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Do you really think you’re ugly?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see people in here sometimes saying things about being unattractive. I think that this site makes lots of men feel that way but it’s important to remember that no or lack of success on here doesn’t mean you’re ugly. But do people genuinely feel unattractive when they look in the mirror? Why? Where do you think that image of yourself comes from?

Of course we’re all beautiful to someone but are we beautiful to ourselves?!

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

The only thing that really makes me feel uncomfortable is my skin as no matter what i do and trust me ive tried probably 99% of hacks and methods its not nice. The only thing that works is antibiotics and the docs wont constantly provide them so i have to put up with it. However being on here and going to clubs has genuinely helped to improve my confidence massively so thank you everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm particularly attractive, Steve but amazingly some people think I am.

So the moral of the story is:

There's no accounting for taste

OR

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

OR

You CAN polish a turd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm stunning, until I look in the mirror

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Honestly, for my age I'm not bad, but I'm no beauty.

Add a bit of makeup and I look a bit better.

Illness has taken a lot out of my face, and add in the double chin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's usually one scale people use and it's either attractive or ugly, for me it's not that simple. There's days I feel good and others where I can literally nit pick every part of me and convince myself I'm the ugliest person to ever exist. Mood plays a big part I guess.

Where does it come from? It's a learnt behaviour from others and society. Our brains are programmed to focus on the negative, people can say 100 compliments to someone and they can go in one ear and out the other. That one little bastard who goes out their way to say something nasty, oh yeah we'll remember that comment for life. Society is also a massive problem, living in a world where people are ridiculed on their appearance. Where the media portray the 'perfect person' and what we all need to do to keep up with it.

I just wish everyone could see theirselves through others eyes just once. Maybe then we will all be a little kinder to ourselves.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think the site makes men feel ugly. I think their expectations not being met makes them want to find something to blame. Some blame the women for being too picky/stuck up/attention seeking while others will assume that it's their fault and they're unattractive. When the truth usually is that they're one of many small fish in a huge ocean.

I do think that some of the people who say they think they're ugly really do mean it but I also think that a minority just want people to disagree with them

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think I'm doing ok for an oldie x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm fortunate in that I don't look in the mirror and see ugly.

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By *rDxxMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I thought I was half decent but I must be ugly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that really makes me feel uncomfortable is my skin as no matter what i do and trust me ive tried probably 99% of hacks and methods its not nice. The only thing that works is antibiotics and the docs wont constantly provide them so i have to put up with it. However being on here and going to clubs has genuinely helped to improve my confidence massively so thank you everyone "

Ask the Dr to prescribe Lymecycline for three months. It might help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm not ugly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"The only thing that really makes me feel uncomfortable is my skin as no matter what i do and trust me ive tried probably 99% of hacks and methods its not nice. The only thing that works is antibiotics and the docs wont constantly provide them so i have to put up with it. However being on here and going to clubs has genuinely helped to improve my confidence massively so thank you everyone "

. I'm happy to hear that

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"The only thing that really makes me feel uncomfortable is my skin as no matter what i do and trust me ive tried probably 99% of hacks and methods its not nice. The only thing that works is antibiotics and the docs wont constantly provide them so i have to put up with it. However being on here and going to clubs has genuinely helped to improve my confidence massively so thank you everyone

Ask the Dr to prescribe Lymecycline for three months. It might help "

Thank you so much! I will definitely give that a try!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve said it before, I don’t think I’m ugly but I’m really self critical and I’ll nit pick every minor flaw I have. Some days I can look at myself in the mirror and think I’m the ugliest person in the world. It really depends on the mood I’m in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I think I'm reasonably attractive.

I certainly don't cringe when I see myself in the mirror

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny

I don’t think I’m ugly.

Like everyone else, I think there’s room for improvement but the odd remark makes me realise I’ve still got something going for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more critical of my facial attractiveness than my body to be honest and think a bit of it is due how many conversations have gone dead once I've shared a face pic on here. I look at certain aspects of my face and wonder what could put people off but it's something I just have to live with and try not to affect me too much.

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

Parts of me I can’t stand. But I would say ugly no x

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

In all honestly sites like this can really give your self confidence a real kicking with people's attitudes sometimes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm doing alright for my age as I look younger, apparently!

No need to worry yet!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Facially, I don't think I'm ugly. I don't think I'm particularly attractive, but I do have moments when I look at my face and think "OK, not bad". I have moments when I look at my face and think "actually, you look pretty right now".

Neck down, I find myself replusive, not just ugly. But there are a couple of people who I care about who don't seem repulsed by me, so that's nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ugly is quite a strong word isn't it?

Average, plain, not much to look at, unattractive... Yes all of those things.

I look younger than I am so I guess that's something. I could look worse. But I certainly don't turn heads in the streets and get attention like some women do.

So yes I think I'm unattractive. Ugly... No. Ugly is something horrible. I'm not sure I'm horrible to look at.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

I ain't doing to bad for my age....

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't think the site makes men feel ugly. I think their expectations not being met makes them want to find something to blame. Some blame the women for being too picky/stuck up/attention seeking while others will assume that it's their fault and they're unattractive. When the truth usually is that they're one of many small fish in a huge ocean.

I do think that some of the people who say they think they're ugly really do mean it but I also think that a minority just want people to disagree with them "

Yes, I'd agree with this. It's a bid to get people to say "oh no you're not" sometimes.

I don't think I'm particularly attractive, I also know I'm not ugly. I wouldn't have photos of me up if I thought I was. When I have certain days (period days) where I feel ugly, I hibernate and wallow a bit. They do pass.

