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Better to Have Loved and Lost than Never to Have Loved at All…

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By *ensuallover1000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

So was penned by the famous poet, Alfred, Lord Tennyson.

In fact he was specifically referring to the death of a close friend, Arthur Henry Hallam although the quote is now more popularly associated with and invariably quoted in the context of the breakdown of relationships.

In regards to this latter scenario;

Good folks, cast your mind back over previous partners in your lifetime whom you have loved, yet the relationship has indeed broken down…

Was it in fact better to have loved them and enjoyed the happy memories prior to the eventual heartache or, in hindsight, would you have preferred to never have met them in the first place?

Strewth! This was quite a deep post from me, right?

Alternatively therefore, you can tell me how many socks you presently own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would rather not have met but, I dont dwell on it as it cant be changed.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

My ex husband gave me 3 wonderful children so yes I am glad I loved him.

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By *erence IIMan
over a year ago

Irrelevant

Tough one. Lots and lots of happy memories verses a mental breakdown.

I'm going to go with better to have loved and lost. While the losing ( or in my case, leaving) was the major factor in having a breakdown, it's made me who I am today.

Can I re-write the quote? Better to have learnt what you know today before you love than to lose a love to learn?

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
over a year ago

your head

I think it depends on the person, the relationship and what happened. I loved someone for a very long time that I don't regret for a second but someone else that in hindsight, I wish I'd never met.

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Not my ex though certainly friends and family.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Not sure I've ever been truly IN love with anybody..

So for me I can't miss what I've never had I guess

Not very helpful I know sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She moved in with her toothbrush and left with half of the house. Ahhhhh such fond memories

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"She moved in with her toothbrush and left with half of the house. Ahhhhh such fond memories "

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes definitely , love & loss is a normal part of life and essential for growth , it’s why you buy children hamsters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely.

"Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration."

D. H. Lawrence.

I'd rather feel the love and suffer a broken heart than to have never known those moments.

Ms Wyld

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Depends on the person, but mostly I agree with the premise.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"

Good folks, cast your mind back over previous partners in your lifetime whom you have loved, yet the relationship has indeed broken down…

Was it in fact better to have loved them and enjoyed the happy memories prior to the eventual heartache or, in hindsight, would you have preferred to never have met them in the first place?

"

Always better to have loved and lost I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely.

"Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration."

D. H. Lawrence.

I'd rather feel the love and suffer a broken heart than to have never known those moments.

Ms Wyld"

That is such a true statement. Thanks for posting it.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Townes Van Zandt sang, 'to live is to fly, both low and high'

You don't get the days without the night so to speak, And deep painful enduring grief is the price we can pay for love and losing it.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think that quote rings true for any relationship you experience love in - whether it's that deep friendship love that shows up time and time again without asking for anything. The love you have for a family member, your child, those who share your features but are so different from you. The romantic love that lifts you so high or gives you that safe comfort of an easy love.

I love. Fiercely. Unashamedly. My friends. My partner. People. I often think I'm a collection of the stories of those who've loved me, love me and are yet to.

And yes, sometimes it crashes. Burns spectacularly. Tears are shed, solace sought in distractions that provide a temporary relief from that unique sadness following losing that love. I hibernate, listen to those who care and say "Meli, protect your heart because it's a delicate thing".

It is delicate.

Yet there's so much love to be found within it. Shared. Enjoyed. Expressed. Lived.

So I'd rather keep experiencing that full kaleidoscope of life, giving my love to those I love and being loved, knowing one day it may end but those moments of happiness are no less because of that. They lived and so did I.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I think that quote rings true for any relationship you experience love in - whether it's that deep friendship love that shows up time and time again without asking for anything. The love you have for a family member, your child, those who share your features but are so different from you. The romantic love that lifts you so high or gives you that safe comfort of an easy love.

I love. Fiercely. Unashamedly. My friends. My partner. People. I often think I'm a collection of the stories of those who've loved me, love me and are yet to.

And yes, sometimes it crashes. Burns spectacularly. Tears are shed, solace sought in distractions that provide a temporary relief from that unique sadness following losing that love. I hibernate, listen to those who care and say "Meli, protect your heart because it's a delicate thing".

It is delicate.

Yet there's so much love to be found within it. Shared. Enjoyed. Expressed. Lived.

So I'd rather keep experiencing that full kaleidoscope of life, giving my love to those I love and being loved, knowing one day it may end but those moments of happiness are no less because of that. They lived and so did I."

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I've dated some truly extraordinary ladies and have lots of happy memories, I still think about some of them now and miss them after years apart.

Could have done without the heartaches but when the good times were rolling then they really were amazing and I'm greatful for that.

I'm happy single now but I have moments I contemplate trying for a relationship but lots of people here would miss me I reckon

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think that quote rings true for any relationship you experience love in - whether it's that deep friendship love that shows up time and time again without asking for anything. The love you have for a family member, your child, those who share your features but are so different from you. The romantic love that lifts you so high or gives you that safe comfort of an easy love.

I love. Fiercely. Unashamedly. My friends. My partner. People. I often think I'm a collection of the stories of those who've loved me, love me and are yet to.

And yes, sometimes it crashes. Burns spectacularly. Tears are shed, solace sought in distractions that provide a temporary relief from that unique sadness following losing that love. I hibernate, listen to those who care and say "Meli, protect your heart because it's a delicate thing".

It is delicate.

Yet there's so much love to be found within it. Shared. Enjoyed. Expressed. Lived.

So I'd rather keep experiencing that full kaleidoscope of life, giving my love to those I love and being loved, knowing one day it may end but those moments of happiness are no less because of that. They lived and so did I.

"

Always.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Oh much better that things happened the way they did. While some of my experiences have been horrid, they have all contributed to my becoming the person I am today, and that's someone I bloody adore.

I either have the fondest of memories or the harshest of lessons from each and every person I've loved.

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby


"Not sure I've ever been truly IN love with anybody..

So for me I can't miss what I've never had I guess

Not very helpful I know sorry "
Lucky you.But you may well finally find the one & have no heartbreak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there was one ex in particular who I remember fondly. Selfless, encouraging and supported me with completing something important. He was a good one. I don't regret him. It just fizzled out

T

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By *ensuallover1000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Thank you all for both the beautiful quotes and your wonderfully considered thoughts everyone

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

About 30 pairs and at least 15 odd ones. Poor odd socks.

J

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By *ensuallover1000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"About 30 pairs and at least 15 odd ones. Poor odd socks.

J"

I used to have sooo many socks.

Why did they leave me?

Actually, where on earth did they all disappear to?

It’s surely a blooming X-Files case

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

First hubby was evil! But had I not met him I would not have my first 3 children my 3 grandchildren and my 2 great grandsons! The second one he was the love of my life but a alcoholic that's now departed this world! But again had we not met I wouldn't have my 3 youngest children so yes agree with the saying! Actually I apply this to dogs/cats I've had over years as the love from them is amazing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so very grateful to have loved and been loved by my ex-husband. He's a lovely man and we get on very well co-parenting our children. Even if we didn't have children I'd still be grateful for having met him as we had some wonderful times together. The relationship simply ran its' course.

Nell

Ps. I own about 15 pairs of socks.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m happy to have been loved and lost. Yes it hurts when it ends but that fades with time and you’re left with some wonderful memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always better to have loved and lost but it is a bugger when you see them looking better than ever. Heartstrings are not the only thing that gets tugged.

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By *illybeachboyMan
over a year ago

Guernsey

I can't comment as I've never loved

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