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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

This place does worse for your self confidence and self love than without it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can do

Luckily I’m smart enough to know I’m just a hole with tits to 90% of the men on here, and they’ll tell me anything they think I wanna hear, for the chance of shagging said hole with tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly think it's healthy to take a break from this place from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. But I’m not here to feel good about myself I’m here for sex. So gotta persevere right?

When the people here affect my mental health I usually just leave for a few months

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By *imandher3525Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Nope! As a bigger girl I’ve never felt more comfortable, people are more accepting on here than anyone you’d meet in ‘normal life’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. But I’m not here to feel good about myself I’m here for sex. So gotta persevere right?

When the people here affect my mental health I usually just leave for a few months"

Well it is just a sex site after all

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Nope! As a bigger girl I’ve never felt more comfortable, people are more accepting on here than anyone you’d meet in ‘normal life’

Bigger?! I mean are those pics photoshopped or?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope! As a bigger girl I’ve never felt more comfortable, people are more accepting on here than anyone you’d meet in ‘normal life’

Also this ^

I got really unwell and it caused me to gain a tone of weight, which I can’t shift due to other long term health issues. But men on here seem to love my flabby tubby and saggy tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swings and roundabouts really. It's done some very good things in terms of helping me become more body confident but it's also done some not good things such as seeing people that are successful on this site and the unnerving feeling that you're missing out despite your best efforts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm, for me no. But then again I'm not actively seeking meets and my inbox is crazy with offers. I can appreciate that I might feel differently if the shoe was on the other foot.

I don't expect anything from here. I don't take things personally. I'm not really bothered unless I'm deeply involved with someone but that very rarely happens anyway.

Maybe take a break if you're feeling more negative about being here than positive? And remember that nobody on here makes you worthy, if that even makes sense. You're fine as you are.

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By *anderingArtistMan
over a year ago

an abstract world

When I was last on I had real peaks and troughs with all of fab, not just my self confidence. I'd post a new pic to get a few fabs for a little high but it was soon gone.

I think it's important not to lose sight of the harsh reality that there's thousands of people on here, much less women than men and finding what you're looking for takes time.

This time I've come back with a view to just use the forums. If anything else happens then great. If not, I'm not dejected because that's a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I’ve never felt my confidence has been knocked being on here. I’m quite good at not taking any notice of the horrible people who love to put others down, they’re just strangers on the internet who know absolutely nothing about me. Sometimes I look at other women on here and think I’d love to look like that but it really doesn’t effect me that much and if it did I think I’d take a break for a while until I was strong enough to deal with it.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"This place does worse for your self confidence and self love than without it?"

Nope.

But then it's just somewhere to chat, discuss and debate for the most part. Meets are generally in clubs bar the occasional rare social/play meet and we don't seek validation from others, nor do we use the site as a confidence booster or to feel better about ourselves. It's just a means to have fun, spend time with good company and indulge in activities extra to the sex life we have with eachother.

We couldn't give two hoots if people fab our pics, send compliments or say nice things about us.

I felt exactly the same when I was here as a single.

To me, if you need to seek approval and ego boosts from complete strangers to generate confidence, then at some point you'll likely realise that much of that approval and nice words is little more than fake statements designed to lure you into bed. People will say all manner of nice stuff if they think it will get them laid

Cynical? Probably. True? Also quite probable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. But I’m not here to feel good about myself I’m here for sex. So gotta persevere right?

When the people here affect my mental health I usually just leave for a few months

Well it is just a sex site after all

Exactly. When the fun stops, stop.

Time to stop soon me thinks

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

I think it's more when you get interest, send a face pic (and ffs I am not ugly haha!) And get rejection after rejection. That's more what's going on and as I've said in Pickles thread just now, in real life I do ok with attention from vanilla people

So sounds arrogant but also it isn't and I can't be because anyone here is like nahhh not for me

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By *eekin NSAMan
over a year ago

Ireland /Kilkenny areas

Yep totally ?? knocks yourself confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can do. So many very attractive / in demand people that can make you compare yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's more when you get interest, send a face pic (and ffs I am not ugly haha!) And get rejection after rejection. That's more what's going on and as I've said in Pickles thread just now, in real life I do ok with attention from vanilla people

So sounds arrogant but also it isn't and I can't be because anyone here is like nahhh not for me

I think it’s a totally different experience between a single man on here and a single woman (well, single as in you have your own profile)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sounds arrogant but also it isn't and I can't be because anyone here is like nahhh not for me

I can see how that could really knock your confidence and start to question yourself. It’s not just you though it seems to be a common thing for single men on here.

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

So sounds arrogant but also it isn't and I can't be because anyone here is like nahhh not for me

I think it’s a totally different experience between a single man on here and a single woman (well, single as in you have your own profile)"

I just think there's no more brutal rejection than someone loving your chat and body and being down until they ask for a face pic and then go, oh yeah no

Happening once or twice it's like cool but when it happens over and over it's fucking brutal! And yet do fine in reality. Very bizarre yet the inner child can't help but feel a little broken!

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Those two things are different for me. Self-confidence, it has probably improved. Even I can't quite be cynical enough to think that EVERY person who has complimented me and said lovely things is lying.

But self-love? No. It's made me question myself. My need for approval. My weakness for the approbation of strangers.

