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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My best mate just told me that he's first fab meet, they met 4 weeks ago, just informed him that she's pregnant.

She's not met anyone else since their meet.

AS you'd expect, he is discombobulated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your best mate is barebacking first fab meets?

What’s wrong with the mandem

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I guess there not really much advice at this point theres really only two routes to take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope he’s got a decent job. Kids are expensive.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

If he wore protection, he wouldn't need to worry, eh?

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By *uriouscouple2010Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Sounds like it’s a bit late for advice!

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Pass my congratulations on to your mate

Can’t wait to read the veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the reality of breeding guys.

Learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shoulda gone up the bum.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"Pass my congratulations on to your mate

Can’t wait to read the veri"

Yeah thats going to be a interesting one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he wear protection? If not then I’m not sure why he’d be discombobulated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit happens when you play a dangerous game!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your best mate is barebacking first fab meets?

What’s wrong with the mandem "

Rooky mistake

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pass my congratulations on to your mate

Can’t wait to read the veri"

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did he wear protection? If not then I’m not sure why he’d be discombobulated."

He didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They met once, had sex with no condom or contraceptive and now theres a pregnancy and it's his because she said theres only been him.....cynical maybe but I'd want more than her word and only advice I'd offer him is wear a bloody condom ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he should start getting to know her on a deeper level now…

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"My best mate just told me that he's first fab meet, they met 4 weeks ago, just informed him that she's pregnant.

She's not met anyone else since their meet.

AS you'd expect, he is discombobulated! "

I wonder about the bareback gangbang she had the night before….?

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Maybe he should start getting to know her on a deeper level now…"

Yes I like deep stick, too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@DHOTYA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did he wear protection? If not then I’m not sure why he’d be discombobulated.

He didn't "

Aww well I’ve no sympathy for either of them. They’re old enough to know how babies are made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start getting tester pots of paint for the nursery

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

Should probably start learning nursery rhymes too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They met once, had sex with no condom or contraceptive and now theres a pregnancy and it's his because she said theres only been him.....cynical maybe but I'd want more than her word and only advice I'd offer him is wear a bloody condom ffs."

I agree. I'd want alot more confirmation that what she was saying was true. Wear a condom in future and ask for a paternity test.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he should start getting to know her on a deeper level now…"

She’s already had at least 4 inches. How deep does she want it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he should start getting to know her on a deeper level now…"

No rush, they’ll have the next 18 years to get to know each other. I’m sure everything will work out just fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should probably start learning nursery rhymes too "

Mean

Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw what lovely news! I’ll get knitting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man gets meet?

I call bullshit.

We all know that doesn't happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to tell her he’s had a vasectomy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also tell him to call the baby Durex to serve as a reminder

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

There really is only 2 options for advice here, either do the right thing and own the consequences of both their stupid mistake, or build a time machine and go back and fix it. If this post suddenly disappears off fab then we'll know which option was taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they live in Scotland they’ll get the baby box while she’s pregnant. Comes with loads of things for the baby and mum, but it also comes with condoms

Tell him to wear them next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Congrats to your friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also tell him to call the baby Durex to serve as a reminder "

Not Bullseye?

He got lucky with the first shot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also tell him to call the baby Durex to serve as a reminder

Not Bullseye?

He got lucky with the first shot! "

Middle name contender

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline


"This is the reality of breeding guys.

Learn."

Guys can't get pregnant

This is the reality of breeding women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get him to ask the fab forums to name his progeny

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"Your best mate is barebacking first fab meets?

What’s wrong with the mandem

Rooky mistake "

Rooky?! How old is he?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit down and talk with her.

Be sure to have a DNA test.

Learn from it.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Tell him to pray it isn’t twins

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

Only advice to give him is get a paternity test ASAP.

Nothing else he can do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things is he sure it's is id have a test if he stops around 2nd is she local to him does she no where he lives and works if not don't keep in touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon it's a little late for advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was clearly thinking with the wrong head

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Two things is he sure it's is id have a test if he stops around 2nd is she local to him does she no where he lives and works if not don't keep in touch."

Wow. How mature. So he should totally evade his responsibility as an adult and half of a pair who made a baby?

