FabSwingers.com forum: 'good girl'

By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does nothing for me

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I hate it with a passion.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Nah, it's crass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say 'good boy' to the dog and he then stares at me and shits on my lovely lawn. I dare not think where Penny would shit if I called her a good girl, I'm imagining somewhere in my man cave.

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By *eelGoodIncMan
over a year ago

Mids

It kills my hard on whenever anybody says it to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I shouldn't like it but I do. I want all the praise to be honest but only if its genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope ...creepy behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who I'm with and our vibe. If we are playing D/s and I want to submit, it's a turn on.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"nope ...creepy behaviour "

Your name is fantastic. That's all I'm saying on this thread. :D

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!"

Nope. Instant turn off, as is any reference to Daddy. Urgh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the right moment, using the terms 'good girl' or 'bad girl' can really enhance the experience for Mrs A.

In the wrong moment, not so much.

Perspective and situational mindset make all the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I shouldn't like it but I do. I want all the praise to be honest but only if its genuine "

This would work for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d suggest that they went to specsavers if they called me a good girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I shouldn't like it but I do. I want all the praise to be honest but only if its genuine "

This.

Is it a bit cringe? Yeah, but I kinda like it if it’s said by certain people.

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"I say 'good boy' to the dog and he then stares at me and shits on my lovely lawn. I dare not think where Penny would shit if I called her a good girl, I'm imagining somewhere in my man cave."

You shouldn't make eye contact with a shitting dog!

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"nope ...creepy behaviour

Your name is fantastic. That's all I'm saying on this thread. :D"

Said like a good girl

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Love it but only by my Mr

Anyone else it just gives me the ick

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Random use by a stranger without a context is creepy af.

In well established D/S relationship it’s a turn on.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

Does nothing for me but I have seen it received very positively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say it to the wife after she swallows my load

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No does the opposite I'd probably tell them to shut up.

Mrs

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!"

Called me what ya want Brucey

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

Would probably make me go soft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought I'd hate it, and in principle I still do, but years ago someone said it to me mid-action and it instantly tipped me over into orgasm. My body and mind clearly don't agree on what's arousing....

Nell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woof!

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"I always thought I'd hate it, and in principle I still do, but years ago someone said it to me mid-action and it instantly tipped me over into orgasm. My body and mind clearly don't agree on what's arousing....

Nell"

This is it. I think it's one of those many think on paper sounds immature and tacky. But in the moment...

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Would probably make me go soft"

Which is....good...for you right?

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Called me what ya want Brucey "

Ohh ghandyyyyy

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

It depends who is saying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love calling a sub a good girl.

If she deserves it

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It is definitely for me, as long as it is used as praise for something I've done. If not it's a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nell"

It's about separating it between what it means to us in a day to day setting, and losing yourself in the moment.

It's a definition of open minded, being able to view it, appreciate it from both angles.

In my opinion, anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guess i'll take one for the team.. yes, i fucking love it

when used in the right setting or play scene, with the right people, it's part of a dynamic i thoroughly enjoy.. but i'll shut up now or the fitchforks will be out to get me

different strokes for different folks! Px

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By *oinerbillMan
over a year ago

warrington

"I say 'good boy' to the dog and he then stares at me and shits on my lovely lawn. I dare not think where Penny would shit if I called her a good girl, I'm imagining somewhere in my man cave."

She has keys for the man cave !!!!!

I can change the locks if you want, let me know

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

Most of the time it would be a no but if I'm feeling subby with someone I trust then yes it works.

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

I actually bloody love it, BUT the person, tone and timing has to be just right

If not, it just sounds a bit weird/ like they are trying too hard

K x

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I only use it if they really are a good girl, some people take it out of context and usually the same ones that have issues with tartan mini skirts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it. And beeing told. Omg your so wet.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I love it, but depends on who it is saying it and when. I can hear one fabber saying it in my head as a read the words and it sends a pleasurable tingle at the thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only use it if they really are a good girl, some people take it out of context and usually the same ones that have issues with tartan mini skirts "

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Fuck right off with that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me one bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only use it if they really are a good girl, some people take it out of context and usually the same ones that have issues with tartan mini skirts "

Tartan mini skirts you say

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I only use it if they really are a good girl, some people take it out of context and usually the same ones that have issues with tartan mini skirts

Tartan mini skirts you say

You really do wear yours well

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl. "

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

I like it and it turns me on, don't know why.