I think I'm okay. I like certain features, less keen on others. I'm nothing special but I'm also not anything horrific. And I'm increasingly comfortable in how I look.

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By *aggonerMan
over a year ago

for a penny


"Parts of me I can’t stand. But I would say ugly no x"

No. Certainly not ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’m ugly, but I’ve never felt attractive.

It’s hard not to look at media and see what people think beauty is, and compare yourself to it.

I don’t like parts of my face, some parts I wish I could change, but hey ho

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By *ust M.A.IMan
over a year ago

Mullingar

I used to think that about me, i still do sometimes, and i had massive confidence problems, but I'm happy to say that this site helped me with my self image a lot, meeting different people and so on, I've learned that everyone is beautiful and attractive in their own way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only thing that really makes me feel uncomfortable is my skin as no matter what i do and trust me ive tried probably 99% of hacks and methods its not nice. The only thing that works is antibiotics and the docs wont constantly provide them so i have to put up with it. However being on here and going to clubs has genuinely helped to improve my confidence massively so thank you everyone "

I love that your confidence has been boosted man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think I'm particularly attractive, Steve but amazingly some people think I am.

So the moral of the story is:

There's no accounting for taste

OR

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

OR

You CAN polish a turd"
you can polish anything if you try really hard

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I'm stunning, until I look in the mirror "

Why not after?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see people in here sometimes saying things about being unattractive. I think that this site makes lots of men feel that way but it’s important to remember that no or lack of success on here doesn’t mean you’re ugly. But do people genuinely feel unattractive when they look in the mirror? Why? Where do you think that image of yourself comes from? …

"

Yes. And no.

I get compliment, and just last weekend I got a really nice compliment I hadn’t heard for a long time.

But I hadn’t looked into my eyes for a long time because I see sadness and an aged man where the wrinkles and tiredness show. And don’t forget when there’s the regular rejection or no attention from people you like who you want to think and show they think you’re attractive.

I don’t think I’m ugly, just certainly not as handsome as I thought I once was.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes"

You’re not ugly but I know believing things for ourselves is tough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's usually one scale people use and it's either attractive or ugly, for me it's not that simple. There's days I feel good and others where I can literally nit pick every part of me and convince myself I'm the ugliest person to ever exist. Mood plays a big part I guess.

Where does it come from? It's a learnt behaviour from others and society. Our brains are programmed to focus on the negative, people can say 100 compliments to someone and they can go in one ear and out the other. That one little bastard who goes out their way to say something nasty, oh yeah we'll remember that comment for life. Society is also a massive problem, living in a world where people are ridiculed on their appearance. Where the media portray the 'perfect person' and what we all need to do to keep up with it.

I just wish everyone could see theirselves through others eyes just once. Maybe then we will all be a little kinder to ourselves."

You

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston


"The only thing that really makes me feel uncomfortable is my skin as no matter what i do and trust me ive tried probably 99% of hacks and methods its not nice. The only thing that works is antibiotics and the docs wont constantly provide them so i have to put up with it. However being on here and going to clubs has genuinely helped to improve my confidence massively so thank you everyone

I love that your confidence has been boosted man "

Theres always people who are going to try and bring you down but when you find the right people it really makes a difference. It also helps when generally on here people are really accepting to s degree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly, for my age I'm not bad, but I'm no beauty.

Add a bit of makeup and I look a bit better.

Illness has taken a lot out of my face, and add in the double chin."

The double chin doesn’t help tbf.

Kidding you know I think you’re beautiful. But I’m glad you don’t think you’re ugly because you’re so not.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Absolutely.

My lack of self confidence came with weight gain, toxic comments as a child lead me to be cautious about my size for years, recently I've suffered with health complications and have gain a couple of dress sizes. I hate it.

Face wise, I've never really felt "pretty", just kind of average I guess

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm not raving beauty but I'm not ugly, I struggle more with my body image rather than my face.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

As a teenager at school I was actually called ugly to my face however one particularly very attractive girl at 6th form said to me that as I got older I’d turn into an attractive man.

I chose to believe her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think the site makes men feel ugly. I think their expectations not being met makes them want to find something to blame. Some blame the women for being too picky/stuck up/attention seeking while others will assume that it's their fault and they're unattractive. When the truth usually is that they're one of many small fish in a huge ocean.

I do think that some of the people who say they think they're ugly really do mean it but I also think that a minority just want people to disagree with them "

Yes I only meant that it seems from posts that men feel that way. I mean I don’t feel ugly because of fab. Any feelings I have about my appearance existed way before fab.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

My perception of myself is always in flux. I know some people find me attractive, I know some people find me ugly, but that doesn't really matter.

Some days I can look and appreciate all the things I like about myself. Some days all I can see are the flaws and imperfections and parts I don't personally find attractive.

I have a lot more of the first kind of days these days though

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

Depends on the hormones, time of the month, what else is going on in life, how stressed, tired, pissed off I am.....

Yesterday I felt ok, was happy with how I looked, how I felt etc.

Today however.....

I can't even look at myself in the mirror in underwear n had a wee wobble this morning about the state of my body....

Who knows what tomorrow will bring.

I'm hoping for relatively happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm more critical of my facial attractiveness than my body to be honest and think a bit of it is due how many conversations have gone dead once I've shared a face pic on here. I look at certain aspects of my face and wonder what could put people off but it's something I just have to live with and try not to affect me too much."

It’s hard isn’t it because it does feel like interactions with others have a huge impact on how we see ourselves. Like, at one point we wouldn’t have seen ourselves as ugly or unattractive and at another point it sticks with us that we might be. Also beauty standards and the people you see in the magazines and on love island etc. none are helpful.