And she is, what, supposed to bring up the unfortunate nipper on her own because he can’t be arsed?

Nice.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"Two things is he sure it's is id have a test if he stops around 2nd is she local to him does she no where he lives and works if not don't keep in touch."

It take two to tango he has to take responsibility for the situation they both are in.

It’s completely wrong to ditch her with potentially his kid and expect her to do everything

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

Your "mate", eh!

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Is he super sperm? First meet and ovulating at that exact time and BB.. I've had better odds on Everton winning the league.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Paternity test

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Is he super sperm? First meet and ovulating at that exact time and BB.. I've had better odds on Everton winning the league. "

Do you think that women never get pregnant from one night stands?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on that must be fake news but Inplay alomg with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is he super sperm? First meet and ovulating at that exact time and BB.. I've had better odds on Everton winning the league. "

It only takes one tiny sperm cell to swim upstream

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Daft cunt

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Pass on my congratulations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops. That meet didn't quite go according to plan then did it.

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Two things is he sure it's is id have a test if he stops around 2nd is she local to him does she no where he lives and works if not don't keep in touch."

Why shouldn't he shoulder some of the responsibility? She didn't force him to go bareback!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

if your friend genuinely wants advice he should talk to the woman about their joint responsibility. Discuss their options and decide how they're going to move forward.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"My best mate just told me that he's first fab meet, they met 4 weeks ago, just informed him that she's pregnant.

She's not met anyone else since their meet.

AS you'd expect, he is discombobulated! "

Could be worse.

His mate could have told the entire lounge forum population.

A

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"My best mate just told me that he's first fab meet, they met 4 weeks ago, just informed him that she's pregnant.

She's not met anyone else since their meet.

AS you'd expect, he is discombobulated! "

Well he finds himself in a pickle now doesn’t he lol .

-1st off he’s a silly sausage for diving in raw that was not a smart decision.

- its still early in the pregnancy so I suppose there is always that other option if both of them don’t want this! Just saying

- if they do agree to proceed I would recommend a DNA test asap! If he is the daddy for sure time to put on his big daddy pants & make sonny or daughter proud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to become a monk and take the vow of silence.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Can I just say that I conceived while we were using condoms. I was also 46 years old at the time. If a pregnancy wants to occur it damn well will and this couple might well have taken precautions.

Whatever their situation to those who assume they didn't use protection please don't rely on condoms as 100% fail safe contraception if you want to be sure

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I would like to be her birthing partner.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

So there's a new fab mum (reading this)?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Ultimately it's going to be her choice what to do but your mate should definitely start saving up money because he has a minimum of 18 years maintenance to pay her if she keeps it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pass my congratulations on to your mate

Can’t wait to read the veri"

Hahaha

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Also I hope he's not expecting us all to attend the baby shower and take gifts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he should start getting to know her on a deeper level now…"

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just say that I conceived while we were using condoms. I was also 46 years old at the time. If a pregnancy wants to occur it damn well will and this couple might well have taken precautions.

Whatever their situation to those who assume they didn't use protection please don't rely on condoms as 100% fail safe contraception if you want to be sure "

Says at the top it was a bareback 1st meet so no one is assuming in this case or story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also I hope he's not expecting us all to attend the baby shower and take gifts "

Don't spoil it, we're all one big happy family on Fab. I am expecting an invite to the wedding (or are they going to live in sin, in which case what a scandal that'll be for all of us)

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Also I hope he's not expecting us all to attend the baby shower and take gifts

Don't spoil it, we're all one big happy family on Fab. I am expecting an invite to the wedding (or are they going to live in sin, in which case what a scandal that'll be for all of us) "

They got to name it faby I reckon

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

‘My friend’?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Tell him to become a monk and take the vow of silence. "

What about chastity?!

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By *owestoft ManMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft


"Your best mate is barebacking first fab meets?

What’s wrong with the mandem "

Hmmm

I don't see the problem

Especially if they have chatted before the meet and assured each other that they have been tested and that either he is snipped and or she is on the pill or something.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Your best mate is barebacking first fab meets?