I absolutely hate with a passion being called a dirty slut or anything like that during sex. Maybe that's why I like it, seems the opposite to me.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho !

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho ! "

It's praise and nothing more, no adult is a little girl or boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho !

It's praise and nothing more, no adult is a little girl or boy "

It’s praise only if you like it. Just sounds creepy to me

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho !

It's praise and nothing more, no adult is a little girl or boy "

The op asked if I like it. I replied what I think. I hear good girl/ little girl. Why are you trying to argue/justify it ?

I gave my opinion. You want to call grown ass women good girl then go ahead. Some like it some dont.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Called me what ya want Brucey

Ohh ghandyyyyy"

Now my knees have just buckled, instant lob on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me but hey she can call me a good boy lol

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho !

It's praise and nothing more, no adult is a little girl or boy

The op asked if I like it. I replied what I think. I hear good girl/ little girl. Why are you trying to argue/justify it ?

I gave my opinion. You want to call grown ass women good girl then go ahead. Some like it some dont. "

I'm not arguing or trying to justify, I'm saying it how I see it the same as you're

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho !

It's praise and nothing more, no adult is a little girl or boy

It’s praise only if you like it. Just sounds creepy to me

Praise isn't for everyone, if it's not for you then it's not for you

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

Ask the same question on a kink site you'll get a much different response.

Fab is too vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho ! "

This is what I mean about perspective.

Day to day life, if I was to say good girl to Mrs A, she'd either laugh or put me right.

She does though at times like to be subservient, not in a ddlg way, that really isn't our thing, but in a way to serve, to do as she's told, almost like the fantasy secretary role, and in those moments, said at the right time can tip her over the edge.

The term is used in very different ways, similar to saying someone is the biggest dick you've met, and being excited because it's the biggest dick you've had.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Ask the same question on a kink site you'll get a much different response.

Fab is too vanilla. "

More vanilla than a tub of ice cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask the same question on a kink site you'll get a much different response.

Fab is too vanilla. "

It's not that it's vanilla, it's a different flavour of scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask the same question on a kink site you'll get a much different response.

Fab is too vanilla.

It's not that it's vanilla, it's a different flavour of scene."

Though, not nearly as open minded as one might expect.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think I shouldn't like it but I do. I want all the praise to be honest but only if its genuine

This would work for me too

And me

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

"Ask the same question on a kink site you'll get a much different response.

Fab is too vanilla.

It's not that it's vanilla, it's a different flavour of scene.

Though, not nearly as open minded as one might expect. "

From some of the topics I've seen on here it's very far from open minded sadly.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I say it in everyday life to most women they all get wetter than a bulldogs mugshot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask the same question on a kink site you'll get a much different response.

Fab is too vanilla.

It's not that it's vanilla, it's a different flavour of scene.

Though, not nearly as open minded as one might expect.

From some of the topics I've seen on here it's very far from open minded sadly.

Agreed. Sadly.

And we're not extreme in our fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nope ...creepy behaviour

Your name is fantastic. That's all I'm saying on this thread. :D"

Thanks x

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By *om-4-SubMan
over a year ago

KILMARNOCK

"Random use by a stranger without a context is creepy af.

In well established D/S relationship it’s a turn on."

Agree

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Cringe. Would probably be game over if anyone said that to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cringe. Would probably be game over if anyone said that to me. "

I’m willing to take a chance

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!"

If anyone called me a good girl during sex I'd advise them to take a trip to specsavers and brush up on basic anatomy....

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"nope ...creepy behaviour

Your name is fantastic. That's all I'm saying on this thread. :D

Said like a good girl

I was so tempted to do another emote you incorrigible man.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Of course, if you have that type of relationship it’s very normal and well received.

