FabSwingers.com forum: I’ve been thinking…again!!

By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

Do the forumites think that the focus of Fab has changed from encouraging & supporting swinging to more providing a hook up service For scruffy ill educated knuckle dragging thickos who let their testicles write their messages and have incredibly fragile egos where a polite ‘no thanks!’ Is met with a tirade of abuse?

What more can be done to get these people and other undesirables and timewasters off the site…or from setting up multiple profiles….and harassing other members?

Answers with the usual fee.. to the usual place!!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I'm inclined to agree. I seem to be having more afternoon tea since I joined Fab then actually engaging myself in romantic 'tête-à-tête' and the occasional bonk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a conversation with a couple on Saturday night. They wanted to change fab because it wasn't what they wanted it to be.

My response to them was that if you spend all your time focused on what others are doing, you will miss out on all the fun stuff you could be.

I think there is a place for everyone here and if you set out what you want and look for it with an open mind, you'll probably have a good time.

Its easy to get frustrated and put off by people who are not behaving in a way you wish to see. Like many other women I ran away when I first joined because it was all too much.

Lifes too short for that though.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's a misconception that swinging is 'A' lifestyle.

It has been, does now and will continue to be styled by the lives of those that indulge.

Like every human activity , there will be participants who believe they are the sensual elite who permit only the most stereotypical beauties and those with wealth to take part.

There will be the bacchanalian, intent on pure hedonism come one come all types.

And there will be those who couldn't give a shit what the site is called or professes to be they just want a shag...

and lets not forget the huge amount of people who profess to be 'open minded' but suddenly become possessive when they actually nab a partner and want to go exclusive...

There are so many more groups and individuals.

It's nothing to do with FAB .... it's human behaviour.

I guess when you are jaded you point the finger.

Look inward and find what you want.

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

I know what I want and it’s a needle in a haystack but I’m a very patient person….

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"It's a misconception that swinging is 'A' lifestyle.

It has been, does now and will continue to be styled by the lives of those that indulge.

Like every human activity , there will be participants who believe they are the sensual elite who permit only the most stereotypical beauties and those with wealth to take part.

There will be the bacchanalian, intent on pure hedonism come one come all types.

And there will be those who couldn't give a shit what the site is called or professes to be they just want a shag...

and lets not forget the huge amount of people who profess to be 'open minded' but suddenly become possessive when they actually nab a partner and want to go exclusive...

There are so many more groups and individuals.

It's nothing to do with FAB .... it's human behaviour.

I guess when you are jaded you point the finger.

Look inward and find what you want. "

Or being deliberately mischievous

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I had a conversation with a couple on Saturday night. They wanted to change fab because it wasn't what they wanted it to be.

My response to them was that if you spend all your time focused on what others are doing, you will miss out on all the fun stuff you could be.

I think there is a place for everyone here and if you set out what you want and look for it with an open mind, you'll probably have a good time.

Its easy to get frustrated and put off by people who are not behaving in a way you wish to see. Like many other women I ran away when I first joined because it was all too much.

Lifes too short for that though. "

I agree! ‘Block and move on’ is my best advice, just use the site in the way that makes you feel happy, and you’ll find likeminded people

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

By the way you will get low life on any site with public interaction as low life will always be low life….

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It's a misconception that swinging is 'A' lifestyle.

It has been, does now and will continue to be styled by the lives of those that indulge.

Like every human activity , there will be participants who believe they are the sensual elite who permit only the most stereotypical beauties and those with wealth to take part.

There will be the bacchanalian, intent on pure hedonism come one come all types.

And there will be those who couldn't give a shit what the site is called or professes to be they just want a shag...

and lets not forget the huge amount of people who profess to be 'open minded' but suddenly become possessive when they actually nab a partner and want to go exclusive...

There are so many more groups and individuals.

It's nothing to do with FAB .... it's human behaviour.

I guess when you are jaded you point the finger.

Look inward and find what you want.

