FabSwingers.com forum: Messaged everyone , now what? Advice please!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, as title says, I've messaged everyone I'd be willing to travel/meet chat with, and whilst I've had some replies, some mild interest, majority are either unopened, or opened and never replied too lol...

So my question for guys and ladies is.. guys, what do you do in this situation? Re-message and hope that you don't come across as pestering? And girls, do you condone re-messaging or is an unread message universal code for : not interested?

Any advice welcome lol, I'd surely like my fab journey to be not over quite so soon!

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

For me a second message if I haven’t replied to the first one, it is an instant block…not sure how other people sees it, but maybe it’s time to change the strategy? Clubs, socials in your area?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

If you don't get a reply, they're not interested.

What exactly were you expecting to happen?

It's not ubershags...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah, at least a block tells me that your not interested though haha, so that's more communication than I got before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you've completed level 1. Time for level 2. Clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't get a reply, they're not interested.

What exactly were you expecting to happen?

It's not ubershags..."

Well, as the message says, I'm not expecting anything hence seeking advice before acting further! Not expect everyone to fall upon me, no need to be condescending

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

A second message would be a block from me.

Mrs

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

You know a lot of women don't like dick pics. Read the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) Do not message again, yes that would be pestering.

2) Take a bow

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"If you don't get a reply, they're not interested.

What exactly were you expecting to happen?

It's not ubershags...

Well, as the message says, I'm not expecting anything hence seeking advice before acting further! Not expect everyone to fall upon me, no need to be condescending

How would I know what the msg says?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant effort.

We feel left out now that you didn’t message us.

Send them all again but make them more menacing?

Sorry meaningful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult.

I know some people simply give up on keeping on top of messages so unread just may mean missed.

Some people just delete everything to get to inbox zero.

And I've connected with people on second, third and fourth messages.

Imo, you can remessage if time has passed and you know the message wasn't read. But others will say that's not on. I guess that's what the block button is there for ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You know a lot of women don't like dick pics. Read the forums. "

I know, ironically had.more replies with the dick pics than with the face pics, god knows what that says about my face

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

I’m newish but have learned pretty quick from reading threads that no-reply means no or they have too many messages and sadly yours will be deleted before they get to it….

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

A second message as part of an ongoing conversation is fine. I do it myself.

A second message when it's after the first ever message is a delete and possible block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you don't get a reply, they're not interested.

What exactly were you expecting to happen?

It's not ubershags...

Well, as the message says, I'm not expecting anything hence seeking advice before acting further! Not expect everyone to fall upon me, no need to be condescending

How would I know what the msg says? "

The message in the OP x my point was that, I'm asking for advice before I move forward, that's all. And there's some great advice and insight forthcoming, both positive and negative!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Difficult.

I know some people simply give up on keeping on top of messages so unread just may mean missed.

Some people just delete everything to get to inbox zero.

And I've connected with people on second, third and fourth messages.

Imo, you can remessage if time has passed and you know the message wasn't read. But others will say that's not on. I guess that's what the block button is there for ..."

This is pretty fair. Although sometimes the first stays unread and is deleted because of we've seen enough in the summary to know there won't be compatibility. A profile pic with a cock as the main attraction (no torso etc) is pretty much an instant delete from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, as title says, I've messaged everyone I'd be willing to travel/meet chat with, and whilst I've had some replies, some mild interest, majority are either unopened, or opened and never replied too lol...

Any advice welcome lol, I'd surely like my fab journey to be not over quite so soon! "

Have you tried slightly different postcodes in your search? It can throw up new profiles. The Fab map can be a bit odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’ve messaged everyone. You’ve completed Fab.

May as well delete account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Difficult.

I know some people simply give up on keeping on top of messages so unread just may mean missed.

Some people just delete everything to get to inbox zero.

And I've connected with people on second, third and fourth messages.

Imo, you can remessage if time has passed and you know the message wasn't read. But others will say that's not on. I guess that's what the block button is there for ...

J "
see, I know I'm worth replying to, so if it's unread it's definitely not because of the billion cock shots from the same angle I've attached or because I've simply said "faf"... It has to have been an oversight.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"You know a lot of women don't like dick pics. Read the forums.

I know, ironically had.more replies with the dick pics than with the face pics, god knows what that says about my face

There you go then...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you’ve messaged everyone. You’ve completed Fab.

