FabSwingers.com forum: Leaving their mark...

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

Inspired by a conversation on Saturday night and because it's too early for me to do a promised smut thread...

How do you feel about seeing a sexual partner with evidence of another person on them?

Whether that's come on their face/boobs at a gangbang, marks from another sexual partner. Lipstick. You get the idea. Turn on or turn off? Why is that?

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By *unseeker100Man
over a year ago

batley

Big turn on especially if it's a cream pie turn on because she's exercised her sexual freedom and brought it home for daddy

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

I’m going to asume we are talking about an ethical and openly consensual situation? In that case, I love it.

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

I vividly remember Vixen playing with a gorgeous domme last year. Her bruises the next morning were utterly glorious. Both of us were on cloud nine. She completely submitted to her- the first time she ever had to another person (and no, it wasn’t the last time either).

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’m going to asume we are talking about an ethical and openly consensual situation? In that case, I love it.

Yes! Only consensual and ethical. Rather daft for me to assume it was a given, apologies, x

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By *unseeker100Man
over a year ago

batley

"I’m going to asume we are talking about an ethical and openly consensual situation? In that case, I love it.

Absolutely ethical and consensual

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I love my marks, a beautiful reminder of where their hands and mouth have been. I do have to be careful with work attire though but a small price to pay - day to day I don't care who sees them

I do always wonder how they are seen by other partners though. On the one hand I feel like if it's a problem to them then they can move on but then again I understand it can make some nervous so I usually prewarn if I'm meeting someone new and I have bruises and then they can decide to pass.

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"I love my marks, a beautiful reminder of where their hands and mouth have been. I do have to be careful with work attire though but a small price to pay - day to day I don't care who sees them

We enjoy seeing the marks others have made, and enjoy adding to them

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By *weetCherryWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’m going to asume we are talking about an ethical and openly consensual situation? In that case, I love it.

Yes! Only consensual and ethical. Rather daft for me to assume it was a given, apologies, x"

Not daft at all! I am a bit cynical, hence the question.

To the matter of the thread...I find it exhilarating, specially if it is in a shared scenario

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

Not for me! A little scratch is ok but hickeys and things are really just an annoyance to me

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

That scenario hasn't happened yet so not sure how I'd feel. You said it was too early for smut so I've just deleted my second sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical marks no, if Penny came back from a night out Monica Lewinski'd though that would be hot.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Big turn on especially if it's a cream pie turn on because she's exercised her sexual freedom and brought it home for daddy "

Exercised her sexual freedom is such a lovely way of viewing it - it's nice you're embracing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No for me

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only play together but I find it a turn on to see a woman or man covered in my husbands cum

and he feels the same when it’s me covered ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s never happened to me yet so I don’t know how I’d feel about it to be honest.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

Big turn on, as its generally an indicator that there into the same as what I enjoy, I often leave marks....

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I'd rather not. I once bore a perfect bite mark bruise on my bum for weeks which subsequently raised a few eyebrows and questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a no for me. However there is something really hot about the post sex glow, or a dull ache or even a very discreet mark where they might have bitten my shoulder a little too hard. I love it when it's obvious to me and that person but to no one else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D’ya know what the most intoxicating thing is about collecting my partner from some hotwifing………when I can smell his aftershave on her while we drive home. Seeing the tousled hair and missing lipstick. Slightly ruffled, disheveled look of the clothing.

They all add up to amazing sensations in my mind and body.

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By *ristolman1234Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I find it a huge turn on if a partner returned home after being with another man and she has marks on her body showing that he has been there Especially if they take a week or so to disappear like a love bite on her tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had that happen tbh, unless you count the times when my partner was physically enmeshed with another right in front of me. I enjoyed that "evidence" very much!

Nell

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"It's a no for me. However there is something really hot about the post sex glow, or a dull ache or even a very discreet mark where they might have bitten my shoulder a little too hard. I love it when it's obvious to me and that person but to no one else. "

The just been fucked hairstyle, oh boy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Mrs enjoys her arse spanked and a little biting.

Signs of such, lasting beyond the moment are a nice reminder.

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).

The just been fucked hairstyle, oh boy.

This! Depending on the circumstances fresh from the fuck in every sense can be good , red marks, cum, saliva, heat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love sending a wife back to her husband with ripped tights, red ass, cum inside her and the taste of cock in her mouth x

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By *anderingArtistMan
over a year ago

an abstract world

It wouldn't bother me because of what I'm on the site for. I'm not looking for anything serious so I expect a degree of promiscuity when arranging a meet (and would think this goes both ways).