Or being deliberately mischievous

Eh ? I didn't think you were being anything else Todger! I didn't mean you were jaded. Have you been on the sensitive juice ?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

No.

It was much the same 15 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do the forumites think that the focus of Fab has changed from encouraging & supporting swinging to more providing a hook up service For scruffy ill educated knuckle dragging thickos who let their testicles write their messages and have incredibly fragile egos where a polite ‘no thanks!’ Is met with a tirade of abuse?

What more can be done to get these people and other undesirables and timewasters off the site…or from setting up multiple profiles….and harassing other members?…

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

Really the only serious point im raising is about how people who’s behaviour is unacceptable arent prevented from rejoining as a new profile and doing it all over again.

Maybe card verification?

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

I just think we will love sex no? Keep it to sex. Respect others opinions and what they're looking for, albeit in a polite manner as some people really fall hard at that hurdle.

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By *prilSubTV/TS
over a year ago

I know the "swinging" aspect is lost on so many here when I say I have a husband and most of the time I'm met with "then what are you doing on a site like this??"

I would have thought sexual non-monogamy was one of the core principles of a swinging site but since most of the single men here are just using it to hook up they assume I'm being unfaithful by default.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno.

I’m just here to get ma wang wet.

Hopefully she’s on top, I’ll be able to pick the scabs from my knuckles while she’s grinding.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"It's a misconception that swinging is 'A' lifestyle.

It has been, does now and will continue to be styled by the lives of those that indulge.

Like every human activity , there will be participants who believe they are the sensual elite who permit only the most stereotypical beauties and those with wealth to take part.

There will be the bacchanalian, intent on pure hedonism come one come all types.

And there will be those who couldn't give a shit what the site is called or professes to be they just want a shag...

and lets not forget the huge amount of people who profess to be 'open minded' but suddenly become possessive when they actually nab a partner and want to go exclusive...

There are so many more groups and individuals.

It's nothing to do with FAB .... it's human behaviour.

I guess when you are jaded you point the finger.

Look inward and find what you want.

Or being deliberately mischievous

Eh ? I didn't think you were being anything else Todger! I didn't mean you were jaded. Have you been on the sensitive juice ?"

Are you calling me fat??

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Really the only serious point im raising is about how people who’s behaviour is unacceptable arent prevented from rejoining as a new profile and doing it all over again.

Maybe card verification? "

There's no need really.

Just use the sites most effective filter - the block button.

It takes a heartbeat and we don't waste a single thought in doing so. Nobody ever send us a crap message twice and if they quit and rejoin and do the same then they just get blocked again.

I think people over estimate the impact that these people have. If everyone adopted the same use of the block button them one of two things would happen. They'd change their attitude and approach or just stop using the site.

Simples.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It's a misconception that swinging is 'A' lifestyle.

It has been, does now and will continue to be styled by the lives of those that indulge.

Like every human activity , there will be participants who believe they are the sensual elite who permit only the most stereotypical beauties and those with wealth to take part.

There will be the bacchanalian, intent on pure hedonism come one come all types.

And there will be those who couldn't give a shit what the site is called or professes to be they just want a shag...

and lets not forget the huge amount of people who profess to be 'open minded' but suddenly become possessive when they actually nab a partner and want to go exclusive...

There are so many more groups and individuals.

It's nothing to do with FAB .... it's human behaviour.

I guess when you are jaded you point the finger.

Look inward and find what you want.

Or being deliberately mischievous

Eh ? I didn't think you were being anything else Todger! I didn't mean you were jaded. Have you been on the sensitive juice ?

Are you calling me fat??

Well I went the long way about it if I did Jumbo.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"It's a misconception that swinging is 'A' lifestyle.

It has been, does now and will continue to be styled by the lives of those that indulge.

Like every human activity , there will be participants who believe they are the sensual elite who permit only the most stereotypical beauties and those with wealth to take part.

There will be the bacchanalian, intent on pure hedonism come one come all types.

And there will be those who couldn't give a shit what the site is called or professes to be they just want a shag...

and lets not forget the huge amount of people who profess to be 'open minded' but suddenly become possessive when they actually nab a partner and want to go exclusive...