May as well delete account. "

Mega, where do I get my T Shirt!.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You know a lot of women don't like dick pics. Read the forums.

I know, ironically had.more replies with the dick pics than with the face pics, god knows what that says about my face

There you go then..."

Thanks for your valuable input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you’ve messaged everyone. You’ve completed Fab.

May as well delete account. "
and rejoin as a single female. That's the pro level... Not only are there more ppl to message, all the bastards reply back too.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"You know a lot of women don't like dick pics. Read the forums.

I know, ironically had.more replies with the dick pics than with the face pics, god knows what that says about my face

There you go then...

Thanks for your valuable input

You're welcome

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Visiting Glasgow

You need to sell up and move to a different part of the country!

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

If you have messaged loads of people and got nothing back then your approach must is off. Maybe you need to look at a different way of going about it

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If I'd messaged everyone I was interested with little to no success then I'd worry less about who to try next and wonder more why all the messages already sent had born no fruit?

It's pointless focusing on message content and neglecting the important bit - your profile.

Some people could send us a simple 'hi' and if their profile impressed us and appealed we'd reply.

Others could send a detailed, well constructed message and it'll go unread as we view profiles long before opening a message. There's no point if the sender is the polar opposite of who we'd be interested in meeting.

Focus on the things you can do to improve your chances, not the things that should come second.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Any advice welcome lol, I'd surely like my fab journey to be not over quite so soon! "

Completed it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you have messaged loads of people and got nothing back then your approach must is off. Maybe you need to look at a different way of going about it"

Lol, I've varied the approach and different approaches have yielded different results! so no way of correlating the evidence into anything tangible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear, I don't really think this thread is going to do you many favours OP.

Try just taking a step back and think about what you're telling everyone on fab with your status and this thread.

'You've messaged everyone'

Then you're mentioning about considering sending a second message.

Your whole post screams of desperation.

I really do wonder what your expectations of the site were when you joined.

1. Nobody owes you a reply.

2. No reply is to be taken as 'No thank you' - it's covered in site FAQs

As others have said, sending a second message when you haven't received a reply to your first will just earn you a block.

You've only been on fab for 3 months. Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been here for about a year.

You are aware that single men outnumber the ladies by over 100 to 1.

Think about how many messages women must get on here from people like yourself.

Could you cope with a full inbox every day?

People have lives outside of fab. Give them time. Be patient.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I'd messaged everyone I was interested with little to no success then I'd worry less about who to try next and wonder more why all the messages already sent had born no fruit?

It's pointless focusing on message content and neglecting the important bit - your profile.

Some people could send us a simple 'hi' and if their profile impressed us and appealed we'd reply.

Focus on the things you can do to improve your chances, not the things that should come second.

Thanks for the reply! So in my experience, only folks who view my profile are men, even women. Who reply rarely view it ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'd messaged everyone I was interested with little to no success then I'd worry less about who to try next and wonder more why all the messages already sent had born no fruit?

It's pointless focusing on message content and neglecting the important bit - your profile.

Some people could send us a simple 'hi' and if their profile impressed us and appealed we'd reply.

Focus on the things you can do to improve your chances, not the things that should come second.

Thanks for the reply! So in my experience, only folks who view my profile are men, even women. Who reply rarely view it ??"

Most women and a lot of couples view in

mode and so you'll never know that they've checked out your profile, but believe me, if you've messaged them, they have

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

I have missed messages. And lost messages from people that I liked because I am totally not on top of the Fabmin. Someone that resent the same message or sent another message within a short period will probably get deleted. Someone who sent a new message a couple weeks later and it was clear they had read my (far too long) profile. I would be fine with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any advice welcome lol, I'd surely like my fab journey to be not over quite so soon! "

Ok. If you message someone and they read it and don't reply. Give it a day as they might be busy. If no reply. DONT message again. Delete your message. They are not interested. Depends what your message says. Be nice. Start with, hello I'm ( your name) I like your profile and would love to hear back from you if your interested.

Just keep one or two cock pics and keep others on friend only and state in profile that you can share pics on request. Yes, I know I've got more on mine but I don't approach first very often.

People don't like pushy people. Once a contact is established then you can message more. Good luck

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"Thanks for the reply! So in my experience, only folks who view my profile are men, even women. Who reply rarely view it ??"