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

I'm pretty happy in my own skin, it's taken years to get to this point. If someone wants to troll me or get arsey because I've said no, then so be it! I know I'm older and my pics are PG but but on the whole, I tend to get positive, complimentary messages. The block button is my BFF! This place can totally mess with your head of you're not in a good place. That's why it's good to take a break now and then.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

It used to matter to me now i dont tend to care much think iv only had one or 2 message convos this last couple days im not really on enough to start things

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By *rsoforiginalsbWoman
over a year ago

Newport

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Depends how I look at it, there's some beautiful ladies that want lots of sex with me on here. On the flip side I am a single guy on a site full of lots of other guys

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Depends how I look at it, there's some beautiful ladies that want lots of sex with me on here. On the flip side I am a single guy on a site full of lots of other guys"

Hahaha I mean, sounds like this doesn't apply to you and you're doing just fine PD!

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

im an old dog bit of fun site cheers me up some nice people on here,, odd bad uns

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

So sounds arrogant but also it isn't and I can't be because anyone here is like nahhh not for me

I think it’s a totally different experience between a single man on here and a single woman (well, single as in you have your own profile)

I just think there's no more brutal rejection than someone loving your chat and body and being down until they ask for a face pic and then go, oh yeah no

Happening once or twice it's like cool but when it happens over and over it's fucking brutal! And yet do fine in reality. Very bizarre yet the inner child can't help but feel a little broken!"

I think that men in general take crappy face pictures on here! The main problem being the mugshot look! So maybe you need to review that. Or the other thing could be to include a face pic with your 1st message, to save wasting energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sounds arrogant but also it isn't and I can't be because anyone here is like nahhh not for me

I think it’s a totally different experience between a single man on here and a single woman (well, single as in you have your own profile)

I just think there's no more brutal rejection than someone loving your chat and body and being down until they ask for a face pic and then go, oh yeah no

Happening once or twice it's like cool but when it happens over and over it's fucking brutal! And yet do fine in reality. Very bizarre yet the inner child can't help but feel a little broken!

I try and always send a face pic straight away because if they like me it gives the opportunity for them to send one back and I can see if I like them back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But, it's good when people are nice.

Like say you look amazing and a guy would be lucky to meet and play with you x

Doesn't take much, but goes a long way

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

So sounds arrogant but also it isn't and I can't be because anyone here is like nahhh not for me

I think it’s a totally different experience between a single man on here and a single woman (well, single as in you have your own profile)

I just think there's no more brutal rejection than someone loving your chat and body and being down until they ask for a face pic and then go, oh yeah no

Happening once or twice it's like cool but when it happens over and over it's fucking brutal! And yet do fine in reality. Very bizarre yet the inner child can't help but feel a little broken!

I try and always send a face pic straight away because if they like me it gives the opportunity for them to send one back and I can see if I like them back. "

These are people that initiated chat with me! It's OK I'm done with it, I'll probably just say you won't like it and block there and then if they ask

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"This place does worse for your self confidence and self love than without it?"

I think it’s best if it has no impact all. If strangers in the internet makes self esteem worse or better something is broken

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"This place does worse for your self confidence and self love than without it?"

Very much. Its like one of those computer games set in a dystopian world. Addictive with some harmful side effects. But... Perception of connection.

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"This place does worse for your self confidence and self love than without it?

I think it’s best if it has no impact all. If strangers in the internet makes self esteem worse or better something is broken"

To be fair it usually doesn't, I think yesterday was just 'not for me' city and by the end I was like Christ, you can make out my basic head shape on prof, are the eyes nose and mouth really that fucking triggering?

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I might be the anomaly buts its actually been the opposite ive gained so much self confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as"

PARKLIFE

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I might be the anomaly buts its actually been the opposite ive gained so much self confidence "

I've gained the confidence to show off my body, even though I really don't like it [my body].

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

"I might be the anomaly buts its actually been the opposite ive gained so much self confidence

I've gained the confidence to show off my body, even though I really don't like it [my body]."

Exactly that, if you asked me even 4 months ago would you go to a club not a chance let alone walk around topless

Its what you make it i suppose, there will alway be people putting people down but the majority are lovely people

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I might be the anomaly buts its actually been the opposite ive gained so much self confidence

I've gained the confidence to show off my body, even though I really don't like it [my body].

Exactly that, if you asked me even 4 months ago would you go to a club not a chance let alone walk around topless

Its what you make it i suppose, there will alway be people putting people down but the majority are lovely people "

I suppose on here, I don't always trust that compliments are genuine, especially via PM when they know little or nothing about you.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"This place does worse for your self confidence and self love than without it?"

Yes, I think it can and it's essential to take regular breaks from it. I'm not saying the fab experience is better or worse for one gender but it can have a negative impact in different ways.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes to a degree, sometimes it's a confidence boost other times it isn't.

At the moment it isn't.

Mrs

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

If I was relying upon it for my self-confidence I would be concerned about my myself.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Yes to a degree, sometimes it's a confidence boost other times it isn't.

At the moment it isn't.

Mrs "

Great pics you two.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as

PARKLIFE"

Who let phil daniels in?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

It definitely depends on your mind set. Like most things in life you have to find a balance. If it doesn't feel right step away and focus on you. Sounds selfish but you're the only person who knows how you feel internally.

Jo.Xx

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I see It as the same as going on naked attraction, some will reject me, some will choose me. Its up me whether I can handle that uncertainty and keep my self love and esteem and choose to stay here

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Sometimes - when it does that's when I know it's time to take a break away

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I love this place...

Luckily I've never had confidence issues even if I'm no oil painting.. I've found if you just be your true self then good people will gravitate towards you ...

Unless you're an arrogant twat of course

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