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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).

Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?

Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

I think no sex, but would I turn down okay sex, probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My inbox is open for any of you that settle for less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always room for improvement op

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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

In what sense? Insisting on sex always being as wildly exciting as it is with someone new seems like a recipe for disappointment. Get to know someone and a bit of excitement wears off, but the pleasure and satisfaction often increases. Knowing what thrills and satisfies each other, being comfortable and full of laughter as well as fretted with hot serious desire.

I'm procrastinating on a straight answer. But maybe aiming for an ever higher moving average, rather than setting insatiable goals for perfection, is a better road to exquisite experience.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

ok sex is exactly that.... OK

I would only prefer no sex to bad sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon okay sex has its place!

*Narrator - Yes, normally in Woodys bed.

But if it was offered like that, “fancy some okay sex?” no, I’d decline. It just sounds mediocre.

Although I’d probably laugh and think that chat up line is funny, and then it sounds attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After so many years I don’t know :-/

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I would take no sex over average sex. It's not worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer no sex to mediocre.....

I'd honestly just rather lie in bed watch porn and off myself

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield


"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).

Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?

Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"

If it’s a 1 st time with someone we all hope it will be mind blowing, some times it is sometimes it’s good but not fireworks and all. The more you get to know someone the better it gets. I think with casual sex it needs to be very good sex. With sex in a relationship, just the being close and intimate with someone you love can be enough regardless of how good the sex is. As long obviously as it’s not terrible lol. Hope that makes sense. Sean

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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago

Chorley, Eng


"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).

Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?

Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"

I would rather no sex than sex with someone I am not that keen on. But I absolutely don't need every sexual encounter to be mind blowing. But it should be fun.

If I had a couple meets with someone and it wasn't good then it would be over though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like OK sex. I can only think of a few occasions where it has been mindblowing, but in general it is fun, enjoyable, satisfying and that is OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).

Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?

Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"

Never had or provided ok Sex. Always awesome

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).

Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?

Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"

No sex will do me...I'll do magic on myself so no point wasting with someone who's crap at it.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I reckon okay sex has its place!

*Narrator - Yes, normally in Woodys bed.

But if it was offered like that, “fancy some okay sex?” no, I’d decline. It just sounds mediocre.

Although I’d probably laugh and think that chat up line is funny, and then it sounds attractive. "

That's exactly what inspired this thread - I was discussing Saturday night with a friend and they offered to pick me up, some middling sex followed by pizza. :D Tested my kegels reading it and then I thought about it... why is middle of the road sex looked down on? Sometimes it scratches an itch, it's nice enough. On the other hand...

So yeah, I'm pondering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m done settling for ok sex. If the person I’m having sex with doesn’t try then I’m rescinding my time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m done settling for ok sex. If the person I’m having sex with doesn’t try then I’m rescinding my time"

So I’d rather have no sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather have no sex than shit sex...however that being said, I won't fuck anyone I don't feel some sort of connection with. I'd I feel comfortable enough to be naked with someone then I will communicate with them about what feels good, and ask them what they'd like. That way its a mutually enjoyable experience all round

Mrs

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Despite the doubtless protestations of many, let’s face it; not all sex is mind blowing in reality.

Variables such as tiredness, not really being in the correct mood and even the possible side effects of prescribed medications are but a few examples that can all serve to somewhat abate the lustre of a lovemaking session.

Okay sex is therefore perfectly natural and….well….ok every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).

Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?

Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"

I think the question should be: can every sexual experience be mind blowing and should they be anyway ?

I believe that trying to reach for this ideal (of mind blowing sex) is like setting oneself to fail.

I’d rather have ´average’ sex, if passion is real than sleeping with someone who tries to give me this ‘mind blowing’ experience but it feels phoney.

Gimme average genuine sexual experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think average sex is necessarily a bad thing. I’m not always looking for it to be mind blowing, sometimes a quickie is enough and as long as we’ve both enjoyed it then I’m happy.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Very little average about MrsShiv

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

No sex. For sure.

A quickie can be mind-blowing.

But mediocre middle of the road just not that into it sex? Hard pass.

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

Well I think just going off the past few Ex - girlfriends, as it was just Ok nothing special, I gave her what she wanted but I was not getting much back from either 1 of them !

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I don’t think average sex is necessarily a bad thing. I’m not always looking for it to be mind blowing, sometimes a quickie is enough and as long as we’ve both enjoyed it then I’m happy. "

This!

How can you have mind blowing sex with no average, mediocre or just plain god awful sex to compare it to?

And if every experience was fantastic, with fireworks going off, multiple orgasms for both (yeah, fuck you women, fuck you ), earth moving, bed breaking sex.........then how soon would that become 'normal' and thus average in itself? And how would you keep it up? What would you have to do to maintain the thrill, the excitement, the new discoveries and experiences?

Not every experience has to be great. Sometimes it's more important 'who' you're having sex with than how good that sex is.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reckon okay sex has its place!

*Narrator - Yes, normally in Woodys bed.

But if it was offered like that, “fancy some okay sex?” no, I’d decline. It just sounds mediocre.

Although I’d probably laugh and think that chat up line is funny, and then it sounds attractive.