The vast majority of women and couples are in ninja mode. They will always check your profile before a reply and you would have no idea.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

Most women and a lot of couples view in

mode and so you'll never know that they've checked out your profile, but believe me, if you've messaged them, they have"

Oh god yeah I am not letting people see I am checking their profile. Partly for perving purposes. Partly because just reading one send a flurry of messages that I don't want.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"If I'd messaged everyone I was interested with little to no success then I'd worry less about who to try next and wonder more why all the messages already sent had born no fruit?

It's pointless focusing on message content and neglecting the important bit - your profile.

Some people could send us a simple 'hi' and if their profile impressed us and appealed we'd reply.

Focus on the things you can do to improve your chances, not the things that should come second.

Thanks for the reply! So in my experience, only folks who view my profile are men, even women. Who reply rarely view it ??

Most women and a lot of couples view in

mode and so you'll never know that they've checked out your profile, but believe me, if you've messaged them, they have"

Yep. We're ninjas. Nobody knows when we perve....I mean 'view' a profile.

But we do it 100% of the time before opening a message. And if there's nothing in there of interest we delete the message and often block too. It's the easiest way to work, guarantees there'll be no future approaches from them and saves time writing replies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh dear, I don't really think this thread is going to do you many favours OP.

Try just taking a step back and think about what you're telling everyone on fab with your status and this thread.

'You've messaged everyone'

Then you're mentioning about considering sending a second message.

Your whole post screams of desperation.

I really do wonder what your expectations of the site were when you joined.

1. Nobody owes you a reply.

2. No reply is to be taken as 'No thank you' - it's covered in site FAQs

As others have said, sending a second message when you haven't received a reply to your first will just earn you a block.

You've only been on fab for 3 months. Most single men don't get their first meet until they've been here for about a year.

You are aware that single men outnumber the ladies by over 100 to 1.

Think about how many messages women must get on here from people like yourself.

Could you cope with a full inbox every day?

People have lives outside of fab. Give them time. Be patient.

Lol, your probably right, it is possibly an expression of desperation, but not for the reason you think, I'm not desperate for meets or sex , despite what the assumption probably is, I'm desperate to understand the etiquette/ logic / process of how people view unread messages. I have a verified couples profile, and have experience the other side of the fence, but I only know our personal situation with regards to unopened messages, and as this thread has already shown, people's opinions are varied. My intent with this post wasn't to change my success rates, just to consider the best way to proceed!

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover

Honestly, we wouldn’t be interested just because of the amount of dick pics on your profile. Yes we like a dick, but there are so many on here!

Hope this helps

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Any advice welcome lol, I'd surely like my fab journey to be not over quite so soon! "

Get to clubs and organised Socials

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I would say as you've asked for advice I wouldn't reply to a penis that's just me though, maybe re look at your approach and the info available on your bio.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha, I forgot about ninja mode

Well thanks everyone for your advice , varied and often scathing advice but all solicited so cannot complain!

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover

"Haha, I forgot about ninja mode

Well thanks everyone for your advice , varied and often scathing advice but all solicited so cannot complain!

Just try revamping the pics and see if it helps

Like lots of others said, a club or social would be great

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

"Honestly, we wouldn’t be interested just because of the amount of dick pics on your profile. Yes we like a dick, but there are so many on here!

Hope this helps"

Would have to agree, to put it in perspective i get at least 15 messages every day from mens profiles who pictures are just cock pics. Thats me on a guys profile, now imagine the numbers couples/single females get daily.

It gets boring after the first 20 profiles. Thats a good and fairly easy way to mix your profile up and make you stand out above the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say lose the dick pics or at least some of them and add more clothed pics.

Also a bit more info in your profile would be good .

Good luck and hope this helps

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By *ed MartinMan
over a year ago

Shefford

Stop leading with your dick. No matter how nice you think your messages are, people don’t want stranger’s unsolicited dicks in their face, so are likely deleting your messages unread because of the first impression you are currently giving. Change your profile picture to something other than your erect peen, set that pic to private, and wait for people to ask to see it before you send it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haha, I forgot about ninja mode

Well thanks everyone for your advice , varied and often scathing advice but all solicited so cannot complain!

