FabSwingers.com forum: Why block

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve probably asked this before…. But why do people choose to block you after they ask for a photo….. now I get im no Brad Pitt or any other hunk but surely a ‘not for me’ message is nicer than a block

I also realise I’m not everyone’s cup of tea… so I understand that …

And I know they can’t respond to everyone … but if they respond to say ‘face pic’ ….then is that more effort to say ‘no thanks’

I probably already know the type of replies … but I just wanted to post a thread and ‘face Friday’ and ‘fab for follow’ were already taken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To say no thanks after receiving a face picture seems quite rude.

Blocking is also rude of course but far less likely to lead to some possible abuse.

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

Perhaps they were blinded and pressed block by accident?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve probably asked this before…. But why do people choose to block you after they ask for a photo….. now I get im no Brad Pitt or any other hunk but surely a ‘not for me’ message is nicer than a block

I also realise I’m not everyone’s cup of tea… so I understand that …

And I know they can’t respond to everyone … but if they respond to say ‘face pic’ ….then is that more effort to say ‘no thanks’

I probably already know the type of replies … but I just wanted to post a thread and ‘face Friday’ and ‘fab for follow’ were already taken

But you ARE a hunk.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

You're blocked, so they're not going to tell you the reasons.

So just assume it's because your gorgeous face intimidated them, because you're so obviously out of their league, and they only blocked you rather than embarass themselves

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I prefer to be blocked, if I’m honest.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"I prefer to be blocked, if I’m honest. "

Same here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is it nicer to receive a 'not for me' message?

I wouldn't like either after sending face pictures of I'm truthful. I think the message is the same just delivered differently.

We went face pictures once and the guy immediately deleted his profile

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I prefer to be blocked, if I’m honest.

Same here

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I agree. Me ².

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it nicer to receive a 'not for me' message?

I wouldn't like either after sending face pictures of I'm truthful. I think the message is the same just delivered differently.

We went face pictures once and the guy immediately deleted his profile

He clearly realised he was out of his depth and best leave the site having been stunned by the quality of you as a couple

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"To say no thanks after receiving a face picture seems quite rude. "

What's the alternative if you don't find them attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There too scared to say no thank you, it's the cowards way out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer a bit for me thanks but good luck in your search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To say no thanks after receiving a face picture seems quite rude.

What's the alternative if you don't find them attractive?"

The last one I turned down, I said , thank you , not quite what I'm looking for, but I prefer much hairier or something similar, and wish them all the best

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

"To say no thanks after receiving a face picture seems quite rude.

What's the alternative if you don't find them attractive?

The last one I turned down, I said , thank you , not quite what I'm looking for, but I prefer much hairier or something similar, and wish them all the best"

Which is totally acceptable.. I don't think turning someone down after being sent a face pic is rude at all... taking pity and leading someone on only to deny them later would be worse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To say no thanks after receiving a face picture seems quite rude.

Blocking is also rude of course but far less likely to lead to some possible abuse. "

Ah okay so it’s because potential abuse might come. That’s a shame to hear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps they were blinded and pressed block by accident?!

Or the vomit chunks hit their screen and nudged the block button

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also realise I’m not everyone’s cup of tea… so I understand that …

And I know they can’t respond to everyone … but if they respond to say ‘face pic’ ….then is that more effort to say ‘no thanks’

I probably already know the type of replies … but I just wanted to post a thread and ‘face Friday’ and ‘fab for follow’ were already taken

But you ARE a hunk.

Charmer ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're blocked, so they're not going to tell you the reasons.

So just assume it's because your gorgeous face intimidated them, because you're so obviously out of their league, and they only blocked you rather than embarass themselves

A much more positive way to think about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer to be blocked, if I’m honest. "

Each to their own…

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Only been blocked once, and that was after a proper reply to their profile, met their criteria, wrote a decent email, no cock pics. Just a rude response back and block.

It's how this place rolls. People say it's about what you put in, but it's really not.

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

You are a hunk shame you live miles away

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it nicer to receive a 'not for me' message?

I wouldn't like either after sending face pictures of I'm truthful. I think the message is the same just delivered differently.

We went face pictures once and the guy immediately deleted his profile

I thought it a message would be nicer… in my opinion of course. But as others have said ..they’d prefer a block too.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I've been blocked by a few after sending a face picture, it's not nice.

I would rather have a thanks but no thanks and I try to send a no thanks message also.

By blocking at least you won't send another message to them in a few months time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My block list is small, but it's mainly pests and those who send nonsense messages at all hours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it nicer to receive a 'not for me' message?

I wouldn't like either after sending face pictures of I'm truthful. I think the message is the same just delivered differently.