Not sure if it would turn me on but I don't think I'd struggle to look past it. Well, as long as the person was present and not pressing an old bruise to get themselves off while they thought of someone else

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Nope. A real turn off.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Inspired by a conversation on Saturday night and because it's too early for me to do a promised smut thread...

How do you feel about seeing a sexual partner with evidence of another person on them?

Whether that's come on their face/boobs at a gangbang, marks from another sexual partner. Lipstick. You get the idea. Turn on or turn off? Why is that?"

Depends but probably more a turn off for me, lipstick, cum etc unless all together would just say not washed to me

and be a turn off.

Mrs

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I vividly remember Vixen playing with a gorgeous domme last year. Her bruises the next morning were utterly glorious. Both of us were on cloud nine. She completely submitted to her- the first time she ever had to another person (and no, it wasn’t the last time either).

Oh you can read how much you loved that experience.

If you're both rejoicing in an experience like that, I think that those little mementos can really enhance it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Inspired by a conversation on Saturday night and because it's too early for me to do a promised smut thread...

How do you feel about seeing a sexual partner with evidence of another person on them?

Whether that's come on their face/boobs at a gangbang, marks from another sexual partner. Lipstick. You get the idea. Turn on or turn off? Why is that?"

Turn on, then for reclaim sex

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I love my marks, a beautiful reminder of where their hands and mouth have been. I do have to be careful with work attire though but a small price to pay - day to day I don't care who sees them

Yes, you know exactly my line of thought. Odd that. :D

I think with new partners and even with existing it's something that possibly needs to be discussed? Maybe? But how do you go about it? I'm not sure. It's not for everyone and avoiding awkwardness is a good idea.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I dont like it id get competitive and see it as a challenge

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Marks that cannot be removed by a shower on the other half would be a massive no for me.

I often have marks on me somewhere. So it's something I bring up quite quickly if I am planning on meeting someone. At the moment I have fingerprints on my inner thighs, know that may not be to everyone's tastes.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Not for me! A little scratch is ok but hickeys and things are really just an annoyance to me "

An annoyance in what way?

It's fine if it's not for everyone - I think it's more likely to not be for someone than is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need a sexual partner don’t I.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"I dont like it id get competitive and see it as a challenge"

Thats where you go wrong, it's not a competition, as soon as it becomes competitive it's all about you and your masculinity..nothing to do with what your playmate enjoys.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"That scenario hasn't happened yet so not sure how I'd feel. You said it was too early for smut so I've just deleted my second sentence.

Jx"

It's never too early for your smut Julie! Smut away. Please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not experienced seeing evidence of another meet in terms of marks but have in terms of seeing them in videos on here and to be honest, I'm not sure how I feel but know that what I feel is entirely on me.

Even though it's Fab and I know it's happening, I'm still not used to seeing people I have sex with having sex with others and it can make me overthink and compare and kind of makes me think that maybe I'm not as sexually mature as I thought I was because of how I feel when I see it but I do know that those feelings are on me and me alone to work through and I have no right to let it negatively affect their sex life.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

It's a turn off.

Remember that exhilarating feeling when you first walk into a chic, virginal and pristine bedroom to your boutique hotel, where everything looks immaculate and with no indication of it having been 'used and abused' by the previous occupant?

For me it's the same thing: I have no issue with my partner having other partners - however I don't need to see any outward and glaring evidence to make me feel queasy.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Ohhhh Meli, this is a good one! Mr loves seeing me covered in other men's cum. Especially when he doesn't know I'm coming home like that

Marks? It's not something that's happened. I'm not sure I want to bear marks from anyone but Mr, really. Perhaps if it was a longer term arrangement, but we'll cross that bridge if/when it arrives.

Mrs TMN x

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By *nigmaschild300Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

I tend to leave bitemarks, bruises and rope marks .

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It wouldn't bother me because of what I'm on the site for. I'm not looking for anything serious so I expect a degree of promiscuity when arranging a meet (and would think this goes both ways).

Yeah... that's bordering on rude! You'd want someone to be present in that moment with you which isn't unreasonable. Unless of course it's your dynamic.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Big turn on, as its generally an indicator that there into the same as what I enjoy, I often leave marks...."

Ah I like this view! I hadn't considered it before to be honest so thank you for sharing. Yes, I guess it's a good indicator or not if you're compatible with someone.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"Inspired by a conversation on Saturday night and because it's too early for me to do a promised smut thread...