But it would be very odd saying it if you don’t.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Clearly the lesson is some hate it some love it so check before using.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho !

It's praise and nothing more, no adult is a little girl or boy "

Did the boobs give it away, gosh darn it

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Clearly the lesson is some hate it some love it so check before using. "

If you need to ask you’re doing it wrong , honestly.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho !

It's praise and nothing more, no adult is a little girl or boy

Did the boobs give it away, gosh darn it

Your boobs may give you away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately, it's never happened to me

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

Does wonders for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it when my man says it but wouldn't want anyone else to say it to me.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Does wonders for me

good girl

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I find the sound of a good clap to be just as powerful combined with eye contact in a lot of cases even if its someone you hardly know in a public or work setting you can see then trying hard to hide the minge twinge

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I find the sound of a good clap to be just as powerful combined with eye contact in a lot of cases even if its someone you hardly know in a public or work setting you can see then trying hard to hide the minge twinge "

If Karen is pouring the milk into the tea at the time I think she will be pretty pissed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Minge twinge"

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Nope. Instant turn off, as is any reference to Daddy. Urgh."

Absolutely this

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I find its ok as long as your stroking their hair into a centre part while they’re on their knees in front of you - bent over the frozen veg section in Morrisons… not as receptive !!

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

If Karen is pouring the milk into the tea at the time I think she will be pretty pissed

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squirting isnt piss

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

"Minge twinge"

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much better than a prat pulse

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

…. Also just found out that in a work situation patting your boss on the arse as she goes through a door you held open and saying it means - ‘we have to have a conversation with HR’ which is fine by me as she has smashing norks!!

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"guess i'll take one for the team.. yes, i fucking love it

when used in the right setting or play scene, with the right people, it's part of a dynamic i thoroughly enjoy.. but i'll shut up now or the fitchforks will be out to get me

different strokes for different folks! Px

Exactly the same for me totally and only with the right person, at the right moment in the exact particular setting totally does ot for me

Tinder x

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

With the right person, yes, but it rarely happens, because I am quite disobedient!

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

"With the right person, yes, but it rarely happens, because I am quite disobedient!

Oooooh Good Girl!!!

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

"Does wonders for me

good girl"

Not just from a random, though

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By *prilSubTV/TS
over a year ago

If I'm presenting fem and in a kinky situation where my goal is to do as I'm told and pleasure the person I'm with exactly as they require me to it can be quite validating and sexy to be called "good girl"

Also if I'm being spanked and I successfully take a sustained period of punishment it can be a nice reward.

It can definitely be creepy as hell in the wrong context by the wrong person. I think if I was a woman it would be condescending but being non binary and using sex to feel gratification and be seen as like a woman it can really turn me on.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Depends who is saying it and when. But by the right person, at the right time... explosive. By the wrong person at any time... explosive in a different way

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!"

Funny one for me this.

In a fun dom sub moment it is something that I think could turn me on. But due to a fucking idiot years ago it takes me out of the moment and to place that is less enjoyable. So I generally ask for this not to be used.

However I also like to rebel. So if I hadn't had that shitty experience I suspect that someone calling me good girl would very much make me want to stop what I am doing so that I could be a bad girl.

If someone called me good girl in any other situation in work or life then they would absolutely not be receiving fun responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?"

Why would it be a power trip to praise someone?

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

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By *lipzer KnicksaffWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

Only if I have a bone in my gub at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?"

In some dynamics, I guess it could play a part, like a sub dom situation.

And in that case, that's the whole point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

In some dynamics, I guess it could play a part, like a sub dom situation.

And in that case, that's the whole point. "

I don't think it's a power trip when saying it, yes in a dynamic there is one but not in that particular moment for me

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By *prilSubTV/TS
over a year ago

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

Why would it be a power trip to praise someone? "

Because presumably the person being praised isn't a child but the term "good girl" is infantalising and absolutely has a power dynamic to it. Try saying "good girl" to any adult in any other situation and see if they feel like they're being talked down to.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it. "

We need voice notes on here

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

Why would it be a power trip to praise someone?