We went face pictures once and the guy immediately deleted his profile

He clearly realised he was out of his depth and best leave the site having been stunned by the quality of you as a couple

Smooth

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

Have you ever sent back a polite 'thanks, but no thanks' message?

And then received a barrage of abuse, calling you all the names under the sun, telling you what they're gonna do to you if they ever see you, or describing what you deserve for daring to not find them attractive?

And before amyone starts with the 'its not ALL MEN'

I know it's not all men, 90% of them are good eggs, who can handle a little rejection.

But if i layed 10 maltesers out Infront of you and told you 9 of them were chocolate, but one was infact a nugget of sh!t.... You'd treat every one of those maltesers with the same level of caution wouldn't you?

The block button is just easier!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are a hunk shame you live miles away "

Very kind comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been blocked by a few after sending a face picture, it's not nice.

I would rather have a thanks but no thanks and I try to send a no thanks message also.

By blocking at least you won't send another message to them in a few months time "

I mean the block button works of course…

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I also realise I’m not everyone’s cup of tea… so I understand that …

And I know they can’t respond to everyone … but if they respond to say ‘face pic’ ….then is that more effort to say ‘no thanks’

I probably already know the type of replies … but I just wanted to post a thread and ‘face Friday’ and ‘fab for follow’ were already taken

Believe me, I do respond, nicely I may add.. then I get abuse.. usually because I'm.curvy.. so please understand this may be a reason some people block. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever sent back a polite 'thanks, but no thanks' message?

And before amyone starts with the 'its not ALL MEN'

I know it's not all men, 90% of them are good eggs, who can handle a little rejection.

The block button is just easier!"

Another valid point …. And again the whole reason for the thread is to see why people who do it do it

And as for the chocolate…. If there’s 10 malteaser in front of me I’ll put them all in at once… and hope the chocolate taste dulls the little shit nugget taste

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also realise I’m not everyone’s cup of tea… so I understand that …

And I know they can’t respond to everyone … but if they respond to say ‘face pic’ ….then is that more effort to say ‘no thanks’

I probably already know the type of replies … but I just wanted to post a thread and ‘face Friday’ and ‘fab for follow’ were already taken

Believe me, I do respond, nicely I may add.. then I get abuse.. usually because I'm.curvy.. so please understand this may be a reason some people block. X"

That’s fair…. And why I asked… to try understand …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People on this site are trigger happy with the block button which is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blame Russian hackers. Block in Russian probably sounds like bum me or something

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I blame Russian hackers. Block in Russian probably sounds like bum me or something "

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

even if you were brad pitt you still might get blocked,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I blame Russian hackers. Block in Russian probably sounds like bum me or something "

Damn, you had me go to google translate

Block - blokirovat'

Bum me - sozhgi menya

Something - chto-nibud'

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By *estarossa.Woman
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Perhaps they were blinded and pressed block by accident?!

Or the vomit chunks hit their screen and nudged the block button

Or they spilled eye bleach on the keyboard and it malfunctioned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps they were blinded and pressed block by accident?!

Or the vomit chunks hit their screen and nudged the block button

Or they spilled eye bleach on the keyboard and it malfunctioned!

Or the cat walked across the key board and inadvertently pressed the block key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get abuse, report them, then block. It might not stop them but will piss them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I blame Russian hackers. Block in Russian probably sounds like bum me or something

Damn, you had me go to google translate

Block - blokirovat'

Bum me - sozhgi menya

Something - chto-nibud'

pyatnitsa. What an efficient word. Should be a thread…

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

It's the internet way unfortunately, people do it because they can. If they wanted to block you then there's no good reason why they can't do so after replying with a thanks for your message but I don't we're a match.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably did it so that you don't message them again. I know it's harsh but we all do it. I've said no thanks to guys and a few weeks or so later they message again. It's a bit of a pain tbh having to tell them I already said no to them so I block now to save them the bother x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look great but not what I'm looking for sorry. Hope you find someone nice.

Aarrgghhhh it hurt me soooo much to type that!! Ouchy

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

You get an answer either way... This is the way of Fab!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"You're blocked, so they're not going to tell you the reasons.

So just assume it's because your gorgeous face intimidated them, because you're so obviously out of their league, and they only blocked you rather than embarass themselves

Pretty much this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some find it difficult saying no thank you, because they're concerned the response may be aggressive, or because they simply feel bad rejecting someone.

Maybe it's a reflection upon themselves in that rejection can hurt.

Some don't feel strong enough to say no because they are easily pushed into agreeing to meet, out of feeling bad.

Maybe you look familiar, or they actually recognised you.

Rather than hope others adapt to appease you, to to adapt to others and accept some simply make their choices, because they can.

I agree though, communication would make this site a whole lot easier if people did so correctly.

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