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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Due to my circumstances I can't / don't ever use my place for meets but I'm quite happy to travel.

However, I find it icky when the person / people I'm meeting mentions they have kids asleep in the house.

I dunno what it is, or why, I just don't feel I could relax knowing this.

Am I just being weird and fussy?

Ta xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no its not right

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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No, I couldn't do that either

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Due to my circumstances I can't / don't ever use my place for meets but I'm quite happy to travel.

However, I find it icky when the person / people I'm meeting mentions they have kids asleep in the house.

I dunno what it is, or why, I just don't feel I could relax knowing this.

Am I just being weird and fussy?

Ta xxxx"

It would totally freak me out. If you have children they come first. When my son lived at home i only ever played here when he was away. Children are unpredictable, they could easily wake and come downstairs or become ill ect

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

How about playing the next room, we had that offer once come for a drink,

just warn us the kids would be playing / watching tv in the back rooms.

Hmm funny we could not make it

would you have gone ?

Sue

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"no its not right "

I agree, we wouldn't meet anyone knowing there were children about, swinging is supposed to be about having fun not worrying if kids at suddenly going to appear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Glad I'm not being anal about it, I don't think I could relax knowing they were there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have pets and even they can be off-putting at times. Like when the pooch licked the feet of my playmate when he was kneeing against the bed going down on me!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"I only have pets and even they can be off-putting at times. Like when the pooch licked the feet of my playmate when he was kneeing against the bed going down on me! "

Met a guy and his cat was staring straight at me from the edge of the bed.............. was just not right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont agree with people having folks from swingers sites round to their house while they have kids in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im the same, i dont play at home so we travel, home is a family place aand family place only,i like to seperate being a mother to being a swinger. i couldnt relax if we where to play at home or worse having our kids under the same roof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only have pets and even they can be off-putting at times. Like when the pooch licked the feet of my playmate when he was kneeing against the bed going down on me!

Met a guy and his cat was staring straight at me from the edge of the bed.............. was just not right"

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no way would i play with anyone if my kids at home no way no chance too risky not just if they wake up but with other stuff to! even normal excuse the phrase partners iv never had them there when my kid there just my own queer little way!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd been chatting to a lady earlier in the year, it was understood that the first meet would be at hers, and only for a coffee.

Then the school holidays came along, kids around the house, but I could still have had the coffee meet! I said I'd wait until after the holidays!

After the holidays, the youngest was still going to be around, so latterly that was one of the reasons we never met!

To be honest, I think it tells you something about the person and for me, I no longer fancied that person!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe im jumpin to wrong conclusion here n forgive me if i am but as a parent a can understand how kids can get in the way of meetin etc then bugs n things but the last bit of your message i find a bit offensive?? the somethin about that person bit?? why cause she had kids and didnt want a stranger in her house??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This post wasn't written to point the finger at anyone who is fine with this, it's just that I don't have kids (don't like them much) and have no interest in them, so I don't really understand how parents are happy to have a virtual stranger in their home for sex when their child / children are asleep.

To me it just feels a bit weird. I don't even like staying with partners who I am in a relationship with, if kids are at home let alone me swinging by for a bit of hows your father - excuse the pun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no ur not pointin the finger lol!!! it is a good point and i agree!!

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only have pets and even they can be off-putting at times. Like when the pooch licked the feet of my playmate when he was kneeing against the bed going down on me! "

Well, it could have been worse....... lol

@ OP there's no way on Gods green Earth I'd agree to a meet knowing their were children asleep in the house. That's wrong on so many levels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe im jumpin to wrong conclusion here n forgive me if i am but as a parent a can understand how kids can get in the way of meetin etc then bugs n things but the last bit of your message i find a bit offensive?? the somethin about that person bit?? why cause she had kids and didnt want a stranger in her house?? "

Excuse me, are you referring to my post?

Of course I have no complaint about a lady having children, it's a pretty natural thing for a lady to have children! But what I don't think is natural is for her to be entertaining men, even if it's only for a coffee, while any of these children are around the house!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of ppl who canna accommodate book a room in hotel maybe that would help. No kids lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe im jumpin to wrong conclusion here n forgive me if i am but as a parent a can understand how kids can get in the way of meetin etc then bugs n things but the last bit of your message i find a bit offensive?? the somethin about that person bit?? why cause she had kids and didnt want a stranger in her house??

Excuse me, are you referring to my post?

Of course I have no complaint about a lady having children, it's a pretty natural thing for a lady to have children! But what I don't think is natural is for her to be entertaining men, even if it's only for a coffee, while any of these children are around the house!!"

i thought i had read it wrong!! i thought u were moanin cause she wouldnt meet u cause she had kids in house!! again i did say i might have read it wrong!! but def do agree now u clarified it!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my honest opinion inviting people from internet sex sites to your home while your kids are in in just bad parenting, your childrens welfair and saftey should come first

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By *xstephbxxCouple
over a year ago

hyde

shouldnt laugh i know...but, had a very sexy 5 some going on in our livingroom the other week, and all of a suddedn, this horendous screeching started !!... all of us stopped and jumped to what ever item we could find to cover ourselves not knowing what the hell the noise was !