That's exactly what inspired this thread - I was discussing Saturday night with a friend and they offered to pick me up, some middling sex followed by pizza. :D Tested my kegels reading it and then I thought about it... why is middle of the road sex looked down on? Sometimes it scratches an itch, it's nice enough. On the other hand...

So yeah, I'm pondering."

See, if it was offered it like that, your barriers snd expectations are down, expectations are gone, and you’ll probably have a blast.

Doesn’t have to be ‘mind blowing’ like others have said, but okay sex, can be bloody good with someone that makes you feel good snd you like them. .

But sex that’s just okay! Nah, I don’t want that.

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By *amannaCouple
over a year ago

tring

Ok sex can always be changed up to to all involved

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By *amannaCouple
over a year ago

tring

Ok sex can always be changed up to to all involved

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I can only offer ok sex

Mrs

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).

Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?

Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"
Not every time is going to be mind blowing, not even with the same person.

But it does make a difference when you can lose yourself so much that you suddenly realise its hours later.. for me interactions like that are rare... but valued when they do happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think average sex is necessarily a bad thing. I’m not always looking for it to be mind blowing, sometimes a quickie is enough and as long as we’ve both enjoyed it then I’m happy.

This!

How can you have mind blowing sex with no average, mediocre or just plain god awful sex to compare it to?

And if every experience was fantastic, with fireworks going off, multiple orgasms for both (yeah, fuck you women, fuck you ), earth moving, bed breaking sex.........then how soon would that become 'normal' and thus average in itself? And how would you keep it up? What would you have to do to maintain the thrill, the excitement, the new discoveries and experiences?

Not every experience has to be great. Sometimes it's more important 'who' you're having sex with than how good that sex is.

A"

Yep, exactly.

Sometimes I don’t want to be thrown around the room or folded like a pretzel, let’s just have some okay sex so I can go to bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's far more to sex than just the sex for me.

It's the intamacy, the affection, the connection and the ability to give and recieve pleasure. I'm not sure any of those things will ever be mediocre to me.

Sure, to some it might not always be exciting, adventurous or super kinky. It's not always about ticking off a sex to do list.

Sometimes just being is more than enough.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Depends on why you’re having sex…. The need is different sometimes you need hard urgent right now fuck my brains out sex and other times you want more connected intimacy where the need is more emotional than physical… so any sex that satisfies the need at the time is fine with me. Sex that’s just ‘ok’ probably wont satisfy the need though and if someone else is just going through the motions.. without that level of understanding of your needs and desire to satisfy then it will soon end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im now stuck on the thought of a hard wet dick sliding into my vagina

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Would rather have a good kiss than mediocre sex, it’s so unsatisfying and usually a reflection of a poor match of personalities

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I like okay sex, it's more about being with that person and the physical contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im now stuck on the thought of a hard wet dick sliding into my vagina "

Stop implanting those images in my head

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By *lamdaddyMan
over a year ago

London

Good sex naturally happens if both feeling it with the same vibe. I'm never had ok sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im now stuck on the thought of a hard wet dick sliding into my vagina

Stop implanting those images in my head "

Sorry...... Hard wet dick slipping into my ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any sex would be brilliant.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm good with okay sex. It's bad sex I'd choose no sex over.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Settle.

Hell… I’d stick my dick in the mashed potato if it’s still warm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we tred dangerous ground if we 'expect' great sex

Not all sex can be great, even with a consistent and competent lover

However, I do think better sex comes via bonding, understanding, an intangible connection

I do, however, find a thrill in unexpected and unplanned sex

That thrill can lead to a feeling of elation and can sway the mind to believe that the sex was great whereas, in reality, the sex was probably just OK - it's the adrenaline hit that pushes it up a notch

I have had some great sexual encounters with 'no names' but I've also had some terrible ones

Finding someone who does things how you like them done is always a pleasant surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my current dry patch, I'd absolutely take ok sex. Ideally, a partner who's up for experimentation would be best, but beggers can't be choosers

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).

Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?

Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"

Try da sexy thing wiv me, the best 5 mins of disappointment you'll ever experience, and with 3 mins of oral

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By *hGlobbitsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I'm good with okay sex. It's bad sex I'd choose no sex over. "

You're in luck. Okay sex is my speciality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im now stuck on the thought of a hard wet dick sliding into my vagina

Stop implanting those images in my head

Sorry...... Hard wet dick slipping into my ass "

Sniggered. Now stop it (please)

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I'm good with okay sex. It's bad sex I'd choose no sex over.

You're in luck. Okay sex is my speciality! "

Lucky the spag bol was good eh

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By *hGlobbitsMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I'm good with okay sex. It's bad sex I'd choose no sex over.

You're in luck. Okay sex is my speciality!

Lucky the spag bol was good eh "

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Think the conection with someone is what makes the biggest difference when it comes to mindblowing sex thats what my experience has been anyway thats why now i will go without had the connectionless it no longer excites me enough

I dare not risk a connection with anyone anymore almost 4 years of pining for whats lost has kind of soured me to the new

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'd be happy with it, if it's okay sex then it's better than no sex

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