FabSwingers.com forum: The Most Difficult Thing….

By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

…..that you have yet had to learn in life.

Good folks what is it?

It could be something physical (learning to read, tie shoe laces, swim etc.) or else something more intangible (relationships etc).

Thinking caps on everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That you can't change other people .... just how you react to and deal with them.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Love is not enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How to open plastic packaging.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

That even if you want to do good things & fight for this.It doesn't always happen.But you know you can move forward & that you stayed true to yourself and you can live with yourself.x

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

Money doesn't grow on trees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That life is learning how to recover from shitty people, when even your parents hurt you it's a tough thing to process.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

How to swim properly ie with face going into the water

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How to cope with chronic pain without being a little bitch about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody has a plan until life punches you in the face

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

That I am enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Language- Spanish, it just doesn’t sink in, I can’t retain it.

Practically- Guitar was hard/is still hard as I’m starting to move from chords to solos, these fingers prefer to move slowly

Life - you can love someone as much as you want, there’s no guarantee they will give it back.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Tried to learn Greek. That was hard.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Thwre is an awful lot, that I never learned to deal with, or have dealt with in a good way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To not worry about what people think of me. I know I'm a nice person and that's all that should matter to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit happens, suffering and death occurs to good people (and children) - so life isn't fair, those who are evil and deserve bad things to happen to them do not necessarily get punished in this life, there is no such thing as karma.

To quote Edmund Blackadder: "But you know Baldrick, the world isn’t

fair. If it was, things like this wouldn’t happen would they? (hits

Baldrick around the back of the head)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How to do the sex

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Initiating conversation with people I fancy

And plastering

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Initiating conversation with people I fancy

And plastering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That life can be a cruel bitch, and grief changes you irrevocably

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

That no matter how hard you work or try it does not guarantee the result you want

There are people out there who will deliberately go out of their way to cause you problems no matter what you do.

To be happy in your self. As the one and only RuPual says If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

The ability to say " no " or " fuck off " more often

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

That I don't need to expect that people always want to hurt me, some actually do love me.

Took me a long time to believe and to place trust in others

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

That no matter how bad things are or how low you are things will always get better.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That you can't change other people .... just how you react to and deal with them. "

Still learning this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That no matter how bad things are or how low you are things will always get better.

Mrs "

That thought keeps me going

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Initiating conversation with people I fancy

And plastering

Um, hi

Seeeeeee. Whatdoidonow?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Initiating conversation with people I fancy

And plastering

Um, hi

Seeeeeee. Whatdoidonow? "

You *do* me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That no matter how bad things are or how low you are things will always get better.

Mrs "

Damn, I thought that was going to be darker...along the lins of no matter how dark things are and how deep the hole is that you feel you are in, remember things can get a lot worse.

However, the alternative unhelpful comment from my mother would have been, "there are others who are a lot less fortunate than you" - which never made me feel better about the situation I was in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Initiating conversation with people I fancy

And plastering

Um, hi

Seeeeeee. Whatdoidonow?

You *do* me!

And there I was thinking that you were offering your services as a competent plasterer to J&B

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Initiating conversation with people I fancy

And plastering

Um, hi

Seeeeeee. Whatdoidonow?

You *do* me!

And there I was thinking that you were offering your services as a competent plasterer to J&B

I’ll ensure a good finish.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

... trying to decipher the complexities of this labyrinthine place called Fab, is what I'm trying to learn.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"That I don't need to expect that people always want to hurt me, some actually do love me.

Took me a long time to believe and to place trust in others

I definitely still need to learn this one. Although I’m trying my best

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By *ensuallover1000 OP Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I can recall a number of things that stand out for me, as being a real struggle to comprehend.

One was learning to tell the time on an analog clock face.

The big hand…the little hand….the second hand….and all those little increments between the numbers!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

How to live without those you love in your life anymore.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

That people on the whole will let you down, betray you and take everything they can from you in the most painful way possible.

But that there are some beautiful souls in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love is not enough

You think ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be happy in my own skin

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"How to live without those you love in your life anymore."

Without a doubt the hardest thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't learn to swim until I was 32 and my 10 year old niece taught me to just roll onto my back and take a deep breath if I get into difficulty. Why did no one teach me that when I nearly drowned in the school swimming pool?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Money doesn't grow on trees

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but it does although all the technophites want to do away with paper money

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Not to be so hard on myself.

I've failed to learn pretty much any practical DIY-type skills, but to fair I've not really tried to and don't think I'll start now.

I would like to be a more accomplished BBQer and gardener, but will continue to work on those key life skills.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Not everyone has a good heart, Doesn't matter how nice or caring you are they will betray you or forget about you in the end. But no matter what don't ever change or let them make you bitter, Because good people exist too.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

To try not to sweat the small stuff - overthinking has been a huge issue for me all my life a mixture of an absent father and unanswered questions have probably lead to this.

I am far better at rationalising but it’s a process and one I didn’t realise I needed to go through till much later than I should.

However I am moving forward and see changes in my way of thinking massively helped by exercise, meditation and a very supportive and understanding partner, small steps but big changes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long division took me ages to crack as a kid. I just couldn't understand it and that felt rubbish. I promptly forgot it as soon as I left school.

As an adult it's been that whole self-compassion malarkey. Definitely a work in progress.

Nell

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

Learning that I didn’t deserve things that have happened in my past.

Since then, I’ve always got a brighter happier future ahead of me

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

That you never really know what's going on with people.

I got blindsided twice, one was a relationship ending. The other was someone taking their life

It can be wonderful and random. I spent a night in hospital this week and since then thinking how many of the people around me had their lives changed that day.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Im yet to learn many things mainly tho its how to lose people i care about and i dont want to lose be it from death or people who walk away to live dont think il ever learn how

Also how to cook fried rice well

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