Think it all depends on the person receiving it, everyone is different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

In some dynamics, I guess it could play a part, like a sub dom situation.

And in that case, that's the whole point.

I don't think it's a power trip when saying it, yes in a dynamic there is one but not in that particular moment for me"

I mean, if their dynamic is sub dom, then to use the term is playing the dynamic.

I don't think using it alone is necessarily a power trip.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

In some dynamics, I guess it could play a part, like a sub dom situation.

And in that case, that's the whole point.

I don't think it's a power trip when saying it, yes in a dynamic there is one but not in that particular moment for me

I mean, if their dynamic is sub dom, then to use the term is playing the dynamic.

I don't think using it alone is necessarily a power trip."

I agree, saying it alone is simply just either praise or possibly taking the piss depending on tone

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By *prilSubTV/TS
over a year ago

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

Why would it be a power trip to praise someone?

Think it all depends on the person receiving it, everyone is different "

Yes everyone is different but I can't see how there isn't am imbedded power dynamic in someone calling someone else "good girl". It's praise but it's from a perspective of authority or power regardless of how minute that might be.

I'm not saying it implies a strict D/s dynamic or anything really kinky but there's a reason why the majority of women in this thread find it a turn off. It's a phrase with so much weight to it and can illicit very strong responses because of how much meaning it carries. If someone is sucking your cock just right and you say "yeah just like that" it's a mostly neutral phrasing but if you say "good girl" that is putting yourself in a position of some power regardless of how small.

Not saying it's a bad thing but I don't think you can call someone a good girl without there being an implication that in that moment at least you are assuming dominance over the person you are saying it to. Outside of sex "good boy" and "good girl" are 99% exclusively used by an authoritive figure to give praise to someone younger for their behaviour. The reason it's used in sex is always going to have at least a slight power dynamic behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

F once did it to me whilst she was pegging me, safe to say I wasn't a fan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend on the person and the situation but I'm not entirely averse to it

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By *prilSubTV/TS
over a year ago

"F once did it to me whilst she was pegging me, safe to say I wasn't a fan"

Can she do it to me instead

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"F once did it to me whilst she was pegging me, safe to say I wasn't a fan"

The more I hear about her the more I love her

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?"
not to me its just the way i speak like calling a lass lass some may think im calling them a name for a dog but its just how i talk if a lass does something good anything at all i usually say good girl or good lass

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

Why would it be a power trip to praise someone?

Think it all depends on the person receiving it, everyone is different

Personally I think saying yeah just like that is more of a power trip than saying good girl, that's my view on it.

If a guy at a woman's football match says yes, good girl for a good tackle or goal etc then I really don't think she's going to mind and think he's on a power trip because she's a adult

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"F once did it to me whilst she was pegging me, safe to say I wasn't a fan"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"F once did it to me whilst she was pegging me, safe to say I wasn't a fan"

Ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

We need voice notes on here

Eh I think you’ve heard enough

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

We need voice notes on here

Eh I think you’ve heard enough

I disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yuck. Hate it.

I’m no one’s little girl.

Little girl and good girl are 2 completely different things

That’s what I hear tho !

It's praise and nothing more, no adult is a little girl or boy

It’s praise only if you like it. Just sounds creepy to me

Praise isn't for everyone, if it's not for you then it's not for you "

I like praise just not in a derogatory way which is how I would see it if a man said that to me.

But everyone likes different things. This is just my take on it

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By *prilSubTV/TS
over a year ago

"If a guy at a woman's football match says yes, good girl for a good tackle or goal etc then I really don't think she's going to mind and think he's on a power trip because she's a adult "

I think if you see an adult woman excelling at her job and your response is to say "good girl" you're being condescending and demonstrating your perceived power over someone whether you realise it or not. I've never been at a football match and heard someone shout "good boy" when a player makes a well timed tackle. Nor have I been in any situation ever where someone has called a man a good boy for doing his job correctly. We're getting into the politics of gender a bit and the double standards around how men and women are perceived in power structures but if you don't agree that's fine. I personally don't think it's possible to call a woman a good girl in any situation and there not be a power dynamic, whether intentional or not.

