm tempted to say thousands)

I'm not swayed by the quantity. It's the quality of messaging for me."

So 20 million too much?

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

666 I reckon is about a good number

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

Probably in the high hundreds to thousands probably

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

I try to meet socially within 2 weeks of first contact. Outside of that i find meets rarely happen unless at a club

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"It's about the vibe I get, but I am a believer in let's get a social done as soon as possible, then can see if we vibe and match on a level to take things further. Why fuck about

Because some people are not what they seem when chatting. The worst meet I had was a coffee and chat and we had parked our cars in the same area and he didn't want to stop at just a coffee and chat I found out when I went to leave. Had I spoken longer I believe I would have spotted red flags and not met him at all,just like I haven't met several other men I spoke to on here because after a while things they say have been massive red flags to me .That's why I now 'fuck about' when meeting anyone new. And it hasn't let me down since. .Bo."

I hear that, not all are what they seem and its my experience rhat I pick up on things alot easier in person, not onky thr verbal communication bit more so the non-verbal communication....hence my not fucking about. I can pick up on things so much easier in person. Then put startagies in place.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"666 I reckon is about a good number "

Not 69

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