What’s wrong with the mandem

Hmmm

I don't see the problem

Especially if they have chatted before the meet and assured each other that they have been tested and that either he is snipped and or she is on the pill or something. "

Guessing he's not had the snip and no contraceptive is 100% safe against pregnancy and the problem is she's pregnant

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Awwwww have they chatted about names yet? Do they know if its a boy? Mack is a great name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had enough scary stories for one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From previous experience of a one night stand ending up in pregnancy, I would tell your friend to request a paternity test as soon as the baby is born, he only has her word she’s not fucked anyone else, especially if she starts asking for money! She defo baby trapped him, finding out she’s pregnant after only sleeping together 4 weeks prior? Sounds pretty sus to me, tell your lad no more bareback riding and to book himself in for a sexual health screening.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"Did he wear protection? If not then I’m not sure why he’d be discombobulated.

He didn't "

Then it’s gonna be her choice what to do and he’s gonna need to pony up!

One of the many risks of unprotected sex!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


" She defo baby trapped him, finding out she’s pregnant after only sleeping together 4 weeks prior? "

..........................

We don't know anything about her or what she was thinking, but we do know he defo trapped himself, she didn't force him to ejaculate inside her.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Unlucky

I hope you mate is the sort to do his duty, as it’s not the kids fault he can’t be smart enough to put something on the end.

The mr

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

She’s symptomatic and tested and confirmed after just 4 weeks, so just barely a full cycle?

That’s not impossible, but given how this meet was arranged and went down, I’d be cynical that this was his.

If she’s keeping it, I’d want a paternity test.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"She’s symptomatic and tested and confirmed after just 4 weeks, so just barely a full cycle?

That’s not impossible, but given how this meet was arranged and went down, I’d be cynical that this was his.

If she’s keeping it, I’d want a paternity test."

Having no actual knowledge of how it all works, I (Frankie) did think it was quite quick to know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your best mate is barebacking first fab meets?

What’s wrong with the mandem

Hmmm

I don't see the problem

Especially if they have chatted before the meet and assured each other that they have been tested and that either he is snipped and or she is on the pill or something. "

Do you believe everything someone tells you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two things is he sure it's is id have a test if he stops around 2nd is she local to him does she no where he lives and works if not don't keep in touch."

No irony in your username being bad dad.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover

A friend of mine, lost his virginity, got a girl pregnant and caught chlamydia in the matter of about 5 minutes!

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Your best mate is barebacking first fab meets?

What’s wrong with the mandem "

D.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle


"@DHOTYA"

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"A friend of mine, lost his virginity, got a girl pregnant and caught chlamydia in the matter of about 5 minutes!"

Might as well get it all done at once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine, lost his virginity, got a girl pregnant and caught chlamydia in the matter of about 5 minutes!"

And that was in a threesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine, lost his virginity, got a girl pregnant and caught chlamydia in the matter of about 5 minutes!"

You never forget your first time.

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By *allguynowMan
over a year ago

durham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine, lost his virginity, got a girl pregnant and caught chlamydia in the matter of about 5 minutes!"

He doesn’t cross roads on his own does he

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover


"A friend of mine, lost his virginity, got a girl pregnant and caught chlamydia in the matter of about 5 minutes!

You never forget your first time."

Nope, he also now has a keepsake! Personally I’d have preferred a photo or even a fridge magnet

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover


"A friend of mine, lost his virginity, got a girl pregnant and caught chlamydia in the matter of about 5 minutes!

He doesn’t cross roads on his own does he "

No he has a child to help him across

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By *ed MartinMan
over a year ago

Shefford


"She’s symptomatic and tested and confirmed after just 4 weeks, so just barely a full cycle?

That’s not impossible, but given how this meet was arranged and went down, I’d be cynical that this was his.

If she’s keeping it, I’d want a paternity test.

Having no actual knowledge of how it all works, I (Frankie) did think it was quite quick to know! "

Me too…so I googled it- apparently pregnancy tests can reliably test positive as little as 10 days after conception. Who knew?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine, lost his virginity, got a girl pregnant and caught chlamydia in the matter of about 5 minutes!

He doesn’t cross roads on his own does he

No he has a child to help him across "

Well that’s something!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"This is the reality of breeding guys.

Learn.