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By *hGlobbitsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd probably find it a bit offputting, tbh.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"If a guy at a woman's football match says yes, good girl for a good tackle or goal etc then I really don't think she's going to mind and think he's on a power trip because she's a adult

I think you're being presumptions about it and making it something it's not.

I've seen plenty of guys being called a good boy myself included in work and none of them got flakey about it.

Words only have the power someone gives them if they don't actually have any control over you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy at a woman's football match says yes, good girl for a good tackle or goal etc then I really don't think she's going to mind and think he's on a power trip because she's a adult

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a threesome with another bloke

Afterwards, the guy told me that 'I'd trained my OH well'

I mean what does that even mean??

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"We had a threesome with another bloke

Afterwards, the guy told me that 'I'd trained my OH well'

I mean what does that even mean??"

Did she roll over and sit nicely when asked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a threesome with another bloke

Afterwards, the guy told me that 'I'd trained my OH well'

I mean what does that even mean??

Did she roll over and sit nicely when asked? "

When it suits

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"We had a threesome with another bloke

Afterwards, the guy told me that 'I'd trained my OH well'

I mean what does that even mean??

Did she roll over and sit nicely when asked?

When it suits

No idea then

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a guy at a woman's football match says yes, good girl for a good tackle or goal etc then I really don't think she's going to mind and think he's on a power trip because she's a adult

I think you're being presumptions about it and making it something it's not.

I've seen plenty of guys being called a good boy myself included in work and none of them got flakey about it.

Words only have the power someone gives them if they don't actually have any control over you. "

WOW… To be fare that does sound a really strange work place if you get told that alot.

I work in management and would never dream of saying to my colleagues good girl or good boy sounds very unprofessional and creepy.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"If a guy at a woman's football match says yes, good girl for a good tackle or goal etc then I really don't think she's going to mind and think he's on a power trip because she's a adult

I think you're being presumptions about it and making it something it's not.

I've seen plenty of guys being called a good boy myself included in work and none of them got flakey about it.

Words only have the power someone gives them if they don't actually have any control over you.

WOW… To be fare that does sound a really strange work place if you get told that alot.

I work in management and would never dream of saying to my colleagues good girl or good boy sounds very unprofessional and creepy. "

Not by a manager, by other work colleagues that have no power over you. Wouldn’t bother me if a manager said good boy to me though as I'd just laugh as it means nothing

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

We need voice notes on here

Eh I think you’ve heard enough

I disagree

Jeez Louise if they did voice notes on here. I've perfected 'good girl'

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

We need voice notes on here

Eh I think you’ve heard enough

I disagree

Jeez Louise if they did voice notes on here. I've perfected 'good girl'

You want me to send you a video to show you how it's done Brucey? You can use it to creep out all the haters

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

At any point, a huge turn off.

Mrs

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Nope deffo not my thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im quite partial to it from the right person. Its quite likely to have me straight in his trousers.

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

"We had a threesome with another bloke

Afterwards, the guy told me that 'I'd trained my OH well'

I mean what does that even mean??"

It means she was a good girl and did as she was told lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind if its within my seperate kink. Random stranger sex, not so much..

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

"We had a threesome with another bloke

Afterwards, the guy told me that 'I'd trained my OH well'

I mean what does that even mean??"

That is horrible. Nice of him to remove all their agency!

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Random vanilla style meets, it possibly wouldn't be taken the right way.

D/s sort of meets are an entirely different animal though...if she loves 'Dirty cum guzzling slut', then she probably likes to be a good girl too- but i always do my research first

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

We need voice notes on here

Eh I think you’ve heard enough

I disagree

Jeez Louise if they did voice notes on here. I've perfected 'good girl'

You want me to send you a video to show you how it's done Brucey? You can use it to creep out all the haters

How about we both send each other then until we accidentally turn each other on and leave these women behind eh?