There are so many more groups and individuals.

It's nothing to do with FAB .... it's human behaviour.

I guess when you are jaded you point the finger.

Look inward and find what you want. "

Exactly , just like there is no such thing as a gay community or trans community there is no such thing as the swingers community / lifestyle. Just lots of different people doing different stuff.

I’ve not noticed the people referred to by the OP. There’s very few people I notice on here , just the ones that are interesting , sexy or make me smile

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"Really the only serious point im raising is about how people who’s behaviour is unacceptable arent prevented from rejoining as a new profile and doing it all over again.

Maybe card verification?

There's no need really.

Just use the sites most effective filter - the block button.

It takes a heartbeat and we don't waste a single thought in doing so. Nobody ever send us a crap message twice and if they quit and rejoin and do the same then they just get blocked again.

Simples.

A "

I guess my thoughts are stopping it before it starts - block is an excellent tool I agree - Card verification could just be another obstacle for them as if their card has been logged on one account - it can’t be on another ? Just a thought

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"It's a misconception that swinging is 'A' lifestyle.

It has been, does now and will continue to be styled by the lives of those that indulge.

Like every human activity , there will be participants who believe they are the sensual elite who permit only the most stereotypical beauties and those with wealth to take part.

There will be the bacchanalian, intent on pure hedonism come one come all types.

And there will be those who couldn't give a shit what the site is called or professes to be they just want a shag...

and lets not forget the huge amount of people who profess to be 'open minded' but suddenly become possessive when they actually nab a partner and want to go exclusive...

There are so many more groups and individuals.

It's nothing to do with FAB .... it's human behaviour.

I guess when you are jaded you point the finger.

Look inward and find what you want.

Or being deliberately mischievous

Eh ? I didn't think you were being anything else Todger! I didn't mean you were jaded. Have you been on the sensitive juice ?

Are you calling me fat??

Well I went the long way about it if I did Jumbo."

Was that supposed to be Dumbo cos my cocks like an elephants trunk?

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Really the only serious point im raising is about how people who’s behaviour is unacceptable arent prevented from rejoining as a new profile and doing it all over again.

Maybe card verification?

There's no need really.

Just use the sites most effective filter - the block button.

It takes a heartbeat and we don't waste a single thought in doing so. Nobody ever send us a crap message twice and if they quit and rejoin and do the same then they just get blocked again.

Simples.

Who would pay for such a system?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Really the only serious point im raising is about how people who’s behaviour is unacceptable arent prevented from rejoining as a new profile and doing it all over again.

Maybe card verification?

There's no need really.

Just use the sites most effective filter - the block button.

It takes a heartbeat and we don't waste a single thought in doing so. Nobody ever send us a crap message twice and if they quit and rejoin and do the same then they just get blocked again.

Simples.

I get you.

But how would any system vet tye revolving door site users who leave and come back but aren't abusive/dickheads/idiots ?

There's no end of folk who delete and rejoin (sometimes rejoining before they delete given the speed they post on a new profile in the forums) just for a fresh start, to reinvent themselves or simply because they like the drama.

We'd have no issue with any form of ID verification. Clubs do the same so why not a website? But it's probably not as effective as many think as people won't tick a box to say 'yes I'm a twat' on joining and plenty have more than one card.

Same as making it a pay site wouldn't deter muppets.

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"Really the only serious point im raising is about how people who’s behaviour is unacceptable arent prevented from rejoining as a new profile and doing it all over again.

Maybe card verification?

There's no need really.

Just use the sites most effective filter - the block button.

It takes a heartbeat and we don't waste a single thought in doing so. Nobody ever send us a crap message twice and if they quit and rejoin and do the same then they just get blocked again.

Simples.

I get you.

But how would any system vet tye revolving door site users who leave and come back but aren't abusive/dickheads/idiots ?

Same as making it a pay site wouldn't deter muppets.