But you’ve got a good outlook. And a good face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a teenager at school I was actually called ugly to my face however one particularly very attractive girl at 6th form said to me that as I got older I’d turn into an attractive man.

I chose to believe her. "

Age 18 my college teacher told me I was ugly when I jokingly said no one would come up to me on a night out. Yeah, that stuck with me that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm doing alright for my age as I look younger, apparently!

No need to worry yet! "

I’ve not seen your face obvs but people are certainly so positive about your appearance. And I hope you also feel that way about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you really think you’re ugly?!

"

No, I just like self-deprecation. Quite happy with who I am (though in my youth that was not the case)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a teenager at school I was actually called ugly to my face however one particularly very attractive girl at 6th form said to me that as I got older I’d turn into an attractive man.

I chose to believe her.

Age 18 my college teacher told me I was ugly when I jokingly said no one would come up to me on a night out. Yeah, that stuck with me that one "

I’ve seen both of your faces and you’re both attractive people. It sucks that people have been horrible and I definitely think stuff sticks with you.

I had a similar experience once but actually my best mate was really supportive through it and I mostly forget that it even happened

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Not constantly no, but even at my best I think I'm adequate. I have spells of thinking I'm ugly. Mainly stems from bullying as a kid, my parents in particular my dad saying I was fat when I was a size 10, my ex saying my sister was more attractive whereas I was an acquired taste. The spells where I think I'm ugly or I don't recognise my own face in the mirror are less than they were. But far too frequent in reality, but I'm trying to improve it.

I sometimes think it's hard when you're trying to be positive when you're a bit bigger than your mates. And they have their own body insecurities e.g saying they're fat when they're a good few sizes smaller than you. Like what the heck am I then? It's just sometimes hard to be positive sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you really think you’re ugly?!

No, I just like self-deprecation. Quite happy with who I am (though in my youth that was not the case)"

this is too real.

Sometimes I’ll be going on about being ugly but I know I’m not. I just feel really awful about myself at that time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve said it before, I don’t think I’m ugly but I’m really self critical and I’ll nit pick every minor flaw I have. Some days I can look at myself in the mirror and think I’m the ugliest person in the world. It really depends on the mood I’m in. "

This is real ish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t say I’m ugly, being a wild guy I’m an acquired taste

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville


"Parts of me I can’t stand. But I would say ugly no x

No. Certainly not ugly. "

Thank you x

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By *obilebottomMan
over a year ago

All over

It's always about how you feel. And who can define beauty or uglines. As they say, it's all in the eye of the beholder and highly subjective. Not everyone likes the social media 'perfect' body and face looks. In fact lots of people don't. Love handles are certainly underrated

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m not ugly per se, just more ordinary/average looking if you know what mean. Men haven’t dropped at my feet when I’ve walked down the street let’s put it that way

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

In short, no. I'm not to everyone's taste but who is and who wants to be. Facial expression and appearance really does make a difference that not everyone gets. It's taken me a long time to get here though.

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By *e renard de la campagneMan
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

I’ve never been a pretty boy and I guess I’ve always relied on personality- and look where that’s got me! Xx

Some days and pictures I think I look okay, and others not so. In a state of flux is a good way of putting it I guess.

I have a facial paralysis, Bell’s Palsy, I’ve had it for years, and that can make me look much akin to a pirate when I laugh or smile! I love to laugh and smile so I wear my scars and imperfections….I’m sure there’s a song there!

Good bad or indifferent I am what I am….bloody hell anther song!….and take me as I am…I’m stopping now xx

Maybe sone days we just need people to be kind and nicer and say, hey, fancy the pants of you, or just help handsome/gorgeous/beautiful (delete as applicable)

Have a lovely Wednesday people xx

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I see people in here sometimes saying things about being unattractive. I think that this site makes lots of men feel that way but it’s important to remember that no or lack of success on here doesn’t mean you’re ugly. But do people genuinely feel unattractive when they look in the mirror? Why? Where do you think that image of yourself comes from?

Of course we’re all beautiful to someone but are we beautiful to ourselves?!

"

I don't think I'm ugly in the face. Just ordinary, nowt special, like. I do think my body is ugly, especially below the waist because it's all lumpy and scarred and fat and saggy and, in the case of my leg, a weird colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no do I think I’m ugly.

On the contrary, I think I’m handsome as fuck.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Honestly, for my age I'm not bad, but I'm no beauty.

Add a bit of makeup and I look a bit better.

Illness has taken a lot out of my face, and add in the double chin.

The double chin doesn’t help tbf.

Kidding you know I think you’re beautiful. But I’m glad you don’t think you’re ugly because you’re so not. "

I walk around with my chin pointed up, sucking my cheeks on.

That, or a scarf around my neck helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think i know!

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I have always been curvy, even as a teenager I was a size 14/16. As a bigger girl I think you're conditioned by society and the media into the idea that you're hideously ugly and unloveable because of your body and it can make it very hard to accept yourself. All through my teens and my twenties I was made to feel utterly unattractive and I hated everything about how I looked and retreated into myself. I would never have posted the kind of photos I have on here now, back then. Not in a million years.

Then I hit 30 and decided I don't give a fcuk anymore. I'm not particularly attractive I'm quite plain and 'normal' looking and I've got plenty of meat on my bones but I'm not hideous, and I don't have to retreat into myself and hide myself away anymore. If I'm not your cup of tea, so what. Everyone likes a different kind of brew and I'm put on this earth to please myself, nobody else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it bad that I often don’t think I’m average. I either think I’m stunning or unattractive.

