FabSwingers.com forum: Places you have approached

By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

In this online world I would like to know ,if anyone of you have approached a man/woman off line? If you like to share your experience you are more than welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course. I find that much easier than online tbf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ended up with someone gorgeous 6 years cos of a d*unk pestering me in a pub

As a diversion, I asked a stranger if I could stand and chat to them until the d*unk stopped pestering me

Turns out the chat led to more drinks, a first night shag and surprisingly, a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow many years ago that was the way we all met.

First husband walked up to him in a bar and told him he was buying me tequila and then taking me home ..... yes I was d*unk

.... yes I did have to ask his name in the morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

And not even joking

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Sounds great! Was she by her self when you started talking to her?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Always offline...always have, always will.

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

that sounds fun.so you were with mates?

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

you guys can share your experience if you dont mind please ? I mean how you have done it..I have that fear of rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you guys can share your experience if you dont mind please ? I mean how you have done it..I have that fear of rejection "

Take an interest in people. It’s that simple.

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Mmm thats quite a good thought

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

Met plenty women offline when younger, never met a man offline without online interaction first.

My gaydar is shite and I don't live anywhere near clubs etc

But even meeting women offline is much more difficult these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you guys can share your experience if you dont mind please ? I mean how you have done it..I have that fear of rejection

Take an interest in people. It’s that simple. "

Observe people, say hello or comment politely and not in a creepy way. Ask easy questions and actively listen ...

Recently talking to a guy at place I swim so asked if he was training for an event..... opened up the conversation.... not a sex related .... I just wanted to chat to him as he swims there alot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Err, that's how it's done in the real World.......

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I've never approached anyone with a view to anything sexual. Far too afraid of rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Err, that's how it's done in the real World.......

Err.... There's a REAL world?

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

Oh crumbs!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Gosh yes, pulling face to face is so much easier, than online wading through profiles for someone compatible for me

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

"Mmm thats quite a good thought "

Use reply and quote...

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By *ansoffateMan
over a year ago

Sagittarius A

How far back are we going here?

The best example was probably a bet in a nightclub with two mates, years ago. They were egging me on to pull after I'd split up with my gf, I was all depressed and shit. Then it went into: bet you can't etc. So I bet them £50 each. Went onto the dance floor did the Austin Powers lasoo routine on some girl. They paid up, we got a taxi back to hers.

My favourite though, was in a bar. I went up to a girl took her cigs off her. Did the Zippo trick with her lighter, lit two cigs and put one in her mouth. She smiled and we left the bar hand in hand. This was whilst my mate was trying to chat her up. I owed him one.

Then I was married for 20 years and now it's all emojis and shit. Ok bit of an oversimplification but yeah.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"In this online world I would like to know ,if anyone of you have approached a man/woman off line? If you like to share your experience you are more than welcome "

Yes of course. I find it easier face to face tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offline is far more lucrative for us. We have met 2 people online this year. IRL wins every time. Just start talking to people during your normal day and see how the conversation flows. If you only talk to people with the intention of hooking up with them you're going fail.

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By *ob and DeeWoman
over a year ago

crook

i had a fling with one of the bin men a few years ago. It was during lockdown when i started given them soft drinks and biscuits each week.one got cocky and asked for a cuppa. He came round to my home one night and before we had a cuppa i took him to bed.it led to a few meets after that.

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

That sounds fun. So were you attracted to him before you invited him to yours?

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

Yes I met my guy in a sports club when he was play squash.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I recognised a lady from here in a cafe in Brighton by her tattoo and as I walked past I said ‘fab tattoo’ and she grinned. She knew I knew.

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I like the offline interaction a lot. Its more fun ryt. Its nice that a lady approach a man or woman . So where have you approached people ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly online at the minute tbh , way too shy in the real world .

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

In my youf

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

That organic interaction is pretty easy and nice. Have you been approached by any men in supermarkets or on the road etc?

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

both sounds great. I have approached some in the bars and clubs. Had luck only twice lol..so have you approached women anywhere else ?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"That organic interaction is pretty easy and nice. Have you been approached by any men in supermarkets or on the road etc?"

Use 'reply and quote', we haven't got a clue who you are replying to or asking questions to.

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Yeah its true. But we could be thinking twice to talk to a stranger specially to a lady.. so have you approached any men?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's the only way it happened in my dating days. Men would approach me in many situations, bus stops, public transport, bars, pubs, clubs, in the street...you name it. We were far less suspicious of each other then I think and way more friendly.

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thats great to know. Have you given the green light for anyone who approached in high street or bus stops?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thats great to know. Have you given the green light for anyone who approached in high street or bus stops?"

What do you mean by green light? I wouldn't go off and have sex with them but I occasionally gave them my number and we'd go for a drink or something...then we'd go off and have sex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nowadays though I'm far too old to be approached at bus stops unless it's someone trying to get me to sign up to donate money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the only way I’ve ever met anyone. Online dating wasn’t really a thing when I was last single.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I approach people I find interesting if we're in an appropriate location and they appear to be open to interacting with strangers.