Just try revamping the pics and see if it helps

Like lots of others said, a club or social would be great"

The dick picks are the revamp from the face pics only lol. Wife's advice, lol think she's trying to sabotage me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it says on your profile that you are happily married - suggest you set up a couples profile, you may get more luck with that (though possibly your wife will and you may then get jealous).

Personally, I would get rid of the dick pics, but who am I to give advice when my pics are kept hidden (or if public non revealing) - plus you say you have had most success with the dick pic (but I really find it a very strange approach).

Also, amazed that you say that "I've messaged everyone I'd be willing to travel/meet chat with" - that sounds like a blanket approach, and guessing there was a lot of copy and paste. I would find that off putting. But then again, I tend not to message anyone unless their profile/update suddenly catches my attention - prefer not to bother people (though there are plenty in the Forum who make me smile).

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By *am_LincolnMan
over a year ago

Prestatyn

I wouldn't bother with sending messages on here. Doesn't really lead anywhere. Focus on socialising through events/forum

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Haha, I forgot about ninja mode

Well thanks everyone for your advice , varied and often scathing advice but all solicited so cannot complain!

Just try revamping the pics and see if it helps

Like lots of others said, a club or social would be great

The dick picks are the revamp from the face pics only lol. Wife's advice, lol think she's trying to sabotage me

That's another issue then, you're married.

I read every single msg, unless I can see from the preview that it's crude. I will reply if I'm remotely interested, or with some constructive criticism of I think they have some promise. Otherwise it's a no. But I also delete all the messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't bother with sending messages on here. Doesn't really lead anywhere. Focus on socialising through events/forum"

Thinking I've burned any hope in these forums

lol, maybe ill wait for the heat to die down, change profile name, put.my peen away and come back later lol

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I wouldn't bother with sending messages on here. Doesn't really lead anywhere. Focus on socialising through events/forum"

Depends who you message and your tone/chat

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over a year ago

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Having an unwrapped cock having sex would be an instant delete from me and anyone who cares about their sexual health.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haha, I forgot about ninja mode

Well thanks everyone for your advice , varied and often scathing advice but all solicited so cannot complain!

Just try revamping the pics and see if it helps

Like lots of others said, a club or social would be great

The dick picks are the revamp from the face pics only lol. Wife's advice, lol think she's trying to sabotage me

That's another issue then, you're married.

Well thanks for the insight! I may have a dick pick, but I am a person behind the dick pick haha. And yes, I'm married and have a couples profile, and have done meets, but we are trying solo profiles, and yeah, much different experience this side of the fence. It's brutal honestly lol , I don't think there's one approach that works for everyone, and when you study a profile, and tailor your advances to that person , and still come up empty 9 times out of 10, I do see why people start to be lackluster with their efforts.

Still, this has been very insightful and enlightening!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having an unwrapped cock having sex would be an instant delete from me and anyone who cares about their sexual health."

Even when it's.my wife?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Would message again as messages often get lost amongst the many! I wouldn't know instantly weather or not someone had messaged a second time until I opened it! Worth a go? X

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

And good luck op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's too many in my inbox to even get to some of the messages to be able to read them.

Delete from your sent box and don't think about it.

I may reply to someone in two weeks time because it may have taken me that long to get to their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I leave them alone mate.

That simple.

There's no trick or technique.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Having an unwrapped cock having sex would be an instant delete from me and anyone who cares about their sexual health.

Even when it's.my wife?

If you have a couples profile on here, verified and you've met from that - then put the profile name on your solo profile so people can reference it.

Many couples play separately and do just that so that people can be sure it's the truth.

Many single people claim to have had successful previous profiles, say they're part of a couple on here and that they are returning members and that they had elevtybillion veris on their old now deleted profile. All without a shred of evidence.

Seeing is believing. Otherwise it's just words on a page.

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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago

stafford

Sometimes persistence is key

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Re message. Sometimes the timings aren't right and then they become right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you've completed level 1. Time for level 2. Clubs.

Wait I thought Level 2 was having a forum whinge Level 3 is clubs. Level 4 is forum meltdown. Level 5 move off grid develop sexual internet in penguins.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

My solution to the whole no response problem is to throw a spanner in the works.

I don't message anyone and haven't done in 3½ years so see how they like that with their no response attitude!

That confuses the matrix and they have to plug in and find me and my glitch.