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Im quite partial to it from the right person. Its quite likely to have me straight in his trousers.

There's 'partial' and then theres it taking you straight to his trousers. Sure you don't love it?.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

We need voice notes on here

Eh I think you’ve heard enough

I disagree

Jeez Louise if they did voice notes on here. I've perfected 'good girl'

You want me to send you a video to show you how it's done Brucey? You can use it to creep out all the haters

How about we both send each other then until we accidentally turn each other on and leave these women behind eh?"

I don't think I'm going to get turned on by a video of anyone saying good girl, not even you Brucey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the dynamic, the person and the discussions you've had before.

As usual, context matters

Have I said it, yes...will I say it again...yes.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I refuse to comment on how I feel about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said. It depends on the person saying it.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

"Only if I have a bone in my gub at the time."

For absolute clarity - this doesn’t mean a cock does it???

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I remember a girl calling me daddy when i was about 20/21 can’t lie - absolutely shit myself at the thought - so she got binned….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I refuse to comment on how I feel about it

This is not like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the right person in the right certain scenario, I find it hot as fuck and gives me the fanny gallops!

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

We need voice notes on here

Eh I think you’ve heard enough

I disagree

Jeez Louise if they did voice notes on here. I've perfected 'good girl'

You want me to send you a video to show you how it's done Brucey? You can use it to creep out all the haters

How about we both send each other then until we accidentally turn each other on and leave these women behind eh?

I don't think I'm going to get turned on by a video of anyone saying good girl, not even you Brucey

Only one way to find out handsome!

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"As others have said. It depends on the person saying it.

My dad?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"It’s also about the tone in which it’s said. If it’s in a patronising way, then no. If it’s used as praise in certain situations then I’m all for it.

We need voice notes on here

Eh I think you’ve heard enough

I disagree

Jeez Louise if they did voice notes on here. I've perfected 'good girl'

You want me to send you a video to show you how it's done Brucey? You can use it to creep out all the haters

How about we both send each other then until we accidentally turn each other on and leave these women behind eh?

I don't think I'm going to get turned on by a video of anyone saying good girl, not even you Brucey

Only one way to find out handsome!"

Hey, I'm a good, good girl

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"I refuse to comment on how I feel about it

This is not like you

Ask me again when I can sit comfortably

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

I absolutely love it

But like many have said, it has to be said by the right person, in the right moment, and in the right way. X

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?"

Not at all, the opposite. When I say it’s because I know she loves it and wants to feel like she’s being good and pleasing me , it’s feedback.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

With the right person and in the right context it’s wonderful.

If it’s not in that situation it does nothing for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

Not at all, the opposite. When I say it’s because I know she loves it and wants to feel like she’s being good and pleasing me , it’s feedback."

like a performance appraisal

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Is it a power trip for the person saying it?

Not at all, the opposite. When I say it’s because I know she loves it and wants to feel like she’s being good and pleasing me , it’s feedback.

like a performance appraisal "

It is like that, just a lot hotter. A certain posters latest video demonstrates it perfectly...

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!"

Brucey, old thing, I’ll be honest - I haven’t read any posts above.

But are you basically hinting you want daddy to call you a good girl whilst he makes sweet love to you?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Brucey, old thing, I’ll be honest - I haven’t read any posts above.

But are you basically hinting you want daddy to call you a good girl whilst he makes sweet love to you?"

That’s the gist of it

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Brucey, old thing, I’ll be honest - I haven’t read any posts above.

But are you basically hinting you want daddy to call you a good girl whilst he makes sweet love to you?

That’s the gist of it

I knew it!! Right, people (and I may have missed this as well, for which I apologise), we need the biggest raging bull on fab. A muscle bound alpha dog with a massive swinger and roid rage to make Brucey his good girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Brucey, old thing, I’ll be honest - I haven’t read any posts above.

But are you basically hinting you want daddy to call you a good girl whilst he makes sweet love to you?