If they're busy, or engaged in a task, or have the obvious leave me alone signs like head down or headphones or avoiding eye contact, I leave them the heck alone.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

I never approach people IRL with one exception.... I picked up a guy in a lift once between the 48th and 9th floors

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"In this online world I would like to know ,if anyone of you have approached a man/woman off line? If you like to share your experience you are more than welcome "

Regularly and get approached too. Probably the weirdest was the girl in the coffee shop who let me use her toilet. Deliveroo girl too, both complete nutters, but it does happen.

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Sounds great! Love to know more in detail please

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thats really great to know that women do approach.so what sort of places you have approached?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In this online world I would like to know ,if anyone of you have approached a man/woman off line? If you like to share your experience you are more than welcome "

Yeah got some real stories.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

For me I find the supermarket works well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you guys can share your experience if you dont mind please ? I mean how you have done it..I have that fear of rejection "

Easy youngblood.

Boy i would show you a thing or two. Live london approach. You cant hide!

Rejection!! Do you get it on here???

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I meet more people offline than online at this point! I find it much easier.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

I approached Paul in a coffee shop...that was 10 years ago and I'm so glad I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Err, that's how it's done in the real World.......

Err.... There's a REAL world? "

There wont be. Aftet here there is AI. fast comeing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gosh yes, pulling face to face is so much easier, than online wading through profiles for someone compatible for me"

Spot on tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How far back are we going here?

Then I was married for 20 years and now it's all emojis and shit. Ok bit of an oversimplification but yeah."

Good on yaaah fella. Dont let them tricks and vibe wash away. You can lose on on keyboards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds fun. So were you attracted to him before you invited him to yours?"

Fella your asking dim questions. They dont fuck just anyone from fabb. The men have to be their type !! Lol

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Supermarket and charity shops. An exhibition, Trains and in the street. Contact details exchanged, left to them make 1st contact. Mixed results, the longest took a year to contact me, the quickest within the week.

Keep it low key, you're not pestering anyone. Gets better with practice, ask someone for directions or a good place to eat. Make a joke, maybe you'll get a response. Tell them they're really rocking their hair/shoes.......

If you have something you can both talk about its easier, i saw that movie, band book. Ask in a shop, which shirt looks better on me.

Starting a conversation is the hardest part, keep it short, be confident not pushy. You're going to get rejected but just look at it as talking to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Supermarket and charity shops. An exhibition, Trains and in the street. Contact details exchanged, left to them make 1st contact. Mixed results, the longest took a year to contact me, the quickest within the week.

If you have something you can both talk about its easier, i saw that movie, band book. Ask in a shop, which shirt looks better on me.

Starting a conversation is the hardest part, keep it short, be confident not pushy. You're going to get rejected but just look at it as talking to people"
good man wise head on shoulders. Its an Art-form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I meet more people offline than online at this point! I find it much easier."

Old skooler. If they dont want to engage,leave them be. I talk to loads on the london tubes. Some dont want it!! Lol. Giveing up a seat and a smile ,never killed anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recognised a lady from here in a cafe in Brighton by her tattoo and as I walked past I said ‘fab tattoo’ and she grinned. She knew I knew. "

Coffee nearly all over you! Lucky fella!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That organic interaction is pretty easy and nice. Have you been approached by any men in supermarkets or on the road etc?

Use 'reply and quote', we haven't got a clue who you are replying to or asking questions to."

Corr blimey,need a frigging PA now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the only way it happened in my dating days. Men would approach me in many situations, bus stops, public transport, bars, pubs, clubs, in the street...you name it. We were far less suspicious of each other then I think and way more friendly."

Spot on. Friendly is the key.

Last week in the london tube,i have my seat up foran elder english gent on crutches. The whole tube packed just sat there all stareing at me! As if i got my olive skinned Ass out. Or i had horns in me head!

No trust now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I approach people I find interesting if we're in an appropriate location and they appear to be open to interacting with strangers.

If they're busy, or engaged in a task, or have the obvious leave me alone signs like head down or headphones or avoiding eye contact, I leave them the heck alone."
kids leave em alone. Another brick in the wall!!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Never. Never have, never will.

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By *heAdventurer OP Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Amazing ! Thank you its so valuable. Yeah its the fear of rejection we have. I think we are not every ones cup of tea. When there is someone who likes you thats where the things start i guess

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Amazing ! Thank you its so valuable. Yeah its the fear of rejection we have. I think we are not every ones cup of tea. When there is someone who likes you thats where the things start i guess"

Practice and practice, you'll get there. Don't use the self checkouts, talk to the till operator. Short and sweet, ask them a question, tell them to have a great day, be on your way.

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