I've built it so obviously they will cum.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

If this had happened to me I'd cut my cock off, hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely don’t double message. It’s annoying and comes across as desperate

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Change strategies and avoid messaging again. Do swinging in alternative ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were you and I got no reply that’s a clear message not interested so just move on. As a woman I can’t abide being pestered it’s just creepy and annoying.

If you’re not getting anywhere like you’ve stated I’d try the clubs you’ll find people who are more receptive I think. Good luck

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

Do it AGAIN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you've completed level 1. Time for level 2. Clubs.

Wait I thought Level 2 was having a forum whinge Level 3 is clubs. Level 4 is forum meltdown. Level 5 move off grid develop sexual internet in penguins. "

Im definitely in the penguins then

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

The joy of being straight lol.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago

London

"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

You just need mine Samantha. It's right here. Click on the name bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

You just need mine Samantha. It's right here. Click on the name bit

Evening Brucey

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?"

Not that I’m aware of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

Dorset to Newcastle is quite a long way to travel for a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

Dorset to Newcastle is quite a long way to travel for a shag

You missing out....awwww

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By *929Man
over a year ago

northumberland

Keep messaging, they likely just got distracted and forgot to reply and need a reminder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These ladies get inundated - a polite message with a nice face pic for starters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep messaging, they likely just got distracted and forgot to reply and need a reminder "

Seriously? That like pulling pin out of hand grenade and asking him to hold it whilst playing hide & seek

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

Dorset to Newcastle is quite a long way to travel for a shag

I can step up for him, I'm a little closer

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

Dorset to Newcastle is quite a long way to travel for a shag

I can step up for him, I'm a little closer

Only a mere six hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

Dorset to Newcastle is quite a long way to travel for a shag

I can step up for him, I'm a little closer

Only a mere six hours

3 hours for me, but we'd have to meet half way. It's a bloody trek!

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By *929Man
over a year ago

northumberland

"Keep messaging, they likely just got distracted and forgot to reply and need a reminder

Seriously? That like pulling pin out of hand grenade and asking him to hold it whilst playing hide & seek

Haha I was working on the assumption he’d have the sense not to take my advice seriously but kind of hoped he would take it serious

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over a year ago

"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

Dorset to Newcastle is quite a long way to travel for a shag

I can step up for him, I'm a little closer

Only a mere six hours

Well by that assumption in hours I'm definitely nearer

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

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"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

Dorset to Newcastle is quite a long way to travel for a shag

I can step up for him, I'm a little closer

Only a mere six hours

3 hours for me, but we'd have to meet half way. It's a bloody trek!"

Three hours is a stones throw

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I find it hard to comprehend that you could have messaged every woman that you may have an interest in… I could browse mens profiles all day every day and still never reach the end of the list

Have you tried searching by different postcodes or slightly different age filters?

Definitely don’t double message. I (and many others) will block if someone messages a second time with no response. It’s just irritating and needy. If someone is interested, they will reply

Question is, did he message you?

Not that I’m aware of

Only two outcomes here then...he's lying or ......

Dorset to Newcastle is quite a long way to travel for a shag

I can step up for him, I'm a little closer

Only a mere six hours

All I read was sex hours

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

As you said you've had some replies. Lots of people don't even get that. So to get 'mild' interest is a good result.

I'm curious; what was your expectation?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It depends how quick you send the next message ,if it's quite soon I'd block as it looks pushy & there's usually a reason I didn't reply to the first one.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

"So you've completed level 1. Time for level 2. Clubs.

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I was about to suggest the same thing as well that clubs are the best choice

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

"If you don't get a reply, they're not interested.

What exactly were you expecting to happen?

It's not ubershags..."

This!! ^^^^^^

What an idea! Go on the website, we’ll call it “H**kers who hook and Gigolo’s with a jiggle” (we’ll work on that), choose your poison, a couple of clicks and they’re driven to your door!

I think we have the makings of the new internet business of the year!!

Now for the Dragons!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Give up....get some cats and live happily ever after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd send again.

At time of writing I have 34 unreads in my inbox. It's nothing personal, it's just that a lot of them don't inspire me to respond right away. I'll get round to it at some point.

So yes, re-send but make messages interesting and personalised.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness, that is life.”

- J L Picard

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