How do you feel about seeing a sexual partner with evidence of another person on them?

Whether that's come on their face/boobs at a gangbang, marks from another sexual partner. Lipstick. You get the idea. Turn on or turn off? Why is that?"

I would be turned on if a partner came to me with someone elses cum or marks on them so long as I knew about it in advance. Actually the anticipation could possibly be the bigger turn on. I would turn up to a social with cum on me but not to a meet unless the person I was meeting was turned on by that.

Bruises I really enjoy and they take time to heal so I would tell the person in advance. I get that might not be a turn on for others. But if it was a turn off then it would depend on the person and we would have to be careful with timings of meets or just not meet. I enjoy seeing and feeling bruises and marks though so I would not stop that.

If I am with someone and they want to press the bruises left by someone else then yes. Yes. I am onboard.

And now I am thinking about arranging a meet with someone where they have just been with someone else and smell, taste and are marked by them or indeed vice versa.

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By *erence IIMan
over a year ago

Irrelevant

Depends who it is, what it is and where it is.

My partner coming home from work with a massive love bite despite not discussing anything before hand - not so much. Her with cum on her boobs at a club - a little bit more

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I've not experienced seeing evidence of another meet in terms of marks but have in terms of seeing them in videos on here and to be honest, I'm not sure how I feel but know that what I feel is entirely on me.

Oh Joe. This is another thread for another day inspiration but I think you possess such self awareness. And that's a brilliant thing to have.

It's easier said than done to not overthink or compare but you've acknowledged them and aren't weaponising them. That's maturity.

Sexually - you might not be auditioning for Cirque Du Soleil but I'm certain that whatever intimate acts you do are very much enjoyed by those you have spent time with, x

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It's a turn off.

For me it's the same thing: I have no issue with my partner having other partners - however I don't need to see any outward and glaring evidence to make me feel queasy."

I'm not going to comment on the hotel room analogy because I'm on best behaviour today and trying to prove a dear friend wrong.

But yes, I can understand the sentiment behind what you're saying and it's valid - some don't like the reminder their partner has other partners and it's a big turn off when that's seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont like it id get competitive and see it as a challenge"

Seeing it as a challenge is ok if managed correctly, like the reclaim, it can really add to the moment.

Don't let ego deflect from the thrill of it.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Big turn on, as its generally an indicator that there into the same as what I enjoy, I often leave marks....

Ah I like this view! I hadn't considered it before to be honest so thank you for sharing. Yes, I guess it's a good indicator or not if you're compatible with someone."

Different perspectives are always very valuable to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Joe. This is another thread for another day inspiration but I think you possess such self awareness. And that's a brilliant thing to have.

It's easier said than done to not overthink or compare but you've acknowledged them and aren't weaponising them. That's maturity.

Sexually - you might not be auditioning for Cirque Du Soleil but I'm certain that whatever intimate acts you do are very much enjoyed by those you have spent time with, x"

I appreciate that Meli and glad to hear it's not a totally stupid thing to think. Sorry for veering off topic to the original post!

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"It's a turn off.

For me it's the same thing: I have no issue with my partner having other partners - however I don't need to see any outward and glaring evidence to make me feel queasy."

If the person has been used and abused then that is a whole other thing though? I would have an entirely different feeling if I thought consent wasn't involved and abuse was.

Chic, virginal and pristine feels like an odd way to describe a hotel (or a person). But if the role play you like is chic, virginal and pristine rather than dom sub then that seems fair enough, just a different conversation I suppose?

But I have stayed in a lot of hotels around the world and the first thing I look for is where can I plug my phone and laptop in rather than question if my hotel room is virginal. Maybe I need to stay in different hotels though.

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng

"but I do know that those feelings are on me and me alone to work through and I have no right to let it negatively affect their sex life."

Honestly that statement suggests a level of sexual maturity greater then most of us have.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Oh this is a great question. I have turned up for a meet with lots of bruises on my tits. The guy didn't say anything!

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By *rKinkedKuntMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Totally honest, I don't know...yet! I have been on the other end, I have left marks, bruises, stripes etc but I was always the 'other man' in this situation. My partner and I are currently looking for someone to join us for some kinky play which I am sure will leave marks. Right now, I feel fine with it but the reality may be different as I've always been the one to mark her.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Marks that cannot be removed by a shower on the other half would be a massive no for me.