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Moral of the story.

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make sure when you son stays at his Grandmas for the night...he takes the f'kin hamster that lives in the dining room with him !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree with most responses on here ,

Home is Mummyville, not Sexytown lol

Joking aside , the way I see it ?

It's our son's home too and not fair to use it for meets .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my honest opinion inviting people from internet sex sites to your home while your kids are in in just bad parenting, your childrens welfair and saftey should come first"

i agree totally!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" agree with most responses on here ,

Home is Mummyville, not Sexytown lol

Joking aside , the way I see it ?

It's our son's home too and not fair to use it for meets . "

see thats how i see it, i have loads of guys saying i can come in day while kids are at school if you want, when i say i cant accommodate, but to be quite blint, this is my home, its my kids home, i dont want loads of different men coming and going using it as a free brothel lol

And sometimes thats just how they make you feel when they not accept...i dont accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as i said earlier in thread hotels are there to be used no kids. Children are a precious comodity and should always be safe. Would never have a stranger for sex in my home if my children were young. And now until chrimbo Premier Inns are only 30 quid a nite thats l5.00 each easy answer lol

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By *xstephbxxCouple
over a year ago

hyde

have to agree with the hotel room thing, besides which, no mess to clean up ( if made ) scream as loud as you want ( to within reason ) and dont have the wierd moment when you have had enough but dont know or are not sure how to ask them to leave.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

It's stated within our profile we're willing to meet at a hotel even if people live to far away, twice we've booked a hotel for 2 individual meets, each time both couples have cancelled on us, booking a hotel is no guarantee to a meet turning up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's stated within our profile we're willing to meet at a hotel even if people live to far away, twice we've booked a hotel for 2 individual meets, each time both couples have cancelled on us, booking a hotel is no guarantee to a meet turning up "

ive had that too, 3 times now ive paid for a hotel and the guy hasnt shown, i now no longer do hotel meets unless they are providing it

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"i now no longer do hotel meets unless they are providing it "

Being female you may get away with that I very much doubt we would

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

in reply to the op - there is absolutely no way on earth i would meet a couple if children were there - doessn;t matter about age - just wouldn;t happen - can't imagine anything more off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i thought i had read it wrong!! i thought u were moanin cause she wouldnt meet u cause she had kids in house!! again i did say i might have read it wrong!! but def do agree now u clarified it!! xx"

Phew, thank goodness that was sorted out!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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i now no longer do hotel meets unless they are providing it

Being female you may get away with that I very much doubt we would "

you'd be suprised

theres very few men on here willing to pay for hotel rooms, most expect you to at least go halfs, which is all honestly i have no problem with but i make them book the room on their card and i give them the money once we are in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i thought i had read it wrong!! i thought u were moanin cause she wouldnt meet u cause she had kids in house!! again i did say i might have read it wrong!! but def do agree now u clarified it!! xx

Phew, thank goodness that was sorted out!! "

lol big hug!! x

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"most expect you to at least go halfs"

Really?


"i make them book the room on their card and i give them the money once we are in it"

Well, if you got to pay, make sure it's a good fook at least get your money's worth

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting


"

However, I find it icky when the person / people I'm meeting mentions they have kids asleep in the house.

I dunno what it is, or why, I just don't feel I could relax knowing this.

Am I just being weird and fussy?

Ta xxxx"

ok - when i met my first couple they had a young son.

He was on bed - had learning difficulies due to some affliction, and slept the night thru.

I didnt stay the first night as i felt it was off putting.

BUT

as i got to know the couple, this became acceptable.

I now know another couple- who have two kids - who when i go round and play are on bed.

We have played several times and the children have never got up while we palyeed.

They have however got up while we were drinking and talking, so i am just an old school mate - and that works.

I ws nervous at first due to kids - but common sense and stuff means you can be sensible x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way would we play in a house where kids were.

Could you imagine what it'd be like for the kid if they came down and caught there parents with another couple,doing God knows what.

The experience could stay with them forever,never mind the embarrassment for all concerned.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first started this hobby I was sent a messgage from a guy saying he wanted to meet that night I replied with I have no babtsitter tonight to which he said well shut them in their room upstairs!!!!!

I will never play with my kids in my house cos my youngest doesnt understand that a closed door means she should not walk in! Many times when we thought she was out playing in the garden hubby and I have been caught so I would never invite a stranger into my home while my kids are there.

Nor would I play while kids are in the house if I went to someone elses home, since many kids are like mine and are nosy wee things who like to know who has just walked in the door!!

Shona

x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i might be moving down to bristol in the new year to take up a office job so iam looking for somewhere to stay mon to fri every week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i might be moving down to bristol in the new year to take up a office job so iam looking for somewhere to stay mon to fri every week"

Now thats what we call a hijack lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think there is something very wrong with inviting strangers into your home when your children are asleep. You could easily be over powered and a stranger loose to do whatever to your children. I dont meet at home when my children are home and they are 18 and 22!! Someone said bad parenting: I agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the above comments. We just couldn't do it I'm afraid and don't think it's right at all.

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