Guys can't get pregnant

This is the reality of breeding women "

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"She’s symptomatic and tested and confirmed after just 4 weeks, so just barely a full cycle?

That’s not impossible, but given how this meet was arranged and went down, I’d be cynical that this was his.

If she’s keeping it, I’d want a paternity test."

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Also I hope he's not expecting us all to attend the baby shower and take gifts

Don't spoil it, we're all one big happy family on Fab. I am expecting an invite to the wedding (or are they going to live in sin, in which case what a scandal that'll be for all of us)

They got to name it faby I reckon "

Fabio if its a boy or Fabienne if it's a girl.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New life is a blessed thing, no matter what the circumstances.

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough


"She’s symptomatic and tested and confirmed after just 4 weeks, so just barely a full cycle?

That’s not impossible, but given how this meet was arranged and went down, I’d be cynical that this was his.

If she’s keeping it, I’d want a paternity test.

Having no actual knowledge of how it all works, I (Frankie) did think it was quite quick to know! "

If her period was due the week after the meet, and tested two weeks after that, she's pregnant. A full cycle is irrelevant. It's an embryo until six weeks. Very early.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also tell him to call the baby Durex to serve as a reminder "

Surely the perfect name is big Harold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She defo baby trapped him, finding out she’s pregnant after only sleeping together 4 weeks prior? Sounds pretty sus to me"

Hate to break it to you, that's kinda how pregnancy works

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Also I hope he's not expecting us all to attend the baby shower and take gifts

Don't spoil it, we're all one big happy family on Fab. I am expecting an invite to the wedding (or are they going to live in sin, in which case what a scandal that'll be for all of us)

They got to name it faby I reckon

Fabio if its a boy or Fabienne if it's a girl.

A"

What about, Fabino?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Can I just say that I conceived while we were using condoms. I was also 46 years old at the time. If a pregnancy wants to occur it damn well will and this couple might well have taken precautions.

Whatever their situation to those who assume they didn't use protection please don't rely on condoms as 100% fail safe contraception if you want to be sure

Says at the top it was a bareback 1st meet so no one is assuming in this case or story. "

Ah missed that. My mistake

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton


"My best mate just told me that he's first fab meet, they met 4 weeks ago, just informed him that she's pregnant.

She's not met anyone else since their meet.

AS you'd expect, he is discombobulated! "

Where’s Jeremy Kyle when you need him!??

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Communicate and plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not his.

Tell him to dump her and sever all contact.

She's the type his mother told him to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say she hasn't met anyone else since their meet.

Had she met anyone else prior to it?

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

He should have done anal.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Your best mate is barebacking first fab meets?

What’s wrong with the mandem "

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"Maybe he should start getting to know her on a deeper level now…"

He’s already been balls deep.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"Also I hope he's not expecting us all to attend the baby shower and take gifts

Don't spoil it, we're all one big happy family on Fab. I am expecting an invite to the wedding (or are they going to live in sin, in which case what a scandal that'll be for all of us)

They got to name it faby I reckon

Fabio if its a boy or Fabienne if it's a girl.

A"

Those baby names cracked me up hahaha

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By *onningtonplumberMan
over a year ago

Donnington

Honestly, yes a condom would have been a good idea but also she in all honesty should also be using birth control, sounds a bit like a honey trap.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Honestly, yes a condom would have been a good idea but also she in all honesty should also be using birth control, sounds a bit like a honey trap. "

Erm, did this guy not realise what causes pregnancy?

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Thank god i had the snip as condoms can still break. If i was him id insist on DNA tests before thinking of paying child support. She might well have bb fucked a few guys on here and lied telling him he was the first. She might well be just after money who knows. John.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"Honestly, yes a condom would have been a good idea but also she in all honesty should also be using birth control, sounds a bit like a honey trap.

Erm, did this guy not realise what causes pregnancy?"

Honestly it amazes me how many people would just run and not bother about the consequences

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Honestly, yes a condom would have been a good idea but also she in all honesty should also be using birth control, sounds a bit like a honey trap.

Erm, did this guy not realise what causes pregnancy?"

Takes two to tango though. She is responsible for her body.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"You say she hasn't met anyone else since their meet.