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

I always suspected I was then when I came online it was confirmed... Fugly

"Sometimes I feel like everybody is a sexy baby

And I'm a monster on the hill"

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

No, I don't think I'm ugly, relatively good looking I've been told my whole life.

It's rare I, when I was a single male, and we as a couple, would meet anyone as a direct result of being on here as my height will be looked at and then I'm dismissed.

Meeting me in person is a different matter though, as although I know I can come across as a bit of a cunt (sorry for being honest and not blowing smoke up the women's arses) in real life I can mix quite a lot of charm with the honesty/straightforwardness

Frank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always suspected I was then when I came online it was confirmed... Fugly

"Sometimes I feel like everybody is a sexy baby

And I'm a monster on the hill""

Literally me lol. I had hate groups made about me when I was at school about how ugly I was. I’ve now gained even more weight and it doesn’t suit me so I’m even uglier haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm doing alright for my age as I look younger, apparently!

No need to worry yet!

I’ve not seen your face obvs but people are certainly so positive about your appearance. And I hope you also feel that way about yourself. "

Missing out Pickle that's all I can say....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I don't particularly like any part of myself but I think my face is revolting. I think it comes from a lot of childhood trauma and bullying. I have never ever seen myself as attractive. I honestly feel like an alien when I'm out and about and wonder what people must think when they look at my face. I don't feel like it's normal at all and it really gets me down but I'm at the point of acceptance now because there is nothing I can do to change it.

I wish I wasn't like this. I know I am fortunate to be healthy and there are people who would give anything to look like me. I don't mean that in a vain way, but things could be worse and I shouldn't complain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I did used to. Now I’m not so sure

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"I always suspected I was then when I came online it was confirmed... Fugly

"Sometimes I feel like everybody is a sexy baby

And I'm a monster on the hill"

Literally me lol. I had hate groups made about me when I was at school about how ugly I was. I’ve now gained even more weight and it doesn’t suit me so I’m even uglier haha"

Kids are ruthless and relentless. No filter or control. And remorseless about impact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. We are all ugly until proven otherwise. That is apart from the narcissists.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not a fan of myself in the mirror but that's more weight gain, I don't think I'm ugly but I don't think I'm overly attractive either, I guess I'd see myself as a bit of a plain Jane.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm doing alright for my age as I look younger, apparently!

No need to worry yet!

I’ve not seen your face obvs but people are certainly so positive about your appearance. And I hope you also feel that way about yourself.

Missing out Pickle that's all I can say.... "

You’re missing out more mate

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

Nah I'm quite comfortable in my own skin. Gained a little weight over winter I'm working on losing but otherwise I think I'm alright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. I don't particularly like any part of myself but I think my face is revolting. I think it comes from a lot of childhood trauma and bullying. I have never ever seen myself as attractive. I honestly feel like an alien when I'm out and about and wonder what people must think when they look at my face. I don't feel like it's normal at all and it really gets me down but I'm at the point of acceptance now because there is nothing I can do to change it.

I wish I wasn't like this. I know I am fortunate to be healthy and there are people who would give anything to look like me. I don't mean that in a vain way, but things could be worse and I shouldn't complain."

Don’t apologise for how you feel, it’s not surprising you feel that way after trauma and bullying. It sticks with you. You’re a beauty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think there's no one as critical as ourselves .. I think alot of the time folk take rejection way to hard and start to analyse every part of them drawing their own conclusion , the world would be a very dull place if it was a one size fits all x

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I genuinely don’t like my face. I brush up well on occasion & think I look ok. Then get the photos back & think - holy fuck.

Mrs

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I do look at myself and feel ugly,face, body, basically the whole package. Nothing to do with this site though, body dysmorphia has been with me since childhood and it's taken a long time to learn to live with it, though feeling ugly never actually goes away. There's plenty of people who've been attracted to me, and there still is, but I still have problems allowing myself to believe it.

The strange thing is, if I look back at older pics of myself, I do see good looking younger me, even though I didn't see or feel it at the time. That's one of the ways of trying to deal with it, telling myself I will like the way I look now in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm doing alright for my age as I look younger, apparently!

No need to worry yet!

I’ve not seen your face obvs but people are certainly so positive about your appearance. And I hope you also feel that way about yourself.

Missing out Pickle that's all I can say....

You’re missing out more mate "

Debatable that statement

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By *hrek101Man
over a year ago

Herts

I think I have a decent body especially at my age and I look much younger than I am. My I could control and mould to something decent. My face I just don't like. I grew being told I was ugly and no woman would ever want me, actually my mum still says it. I never felt normal looking. I only look mirrors to shave of something but just look past myself if I can. When I do see a glimpse of myself I grimace. Particularly at the moment because I've been single a while. I have always tried to make my body, personalilty and to be pretty good at the sex my focus to make up for being fugly. I am a super confident person about everything except my face. I don't really care if others think I am anymore because I've accepted it myself, they're just telling me what I already know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm doing alright for my age as I look younger, apparently!

No need to worry yet!

I’ve not seen your face obvs but people are certainly so positive about your appearance. And I hope you also feel that way about yourself.

Missing out Pickle that's all I can say....

You’re missing out more mate

Debatable that statement "

Tbf yes I’m not all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’m particularly good looking but I have a cracking dark sense of humour which gets me by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading through a lot, and I think there’s lots of us thinking the same way. Moods etc.

because without naming, I’ve been privileged to see some of you guys in here, and I think you guys are pretty and handsome. I’ve never thought anyone was ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think we all get them days where you feel less then the rest and not quite yourself, and other days where you surprise yourself.