My thoughts were you can have 1 account linked to a cc numbfor verification - if you get a site ban that cc num is flagged and can’t be used to register a new account.

For the revolving doors- you can’t open a new account while the other one is still live. So you have to properly close one before opening another.

I’ve obviously not gone too deeply into it as its just my ‘hmmm how do we improve the site for the majority of decent, honest down to earth filthy perverts on here?’

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

So many people use fab doe different reasons, yes it's a swingers site however I guess around 70% are none swingers.

If people aren't using it as you'd like then there just not for you, block and move on.

We have met some amazing people on here, friends & sexual meets, there's not a one fit for all.

Mrs

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"So many people use fab doe different reasons, yes it's a swingers site however I guess around 70% are none swingers.

If people aren't using it as you'd like then there just not for you, block and move on.

We have met some amazing people on here, friends & sexual meets, there's not a one fit for all.

Mrs "

Some amazing and exceptionally sexy guys on here you haven’t Met yet - just saying… ahem… and me obviously!!

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"I'm inclined to agree. I seem to be having more afternoon tea since I joined Fab then actually engaging myself in romantic 'tête-à-tête' and the occasional bonk."

"A bonk", that's incredibly un-Nerø like language.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Im not here often enough to notice so im not sure im fussy how many drag nuckles just attach a rake to them and the hey fever will be gone

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"I know what I want and it’s a needle in a haystack but I’m a very patient person…."

Exactly this

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Really the only serious point im raising is about how people who’s behaviour is unacceptable arent prevented from rejoining as a new profile and doing it all over again.

Maybe card verification?

There's no need really.

Just use the sites most effective filter - the block button.

It takes a heartbeat and we don't waste a single thought in doing so. Nobody ever send us a crap message twice and if they quit and rejoin and do the same then they just get blocked again.

Simples.

I get you.

But how would any system vet tye revolving door site users who leave and come back but aren't abusive/dickheads/idiots ?

Same as making it a pay site wouldn't deter muppets.

My thoughts were you can have 1 account linked to a cc numbfor verification - if you get a site ban that cc num is flagged and can’t be used to register a new account.

For the revolving doors- you can’t open a new account while the other one is still live. So you have to properly close one before opening another.

I’ve obviously not gone too deeply into it as its just my ‘hmmm how do we improve the site for the majority of decent, honest down to earth filthy perverts on here?’

Speaking as a couple, trust me - it's incredibly easy to filter out the knuckle draggers and identify the nice guys. And it's the same for women.

Otherwise how would Fox have ever have been lucky enough to find and eventually marry me, obvs....

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Yup

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes, it's more flakey than a Cadburys flake

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Encouraging and supportive?

Lol

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By *odgerMoore OP Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

"Really the only serious point im raising is about how people who’s behaviour is unacceptable arent prevented from rejoining as a new profile and doing it all over again.

Maybe card verification?

There's no need really.

Just use the sites most effective filter - the block button.

It takes a heartbeat and we don't waste a single thought in doing so. Nobody ever send us a crap message twice and if they quit and rejoin and do the same then they just get blocked again.

Simples.

I get you.

But how would any system vet tye revolving door site users who leave and come back but aren't abusive/dickheads/idiots ?

Same as making it a pay site wouldn't deter muppets.

My thoughts were you can have 1 account linked to a cc numbfor verification - if you get a site ban that cc num is flagged and can’t be used to register a new account.

For the revolving doors- you can’t open a new account while the other one is still live. So you have to properly close one before opening another.

I’ve obviously not gone too deeply into it as its just my ‘hmmm how do we improve the site for the majority of decent, honest down to earth filthy perverts on here?’

Speaking as a couple, trust me - it's incredibly easy to filter out the knuckle draggers and identify the nice guys. And it's the same for women.

Otherwise how would Fox have ever have been lucky enough to find and eventually marry me, obvs....

There you go ruining my grinchy, mean spirited, antagonistic thread with being all loved up!!

It’s actually a great thing when it happens and you meet your yang

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't care how other people use the site, I'm doing this my way.

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