Had she met anyone else prior to it?"

That's what I thought too... From meeting 4 weeks ago to actually realising she's pregnant is a very small window of time. I had no idea until I was nearly 3 months gone.

Of course, he should offer to support her with whatever decision she makes.

Also he needs to get himself tested for STIs.

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By *ldgeezermeMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"My best mate just told me that he's first fab meet, they met 4 weeks ago, just informed him that she's pregnant.

She's not met anyone else since their meet.

AS you'd expect, he is discombobulated! "

If you're his best mate you'll be in the running for best man, dust off the suit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of judgement on the woman here… suggesting he gets tested but nobody suggested she does?

Either way, two responsible adults acting irresponsibly. Both have a duty of care here, and the future needs to be decided together… and yes, I’d suggest a paternity test.

Amazed at those who think severing all contact and doing a runner is a morally acceptable option.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"A lot of judgement on the woman here… suggesting he gets tested but nobody suggested she does?

Either way, two responsible adults acting irresponsibly. Both have a duty of care here, and the future needs to be decided together… and yes, I’d suggest a paternity test.

Amazed at those who think severing all contact and doing a runner is a morally acceptable option.

"

The thread is primarily for advice for the op’s friend. Not the lady!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Honestly, yes a condom would have been a good idea but also she in all honesty should also be using birth control, sounds a bit like a honey trap.

Erm, did this guy not realise what causes pregnancy?

Takes two to tango though. She is responsible for her body. "

I agree but to suggest it's a trap when none of us know anything about either if them is a bit much I think. If it was designed to trap him, from the information we have here, he's walked into it with his eyes wide open.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Honestly, yes a condom would have been a good idea but also she in all honesty should also be using birth control, sounds a bit like a honey trap.

Erm, did this guy not realise what causes pregnancy?

Honestly it amazes me how many people would just run and not bother about the consequences"

It doesn't amaze me. I've seen too many men and the occasional woman walk away from their partner and children without a thought for their welfare and fight tooth and nail to contribute as little as possible to their both financially and emotionally to be surprised by someone suggesting they walk away from an unborn baby

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"Honestly, yes a condom would have been a good idea but also she in all honesty should also be using birth control, sounds a bit like a honey trap.

Erm, did this guy not realise what causes pregnancy?

Honestly it amazes me how many people would just run and not bother about the consequences

It doesn't amaze me. I've seen too many men and the occasional woman walk away from their partner and children without a thought for their welfare and fight tooth and nail to contribute as little as possible to their both financially and emotionally to be surprised by someone suggesting they walk away from an unborn baby "

Your right, i just couldn’t do it its not fair on the child who has no choice in the matter and has to live with poor decisions made by the person

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By *leasecumplayCouple
over a year ago

corringham

What do you call a fella that doesn’t use a condom.

Dad

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"What do you call a fella that doesn’t use a condom.

Dad"

That made me giggle thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two things is he sure it's is id have a test if he stops around 2nd is she local to him does she no where he lives and works if not don't keep in touch.

Why shouldn't he shoulder some of the responsibility? She didn't force him to go bareback!"

she also never said he needed to both should take blame not ideal for bringing up a child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two things is he sure it's is id have a test if he stops around 2nd is she local to him does she no where he lives and works if not don't keep in touch.

Why shouldn't he shoulder some of the responsibility? She didn't force him to go bareback!she also never said he needed to both should take blame not ideal for bringing up a child "

So supposing she keeps it, and it goes full term, and a paternity test proves he is the father… (three big ifs)

…Are you suggesting he should still do a runner? He shares half the blame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She’s symptomatic and tested and confirmed after just 4 weeks, so just barely a full cycle?

That’s not impossible, but given how this meet was arranged and went down, I’d be cynical that this was his.

If she’s keeping it, I’d want a paternity test."

If they met 4 weeks ago then she would have had to be ovulating then which would make her about 6 weeks pregnant.

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough


"It's not his.

Tell him to dump her and sever all contact.

She's the type his mother told him to avoid."

I'd get banned if I typed my thoughts, so...

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Honestly, yes a condom would have been a good idea but also she in all honesty should also be using birth control, sounds a bit like a honey trap. "

So he's okay with risk of STIs but the woman should be on the pill?