On the days you feel like shit remember it's what's on the inside not the out

Your beautttt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think im ugly, I just take an ugly photo

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I think I may polish up alright, to a certain extent. My legs and bum are okayish. But my face just looks unattractive to me, especially when I open my mouth. My teeth are horrid. I have a big gap, and a tooth with a dead root at the front. It's perfectly serviceable, but its greyish, and I just look like I have Halloween joke teeth. You'll never see me smile open mouthed in my pics.

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By *outhlincsmaleMan
over a year ago

leasingham

I seem to get on with people chatting really well and getting on till I send them a picture and then get the reply sorry not my type!

What do people want , I know I’m not mr universe or mr Lincolnshire for that matter or even mr my street . But didn’t think i was that bad!

So if any lady’s want to see how horrible I am send me a message. Welcome the feed back!

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By *iggingMan
over a year ago

Oldham

I am not ugly or handsome but in pictures I look older than I am, maybe the camera never lies.

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By *iggingMan
over a year ago

Oldham


"I genuinely don’t like my face. I brush up well on occasion & think I look ok. Then get the photos back & think - holy fuck.

Mrs"

I am sure you are beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see people in here sometimes saying things about being unattractive. I think that this site makes lots of men feel that way but it’s important to remember that no or lack of success on here doesn’t mean you’re ugly. But do people genuinely feel unattractive when they look in the mirror? Why? Where do you think that image of yourself comes from?

Of course we’re all beautiful to someone but are we beautiful to ourselves?!

"

Love this topic. There are tons of guys out there who feel unattractive.

I'm always wearing hoodie big clothing as feel more comfortable. I've always hated looking in the mirror even though I do have a few pics.

I hope gents feel comfortable enough to post their discomforts too

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London


"I have always been curvy, even as a teenager I was a size 14/16. As a bigger girl I think you're conditioned by society and the media into the idea that you're hideously ugly and unloveable because of your body and it can make it very hard to accept yourself. All through my teens and my twenties I was made to feel utterly unattractive and I hated everything about how I looked and retreated into myself. I would never have posted the kind of photos I have on here now, back then. Not in a million years.

Then I hit 30 and decided I don't give a fcuk anymore. I'm not particularly attractive I'm quite plain and 'normal' looking and I've got plenty of meat on my bones but I'm not hideous, and I don't have to retreat into myself and hide myself away anymore. If I'm not your cup of tea, so what. Everyone likes a different kind of brew and I'm put on this earth to please myself, nobody else. "

This really resonated with me.

Mother Nature blessed me with big boobs early on, and Ive always been really self concious of being bigger overall than any of my friends, and therefore less attractive or desireable.

Ive been bigger, and Ive been smaller than I am now, but I feel the most comfortable with my body now. Its definitely more a mind set than anything to do with my current size, and thanks to a few wonderful friends who have made me feel sexy.

Like others, it really varies day-to-day. Sometimes I think, yeah, looking pretty good, but on the whole Im nonplussed about my face, not unattractive, but not beautiful. Maybe cute would describe my face best. So on the whole Id say im ok looking, but not for everyone.

X

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"I am not ugly or handsome but in pictures I look older than I am, maybe the camera never lies."

As someone that has spent a lot of time behind the lens, trust me. The camera lies more than boris johnson.

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

I don't think so , not from the right angle. From other angles probably less so. But then I look at my empty inbox, my empty Bumble, and my empty Tinder, and wonder if it's me or my empty bank account... There has to be some reason no one wants me, right?

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I have always been curvy, even as a teenager I was a size 14/16. As a bigger girl I think you're conditioned by society and the media into the idea that you're hideously ugly and unloveable because of your body and it can make it very hard to accept yourself. All through my teens and my twenties I was made to feel utterly unattractive and I hated everything about how I looked and retreated into myself. I would never have posted the kind of photos I have on here now, back then. Not in a million years.

Then I hit 30 and decided I don't give a fcuk anymore. I'm not particularly attractive I'm quite plain and 'normal' looking and I've got plenty of meat on my bones but I'm not hideous, and I don't have to retreat into myself and hide myself away anymore. If I'm not your cup of tea, so what. Everyone likes a different kind of brew and I'm put on this earth to please myself, nobody else.

This really resonated with me.

Mother Nature blessed me with big boobs early on, and Ive always been really self concious of being bigger overall than any of my friends, and therefore less attractive or desireable.

Ive been bigger, and Ive been smaller than I am now, but I feel the most comfortable with my body now. Its definitely more a mind set than anything to do with my current size, and thanks to a few wonderful friends who have made me feel sexy.

Like others, it really varies day-to-day. Sometimes I think, yeah, looking pretty good, but on the whole Im nonplussed about my face, not unattractive, but not beautiful. Maybe cute would describe my face best. So on the whole Id say im ok looking, but not for everyone.

X "

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

No, I don’t think I'm ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck yes ...and so does everybody on fab, but I'll be honest, you mistake me for giving a shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to get on with people chatting really well and getting on till I send them a picture and then get the reply sorry not my type!

What do people want , I know I’m not mr universe or mr Lincolnshire for that matter or even mr my street . But didn’t think i was that bad!

So if any lady’s want to see how horrible I am send me a message. Welcome the feed back!"

Send me a face pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, I don’t think I'm ugly "

Good. You’re not.

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By *erlin57Man
over a year ago

milford


"There's usually one scale people use and it's either attractive or ugly, for me it's not that simple. There's days I feel good and others where I can literally nit pick every part of me and convince myself I'm the ugliest person to ever exist. Mood plays a big part I guess.