That’s the gist of it

Big Harold

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

"If a guy at a woman's football match says yes, good girl for a good tackle or goal etc then I really don't think she's going to mind and think he's on a power trip because she's a adult

I think you're being presumptions about it and making it something it's not.

I've seen plenty of guys being called a good boy myself included in work and none of them got flakey about it.

Words only have the power someone gives them if they don't actually have any control over you.

WOW… To be fare that does sound a really strange work place if you get told that alot.

I work in management and would never dream of saying to my colleagues good girl or good boy sounds very unprofessional and creepy. "

I completely agree with that.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"If a guy at a woman's football match says yes, good girl for a good tackle or goal etc then I really don't think she's going to mind and think he's on a power trip because she's a adult

I think you're being presumptions about it and making it something it's not.

I've seen plenty of guys being called a good boy myself included in work and none of them got flakey about it.

Words only have the power someone gives them if they don't actually have any control over you.

WOW… To be fare that does sound a really strange work place if you get told that alot.

I work in management and would never dream of saying to my colleagues good girl or good boy sounds very unprofessional and creepy.

I completely agree with that."

I guess they're carefree and think nothing of it, life's easier when you don't take things seriously

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Brucey, old thing, I’ll be honest - I haven’t read any posts above.

But are you basically hinting you want daddy to call you a good girl whilst he makes sweet love to you?

That’s the gist of it

Big Harold "

I would pay to watch this

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Brucey, old thing, I’ll be honest - I haven’t read any posts above.

But are you basically hinting you want daddy to call you a good girl whilst he makes sweet love to you?"

More aggressive than sweet I'd say?

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By *ruceyy OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Brucey, old thing, I’ll be honest - I haven’t read any posts above.

But are you basically hinting you want daddy to call you a good girl whilst he makes sweet love to you?

That’s the gist of it

Big Harold

I would pay to watch this

That's the darkest thing I've read on here. *Lubes up butthole*

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By *poon22TV/TS
over a year ago

Gillingham

Absolutely love it x

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Thoughts on calling or being called it during sex? Is it for you?!

Brucey, old thing, I’ll be honest - I haven’t read any posts above.

But are you basically hinting you want daddy to call you a good girl whilst he makes sweet love to you?

That’s the gist of it

Big Harold

I would pay to watch this

Good to hear! I’m now thinking of finding a venue with tiered seating and catering. Then we can all watch the ritual pounding of Brucey’s poor poochute.

I’ll flog tickets for £25 a pop for standard viewing, £35 if you want to examine the devastation up close. £40 gets you backstage to meet the dastardly doer afterwards.

Binoculars £5

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Do you know what Bruce? Because you get a bit of a hard time on here, I'll reply properly.

I don't really give a fuck if people think less of me or whatever.

Yep, sometimes I love it. Believe me, if it was said in a patronising tone I'd be the first to be up in arms about it.

But a man fucking me, in front of a full length mirror, my hair in his fist as he calls me his good girl for taking his cock so well? Or even when he spanks me and when he's finished, kisses the top of my forehead and calls me a good girl. Don't get me started on my love of being facefucked.

Yep, it's hot. I don't know why I love it so much - possible praise kink? It's not something I need or even want every time. But with the right dynamic it's something I love to hear.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Do you know what Bruce? Because you get a bit of a hard time on here, I'll reply properly.

I don't really give a fuck if people think less of me or whatever.

Yep, sometimes I love it. Believe me, if it was said in a patronising tone I'd be the first to be up in arms about it.

Yep, it's hot. I don't know why I love it so much - possible praise kink? It's not something I need or even want every time. But with the right dynamic it's something I love to hear. "

Nobody should think less of someone for being honest, it's a good thing

You really do paint a pretty picture with your words as always

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By *arberellasswimsuitCouple
over a year ago

hengoed

I prefer you dirty slut lol xx

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Considering I have a praise kink, it fucking does something indeed lol

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Cringe. Would probably be game over if anyone said that to me.

I’m willing to take a chance"

I promise you'd regret it

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over a year ago

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