FabSwingers.com forum: Sometimes I'm nice. Sometimes I'm not

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Today I'm not. I am a bit cranky, my profile says to pass me by today, but my bitchyness has surfaced. Messages I have received I've replied with sarcasm like ' yes by all means ignore my profile text coz when it says I'm not chatting what that actually means is the opposite with a screenshot of several weeks ago, copy and pasted same old message from them.

Now I feel at odds with myself. I feel mean but justified.

When you have them kind of days, how mean can you get? And does it get counteracted with how nice you can be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's ever really justification for being mean. When I'm having a day like that I just avoid people, be in my own miserable bubble and go back to them when I'm feeling better. We all have bad days but it's not fair to project that onto others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think there's ever really justification for being mean. When I'm having a day like that I just avoid people, be in my own miserable bubble and go back to them when I'm feeling better. We all have bad days but it's not fair to project that onto others."

I agree with no justification to be mean but also don't. That's why I'm in the two mindsets. I put on my profile pass me by to be in my bubble, maybe my approach in sarcasm isn't the best but I'll own it. Try a better way next time.

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By *anderingArtistMan
over a year ago

an abstract world

I kind of do what you've done. Whether it's online, in person or over the phone. I'm very blunt and openly say I'm not in the mood.

If people ignore it then, in my eyes, they've brought it on themselves.

Don't feel bad for not suffering fools gladly.

You are the most important person you need to focus on. Everyone/everything else can wait.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

(Holds out arms towards the OP)

Would you like a hug?

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Maybe log off and go and scream into your pillow?

If it was earlier, I wold say go for a walk somewhere green and peaceful xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to notice the fizz rising.

It's awful, it's less angry and more looking for a justifiable target.

As personality traits go, its right up there with microwaving fish based dishes at work.

Ask me what's wrong and mean it though, or observe that I'm not happy and oddly I'll be powered down. Go at me head on, I'll fight tooth and nail.

Bit of a prick, basically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah no, that sounds like far too much effort. If Im grumpy I normally just throw something. And then go for a walk.

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