Where does it come from? It's a learnt behaviour from others and society. Our brains are programmed to focus on the negative, people can say 100 compliments to someone and they can go in one ear and out the other. That one little bastard who goes out their way to say something nasty, oh yeah we'll remember that comment for life. Society is also a massive problem, living in a world where people are ridiculed on their appearance. Where the media portray the 'perfect person' and what we all need to do to keep up with it.

I just wish everyone could see theirselves through others eyes just once. Maybe then we will all be a little kinder to ourselves."

No need to nit pick any part of you, your beautiful and reading your comment your beautiful inside too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YES!

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

No, I don't think I'm ugly. By and large, I like my face, though I can definitely look better or worse on any given day.

There are bits of me I don't like all that much but, where possible, I do what I can to affect those (see ya later love handles...but, oh, there are more crisps over here...ok). Bits I can't change, I live with.

I have definitely felt "uglier" in the past, and didn't like the way I looked as much when I was younger; for me that was around wanting to fit in and look like the friends that all the girls fancied. I had annoyingly handsome friends, but also grew to realise there wasn't a lot I could do about my height or brown skin...and grew to appreciate the latter (less so the former!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the word ugly, and I’d never use that word to describe someone’s looks, but I do think people have types, and even sometimes people just aren’t a type. Like a grey man they pass without even a noticeable glance from others,

Do I think I’m unattractive, yes! A little, I’ve scars not big noticeable ones. But I see them even under my beard as I know they’re there. I see my wonky nose from fights, but I’m ok with what I have and don’t strive to change or care to much.

The people I’ve met and speak to think I’m cute and that’s nice to hear from others and I believe that they find me attractive.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

I just think attraction is very individual.T has always need reassurance as she has never been confident in her looks.It gets more difficult with age.On here I think we need to be kinder and always try very hard not to cause anyone to feel unconfident or uncomfortable about how they look.Looks are skin deep it really is all about who we are inside.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

If my mood is low I generally feel all over unattractive.

If I'm in a normal level mood I think I'm average.

If I'm in a good mood I usually feel attractive for the most part but there are the bits of myself I see in the mirror that I hate regardless of mood.

As said above you could hear 100 compliments but it's always that one nasty one that that burrows it's way into your brain and never leaves.

Em x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I ain’t no Brad Pitt but I ain’t no Quasimodo either so that’ll do me.

The mr

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By *igdickeasterneuropeanMan
over a year ago

Navan

Nah I think I’m alright.

If I don’t think so that way, no one else will too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is tough for me.

I like me, I have a big heart, I'm kind, I care and I'm a good friend to people.

I don't think I'm anything special infact, I know I'm not when it comes to my looks.

I see all my flaws and do focus on them because often they are all I see.

I compare myself to others a lot and then the negative self talk creeps in and can take over.

When I have a wobble (literally and emotionally) or a confidence crisis it can be really hard for me and I end up forgetting who I am and I fall apart a little bit.

Thankfully I'm OK at picking myself up again and these times are becoming less the older I get.

There are moments where I do feel good about myself, sometimes that's down to others. Sometimes it's often down to other factors. Sometimes I just need a little reassurance. Thankfully my friends are great at this.

I try really hard to not let it stop me having fun, living my life and going for things because I'm rational enough to know that not everyone wants a model type.

So while there are times I feel like the most unattractive woman on the planet, most of the time I can shut those thoughts up enough to just be me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am alright.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

For years I hated the way I looked. Face body the lot,played havoc with my mental health.

Now I’m comfortable with how I am. I know I’m not the best looking or sexy but I’m cool with that and much more confident than I was

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Genuinely feel awful when I look full face in a mirror. Improves a little when I put makeup on, though not enough to get me doing my face when I'm only going to be on my own - instead I just try to avoid looking at myself.

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By *eekin NSAMan
over a year ago

Ireland /Kilkenny areas

Yea. Big bald head Fat neck Chunky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely do not have a beautiful face. I don't think I'm unattractive, but never beautiful/ pretty. It's not a feeling. It is fact. And I'm genuinely OK with that. I have other attributes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’m ugly but I don’t think I’m attractive either.

I get nowhere at all on dating apps where I’m showing my face. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’ve got good boobs but that’s it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’m ugly but I don’t think I’m attractive either.

I get nowhere at all on dating apps where I’m showing my face. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’ve got good boobs but that’s it."

That's because dating apps are shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my mood is low I generally feel all over unattractive.

If I'm in a normal level mood I think I'm average.

If I'm in a good mood I usually feel attractive for the most part but there are the bits of myself I see in the mirror that I hate regardless of mood.

As said above you could hear 100 compliments but it's always that one nasty one that that burrows it's way into your brain and never leaves.

Em x"

Are Ya Well? 'Cause You're Looking Well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’m ugly but I don’t think I’m attractive either.

I get nowhere at all on dating apps where I’m showing my face. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’ve got good boobs but that’s it."

I guess a man will never know.

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By *ocktails23Man
over a year ago

Croydon/Kent

Depends on how you look at it. Unfortunately this site is full of men most of who are desperate for a leg over despite their standards in real life and hence would fuck any female that offers it! Naturally this empowers those women to feel like they can send whatever they want regardless of how nasty or hurtful it can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’m ugly per se, but lately this site isn’t helping my self esteem.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"I don’t think I’m ugly per se, but lately this site isn’t helping my self esteem. "

Definitely not ugly. You are contouring and make up goals

A recent organised social actually did a lot for my self esteem. Fab itself not so much.

Jx

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By *oofy321Man
over a year ago

moon base zero

Yes I think and know it,but felt that before joining here

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Fuck aye. A couple of years on here confirms it

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

Definitely do…always try to play it down but it is a reality

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I don't really think about it like that. I don't particularly like what I see but it is what it is. I've perfected the art of not looking in mirrors and avoiding most non fab photos, so it doesn't really bother me.