How do you get fingerprints on your inner thighs? Feel free to pm me Frida. :D

Being sensible, I think it can carry significance to some, to the extent they want to be the only one who marks/is marked by another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have someone that shows me his marks and I do get a little bit

over it. For no rational reason really because we dont meet anymore. He just enjoys teasing me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People posting ‘action shots’ is the greatest form of lamppost pissing there can be on here and for that reason ‘I’m out’

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think I would be indifferent to it. What I get off on is seeing my partner's enjoyment. The physical aftereffects are not something I could see myself getting a kick out of. They are just part of what's happened.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Marks that cannot be removed by a shower on the other half would be a massive no for me.

How do you get fingerprints on your inner thighs? Feel free to pm me Frida. :D

Being sensible, I think it can carry significance to some, to the extent they want to be the only one who marks/is marked by another. "

Marks are important to me and they are something I enjoy. I like running my finger on them or prodding them to see if they still hurt. They remind me of how they were made. They're a bit like branding so it's not something I would do with someone else, personally

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Turn on for me... seems to be a turn off for many though.

I have one man that it doesn't annoy him as such but I always try to make sure I have a small mark somewhere when I see him... as it makes him get all possessive in a good way

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's a no from me. I don't care what other people get up to, but I don't really want to hear about it or see the marks.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

And I would also feel a bit weird if I had any kind of bruise from a meet, if I was seeing someone else. I bruise quite easily.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

If it makes them happy, I'm happy with it

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"People posting ‘action shots’ is the greatest form of lamppost pissing there can be on here and for that reason ‘I’m out’

This makes me want to post an action shot because I'm that sort of person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People posting ‘action shots’ is the greatest form of lamppost pissing there can be on here and for that reason ‘I’m out’

This makes me want to post an action shot because I'm that sort of person.

Can I be in it?

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By *am_LincolnMan
over a year ago

Prestatyn

Neither way for me. If someone I'm with is getting pleasure for someone great but doesn't turn me on or not.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Hmm.

I don't feel any particular way about seeing it on my partners myself. It doesn't offend me or put me off at all, but it also doesn't inspire any specifically positive emotions. It just is.

I know one of my partners very much likes seeing marks left by the other. And generally anyone I see is made aware of the things I enjoy and that I will often be carrying marks, so they have the option to opt out of seeing me if it's not for them.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"People posting ‘action shots’ is the greatest form of lamppost pissing there can be on here and for that reason ‘I’m out’

This makes me want to post an action shot because I'm that sort of person.

Can I be in it?

Oh Rex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you feel about seeing a sexual partner with evidence of another person on them?

We'd change one of the 'o' in that to an 'i'. Can you guess which one

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"How do you feel about seeing a sexual partner with evidence of another person on them?

We'd change one of the 'o' in that to an 'i'. Can you guess which one

It took me far too long to get this.

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By *oconaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Texas

The first time hubby found bruises on my body after a long night out, he wanted to seriously cripple the man. Put mildly, the sex that night was indeed on the rougher and wilder end of the spectrum. I’m surprised we didn’t find more bruises in retrospect…Hubby has since changed his tune after a few years have passed. These days, physical evidence left on and in my body are fertile soils for naughty pillow talk.. From bruises, scratches, visual redness, to soreness in the crotch area affecting my gate (once lasted a week!).

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Marks that cannot be removed by a shower on the other half would be a massive no for me.

How do you get fingerprints on your inner thighs? Feel free to pm me Frida. :D

Being sensible, I think it can carry significance to some, to the extent they want to be the only one who marks/is marked by another.

Yes that's understandable. I guess I see them as being a quite intimate thing but then to others they're not particularly if that makes sense?

I realised someone liked someone far more than they were saying when they sent me photos of marks they'd had left on them. I think they're very much subjective - whether that's liking them or hating them. Seeing them as being a personal thing or more a memory of a hot time.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

"I dont like it id get competitive and see it as a challenge

Thats where you go wrong, it's not a competition, as soon as it becomes competitive it's all about you and your masculinity..nothing to do with what your playmate enjoys.

I play with a lady who enjoys the more impact side of things. If I see her with bruises off another gentleman, my head doesn't go to let's best his efforts...as that would mean my ego is playing out. Its about her pleasure and my pleasure."
its far from wrong its proberbly the most common feeling in the world to compete we live in a world where everything is a competition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I particularly like wearing proper deep raw scratch marks, especially if they terminate in my butt cheeks with a gouge

I'm not sure that bad bitch would be too happy if I came home with some but she let a teaser mark me up a little bit on a couple's swap and I was like a Cheshire cat all week with them

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