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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 04/06/23 01:12:22]"

Let’s talk about belly, belly rolls, saggy belly.

Who doesn’t love a bit of softness to grab , because I do. But sometimes I feel so insecure and think this is main reason why I don’t go forward with other couples as they might find it ugly, shameful. How do you get over the fear ?

I need advice and some experience from people who did struggled with this and went past it. If you don’t feel comfortable writing under thread- message privately.

Thank you

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By *ack8370Man
over a year ago

Ludlow

Personally, I love I nice soft belly and mum tums. I think you’d be surprised how many others do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally, I love I nice soft belly and mum tums. I think you’d be surprised how many others do "

Hard to believe that. If it’s nice and good looking belly-absolutely.

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Personally, I love I nice soft belly and mum tums. I think you’d be surprised how many others do

Hard to believe that. If it’s nice and good looking belly-absolutely. "

Have empowered many women to get past their hang up regarding their bodies . its about accepting who you are that other find you sexy inspire of the things you dislike about yourself .

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By *ussylover222Man
over a year ago

wigan


"Personally, I love I nice soft belly and mum tums. I think you’d be surprised how many others do

Hard to believe that. If it’s nice and good looking belly-absolutely. "

Personally I really like a bigger girl over a skinny girl any day, for me a belly on a woman can be very sexy

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

I have a huge belly. I've looked heavily pregnant for the last 30 years.

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By *ussylover222Man
over a year ago

wigan


"I have a huge belly. I've looked heavily pregnant for the last 30 years."

You look great to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one will ever be as unkind to us as we are too ourselves. There's so many negative body issues pushed onto us but in the real world, everyone has real bodies. Bodies that have grown, lived and experienced life. And the sad thing is, what we determine as 'flaws' have the ability to hold us back when they are usually the thing others love most about us.

There's no cure for confidence, that shit comes from within. But once you start to embrace who you are everything else follows. Anyone you play with should make you feel comfortable in that sense, if you aren't then I'd advise taking a step back until it brings you good energy. Just be you, fuck everyone else's opinions.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

This is one of the reasons I love lingerie. I feel so much more confident with my belly covered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one will ever be as unkind to us as we are too ourselves. There's so many negative body issues pushed onto us but in the real world, everyone has real bodies. Bodies that have grown, lived and experienced life. And the sad thing is, what we determine as 'flaws' have the ability to hold us back when they are usually the thing others love most about us.

There's no cure for confidence, that shit comes from within. But once you start to embrace who you are everything else follows. Anyone you play with should make you feel comfortable in that sense, if you aren't then I'd advise taking a step back until it brings you good energy. Just be you, fuck everyone else's opinions."

This.

Its so hard when our own insecurities take over. I've had 3 children, I hate my tummy. I'm extremely insecure about it. I worry over how it looks, how it feels, the way it wobbles and even in certain positions, I have negative thoughts in my head that the person I'm with must be disgusted by it.

In reality though no one has ever stopped because of it, no one has ever been particularly put off by it and some have even kissed and touched it. When that happens it's quite an intense experience for me.

It gets me out of my head and away from the negative self talk.

You can only be who you are and that means embracing every part.

You don't have to love it but you need to remember others don't view it in the way you do.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Seductive Secrets has brilliant advice.

I have literally ALWAYS had hangups about my body - yes, definitely belly, but cock, face, feet, teeth, hands, legs - you name it. Sleepless nights, tears, feelings of worthlessness, all that.

And yet I couldn't point to a single person who has ever made me feel awful about any of those. Not a comment, in 45 years. I'm sure people have THOUGHT things, but my mind-reading of those thoughts is as imaginary as my beliefs that I am uniquely unattractive.

I've ended up hurting people I've adored and thought were incredibly beautiful over the years, because however much people have said they desired me, wanted me, even loved me, it wasn't always enough to overcome the inner certainty that you are not worthy, not enough, ugly, etc.

So I know from experience that it won't help to tell you that you seem like a beautiful person - attractive and thoughtful. A man giving compliments on Fab? A new definition of worthless. But I really would say,insofar as you can...please, before you privilege your negative inner voice over ALL the other voices telling you positive things, try to pause for a second, look at what some people who DO clearly and demonstrably find you attractive say, and try to see yourself,even for a minute, through their eyes.

It won't be enough on its own. It probably won't ever be enough. But it might at least be a counterpoint. And, in the very worst of the self-critical storms that threaten to overwhelm you, it might prove a lifejacket.

Tldr: your belly isn't the issue. Your mind is. But I suspect you know that. And there is hope, if you can make youurself listen to it.

Good luck, lovely.

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