This has nothing to do with Fab as I've always been like this

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"Yes I think and know it,but felt that before joining here"

You're not what we're looking for but you are absolutely not ugly. You're a good looking bloke - you remind me of James Nesbitt!

Jx

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Often, less than before though, no idea why

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary


"If my mood is low I generally feel all over unattractive.

If I'm in a normal level mood I think I'm average.

If I'm in a good mood I usually feel attractive for the most part but there are the bits of myself I see in the mirror that I hate regardless of mood.

As said above you could hear 100 compliments but it's always that one nasty one that that burrows it's way into your brain and never leaves.

Em x

Are Ya Well? 'Cause You're Looking Well!"

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

Didn't see this thread before making mine just now!

What's interesting about this place is in real life, I do pretty damn good with attracting people (but vanilla, boo! )

Here honestly I do so hilariously terribly it's funny 90 percent of the time and horrific the other 10. I don't think I've ever sent a face pic to a positive response. It's baffling and I have no idea why but it is what it is!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"I don't think the site makes men feel ugly. I think their expectations not being met makes them want to find something to blame. Some blame the women for being too picky/stuck up/attention seeking while others will assume that it's their fault and they're unattractive. When the truth usually is that they're one of many small fish in a huge ocean.

I do think that some of the people who say they think they're ugly really do mean it but I also think that a minority just want people to disagree with them "

It's definitely not their looks that are the issue 99% of time.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

I think we all have ugly day's for a million different reasons and it's definitely not a bad thing.

A practical thing I learnt, was not to hang a full length mirror on the back of the bathroom door, which faces the loo...

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

I was ugly before it was cool on fab :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’m ugly. But. Im no work of art either. Prob rate myself a 4/10. Which means in real life I rely on charm and humour. Unfortunately humour is hard to work over message / posts. You can just end up sounding like a Twat.

Would love to rent a 6 pack, big chest/arms and chiselled jaw for 24 hours just to see what it’s like. Haha

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"I don't think im ugly, I just take an ugly photo "

The majority of men I've met, have all looked better in real life. Guys really don't know how to take a good selfie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m guilty of this. Need to put more effort in lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone-

I know you’re fed up!

But keep ya head up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever.

I'm totes hot to trot.

The only thing that stops me having a framed picture of myself on the desk is choosing a favourite one.

Instead I have a framed mirror.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Oh hell no I’m fucking handsome hahaha

We all experiences low self esteem sometimes, but u need to snap out that negative mindset. If u can’t love yourself how would u expect someone else too. Yes am not perfect but I choose to focus of the positive

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough


"I'm more critical of my facial attractiveness than my body to be honest and think a bit of it is due how many conversations have gone dead once I've shared a face pic on here. I look at certain aspects of my face and wonder what could put people off but it's something I just have to live with and try not to affect me too much."

You have such beautiful eyes and a gorgeous smile and above all that (sexy body and all!!) you seem rather pleasant

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough

Hmmm. I don’t think my face is ugly, but it’s also not the prettiest I do have hang ups about most of my body though. There are parts I just find grotesque.

Really selling myself here huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see knowing that you aren't that good looking as a negative mindset. There's a difference between feeling and being. It's OK to know you won't win any beauty contests. I don't see that as being negative. *shrugs*

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby


"Oh hell no I’m fucking handsome hahaha

We all experiences low self esteem sometimes, but u need to snap out that negative mindset. If u can’t love yourself how would u expect someone else too. Yes am not perfect but I choose to focus of the positive "
God I love crispy duck but are you really as good as that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't see knowing that you aren't that good looking as a negative mindset. There's a difference between feeling and being. It's OK to know you won't win any beauty contests. I don't see that as being negative. *shrugs*"

This

I *know* I’m not attractive. I’m cool with it

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I wouldn't say I'm unattractive, some days I feel less attractive than others though and that's just the way my mind works.

I look like I do and I'm aging quite well I think but I'd definitely prefer not to be as slim as I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know Im one of the ugliest guys on the site but dont care anyways as I know ugly guys get girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say I'm unattractive, some days I feel less attractive than others though and that's just the way my mind works.

I look like I do and I'm aging quite well I think but I'd definitely prefer not to be as slim as I am"

I've got plenty of fat you can have! Happy to share!

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby


"I know Im one of the ugliest guys on the site but dont care anyways as I know ugly guys get girls"
Really so what bit of you is ugly?

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London


"I don't see knowing that you aren't that good looking as a negative mindset. There's a difference between feeling and being. It's OK to know you won't win any beauty contests. I don't see that as being negative. *shrugs*"

I agree with this. I just see myself as ruthlessly objective on the bits of me that are less attractive/I don't like! No point pretending otherwise.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I wouldn't say I'm unattractive, some days I feel less attractive than others though and that's just the way my mind works.