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Two things is he sure it's is id have a test if he stops around 2nd is she local to him does she no where he lives and works if not don't keep in touch.

Why shouldn't he shoulder some of the responsibility? She didn't force him to go bareback!she also never said he needed to both should take blame not ideal for bringing up a child "

He cannot make that decision for himself?

I've been in a situation I've stated condom and the guy beg entry, while trying! Even at a club.

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough


"She’s symptomatic and tested and confirmed after just 4 weeks, so just barely a full cycle?

That’s not impossible, but given how this meet was arranged and went down, I’d be cynical that this was his.

If she’s keeping it, I’d want a paternity test.

If they met 4 weeks ago then she would have had to be ovulating then which would make her about 6 weeks pregnant. "

Don't confuse the men , they'll say it wasn't his.

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...

I don't see the OP saying that she was asking for anything ... just informing his friend that she's pregnant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not his.

Tell him to dump her and sever all contact.

She's the type his mother told him to avoid.

I'd get banned if I typed my thoughts, so... "

Me too! Some of the replies are shocking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s amazing how many men on here don’t know how pregnancy and period cycles work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s amazing how many men on here don’t know how pregnancy and period cycles work."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d erm, get him to go and get tested for STI’s etc. I’d suggest sending him there to ask for some safe sex advice too, the guy is an idiot.

Also, if she’s being that reckless on here, it’s not her first bareback so I’m putting a fiver on an infection

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I’d erm, get him to go and get tested for STI’s etc. I’d suggest sending him there to ask for some safe sex advice too, the guy is an idiot.

Also, if she’s being that reckless on here, it’s not her first bareback so I’m putting a fiver on an infection"

Which one are you betting has the infection because he was equally reckless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s amazing how many men on here don’t know how pregnancy and period cycles work."

At school they always told us that we would get pregnant if we sat on the radiators (not sure how that works, especially for a man).

Thinking that maybe I need some lessons. Free all weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s amazing how many men on here don’t know how pregnancy and period cycles work."

I didn't know you had to cycle. Maybe if they used stabilisers it might not have happened.

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I’d erm, get him to go and get tested for STI’s etc. I’d suggest sending him there to ask for some safe sex advice too, the guy is an idiot.

Also, if she’s being that reckless on here, it’s not her first bareback so I’m putting a fiver on an infection"

I bet it isn't his first bareback either. The poor woman is getting a right slating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has she had the baby yet?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I’d erm, get him to go and get tested for STI’s etc. I’d suggest sending him there to ask for some safe sex advice too, the guy is an idiot.

Also, if she’s being that reckless on here, it’s not her first bareback so I’m putting a fiver on an infection"

I hope he hasn't given her anything that could harm the baby.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I’d erm, get him to go and get tested for STI’s etc. I’d suggest sending him there to ask for some safe sex advice too, the guy is an idiot.

Also, if she’s being that reckless on here, it’s not her first bareback so I’m putting a fiver on an infection

I hope he hasn't given her anything that could harm the baby."

Me too after all if he's being that reckless on here he's probably got an infection.

Honestly I really thought we'd moved on from 1950

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d erm, get him to go and get tested for STI’s etc. I’d suggest sending him there to ask for some safe sex advice too, the guy is an idiot.

Also, if she’s being that reckless on here, it’s not her first bareback so I’m putting a fiver on an infection

I bet it isn't his first bareback either. The poor woman is getting a right slating."

Both sound as bad as each other. He should definitely get tested for STIs and ask her for a DNA test. It sounds like something off the old Jeremy Kyle show.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"It's not his.

Tell him to dump her and sever all contact.

She's the type his mother told him to avoid.

I'd get banned if I typed my thoughts, so...

Me too! Some of the replies are shocking!"

Some of the replies are absolutely what I expect because they're what were said to me when I became pregnant with my son. I got ALLLLLLLLLLL the names thrown at me. Father did not get a solitary negative thing said to him about it. It's the never ending gift of misogyny that keeps on giving [specifically, where women who fall pregnant are the harlot/slag etc and are held to blame while the man could simply walk away, never to be seen again/should suspect foul play etc]

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