I look like I do and I'm aging quite well I think but I'd definitely prefer not to be as slim as I am

I've got plenty of fat you can have! Happy to share! "

I'll get the syringe ready

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" as they say. I don't think I'm ugly and I definitely like certain features of my coupon. Whether anyone else does, is down to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know Im one of the ugliest guys on the site but dont care anyways as I know ugly guys get girls"

The girlies be loving the medium ugly men. It’s true

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Never . I think I’m stunning

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I know Im one of the ugliest guys on the site but dont care anyways as I know ugly guys get girls

The girlies be loving the medium ugly men. It’s true "

I seen plenty of attractive model like women with very average looking men.fact

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know Im one of the ugliest guys on the site but dont care anyways as I know ugly guys get girls

The girlies be loving the medium ugly men. It’s true

I seen plenty of attractive model like women with very average looking men.fact"

I’m telling you, medium ugly men be winning for real.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never . I think I’m stunning "

Can we see

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"Oh hell no I’m fucking handsome hahaha

We all experiences low self esteem sometimes, but u need to snap out that negative mindset. If u can’t love yourself how would u expect someone else too. Yes am not perfect but I choose to focus of the positive God I love crispy duck but are you really as good as that? "

Finger licking good and more got the T-shirt to confirm haha

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London


"I know Im one of the ugliest guys on the site but dont care anyways as I know ugly guys get girls

The girlies be loving the medium ugly men. It’s true

I seen plenty of attractive model like women with very average looking men.fact"

It's true, they do. But on fab fuck knows what you have to look like for some middle aged person to find you attractive enough for a fuck

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"I know Im one of the ugliest guys on the site but dont care anyways as I know ugly guys get girls

The girlies be loving the medium ugly men. It’s true

I seen plenty of attractive model like women with very average looking men.fact"
,, this is true its not just about the looks

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Never . I think I’m stunning

Can we see "

Please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know Im one of the ugliest guys on the site but dont care anyways as I know ugly guys get girls Really so what bit of you is ugly?"
I been told that a few times but it doesnt matter as people are entitled to their opinion

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I describe myself as wishy washy, neither here or there … In other words unremarkable and I’ve come to term with that a lifetime ago.

I just blag it

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

yes i do.

on the outside i look terrible, brooding menace.

but on the inside im cuddles, kisses and a guy who only shows that when i can trust you with it.

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By *allMeBeeMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I was lucky that I had a lightening bolt epiphany when I was 19. Up until that age, I was worried that I was going to be hairy, and I was convinced women didn't like hairy guys. Then I realised that some women don't, and some women REALLY like it; it was literally as if someone threw a switch inside my head. You can't be right for everyone. After that I just went through life thinking if someone doesn't fancy you, they're not for you. As for being attractive/ugly, I think some people will think I'm attractive, some will think I'm ugly; I just tend to stick with group one.

Judging from some of the conversations I've had on here, I think some guys take it personally if someone isn't into them, rather than just accepting it, and start to seek justification or hurl abuse. That always says more about their own insecurities I think.

Ultimately it doesn't matter if I think I'm hot - I'm not trying to cop off with myself - it's what my partners/liaisons/connections think that really matters.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"I describe myself as wishy washy, neither here or there … In other words unremarkable and I’ve come to term with that a lifetime ago.

I just blag it "
,, well looking at your pic you look amazing

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I don't think, I know.

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By *hisStagsVixenCouple
over a year ago

peterborough


"I describe myself as wishy washy, neither here or there … In other words unremarkable and I’ve come to term with that a lifetime ago.

I just blag it "

You have a stunning bod! Totally gorgeous.

Mrs x

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i have a twin his name quasimodo

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I've never been very confident in how I look. I recently say a picture of myself when I was 20 and thought "I was so pretty, why didn't I realise!". When I told a friend they said "You are so pretty. Still" I don't see what they see all the time but I'm getting there.

J

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"I've never been very confident in how I look. I recently say a picture of myself when I was 20 and thought "I was so pretty, why didn't I realise!". When I told a friend they said "You are so pretty. Still" I don't see what they see all the time but I'm getting there.

,,

J"
,, i reckon your pretty julie nice lady too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never . I think I’m stunning

Can we see

Please? "

Please please

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

If you'd asked me 4 years ago I'd have replied yes I think I am, but that stemmed from years of being told that. Now I'm alright I guess, I'm fortunate I inherited the good genes and don't look my age and I'm a dab hand at makeup so scrub up ok, but there are things I feel someone would find unattractive due to a medical condition I have, I've learned to live with it but it always made for awkward conversations over it.

Tinder x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, there are most definitely parts of my body that are truly ugly. After 48 years you'd of thought I would learn to love myself as I am, but nope, I hate those ugly parts and I'm very self conscious about them.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Ugly? No. Definitely not ugly.

Unattractive? No.

Niche and rather limited in who I appeal to, very much so. I'm far from what is generally considered to be universally accepted of what attractive is.

I am the level of attractive that gets "you are a good looking guy" "you are cute" "oh, handsome" etc and while I think they mean it at a base level, it often is painfully obvious it comes with a silent follow up of "but not for me, I'm just being nice"

I'm average, at best. I won't ever stand out and be picked as catching somebody's eye or attention without them knowing my personality prior.

Thankfully I have personality going for me so that helps slightly when given the chance to present it - it gives the illusion I'm a little more attractive. But not attractive enough to draw others in to let my personality work it's magic.

The majority of my life, I've had this scenario. It's been engraved, branded, etched, and stitched in to my being and soul. I won't ever see myself as anything but that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do, almost all the time. Though sites like this one usually won't help

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford


"I see people in here sometimes saying things about being unattractive. I think that this site makes lots of men feel that way but it’s important to remember that no or lack of success on here doesn’t mean you’re ugly. But do people genuinely feel unattractive when they look in the mirror? Why? Where do you think that image of yourself comes from?

Of course we’re all beautiful to someone but are we beautiful to ourselves?!

"

I don't think I'm that ugly. I know that I'm no Knight & shinning armour either. For me personally it's a confidence thing. Also I'm brutal at taking compliments. Even the though of a woman finding/thinking I'm sexy, freaks me out, BIG time. I 100% don't believe & highly unlikely every will either.

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By *jekimMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I do an always have done

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